I know I talk a lot too, but what was incredible to me is that Heather would go around to all the girls. I gave Heather three pieces of advice at the party and now I'm adding one more.
Number 1: I said you talk too much and don't give other people a chance to converse with you. You changed that and kept asking the other girls had they noticed you improved.
Number 2: I told you that you shouldn't email personal invites through your assistant. You followed that advice.
Now here is my third piece of advice, stop with the huge smile. It comes across as fake and insincere. Your eyes are saying one thing and your smile doesn't reflect what's in your eyes.
Heather wasn't even taking in what I told her. Instead, she went around saying I hate her guts. How did me saying she has a fake smile go to me hating her? Heather not only talks a lot (like I do) but she just doesn't listen. That has been my beef from the beginning with her. She doesn't listen to what I am saying or give me a chance to speak and have an exchange with her.
I really did not want to have this conversation at this party. Heather was relentless. She kept following me around. Every time I said, "Not now, not here" and left, she would come right after me again. No means no. Heather would just not take that in. Not everyone gets along with everyone. It is apparent at this time that Heather and I are like water and oil, we don't mix well together.
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Maybe it would be better to be gracious instead of rude. If someone is wanting to make things right with you, listen to what they are saying before opening your mouth.
SWEETNESS!!!! HEATHER IS NOT A DUMMIE. SHE KNEW EXACTLY HOW TO PUSH YOUR BUTTONS. WHY WOULD SHE WANT YOU ON THAT LONDON TRIP? ALL YOU DO IS PUT HER DOWN AND IF ANYONE KNOWS ABOUT TALKING TOO MUCH IT SHOULD BE YOU. SHE WAS PROTECTING HER BUSINESS AND RIGHTLY SO. YOU LIKE TELLING IT HOW YOU FEEL AND MAKE NO APOLOGIES FOR IT, THEN OWN IT. THAT'S WHY YOU WERE NOT INVITED AND I'M SURE YOU KNOW IT.
The funniest line of the show is when Reid asks you if you have had conflict with other wives and you say "no"....really?
Ramona I just love you and there isn't anything phony about you! I think it's quite clear from the beginning that Heather doesn't like you and has had an agenda from the beginning. What I don't know is whether Bravo is in on it to add more drama to the show.
My only advice is to stay away from Heather and if you must have to be near, have a go between who smiles just as broadly!
I just want to mention one thing...the title of your blog from March 12, 2008 is You Can't Invite Everyone. I was looking to see what year the show started and I found this. I thought it was comical given the current drama over not being invited. FYI- I believe you invited all the ladies to your house but not Jill.
Ramona, You are in great shape. I should be in the shape you are! You are a wonderful role model for femmes d'un certain age! -- and everyone!
Wow, it's like you looking in the mirror and can't see that you are describing yourself. But it was funny with the wine tasting when you said it needed more citrus.
You claim in your opening that you say what others are thinking. I can promise you that we share no thoughts, and I'm not really sure you think at all.
Ramona, please, for your own sake, stop calling everyone 'Sweetness'. It's truly disingenuous and makes you look foolish and quite phony. And I'm pulling for you.
Ramona, this season i have gotten to know you a lot. I really have grown to respect/look up to you. You are just like me, mature but you know when to have a good time, you and sonja are my only favorites on the show. Heather was a bully to you, and even tried to make it look like that during Aviva's anniversary party. Keep going strong Ramona i really enjoy you, all the other girls except for Sonja are envious of your success and jealous that you are able to have a solid marriage, looks, and a successful business. I wish you the best Ramona! XOX
I have to say, if i had just met someone and the same thing happened between them and me as did with Heather and you, i would never tell them they talk too much. It isn't being dishonest nor is it not being true to yourself to not say anything, it's called being polite to a guest. As for talking too much, you are pretty much the same way. You say you know it, but you still criticized Heather as if it's a flaw or a lack of character. You talked to everyone about it when she wasn't there, what's the difference? I think she was doing what you said, but i think the fact she told you that she felt the same way toward you really made you dislike her. The fact she didn't invite you to London shouldn't have been a surprise. I don't see anything wrong with Heather's smile, and besides, she can come back with a comment about you. You can be fun, and you are much more fun to watch when you aren't being negative about someone. Sonja is a gem, a free spirit, you treated her so bad and for no reason. It wasn't her planning the trip. I hope you apologized to her. I know it was a long time ago but if you haven't you still should..imo.
Lol. I'm still laughing at the headline..."decides she's done with Heather." Honey, Healther was done with you before you even started. Newflash: Sometimes you're really NOT the decider, and all that.
Ramona you are the best you make the show without you i would not watch the show, you are so funny, honest and a great business women. Love you you are the greatest!!!!
Hang in there. I've haven't seen this episode yet, but I know that Heather is a nasty piece of work. She's pissed off because you aren't as impressed with her as she is with herself. It's unbearably annoying. I have a piece of advice for you. You strike me as someone who has way too much on their plate. You remind me of me. I tend to get a bit hyper trying to accomplish everything I need to in one day. I forget to just take a minute to relax. Just take some time out during the day to do some deep breathing. It does wonders. I'm rooting for you in the battle with Heather. You go girl!!
Ramona it was hilarious you walking away from Heather and the dummy kept following you as you kept trying to get away from her.
Ramona, you seem to be having a hard time handling the new ladies -- strong, witty, fun-loving, none of them intimidated by you or needing you to bolster their own weakness or some petty alliance against other Housewives. The new ladies are taking RHONY back to the light-hearted fun spirirt I think it was meant to have -- and away from the darker, mean, catty, back-stabbing spirit it had descended into. You will either make the transition with them, or not.
I've always liked you and tended to side with you in your differences with other housewives , but confronting Heather isn't working, let alone at Aviva's anniversary party. I feel you were both wrong, Heather for pursuing you and not leaving you alone, and you for continuing to confront her. Heather isn't open to a frank and honest discussion regarding the issues between the two of you and it's time to put it behind you and just treat her at arm's length. In other words, treat her with the same fake civility that she has toward you. Don't take her too seriously, I don't think she is worth it.
Ramona you need to pay attention to what you yourself said to Heather. You called her a liar and told her you did not like her or her fake smile and accused her of talking behind your back. When she relayed what was said to others she was spot on she did not make anything up. As for talking about people behind their backs the truth is you put way more energy talking about Heather than she did about you. First you take Carole and Aviva to lunch and proceed to bad mouth Heather then when they were in London and you went to Dinner with Aviva and proceeded to constantly talk about Heather and make fun of her. Sweetie take a good look in the mirror because you get back what you give out in the end. Heather seems to smile as a nervous reaction not to get your goat. Personally i never would have invited you to London wither as you would have been sure to start a fight or say something inappropriate like you always do and since it was a busines trip the last thing she needed to deal with was you and your cattiness. The fact that you are cheering on Caroles making fun of Luanne and her bad behavior just shows how immature you really are.
Not sure why you think someone should invite you on a trip if they don't like you. As a matter of fact why would you even want to go. You called Heather phony but a phony person would've invited you knowing they didn't like you. This is nothing for you go blow your top about. Not everyone is going to like you. I know I don't.
I really wonder if you read these comments. If I were you I would be horrified, I'm embarassed for you. If you read these you should take them to heart because your really childish and rude.
I'm pretty sure that Heather will be more than happy to be done with you. You were rude to her from the very beginning. I admire her patience in having to deal with you. Sometimes it's better to keep what's on your mind in your mind. You might find it easier to get along with people if you did that....and also give others a chance to talk.
It's simple, you don't want to talk to anyone who needs to confront you. See? Simple....You through a little temper tantrum at Sonja's party because Heather didn't invite you to London. You throw tantrum's when you tell people what you want but they don't back down and give it to you. You talk about being "real" but you can't admit you were upset that you weren't invited. You just go on the attack. The fact of the matter is, Heather didn't want somebody around who "says what she thinks at the moment she thinks it", because she didn't want you to show yourself around client's or potential clients. I understand that, don't you?
Milica Yes, here it is. What started it all. YOU! You went on the attack and did nothing but offend the woman. Maybe Heather was amped up that evening and maybe you could have waited a bit to see if she was like this all the time. But, wow, you and your husband went right for the jugular. How was she supposed to respond. Did you expect her to just lub you to death? I would have been offended and wondering about you myself if my being chatty, which God knows who is more chatty and unfiltered than you? You're in a constant state of oozing out anything at any time. I also feel this season you are behaving like Jill did when the show went to her head. Intolerable to the audience. We don't like it; you seem over the top excessive in your behavior, more so than last season and now I find it painful to watch you act like a child who needs to be the center of attention. Don't know if you are just playing it up for the cameras or you're just seconds away from being diagnosed with something that requires meds. Not feeling you this season at all. Just go back to your old normal, not your new abnormal, you seemed more authentic last season.
I think it was a slap in your face when Heather invited everyone but you to London. If she wanted to go and have fun with a few friends thats great but to invite everyone from a group of people except one is mean, and Aviva called it. Its the equivalent of inviting all your class mates, except one to a birthday party that everyone is talking about.
I think Heather intentionally wanted to confront you on whatever issue she could. She is smart and controlling and she is going to make sure she gets the most camera time with the girls and a little more attention by feuding with a popular cast memeber. I think you should call Teresa Guidice from RHoNJ and compare notes on how to manage aggressive people without alienating your viewers.
You are Ramontional and quirky, but your authentic and I enjoy watching you go!
Hulali I think Heather is incredibly forthright and is dealing with you the way any normal person would given your erratic behavior. It has been entertaining in past seasons but now your stock is going down. Heather is a real person. Any parent that almost loses a child and fights a daily health battle with their little one doesn't have time for outrageous, over-the-top histrionics. Real-life is hard enough and real enough. I think Heather has tried but your response is unbelievably child like.
Ramona, you said something to her and you walked away so that she could not respond. How chicken is that. You are the one that will not listen to people. Please look at the tapes again.
Ramona, a party is no where to discuss an issue you may be having with someone however you said your piece and then called it quits. WHO DOES THAT? You opened the can of worms and then tried to seal it back up when she tried to rebutle. Now who's not giving a person a chance to talk? I feel she should have been able to reply to what you had to say to her. I certainly agree with you on the fake smile. It's totally ridiculous not to mention she looks nuts when she does it.
Ramona you definitely have a unique personality but I guess thats what we have come to love about you.
Been thinking...I've watched this show from the beginning and have been reading, today, about all the "civil conversation" discussion. It then occurred to me, that in the history of this show, I have never seen Ramona quietly sit down and have a genuine conversation with anybody. She's always "on." Perhaps that should tell us a lot about her. No empathy, no genuine concern, no quiet kindness. Now, maybe she feels she must put on a show for the audience, I don't know. But, when it dawned on me about her pattern of behavior, it got me to wondering. What's "missing" is probably what drives us all nuts when she starts acting out. And, there's a big piece missing.
cehemise One genuinely kind conversation came to my mind immediately between Ramona and Bethenny when Bethenny was in the car telling Ramona of her father dying. Also, one with Sonja when they were discussing Sonja's bankruptcy. With a little thought and an open mind you could remember some as well.
Ramona....read all of these comments and take heart. Your constant defense 'I am what I am and won't apologize for it" is a typical response from a 13 yr old girl. You are in the wrong...you have been called on the carpet...now please go away. You are sucking the entertainment out of this show!
ramona, i am with you all the way--fake smile to hide her passive aggressive nature!
luann is laughably pretentious. so boring the 2 of them!
keep up the honesty girl!
You have such a fun personality, and I do like that you try to be true to yourself and say what's on your mind. With that said, sometimes you take it TOO far and I definitely think you've done that with Heather. In this episode, it looks like Heather is trying to have a normal, level headed conversation with you, and you're just freaking out?!
SarahinLou In the manner Heather smiles at Ramona it FREAKS ME OUT TOO. i FEEL HOW RAMONA FEELS, IT CREEPS HER OUT. I WOULD FREAK-OUT TOO.
I only starting watching this show last season so I guess I am left out of the loop when Ramona was one of the good girls. It seems to me after watching some of last season and these few shows of this season, Ramona feels she is the star of the show. I guess the star is fading. She says she is a good mother, if this is what she is teaching her child I would hate to be one of her classmates.
Insteadf of defending, you might try apologizing to everybody for your behavior. You're way too old to have temper tantrums.
If Heather is the smart gal I think she is, "she" is done with you. Wasn't that clear when you didn't get invited to London? Why do you think that was? Could it have been your really rude behavior towards her That's what started this drama for you. You invited her as a guest to your home, and then treated her badly. I wouldn't want anything to do with you either. She gave you an undeserved second chance and you still blew it. Time to stop acting like a petulant child.
you were very childish... you didn't even let heather talk - she was trying to apologize to you... heather does have class because I would have knocked you down a peg and put you in your place, with words, Ramona... you're pathetic...
Heather has a bright, beautiful and disarming smile. No wonder she flashes it so much. It has obviously won her many an adoring fan. It won me over. I don't think it's phony at all. I think it's radiant. Ramona, your pain at being rebuffed regarding the London trip was so transparent. You became a petulant child. A better course of behavior would have been to hold your head high, act like a lady and move on. Ok, having said that - I'm a Ramona fan. But please, don't make me regret or rethink my stance. Live up to my expectations, please!
Ramona, the majority (here at least) has spoken. Don't follow Jill Zarin's example and become so mean you get booted off.
k217 Me too. She's annoying now. Playing to the camera as a caricature of herself. It comes off too contrived. It's like that weird, annoying metamorphosis of Alex last season. I liked her at first, then all I found myself saying was; Shut-Up. The new girls could not make the show interesting enough by themselves, but if this is all I have to look forward to, I may not be watching RHONY any more.
You are a tough cookie. You don't worry about hurting the feelings of others. If you decided to go to an event and not invite someone because you have issues with them,that would be different because you would frankly tell them you don't like them and WHY. You claim to be unfiltered but there is another word for it....INSENSITIVE. Most people are filtered because they don't want to leave people bleeding on the floor because they "needed to know " someone VERSION of the truth.