Cast Blog: #RHONY

Heather's Lessons Learned

Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year

Heather's Lessons Learned

Heather explains what she will put up with (Aviva's jacket snafu) and what she won't endure (Ramona and Sonja's behavior).

I want to take a moment to tell you all how much fun I have had sharing a part of my life with you. You all have been so supportive and given me so much positive feedback; you just can’t know how much that means to me. What a crazy ride we have been on since the first episode aired back in June. Now, 18 weeks later, here we are at the end of our journey and I have learned a lot.

Tonight’s show opens with the gang coming together to support Carole’s charity at a fun table tennis tournament at Spin NY. This place is so cool. Susan Sarandon (yes, the actress) is a partner in the space and you see lots of people of all ages and tons of hipsters there any given night of the week. But tonight, I was bringing my “A Game” to support Carole and go for gold. With any other group of friends this would be an easy night of laughing and maybe a couple of pitchers of beer, but not with this crowd. There are landmines set all around the room. Aviva was still steaming about Ramona kicking George out of her event from the day before and with everyone here Carole is doing her best to keep everyone separated. I thought it was nice of George to say hi to Mario. George is 80 and his heart is in the right place. He is harmless overall and he seems to be taking it all in stride. I won the tournament just beating Avery, who was so cute and such a great sport. Just a couple more chords on my air guitar paddle and it is time to relax. Carole and I are doing our best socializing with everyone and I walk up on my Jon having a heart-to-heart with Aviva. I think Jon is right about Ramona and I think he gives Aviva some great advice, but I also am getting frustrated with the same ole, same ole from Aviva and clearly think it is time for her to move on to a new conversation. The end.

I was at my Yummie Tummie offices sitting at the same table where I first met with Sonja to talk about branding her toaster oven concept. James and Gian Andre are here with me, and in comes Sonja to see our presentation of the layouts. Remember, we did this exercise to help Sonja out. We gave her our time and expertise at no expense to her because we want her to succeed. Sonja has had it pretty bad these past few years between the lawsuit and her woes with her ex so this toaster oven could really help her out if it hits big. We went as far as mocking up a box for her so she could present it to potential retailers, and I think we nailed it. The box looked amazing and I could tell Sonja liked it too. I think we brought it home for her with both images and in the end, we stuck it in and delivered Sonja exactly what I promised I would. Yay!! It was not easy, but I wanted to help a friend and I am glad I did see it through for her! Can you tell me what you thought of it all? Which one did you prefer? (Please pick the one with the hunk in it! And, yes I did enjoy the model casting. LOL) Later that day, Aviva stopped by for her fitting for the fashion show. She had a lot of anxiety about exposing her leg, but she was able to put everything aside to help me raise awareness for my charity and you gotta love her for that. I honestly believe she is beautiful, and I think her flaws make her even more so. I gave her a couple of options to wear and I was thrilled she chose the Tsispora Tank, Analeigh Blazer, and Briefie Bottom. I can’t get over her figure. Wow! She really looks awesome!

Now we are in the moment preparing for the big event. The Kellner Pediatric Liver Foundation as you know, is truly so dear to me. Samantha Kellner is such a wonderful friend. As I told you in last week’s blog, she really made a difference during those difficult months when Jax was undergoing transplant surgery and healing. I knew that we would forever be bound and that together we would work to make a difference in the lives of others that may find themselves in the very same position we had. So, this year’s fundraiser has to be the best. Everything was crazy backstage as we prepared for the runway show and I have to keep on with Aviva and her desire to make changes. You can’t mess with the designer’s vision and she knows better to push me when I am being pulled in a thousand different directions. But, she looks so gorgeous and I am so proud of her for doing this. And how about my friend Miri Ben-Ari, the GRAMMY award winning violinist? She was beyond! She worked so hard on that composition and it was the most beautiful music! Please check out Miri's new album at MiriBenAri.com.

Aviva took off the jacket. Wow. She doesn’t fail to surprise me these days, but in the spirit of my charity I decide to let it all go with her, but what I can’t stand for is Sonja and Ramona’s incessancy about this damn toaster oven! Not even a congratulations!?! They start right in with it and this behavior at my event is sickening to me. Carole said it right. . .Samonja needs the attention and spotlight all of the time. So, they talk through the runway show and they start up with Gian Andre and they are just a hot mess. Watching the episode with you all, I can see that they were both a little sorry they brought this up and they were back peddling to get out of BUT hindsight is of course 20/20. I had worked so hard on this event and it was so meaningful to me that I finally had had enough of it. It wasn’t the place for this conversation and it was time for me to say it. The good news is that we raised over $275,000 at our event. . .not enough for a transplant, but it goes a long way toward one and I am so proud of our continued accomplishments at Kellner and so grateful to all those who so generously support us.

We close the season at Carole’s book baby shower party and she looks so glamorous. I am really proud of Carole for finishing the book and I know you will all love reading it too. I had the honor of previewing the first few chapters and it is SO good!!! Carole is a truly talented writer and I am very excited for this book to hit the shelves and what's to come for her! Go Raz!!!

So, is it just me or is there something truly disingenuous about an apology if you have to ask for it? I for one don’t accept it as being sincere if I have to beg someone to say sorry. I bring this up because I think Aviva needs to stop asking Ramona to apologize. What will it do? Will it make her feel better? In my opinion, she needs to just back down and give this whole thing with Ramona some time. They just continue to circle the drain with these heightened emotions and it's getting them nowhere.

What did you think of my behavior at the party?? A bit icy, right? Well, I just can’t fake it. My feelings were hurt about the things that went on with Samonja at my charity event the night before and I just can’t pretend everything is ok. I am the kind of person that needs to say her peace and move on and forgive. I have learned not to hold grudges and admittedly sometimes it’s easier than other times, but I can see Ramona trying to improve on herself and I know in her heart Sonja is grateful.

With that, I will leave you with a few lessons I've learned this season: Narcissism is a truly a disease and trust me it is highly contagious. I’ve also learned that the best way to be is to just be yourself. That you just can't sweat the small stuff! The truth will set you free, and above all else ya’ gotta "do you" and "keep it movin" and you all can Holla that!!

This season has come to a close but you have to tune in and watch our reunion shows. It is going to get crazy! And if you want to see my entire runway show, with no interruption watch it here right now. You only caught a glimpse during this episode and there is so much more great stuff to see. If you love any of the looks, enjoy 20% off with promotional code hollafororgandonation20 at checkout. Also, please check out Kellner Liver Foundation . As I wrote above, we raised $275,000 that night but the magic number is $400,000 to pay for a single transplant. Please help us get there. And don’t forget to follow me on Twitter at @iamHeatherT because I will continue tweeting to you so holla back to me! Remember to visit donatelife.net to sign up to become an organ and tissue donor.

Thanks for an amazing season!
Heather

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Carole says what she really thinks of Aviva and all of her talk about her book and things being "ghetto."

Dear Fans,

Let me start with something I stole it from Twitter this week. "The most dangerous liars are those who think they are telling the truth."

I'll say it again. The blonde at the end of the right couch, the one who's prone to lobbing limbs and insults, is an Insulting. Bitch. Some of you didn't believe me. Maybe some of you still don't. But after watching the reunion shows I imagine it's harder and harder to cheer for the anti-hero. Just when you think she can't get any faker she does.

The story according to Aviva makes me laugh: We were arguing, she insulted me, I called her a psychopath and that prompted her to affectionately compliment me on my age. Sure. Her disdain for the intelligence of the audience is palpable. It was too stupid for me to even reply. But as I was watching the reunion, and particularly Aviva and the way she treats people, I was reminded of something my Grandma Millie used to say. (I love everything Grandma Millie used to say.) "At 25, you have the face you're born with. At 45 you have the face you deserve."

I'd rather be 50 and me than be 45 and Aviva, any day of the week. She aged worse this season than a president in his first term. Holy short dress, I don't mind at all how I look. Overbite and all. I'll take it.

When I first met Aviva she was lovely. Really lovely. I meant what I said on the couch, I wish we had seen more of that. Her easy laugh and funny neurotic ways. Instead all we saw was a mean and angry woman. All because I asked her if she hired a writer -- a writer she did hire. It makes no sense. Three years ago she told me she'd read my memoir, What Remains. This was a book published in 2006 about my childhood, my family, my career and marriage, and then the death of my husband, Anthony Radziwill. A man I loved more than anyone I had loved before or have loved since. She gushed over my book. She quoted from it. We hugged. She seemed so sincere. Flash forward and she now believes it was written by a ghostwriter. She even knew his name, and it wasn't Truman Capote. It was Bill Whitworth, she told me. She repeated this over and over to anyone who would listen. And it doesn't matter how many times she repeats it -- it will never make it true.

When they stopped listening she started saying in the press and on social media that not only was my book written by someone else but that it was not my place to have written a book about my life, and my marriage. And, as if I didn't remember, she reminded me that I'd written about people who had died. Um, yeah. I know. It was my husband and my family and my closest friend who died. Just. . .wow. But I wasn't important enough to tell my story because my husband's family was famous, or historic or whatever she said. Because they had money and privilege and yachts. Really. Who do I think I am?

I’ll tell you. I’m a girl from upstate New York who grew up in a loving, if sometimes kooky, Italian working class family. I worked for everything I earned, just like my parents did and their parents before them. I have a proud family history of hard work and small but precious rewards that followed. My family won't be in any history books. I didn't grow up privileged. We didn't spend summers in Europe or Christmas in Palm Beach. A day spent at the town pool or playing in the woods behind our house was great. Much like Heather, I was taught strong values and decent manners. I learned to live with integrity and honesty. I'm proud of my upbringing and the woman I became, as was my husband. As is his family to this very day. I've known people who lived in what Aviva would consider the "ghetto" who have more class and decency than she shows.

All this talk about class and ghetto -- you'd think we were living in communist Russia. Here is the thing. This is America. In our country it doesn't matter a lick where you are from, it only matters where you're going. So don’t let anyone tell you that you aren't good enough because you didn’t grow up on Park Avenue or in a family that had some history, or because you enjoy saying mother-f---er now and then. I’ve met people from all walks of life. I spent time in refugee camps in Southeast Asia, and in the projects of Chicago. I've been to State dinners with Presidents. I met the Queen of England on a beach in Anguilla. No one is any more valuable or important than you are. No one is more important than your family and your friends.

Let the elitists go slow into the night.

In spite of the BookGate dust up I had a great time this season. I made wonderful new friends in LuAnn and Kristen and my friendship with Heather is more special and important to me than I could have ever imagined just three years ago. Friends have each other's backs. I love her, madly. And while we didn't always act appropriately, we had a lot of laughs. I hope you did too.

Thank you all for your supportive and funny and brilliant tweets. And while we didn't all agree on everything all of the time I enjoyed your participation in the show. Even the mean tweets about my skinny neck and my overbite were amusing. Like I said, I've stolen some tweets already. You may see others as dialogue in my next book, and yes, you can all say you were my ghostwriters.

As always,

With love, Writer Girl xoxo

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