Cast Blog: #RHONY

Changing the Subject

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Changing the Subject

Heather wants Aviva to let go of St. Barths and LuAnn to fess up to Jacques.

Catching up: Let’s talk, but don’t we need to change the subject?

We’re back home! And I have to say, I missed it a lot. There is no place in the world like New York City. It has a unique and very special energy. It is always fun to go away, but it is magical to return to my family and get back into the pulse of this amazing city.

Once back and settled, Carole and I planned a “girls’ night out” for drinks and some fun conversation. She picked this great little gay bar called Bar-Tini, and we wasted no time getting our cocktails on with a little help from our friends! I have to say Carole is an amazing person and despite the craziness of the trip we had just shared with all the ladies, the bond that she and I now share made it all worth it. The easy and friendly atmosphere, surrounded by all these cute and fun gay men (and maybe one straight bartender??), added so much fun to our evening. In addition to the cherry bombs that were going down all too easily, Carole drops quite the news bomb on me about Aviva as runaway bride! This certainly sheds some light on her current behavior patterns. But more on Aviva later. . .

Carole and I can really make each other laugh which is a nice respite from all the yelling and I guess we are entertainment for the crowd too because the boys keep sending over shots, and we keep drinking them! It's been a long time since I just sat around slamming shots but somehow neither of us seemed to even notice while discussing our relationships etc.

I have to tell you that I am one lucky girl when it comes to that. There is rarely a day that goes by that Jon and I don’t bicker about something. . .raising a family with a little one who has special needs while running my own business. As hard working young parents in a difficult economy, life can be stressful and it adds pressure to any relationship. But, Jon and I love each other very much and we seem to get closer and closer as we travel life's bumpy road together rather than farther apart. Our healthy banter works for us and making up does too!!!

I am so glad to hear Carole’s relationship with Russ is growing closer and more committed. I have been a fan of "Carole and Russ" since the first time I spent a moment with them together. Later, we girls even get into the "size" conversation as our chatter and our cocktails both keep flowing! Carole, the self professed "size queen" and I agree that it does matter -- but like I said earlier, I am one lucky girl! I do know that true love is both mental and physical but hopefully. . .we can have it all! Razzie is my girl and I get mushy and yummie with her in a classic, "I love you man," moment, but I mean every word and my adoration for that girl is true!

LuAnn and I decide to meet for lunch and catch up. I am anxious to hear how she and Jacques are doing post-St. Barths so I suggest sushi at Blue Fin. Carole, Luann, and I are in the middle of Aviva and Samonja. But being in the middle of the story LuAnn has perpetuated with the charade about these Italians is worse. I do think the relationship between Ramona, Sonja, and Aviva is fractured and, like I said, it would take both parties wanting to heal the fracture in order for that to happen and it doesn’t look like we are there yet. But as the conversation turns back to LuAnn, she's pressed the fast-forward button on me again and has skipped ahead a few chapters. I want to know if she came clean with Jacques about St. Barths and if she realizes she must tell the truth about Tomas vs. a late night with said Italian friends, but Lu is only giving me deets on the baby. Really? I want to hear how they are doing as a couple and what her intentions are about telling Jacques and if she did how his reaction has been. I care about them as a couple and Jacques is my buddy inasmuch as LuAnn. I don't want to feel awkward the next time I see him or even worse be questioned. . .she has put me in a horrible position and is even brushing it off with me! In my opinion Lu needs to rewind, slow down and press pause -- having a baby is serious.

As a mother, Luann knows that this should be thought out long and hard at her age and under all the circumstances. This sticky web is one I am not interested in getting more entangled in than I already am so I decide its best for me to just listen and to play along with Lu for now, holding my opinions to myself. I want to beg her to come clean on this one, but not today, today at this lunch I am starving! So, I decide my main focus will be to just listen and very happily eat!!

More catching up. . .Carole and I head to dinner with Aviva to check in on her. Before we go, we stop by my friend Helen Yarmak's showroom to see her latest collections of furand diamonds -- I mean what a combo! After having tons of fun with the girls trying on her beautiful pieces, Helen exclaims that we just look too glamorous and insists we borrow the pieces and wear them out to dinner. So fun!

But the mood soon changes as Aviva quickly turns to her favorite subject. For someone who hated the trip to St. Barths as much as Aviva did, she sure does love talking about it. She is grinding her ax and Carole and I get an earfull again. I really care about Aviva and I know Carole does her too, she is our friend and we enjoy and adore her, but we need some new material here. Next time, I think I am going to recommend we go to a movie!

Later, Aviva asks me to dinner and she continues to talk about the trip. I am starting to feel really bad for her. It is becoming obvious that she is struggling with it and I want to support that and listen to her feelings. I was expecting she may finally confess that she behaved badly and that the horrible things she said are weighing on her. But no, she goes on and on more about the bad behavior she witnessed and defending her actions rather than opening up to the possibility of admitting the part she played in the vacation fiasco. As I listen to her go on about what she wanted the trip to be, I have to break it down for her. We had that trip, she just missed out on it because of her hostility toward Samonja.

I need to be honest with her as her friend and tell her, it’s enough! Aviva struggles with phobias and has overcome a lot given her disabilities clearly with the help of Reid, but I am starting to think her biggest problem might be her self-importance. I really want her to let this all go and be the fun, smart, beautiful Aviva that I enjoy being with. . .even when we disagree. She is still there, I just have to find her because I am feeling that if Aviva doesn’t let this go very soon and can’t apologize to start mending fences with Samonja sincerely, it will be too late. And potentially in the end, Aviva will be the one that is really hurt and I, for one, don’t want that.

I am so excited to share with you all this news! This Wednesday, September 19th I am being honored by the American Liver Foundation at the Plaza Hotel! Holla! They are giving me the Liver Champion Award. You can learn more about the gala at The ALF does incredible work and I encourage you all to check them out.

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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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