LuAnn de Lesseps

LuAnn was shocked by Ramona's vicious texts.

on Jun 4, 20120

Welcome back, my friends! I’m glad you’re joining us for what promises to be the best season yet, filled with new friendships (and frenemies), parties, travel, and yes…drama!  I’m happy to report that Jacques and I are still an item and that Victoria and Noel are pursuing their dreams. Victoria is applying to art colleges and Noel continues to work on his skateboard company, FancyFool.

You can see when I’m having coffee with Aviva that we’ve known each other for quite some time. In fact, I met Aviva at party right after I moved back from Switzerland and we’ve been friends ever since. I’m also friendly with her ex-husband, Harry. When we were talking about Sonja dating her ex, I felt the need to share that I’d went out for drinks with him before meeting Jacques. Aviva was not surprised and is very gracious when it comes to Harry and her friends.

I decided to pull Ramona aside at Sonja’s party because I wanted to clear the air with her for questioning my commitment to my kids and for criticizing the choices I’ve made about where to live and work. My kids are my number one priority, and I’ve managed to balance being a mom with my career. Ramona’s defensive reaction didn’t shock me at all. I was prepared for her to deny any wrongdoing, but I thought it was better to try regardless of how much she protested her innocence.

207 comments
Beyoncca
Beyoncca

love you LuANn. Stay strong. You and the new ladies are the reason I'm still watching. Ramona and Sonja are so highschool with their pecking-order, and unfiltered selves.

GoldSeraph
GoldSeraph

LuAnn, In case you are wondering...parenting doesn't stop, including and particularly in teen to early twenties years. But it appears to me and others, that you cut your kids off at a very early age and sent them all on their own.

VIP(viewer in PA)
VIP(viewer in PA)

Team LuAnn! Ramona needs to go! Bring Jill back and the new ladies are a great addition to the show.

MiamiAnn
MiamiAnn

Team LuAnn! I'm so sorry you don't have your BFF's, Kelly and Jill, they are really missed this season. I am sorry however to see PinoRamona still there, like lipstick left on a wine glass that won't wash off and go away. Be well classy lady.

Branch101
Branch101

I agree with everyone else that Luann's actions (especially during the scene at the cafe) make her look like she is trying desperately to recruit the new people to be her on side since her old circle is off the show. That is the only conclusion that can be drawn seeing as how she just met these ladies and is already gossiping about Ramona. Sorry Luann but you're stirring the pot and it's not becoming of you at all. I think taking the higher road and keeping it between you and Ramona (as Ramona tried to do) is the best, more mature route.

Jolene Summers
Jolene Summers

Oh Luann I can remember you jumping on Alex & a few others when they wanted to discuss something that had aggravated them at one of the other housewives...dont you? You were so quick to tell them this wasnt the place nor the time to have that discussion. I dont think for one minute that Ramona was threatning you or blackmailing you. It always seem to be that YOU draw your own understanding of what people are saying without really listening. That is classless! Then here you come off attacking Ramona at Sonja's party. Pot calling the kettle there. That DAHLING is CLASSLESS! I too wished Bravo would of kept Alex or Jill & sent you on your way with Kelly to the land of rainbows....

sLo
sLo

I absolutely love and adore you! I don't understand why people feel so threatened by your intelligence. I am not half as graceful as you, nor can I speak more then one language, but this is why I find you so intriguing! Excited to watch more of yourself and Miss Aviva this season :)

BTW, I loved watching your daughters art-show! She is not the "typical" privileged NY teen. She has so much creativity and seems to always be thinking outside the box. ( Even during her Sweet 16 Party-loved it!)

bonnie bluebell
bonnie bluebell

What I mean to say is: Same place, Same act, different players.

TRUE CLASS
TRUE CLASS

A person with "class" shows it by being gracious to all people at all times, not by drawing attention to others' faux pas, and certainly not by putting oneself on a pedestal! You must remember that you have been filmed. You were filmed correcting Bethenny for introducing you to a driver by your first name - really? NOT gracious, NOT classy. I will never forget witnessing the best demonstration of REAL CLASS that I will probably ever see. I was part of the usual herd walking down the street in Mid Town about 20 years ago. There was a homeless man sitting on the ground, dirty and disheveled asking for a cigarette. A few steps ahead of me a man in a suit stopped, took a cigarette case out of his pocket, opened it and held it out for the man to select his own... just as etiquette dictates. By treating that man with the same dignity and respect that would be afforded "royalty" personified TRUE CLASS. I am glad that I saw it and have never forgotten it. I hope that Bravo posts this so that anyone who reads it will reconsider the term class.

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

Oh my LuAnn, with all due respect, Victoria is in a really dark place.

MissMisty
MissMisty

Hi LuAnn! :)

Did I already say I love you??? If not we do in this household.

Ramona?? She's a total wacko . . . I feel so sorry for her Daughter . . enough said.

Viewer, lr
Viewer, lr

I laugh when I see you acting so childishly. "Pinot filled?" Oh, dear. We lost it, there, didn't we?

sissyhippo
sissyhippo

I wished that bravo had let you go and kept Jill and Alex. you on the other had are crazy. you think too much of yourself . you know if you are a good mother and no one can tell you other wise so why does it get to you what Ramona said. and why wait this long to tell her and at a party. you could have called her or asked to have lunch but you do it at a friends party talking about manners. do you read your own book. Bravo hear me know take this woman off the show, she is bring it down, down down .

sissy

Mrs S
Mrs S

So glad to see you back Countess Delasseps! Dont let Ramona off the proverbial hook..go get her..Hopefully this is RAmonna last season, her antics are now repetitious and boring..You make this Upper east sider proud!

msbiteme
msbiteme

Wow, you were surprised that a person with a handicap could be graceful and poised. I'm surprised that someone so "elegant" and "full of class" doesn't have a clue. Perhaps, if you would come down from you etiquette throne, you could see other people's potential and have a more "realistic" view of life.

eileen062
eileen062

Luann-congrats on being beautiful,helathy and human...remeber no one is perfect and remember that other people have feelings-try to take time out to be truly kind to others

No One
No One

I am not sure if you really read these and I am not usually the type to write comments on these sort of things, but I really just wanted to say a few things. I do not know you as a real person, you are just someone on a reality show that I watch. I am not entirely convinced to the "reality" of these shows, but if they are "real" even to a point then please take a moment for some person reflection here. Who cares how "classy" one is, what matters is a person's ability to care about other people as people. You do have an air about you that makes you not seem to be the "classy" person you want to portray. So the "reality" of your class is lost on most of us. You just seem like someone who was once a nobody who happened to meet a somebody. I am sure you were able to pick up a lot through your life with your ex. Your fancy words and posture don't make you classy- you are well taught and that is evident. You don't treat other people like people or care about the why of things. You just want what you want and to keep up some image that is not genuine. Just be real and be real to other people and the "class" will show. The biggest thing I wanted to say is, why demand an apology? If you have to ask or demand one then it isn't genuine and therefore doesn't count. It is not Ramona or anyone else's responsibility to make you feel good or better about a situation. You have to be strong enough yourself to hone your own feelings. You just want to make her apologize so she looks like the bad guy, but the thing is, is that sometimes saying I am sorry doesn't mean that we are wrong, or we regret what we did...it's in our actions that we truly show this. It's just like forgiving-it doesn't mean that the person was right and you were wrong it just means that you are able to be strong enough to move on.

team bethany
team bethany

First... the show isnt the nest season yet... there is no Betheny... I thought i'd be the only one who thought you were trying to create conflict this season... Remember what happens to the messenger? Take a good look back at those who intentionally started conflict... Jill, Alex and Kelly... where are they now... careful Darling or Romana will look like the victim and end up with her own show too.

Yes Victoria may be "talented" but i hope for your sake you are encouraging her to get a real job - starving artists are no longer en vouge.

Kay Jay
Kay Jay

Why on earth did they leave out Alex and keep you? You speak of style, grace and "class". Apparently these are things you were curious about and have yet to master.

cehemise
cehemise

I'm not so sure you have conversations with the other ladies, so much as you scold them. All that's missing is the wagging finger. I'm also not sure why you think it is your place to do that at all. Why do you feel the need to always lecture?

Monica
Monica

LuAnn, please do not let the haters get you down. You are right to expect an apology. Ramona is clearly unbalanced and her drinking doesn't help.I wish you the best. I hope you stay in contact with Jill- she is genuine and cares about you.

Fayette Brewer
Fayette Brewer

LuAnn, Let sleeping dogs lie. Don't allow others to have that kind of control over you. If you feel comfortable with the way you are raising your children, ignore ignorance. You are lacking slightly in the countess dept. a true countess would know that there is a time and a place for everything and at a party is not the place to air your greivances. Stop already, grow some more and if you and Ramona can't get along, keep your distance.

Viewernew
Viewernew

Luann IMO you seem very insecure. When you were hostess for one of the parties and your Mom was on, you had to ask her before she could tell you that she was proud of you. Also when Rosie came to visit you had to ask her if she thought you looked good. You like to fish for compliments and cut others down and laugh like you are so happy with yourself when all you do is make yourself look classless, mean spirited, and a bully. Why do you have to drag others into your drama, are you in such a mind zone about yourself that you can not see what you do to others and hurt their feelings. I personally am already tired of you and after only one show. Please get some help, you are worth it you know.

chgogrl
chgogrl

I dont know what some of you are seeing that i'm not. Luann doesnt come off as dismissive to me or condenscending. Ramona on the other hand comes off as classless,rude,obnoxious and just a pain in the ass. How anyone can be around her for more than 5mins and not want to run is beyond me. She threatened another womans children and from the south side Chicago neighborhood i'm from,thats not done. EVER..Shes clearly an alcoholic,has no manners and am very surprised hasnt had any physical harm done to her. She's downright deplorable in how she treats other people,especially her staff. How anyone can see her as being so "good" is beyond ludacris!!!!

MissMisty
MissMisty

I would not seek an apology from Ramona, she is a lost cause. It's her world and she do not want riders. Stay away from her. Too much Pinot Grezo....!!! :D

I LOVE THIS!!

"LuAnn, PLEASE do NOT seek" a I would not seek an apology from Ramona", she is a lost cause. It's her world and she do not want riders. Stay away from her. Too much Pinot Grezo.... LUV THIS!!!

Mergrl
Mergrl

LuAnn Love your spirit, you have such a positive attitude about life. You are graceful in all ways . I understand why you were rattled, Ramona has Crossed the line over and over. Victoria is great, and will find her way-- too bad Ramona had to make a sensitive issue worse. She is just jealous you have been able to maintain your composure.

Golflady
Golflady

Stop trying to turn the new housewives against Ramona. Let them find out for themselves if they like her or not. Stop stirring the pot!!

Vta Cty viewer
Vta Cty viewer

You can't force grown-ups to apologize. You can force your kids, but not other adults. Maybe you should learn to practice what you preach: graciously forgive and move on! You are delusional if you consider yourself classy.

Mama Chan
Mama Chan

I miss Jill. Every bit of this show, I played "what if" - what if Jill was there? What would she say and what would she do. I do miss her.

EveyV
EveyV

I don't believe it was right for Ramona to try to call you a bad parent or bring up some of the mistakes your children has made. Nobody is perfect including Ramona. Having said that, you don't need to keep stirring the pot. You demanding an apology is not a productive way of handling a situation. Just make a mental note that Ramona is not someone that you want to associate with and walk away.

sharon little
sharon little

Are you even sure of what your kids are up to? Their teens and probably having a blast,they're more mature than Avery,so-Ramonas probably jealous,and hears about their "fun"so tries to one up you in parenting.

Cajsa
Cajsa

Let's see, Aviva tries to pump Ramona for gossip about the drama and she says it's between the two of you and she does not want to drag other people into your fight. Meanwhile, you gossip about her to the three new castmates at the party, at the art show and at the lunch. Who has class? Yeah, not you.

Sally
Sally

LuAnn, It was sad that Ramona talked about you being a weekend mom. This is the way I look at it, Ramona is an alcoholic and she is never there for her daughter, she may be there physically but not there emotionally! You are an awesome mom. I hope she gets help soon. I really do not enjoy watching her anymore, so sad for her daughter.

bravoobsessed
bravoobsessed

Luann I feel bad for you about your divorce and the angst these issues have caused for you (I am a mother of teens- it is very stressful and we cannot control them 100%). I understand you defending your choices and the actions of your children. I hope that you can find your peace soon. Feeling unraveled is not good for you or the kids. Your daughter's art show was amazing! She is so talented!!! You should be proud. I do hope that you have both of the kids in counseling; the art reveals some tumult for your daughter. It is amazing but disturbing. You are so gorgeous and regal. I hate to see you lashing out. It does not become you. It would be better to ignore false accusations. You are looking a little crazy thus far this season. Don't stoop. If you feel good about your choices and how you are parenting, show that security by ignoring the accusations. Just dismiss the drama. That's the Luann we love.

viewer99
viewer99

OK, first ... how long has it been since you filmed. You had to confront Ramona on camera at a party. You are the one who is more vicious.! Second...was is your career? What do you do when you are not being mean to Ramona? Third...of course you like Ms Radziwell...she is royal, you're not, and want to be, because you are not anything like her, and want to be. Did I say that already? And, why oh why Bravo did you bring her back. You let her best friend go, and her good friend (kelly) go. Luann needs to be fired and bring back Alex.

lallaw
lallaw

LuAnn, lovely and gracious as always. Your daughter's art work shows a true gift, and exhibits a depth not normally seen at such a young age. I would like to be able to purchase a piece or two. Can you let us know in your blog if there is a website set up where we can do so? You have much to be proud about regarding your children. Obviously you have done many things right and well in that regard. Ignore the rantings of those who publicly celebrate "turtle time" and dance as though no one was watching. (We are watching!)

Expect that Ramona will enroll her daughter in art classes soon and push that poor child to one-up you and yours in that regard soon. Such a sad woman. Know I wish you the best this season, and please tell Jill she is missed.

Cynthia Ramirez
Cynthia Ramirez

It's amazing that a person like you wrote a book on etiquette, when it's clear that you are lacking in this area. I guess not all the money in the world or a title can give you class. It's such a shame cause you are such a beautiful woman and appear so refined on the outside, looks are deceiving!

AuntieMame
AuntieMame

LuAnn, Bravo had better be paying you a fortune to deal with Ramona again this season. What an unsophisticated cat.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

Love you LuAnn! I don't doubt for a MINUTE that Ramona made the threats you said she did. The wording you relayed was exactly how she speaks. I wish you luck this season in putting up with that crazy trainwreck. Wish Jill was still on. The new ladies seem cool & interesting.

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

LOVE you LuAnn! Too bad they didn't bring Jill back. You were both my faves. Now I have to endure another season of Ramona. Ugh!

Oh! I also wanted to commend Victoria on her art. Wow! She's incredibly talented!

esther194
esther194

How wonderful not to have to suffer through Alex's performances any more!!!

KathyA
KathyA

Hi, LuAnn. I've been a fan of the show since the beginning and have always been impressed by your poise and beauty. However, I am sad that I have to agree with other viewers’ comments regarding this year’s show. Your graciousness seems to have been replaced with outright rudeness and complete lack of diplomacy. You’ve always had this “edge” to you, a little like you appeared to think you are a little above the rest of us. But that was OK with me because of who your ex-husband is. But despite the fact you’re no longer in that relationship for some reason it’s now coming across as outright snobbishness. For example (and the incident that finally pushed me to write this), was your luncheon with Carole (I believe?) and you were explaining to the viewers how you met. Your comment with a smug look on your face as you explained how you met her and one of your statements about you looking at each other “…as attractive women do…” was the end as far as I’m concerned, and I honestly don’t know if I will continue watching RHONY.

SAYWHAT??
SAYWHAT??

Not a good first episode. It seems as though you are trying to recruit your troops for the rest of this season since your friends got fired. You are such a beautiful woman but this makes you look so bad. Hope that things change around.

Viewer PC
Viewer PC

OMG

LuAnn PLEASE let last season just die already. The way I understand it the reason there was a drastic cast change is because we the viewers HAD ENOUGH of your previous grudges, DO NOT rehash, NO WAY!

Thank you

ViewerSDF
ViewerSDF

Can we get rid of Luann and bring back one of the fired housewives? She has got to be the most delusional one of the bunch - so condescending and putting on airs all the time, yet apparently feels like she is a victim this season. Blackmail? Are we serious? I'm over it. This franchise has moved from my favorite to least favorite.

rebeca
rebeca

Luann you are showing your true colors of arrogance and above all. Very uncaring and not the lady I thought you were in your last reunion as you sat next to Jill, two witches on their brooms cackling potions that only effects you both. Kelly your third wheel is and always be a ditz! good riddance to that scarecrow.

yaya granny
yaya granny

How many times must a person say "I'm Sorry" ?

KymmieNY
KymmieNY

After watching the first episode I'm curious...did you think you looked classy?

Michigan Mommy
Michigan Mommy

LuAnn, you've always been my favorite housewife. You are lucky to be beyond beautiful, successful and in love. Because of all of this, I think you can be gracous enough to show/feel empathy for the new gal that just lost her father. Yes, the timing was a bit off, but what is the right time to deliver such news when it has happened so recently? We already have Ramona to make people feel small and unwelcome in every situaton - apparently that is her job. She does it well and you should not sink to her level.