Cast Blog: #RHONY


Ramona on Her Divorce From Mario

Carole on Elitists and Bitches

Heather Says That's a Wrap

Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

The Countess: Sonja and I Are on the Outs

Aviva Says Bye for Now

Kristen on Surviving Her First Season

LuAnn: For Ramona Ignorance Is Bliss

Who Cares How Carole Wrote Her Book?

Carole on Stupid Things You've Heard on Bravo

Aviva's "Foul Ignorance"

Kristen: Ramona's Out of Touch with Reality

Sonja Is Very Private

Ramona on the Grueling Reunion

LuAnn: Sonja Is Off the Rails

Heather: Et tu Ramona Singer?

Aviva on Kristen's "Gatemouth" Look

Kristen: Sonja Could Be Successful

Sonja's Glad Aviva Threw Her Leg

Carole: Waiter, We're Done

Ramona: Aviva's Leg Scared All of Us

Heather Focuses on What Matters

LuAnn: Sonja Only Has Herself to Blame

What Else Does Aviva Have in That Bag?

Aviva: Leggy Blonde

God Gave me a Great Ass and His Approval

Sonja on Her Harry Situation with LuAnn

Ramona: Where Did the Time Go With Avery?

Heather Tips to Plan a Party for Carole

Aviva Rises Above the Nonsense

Love Kristen Tender

Sonja and Harry Aren't Good for Each Other

Ramona: Mario's Voice Is So Sexy

Aviva Defends Her Asthma

Heather's Sasha Fierce Moment

Nothing Is Too Romantic for Sonja

LuAnn: I Sing When I Feel Like Singing

Kristen: This Show Has Helped My Marriage

Carole: Oh Beautiful for Spacious Skies. . .

Ramona: Just Don't Ask Me to Go Every Year


Heather ponders Aviva's invites, Sonja's business, and LuAnn's attitude.

Funny how much things change in a week. . .

LuAnn and Jacques' wine tasting party was a lot more fun than it looked. Jon and I brought my friend, Alexandra Elman who also produces her own wine label "Alex Elman Wines," and I learned a great deal that evening.

I for one, certainly did not see the essence taste test as a set up against Ramona. Jacques was maybe having a bit of fun teasing Ramona, but I felt the point was to promote her wine at his party and show everyone that be it an expensive white Bordeaux or a Ramona Pinot Grigio -- all good wines have layers that appeal to different senses on the palette and I learned from the experience. The best part was that Ramona excelled and proving to all that she knows her stuff and she had fun with it too. I certainly didn't see it as a mean prank and I don't know why Aviva chose to stir the pot. . .but what I do know is that I want off the Ramona-coaster! I've always said we don't have to skip down Pinot Grigio lane together, but this is silly and I just wish we could be more comfortable around each other and just keep it moving but I guess it is just going to take more time or. . .not.

I asked Sonja to meet up at my Yummie offices so James Bernard and I could present her with the graphic options we had worked up on her logo. I agreed to help Sonja create the proper architecture for her brand and to creative direct a marketing campaign that hopefully will her help her sell a ton of toaster ovens! Go Sonja! James and I have partnered on many projects and we make a strong team and I am grateful he agreed to partner with me as art director. It's feel good to lend your expertise to help out a friend and as James and I sat over coffee discussing it, we both felt excited because we know we can help her.

We needed to get started by getting feedback on the fonts we designed for Sonja's umbrella brand concept (housing both Sonja Home and Sonja in the City catering), and to possibly select one to start the process. What you don't know is that I had already given James initial direction on the project and insight into Sonja.

I purposefully told James not to research Sonja and not to go on her website right off the bat, I actually didn't want James to see what I had seen when I visited her site. The images of Sonja with the leather gloves and the "S" and "M" burnt onto toast frankly speaking, were a bit scary and I wanted him to approach this project with an unbiased opinion and fresh eyes and to meet her in person first.

After visiting several appliance retailers, I also concluded my earliest concerns: that Sonja's toaster oven will have to stand-out on the shelf in a competitive set of credible, big name appliance companies and this means we will have to create a campaign that is driven by the marketing and not necessarily the product. I spoke to James about this and some of my earliest creative ideas for Sonja's campaign. There are a lot of elements that go into a successful product launch and much Sonja will have to address to build a successful brand. I have a ton of questions for her, but, for now, my focus is on the creative and I felt the logo selection meeting was the right place to introduce James and Sonja. And yes -- she did pull her toaster oven prototype out of a suitcase. Everything is just perfect!! I know from experience that the logo she chose will translate perfectly across all her product lines and can be applied to the several creative concepts I plan to show her. Sonja is new to business and she needs to learn that you have to put your emotions on the back burner when making key decisions. You have to think big picture and long term. I know she is going to be successful, but she's got a lot to learn. It took me years to get where I am now, and I've made many mistakes along the way. What I am trying to do is help her avoid the same mistakes I made. This is a real process and you will see us navigate through it in the upcoming episodes and I promise, there will be ups and downs and bumps along this journey. I have a feeling, the Somonja coaster is now about to begin for me, so stay tuned for that!

Coffee with LuAnn downtown gave me the chance to start a conversation about the issues some of the ladies are having with her strong personality. What could be better than bonding over having our brows done!?! I love Boom Boom Brows and had a blast watching Lu scream as they waxed her brows into total perfection.

LuAnn is truly a beautiful woman and she needs to know that her confidence can be intimidating to others. She isn't aware of what others' perception of her can sometimes be, and I simply want her to step back and share the spotlight more with others. I haven't quite gotten that point through to her yet, but I am trying because I see thru her Countess "M.O." and I adore Lu. I want the others to see through it and feel the same way too. Overhearing what Carole had to say to her friend Ranjana Khan was proof that LuAnn is rubbing people the wrong way. But, Carole shouldn't sweat the small stuff, allowing the petty things to get under her skin. I am not sure how endearing pumpkin head really is? And I feel a direct line with LuAnn might be a better approach to Carole's frustration. We'll see if the Princess decides to take that route with the Countess.

Miami. . .I guess turnabout is fair play, and I am certainly not upset that neither LuAnn nor me were invited along. But I am compelled to point out the obvious: how is it that Aviva can choose her guest list for Miami and exclude whomever she chooses while I was demonized for leaving Ramona behind on the trip to London? Maybe you see it differently. . .I would love to hear your feedback on it!

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Sonja: Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously

Sonja explains why she and Ramona are family, why she's hiring Aviva, and why LuAnn is still her friend.

At this point, I am numb to the whole BookGate debate. I am not on anyone's side, I just hope that both books are bestsellers and that Carole and Aviva are making enough money to pay the bills with their books because BookGate has definitely taken an emotional toll on their friendship. I know that they were close and had great times together. In fact, Carole was once the godmother to Aviva's daughter. How can this come between them? Such contention over the accusations! I don't know why they let it get so heated. It's not worth it! I just hope that they can forgive each other at some point. As you get to know someone, you get to see their strengths and weaknesses -- and you have to accept those if you're going to be friends.

I was surprised when the girls laughed at me discussing my ability to forgive and voicing my Christianity. I think that it is one of the reasons that I can live my own life and not worry about everyone else's or the grass being greener. It's all relative. We are on Earth for such a short time. I am enjoying every day of my life. I am grateful for the family and friends that I have and my beautiful daughter.

I have so much more than many other people, and I remind myself of that every day with the charity work that I do. That's why I feel so much more comfortable working with artists, animals, the LGBT, and children. It's such a sensitive, caring, and loving place to be. I love my Sonja In The City event planning business because it lets me be me -- an artist and a promoter -- while helping others reach their highest capabilities. Plus I get to do all that while helping me get my daughter through school in a stable environment. It keeps me connected to the movers and shakers who help me manage my investments. I love to produce and to contribute. It makes me feel good.

I believe some of the women fail to take me seriously because I only show them my party side. There is a private side to me that most people don't see, because they only see me out at social events and while I'm entertaining. I throw a lot of events, so a lot of people only see that side, as it's my business and the way I broker some of my deals.

It is amazing how moms like Heather find strength to do dealing with their children's issues, like her son's health and hearing loss. It's what we do with loved ones. We do it with marriage partners too! I surprised myself when my ex had a terrible accident and I was called upon to deal with all of the doctors, therapists, and financial advisors.

I dont feel that Ramona called Aviva vile. She said that she had a vile side. That's different!

I'm not upset that Ramona spoke behind my back about my financial problems. She's human, and I spoke my feelings then and we worked through it the way that family does. We have too much water under the bridge to let opinions or men get in between us.

Heather questioning the legitimacy of my friendship with Ramona is just silly. She knows that we have been friends forever and whatever I have said about Ramona I have told her to her face. Heather knows this very well -- since I'm very upfront about my feelings with her.

The girls saying that Aviva's leg throw was staged is silly. I let Aviva know that everyone was saying she was fake. Even if she plans to throw it on the table to make a point, that doesn't make it staged. It just means she was pushed to a limit. I thought she was hilarious. After all, it was a private party in the back room. We weren't in the actual restaurant. Aviva doesn't go around throwing her leg around in normal restaurant situations. Maybe she and I should take her act on the road! A real dog and pony show! I always said I was a performer, a comedian, and a producer. At my Sonja In The City parties, now we can include Aviva as part of the show!

My overall thoughts of the season was that the reunion had more drama. I felt the season flip-flopped around quite a bit. Harry and I will always have a very strong relationship, just as Ramona and Aviva will always be in my life. Aviva's son Harrison is like my family.

Ramona was definitely going through something this season. I let her know I was upset, but I can't change her and she can't change me. We accept each other the way we are and we work our differences out.

I didn't know LuAnn was going through a breakup. She never shared that with me, and I was getting upset that she wasn't trusting my friendship and was blaming me for everything. I didn't give any credence to any of the rumors that were going around town through the salon that Satoko worked at. Kristen and I just asked the facialist to tell us for fun. I can't stop LuAnn from running out of parties with my guys -- just like I can't stop Harry from taking off and leaving me because he knows I want commitment and he wants to fool around. But that doesn't mean LuAnn's not my friend and that I can't speak my mind in front of her, and it doesn't mean that Harry isn't someone that I love as well.

I hope that you found the season entertaining. I hope that you don't take yourself too seriously! And when the naysayers back you into the corner, just say what Glinda the Good Witch said to the Wicked Witch of the West "Be off with you, your black magic doesn't work here!"

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