LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn isn't surprised Ramona threw her into the fray during the Aviva dust-up.

on Sep 4, 20120

Aviva was stressed out when she arrived so when she confronted the girls, she went a little overboard. How I got dragged into this mess is a mystery to me but if Ramona can pin her outlandish behavior on someone else, she does. I felt bad for Reid because he didn’t deserve the welcome he received and he came to St. Barts only because Aviva needed him and Carole invited him. Reid was clear that he had work to do and that he wouldn’t get in the way of our plans. Instead, the girls interrupted Reid over and over again. As for Ramona looking for other lodgings, what can I say. . .typical escalation of a non-issue.

Words of thanks are to come from people willingly and when Aviva forced the girls to thank Reid, it didn’t go over well. I commend Aviva on overcoming her fear of flying enough to join us and even though we didn’t throw a party upon her arrival, we were very happy to see her.

Of course when a man arrives to stay in a house filled with women the dynamics change, but I would never have asked Reid to leave. When I commented on how Ramona felt, I didn’t think my words would become a focal point for Ramona’s displaced anger. It was a “kill the messenger” kind of moment.

166 comments
btripsplus1
btripsplus1

Even though those things were said, you stirred the pot by repeating them.....that is not classy.

Caggie
Caggie

Well WelWell...seems all you have done to yourself is distroyed whatever you tried so hard to build for yourself!! I totally agree with most comments here, especially @seasonedviewer7, stop the'' darling,oh i ams gracious..blahhh blahhh blahh'' and start being true to yourself, perhaps then you may just get more fans and be liked. But as far as things look...hmmm DARLING you may need to think about another way to be famous and privilaged....just saying:0...

Hmmmm
Hmmmm

Too selfish, all of you! The only real woman on this show is Carole... This was never a girls trip, it was a celebrate-Carole trip, remember? Well, it's in her memory. Let me refresh yours. Carole's meek reminder: "I’d like to take a moment to remind everyone, again, about the reasons for this trip. 1. I finished the first draft of my book. 2. Russ is playing a blues festival. 3. I invited the girls along to celebrate."

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

Don't get me wrong I don't care for Ramona. She is a trainwreck in the soical scene. But, she hasn't changed from season to season and doesn't pretend she has or has not done something.

You school everyone on how to be proper, on what to say and so forth. You don't like to admit that at times you fall from grace. That is what makes you so fake, so off putting. 

Who knows what occurred or did not occur with Thomas on your trip.  But your attempts to cover it up and explanation don't really put the situation in a good light.

You are trying to hard to be everything Jaques wants you to be. You are toying with the idea of having a baby to keep him not because you want to start motherhood all over again.

Ramona has always had issue with those who brought a spouse to a ladies event. Why should this be different? 


Virgolady6901
Virgolady6901

Most men would have seen this episode and thought, wow she is seeing another man and its in my face but not Jaques. Which leads me to think, well just maybe this show is helping him promote his wine business. (just a thought). When Aviva arrived and went crazy on Ramona and Sonya, what made you feel the need to comment on the situation? You knew that that comment would cause an explosion, so you did it anyway. I thought you was better than this behavior. You are better than this. I have enjoyed you being on the show. I love your style, the way you seem to pick out key items and make them work with just adding accessories. This is your thing and I love it. I do hope you and Ramona stop the tit for tat thing and just move on. She was trying so hard to bust you with Island Boy and it was clearly none of her business and prevous to that you was trying to make a fool out of her during the wine tasting. What is the pay off for doing the tit for tat thing. I would much rather you be yourself and get fired, than all these little created drama's that just make you both look bad.

AlvinTx
AlvinTx

It appears the viewers are smarter than you thought.

pywaket
pywaket

"Countess",

 

I almost forgot You can take the "Countess" out of the trailer park, but you can't take the trailer park out of the "Countess".

chilmarkgal
chilmarkgal

Luann please make more songs signed your biggest fan

Luv2Laugh
Luv2Laugh

Come on Lulu, without a crime there is no cover up! They go hand in hand. You call your lie a "concocted story" or “fudging the truth”. You call either your behavior with Tomas, or trying to cover it up, a "silly mistake". You call Avia's outburst and off putting comments (made both  during the episode & after when referencing Rush L), "going a little overboard” Then you call  Ramona's reaction toward an over reacting, “stressed out” Avia, along with your stirring the pot (wasn't defusing this the proper thing to do?) by choosing this time (during Aviva's breakdown) to comment on Ramona’s feelings (she spoke for herself-didn't pull you in until you commented on HER feelings) “outlandish behavior”.  Isn't that what you were after when you chose this time to add fuel to the fire by "commenting on Ramona’s opinion” (she shared during drinks the day before, and had gotten past)? You brought that up regardless of how bad everyone was already feeling instead of trying to defuse the circumstance. Admit it. You could have kept quiet if you were enjoying their argument, or better yet, tried to make things better. Instead, you used this situation to make a scene bigger than the one you made, lied about and later admitting to as a silly mistake. You were trying to over shadow your own bad behavior with Tomas. At least admit it that. Your blog is insulting as if the viewers would really fall for your spin on the events? I am not necessarily a fan of R&S, but you made me feel sorry for them. As of this last episode, and after reading your blog, I'm no longer a fan of yours either. Good luck.

amber77
amber77

well u did say the same a ramona and pretended you didnt , y ?? if u said something own it !

grayfox007
grayfox007

hallo! LuAnn: Sorry you are the woman of my dreams, attractive, tall and a bit naughty. You remind me of my wife 41 years ago, hungry and finishing law school. She travelled around the world and had many men admire her. There are times when you must catch on to the joke quicker but the naivety is attractive as well. How did you little escapadeat the hotel in Maui come across, did you ever explain it to your man and did he understand. Until he makes the marriage commitment you are a free woman, so jock make the move or somebody else will. Hunter

Peachy50
Peachy50

Heather & Carole=Cool Cats

Ramona & Sonja=FUN!

LuAnn & Aviva=Next Season's canned housewives

 

CheekyGirl
CheekyGirl

LuLuLu....you might be the biggest hypocrite ever. You absolutely have no manners, no class and no grace. You have none of these qualities and the fact you keep telling everyone you do is just laughable. You shouldn't have to tell people you have these qualities, people should be able to observe them for themselves. You and Aviva are real downers on the show but for different reasons. I hope neither of you return next season. The other ladies are fun to watch.

livininin2
livininin2

What I don't understand is how you, in particular, go about your daily life when your duplicitous actions are shown on tv week after week, year after year.  People must be questioning your integrity at this point, but perhaps you don't care?  Perhaps it was in question before you started the show?  I have come to the conclusion that you must have convinced yourself that you are successfully able to fool others into believing that what they saw with their own two eyes was not accurate. 

sigristmary
sigristmary

Nice of LuAnn to let you know what the "others" were saying about the changing dynamic, since it effected everyone. They should not have to be muted in sharing their concerns. LuAnn shoud have had he good grace to keep that to herself and not hurt you and disrupt the entire household.  Their feelings were legitimate. It woud be like bringing your wife along to a bachelor party

alexa7
alexa7

I'm sorry ladies..but this time the one who won the crown of outta this world attitude was Aviva!

ScottinNYC
ScottinNYC

THERE  IS NO SOLID PROOF. Heather states she say them, and that may be good enough for a legal case, but they will always look for two wtinesses. NEVERTHELESS, who cares? I am Jacques #1 FAN. If Jacques doesan`t show up disgruntled, then it`s no ones biz what the Countess does with her Fanny Pack.  

Remote
Remote

I feel sorry for Jacques now that he is hearing what really happened instead of the version LuAnn fed him.

Remote
Remote

The "Countess" and the truth are strangers.

BarbarainNY
BarbarainNY

Excellent and concise blog, Luann.  You clearly can see things as they truly are.

Blink
Blink

Didn't really have a problem with you throwing Sonja and Ramona under the bus.  She just got a taste of her own medicine, but really  you should stop with the it was just a "white lie" thing, it was a lie period.  And not even sure why you felt the need to do it, you're not married. 

mu_doc
mu_doc

Aviva overreacted to this whole thing. LuAnn, Sonja, & Ramona had a conversation about how things might be different if Reid came, so at one point during that conversation, THEY ALL SAID OR HINTED the the dynamics would change. I don't understand why Ramona got mad at LuAnn. When they well all laying on that bed RAMONA kept saying that LuAnn should be the one to tell Reid to leave. She always says she's trying to get to a better place with LuAnn but every move LuAnn makes she takes it as if LuAnn's being shady. She jumps at opportunity to make LuAnn look bad or start a fight. She had so much to say about LuAnn and Tomas, and how Jacques would be upset, but her BESTFRIEND seemed to be a little more determined when it came to Tomas.

juliegal
juliegal

For someone who can only talk about the importance of class and elegance, Lu sure does have a lot to learn. She is anything but! And don't even get me started on the term "countess". If that's the only term she can use to identify herself, she's got way bigger problems than her ego!

ToniScurlock
ToniScurlock

And, really, LuLu, the "Countess" bit is getting rather old...  I mean, come on!!!!  

cita17
cita17

Hilarious. Seems to me that LuAnn's behavior was a bit of payback for Ramona's game of "cat and mouse" with Tomas. Let's face it, folks, there's a reason these two were kept on the show. They both know how to stir it up.

kat1129
kat1129

Wow..you really threw them under the bus.  You don't conduct yourself in a very high manor for all the preaching you do about being a countess.  Rubish!

 

opusv
opusv

Bravo should have canned you along with Jill. You brought that argument  to life with your comment. You enjoy it when people are against Ramona. And you're surely right that money can't buy you class. It certainly didn't buy you any.

vivrz
vivrz

Character, honesty, class, etiquette?  You have none.

ToniScurlock
ToniScurlock

BTW...  I wonder what the comment the "Countess" made to her friend Cat over the phone, the morning after meant??  You know when she was telling Cat, "I never change."  Sounds like Cat knows the "Countess" very, very well...  

joanne999
joanne999

fist of all get Lu Ann out she is a pain in the neck she thinks she is something she is not she cant sing its almost embarrasing to watch she always sticks her nose in where it does not belong

Workingclass
Workingclass

First of all, do did not get "dragged" into the fight, you pushed yourself in.  If you had just shut up, things would not have esclated.  You were trying to enrage Aviva blaming Ramona soley and you had said the same thing.  Whatever was said before Reid got there should have remained among you.  You are supposed to be the ettiquette guru - don't you know how to diffuse an uncomfortable situation?  You lit the fuse and you did it on purpose - just like you tried to humilate Ramona at the Wine Games on purpose.  We saw you smirking and smiling when Aviva was lashing out.  You are such a hypocrite!

marcias
marcias

You did say that having Reid in the house would change the dynamic.  However, it was Ramona and Sonja who wanted him out of the house.  I thought the whole thing was so immature to not want Reid there.  It was Carole's choice not anyone elses.  Sonja and Ramona act like mean girls in high school.  Be careful not to lower yourself to their level.  I have always like you but this Tomas thing was really weird.  

Sunny11
Sunny11

More white lies, apparently.........

 

jhazm
jhazm

The conversation was between you, Ramona and Sonja.  Going back and telling Aviva what was said, knowing that it would make Ramona and Sonja look bad was impolite (at the very least.  At worst, a betrayal of a confidence).  You can't label yourself a classy person and then give yourself permission to be impolite and backstabbing.  You created the friction between Aviva and the Ramona/Sonja by choosing to divulge the contents of a private discussion.  Sonja and Ramona may have wanted Reid to be elsewhere, but when he arrived they did not tell him  that and instead they greeted the couple warmly.  So while they didn't want him in the house, when he arrived they got over it.  That was the right thing to do.  But you wanted to hold them accountable for how they felt the day before instead of giving them credit for accepting the situation.  It seemed passive aggressive to me.  You still are angry at Ramona for the parenting digs and you saw an opportunity to turn someone against Ramona.  When Ramona asked you to talk to Reid about going to a hotel, you didn't object to that message. You objected to being the messenger.  You didn't say, "I disagree, Reid should stay at the house."  You said, "I disagree, Carol should tell him that."  So when you told Aviva that Ramona and Sonja discussed asking Reid to go to a hotel, you didn't tell Aviva that you implicitly supported that idea.  You conveniently threw Ramona under the bus and kept your part in the discussion out of the story.  I truly don't like defending Ramona and Sonja because they are my least favorite on the show, but in this case I have to say that they didn't do anything wrong.  They had a private discussion, tossed around an idea, but in the end scrapped it and accepted the situation.  You wanted them punished for their discussion and that was uncalled for.

angela.deverger
angela.deverger

I am a new single woman who has always been married.  i know what happens at 3am after yo pick up a guy in a bar.  You are fooling noone, Contessa.  And you are like Kathy on RHONJ, pot stirrer. 

fishgirl@ec.rr.com
fishgirl@ec.rr.com

You did not "fudge" a little. You flat out lied. It was a big lie. You were the original one who stated that having Reid there would "change the dynamic". You lied about that too. When you use the word bad, as in "fudging the truth always turns out bad" or "I felt bad", the proper use of the word is badly, with an ly. Ex. Fudging the truth always turns out badly, especially when the so-called fudging was a bald faced lie, therefore I did not feel badly for you, when Ramona blamed you for starting the trouble. See the difference, Countess?

breezie_bre
breezie_bre

If nothing happened between you and the guy you brought home then why did you feel the need speak French see this is thing about other languages it's easy to translate what you say! It only made you look dumb and stupid at the same time. From the words of your song money can't buy you class and elgance is learned you still haven't fully reached or learned the meaning of the song.

gradfo
gradfo

 @Luv2Laugh

 You are spot on!  I'm so sick of her saying that it was a "little white lie" when it was an "outright lie"!  And, does she think that we'll just overlook her talking on the phone in French which was so easily translated to English?  I've seen right through LuAnn since day one and I believe the viewers can't be fooled any longer.  The fact that this woman wrote a book on etiquette is a total farce!

JoJett
JoJett

 @OCally Now YOU are someone who understands exactly what is going on. Good for you to see past the staged events LuAnn pulls.

auntiejoan
auntiejoan

 @Remote

 Maybe he's just with her for the fame.  I thought he was ok too until he did the wine tasting thing to Ramona.  That wasn't cool.  Not that I love Ramona or anything but, that was mean.

livininin2
livininin2

 @opusv I thoroughly agree.  I think she loves it when people are against Ramona.  

jenn4703
jenn4703

 @ToniScurlock

 exactly....i never change....... said it all.

 

it amazes me that in the same blog she says she is sorry for her silly mistake (silly mistake must =lying and deceit)she is calling out Ramona and aviva for there bad behaviour...or over reactions or whatever.

 

As someone already said, the whole blog is an insult, to jacques, to the other women, to your children and to your fans....if you have any left.

 

sorry Lu, but you do not bring a man back to your "home" at 3 am after drinking yourself into a blackout....must have been in a blackout, it's obvious u do not remember waking poor heather with tomas by your side, or you would have known you could not gdet away with the "Italians story'.........just to show him around and send him on his way. Tomas did not come back with you and you did not take him back with any other intention then hooking up.

 

Which is cool, your business......well...lol...not really since you decided to do it on national television.

 

I think we can replace countess, with Hypocrite of the Highest Order....more fitting a title, no?

ROFL...liar liar pants on fire.

Hulali
Hulali

 @ToniScurlock

 The other ladies commented on Luanne's aggressive dating habits when she was still married (but separated) from the Count.

Tiasrose
Tiasrose

Can U blame her for smiling...lol ??? Ramona is crazy. I mean really !!!

ceeacee
ceeacee

Aviva was the mean girl in this instance, not Ramona and Sonja.  I might add, so was LuAnn, for instigating the fight and lying about her involvement.

RDaniels
RDaniels

@marcias I get the feeling that Lu has been around a few blocks too many in NYC!

9thjewel
9thjewel

 @jhazm But they didn't accept the situation because Ramona and Sonja looked into alternative housing in case things did not go there way. I took LuAnn's refusal to be the one to tell Reid that he had to leave to mean that it was not her place to uninvite him which was the truth.