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All Women's Bodies Are Beautiful

Sonja celebrates the female form and lambasts Carole and "A-Diva" for ruining the trip.

Okay, hurrah hurrah! Another gratuitous butt shot that has nothing to do with storyline, other than that I was looking for something in the fridge. If you film 10 hours a day every day, I promise you if they want to film your butt, they will kiss the floor to get it! Should I be flattered or should I be insulted? I'm not sure!

Ramona and I had a good laugh about the “white trash” comment. We’re white, we act silly, and we OWN it.

Once we laughed about it we were genuinely looking to enjoy the remaining two days with all of the ladies. Aviva did not want to give us even that. She barged in and began chastising us like two little girls! Who does she think she is? Totally rude and YET with the compassion that I do have I attempted to diffuse her anxiety again by saying we were HAPPY that she was there so she can JUMP in and JUMP out when she wants. Whatever it takes!

And then. . .double date dinner. What is this!?! It turned from a girls' trip to a fragmented mess. I don't think Carole has much experience hosting. I'm just grateful she scored the house. She had her hands full with her new BFF, A-Diva. Then, it was convenient to have a couples dinner since her "rock-n-roll sometimes lover" who lives in LA and tours most of the year was in St. Barths and they could. . .

Heather and I both said it, we have lives in New York that we took a trip from. I have a house with hurricane damage to repair, a daughter to take care of, and could have gone on dates with my at-home dates! I don't have to tell you Ramona has the same story. Why are we here if the host is enabling A-Diva's bad behavior? THIS is why we didn’t want men here in the FIRST place!

The ENTIRE dynamic changed and at that moment, what was the point of any of us being there? When I say men I mean significant others. Before we left, Russ was not a significant other. CarolE said he would be working most the time. He was staying in a hotel. She candidly admitted herself to A-Diva while shopping that they both slept with other people.

Isn’t it funny how after telling us all over and over about every single one of her phobias and anxieties, that A-Diva then says, "Meh, the plane wasn’t so bad. . .", THEN WHY KEEP BRINGING IT UP! She cannot let anything go. Also she keeps telling us how embarrassing it is for her to have so many anxieties. . .THEN WHY KEEP talking about them?! I understand it must be difficult to be neurotic. . .but after a while enough is enough. Get help. You're a grown up now.

Didn’t Heather look great at lunch? Finally Heather learns the two couples would be going out to dinner alone. I guess running into the sliding door got us all on the same page! We all got on the same page and saw that things DO change when one DIVA is allowed to bring her significant other on the trip and the others aren't.

After lunch at Le Tamarin, for Carole to project her frustration on me and Ramona when speaking to Heather was way off the wall. We were not dumping our problems on everyone, it was Aviva that kept bringing up the small plane. I too have lost friends on that flight. Most recently my friend Pascal's dad died, so I don't need to hear about the flight over and over again either.

I understand that Carole was reminiscing about going to St. Barths with her husband who died. But I also went every year, sometimes twice a year, with my ex-husband to the same island. I too was feeling emotional and remorseful, but I did not dump my anxiety on everyone. I mentioned one time on the trip that I don't think my ex was having a great time in St. Barths without me.

Shame on A-Diva for saying those things. I am on a downward spiral because I like to let loose and have fun with my girlfriends on vacation? I may be down but I am not out. (You may remember that line from my soft burlesque skit that I wrote last season!)

My daughter is thriving. I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel with my Chapter 11 and a way to satisfy my movie deal judgment by restructuring my assets.

I am working my can off to manage my home (after tremendous hurricane damage I might add), investments, and finances, to build my businesses and to, most importantly, care for my daughter as a single mom.

If that's what you call a downward spiral, then what do you call throwing nameless insults at friends and dumping your endless phobias on us time and time again?

I am independent and I am not looking to depend on a man to take care of me and my daughter. Why doesn't A-Diva go in her room and vent on her husband since she has one?

I was very disappointed to see the other side of Reid. I felt better knowing that A-Diva had Reid as her back bone and crutch. Hearing him make such a nasty comment about the other women who are not at the table being overweight really hurt. I love New York because it is the most tolerant city in the world and I pride myself being a New Yorker for that reason. To say that a woman is too thin or overweight is so base and is nothing more than name calling. What does that have to do with what is beautiful about an individual and why they should be loved and cared for? Very SUPERFICIAL and UNFEELING.

I had a good time, enjoyed myself and put the lampshade on for everyone. Or in this case, took it off. I'm glad Carole got nekked in the pool also. I was starting to think her sexy talk was just that -- all talk!

I flirt with people that I am not interested in dating. I'm actually very shy around people that I am interested in having a relationship with! I like to have fun and make people feel comfortable. I am very sensitive and one thing you can never say is that I'm not compassionate.

If you follow astrology, I have a Pisces moon, which makes me a sucker for any sob story and is one of the reasons I am driven to support so many charitable causes. In fact, I need to learn the word "no" sometimes because my schedule just cannot support all the charities I attend and support. The meetings and behind-the-scenes work that goes into a charity is extensive.

I am hurt and surprised that Carole would voice to others that she was offended that I did not come to Russ' concert. That was never on the agenda and was a last minute invitation. Plus, we had an early flight the next morning! I think it's obvious why I did not want to go after a day from hell with her and her new BFF A-Diva.

From breakfast alone, to lunch at one of my favorite places in the world with crazies, to electing to stay home to avoid the wrath of A-Diva -- this would drive anyone to drink!

I love St. Barths and the amazing restaurants, beaches, and clubs. We were so fortunate to stay in a beautiful house with amazing food. . .and wine from SPIGOTS! I just wish A-Diva tried to be more a part of the group and take her make up off and have a good time. Thats ALL I wanted, to have fun with my girlfriends!

I'd like to end my blog with two quotes from Helen Gurley Brown (Rest In Peace) "Every woman's body is beautiful and should be celebrated," and "You don't have to belong to someone else in order to be an admirable person. And sex is a wonderful thing"

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Kristen Taekman talks about Bethenny's issues with trust, Sonja's Swami Priestess, and that mouth guard moment!

I would like to start out by saying how amazing Ramona’s friends are. I know that Bettheny was saying that she didn’t have much in common with any of these women. At first glance neither did I, but in the end we had Ramona in common and sometimes just having a mutual friend in common is enough.

I have gotten to know Ramona’s friends over the past few years and I must say they are all very lovely, giving, beautiful, supportive women. Many of them are very successful in their own right. During the event, many of them stood up and spoke about their friendships with Ramona. It was so wonderful to see how much all of them care for her and support her. It’s also heartwarming to see how strong of a support system Ramona has. And might I add that Ramona has never looked better!

Sonja and the Swami Priestess!? UGH! That Yogi friend of hers gets on my nerves!


Therapy with Bettheny was difficult to watch. At this point I have not really gotten to know her at all, so watching this made me and everyone else, I’m sure, just want to give her a hug. She has so much going on past, present, and wondering about her future. And now a kid is involved! She said that she needs help to navigate and she has a hard time trusting…I was thinking this was only applicable to men, but I guess it’s friends, too. Huh...good to know. It’s sad to me that she isn’t able to trust people. Not everyone is out to get her.

The boxing match was a blast! I was hesitant going into the whole thing. B.B. King’s is a New York City landmark. It's an amazing place to visit and sad that B.B. King himself just passed away. Carole reached out to Josh for to sponsor her boxer, so I was excited to go and support Team Eboost! With Carole as a date, it’s always going to be a good time. Oh, and they had my fave beer, BLUE MOON, so I was in heaven.

At first it was hard to see these guys beating each other up, but after a few beers, ohhhhh I was into it! So, normally the front row is the place to be. Ahhhhh, but NOT at a boxing match! Ewwwww! I am such a germ freak. To make things worse, that mouth guard flew out of his mouth and his spit went everywhere on my leg, in my hand and in my beer!!! Yuck! Sooo gross!!! Thank goodness for my hand sanitizer!

After the match it was so funny how we all were ordering tea, veggies,etc. I had my drink limit at the match and I was ready for my hot tea. I know it makes me sound like a boring old lady BUT i have a hard enough time getting out of bed when I don’t drink! So, two drinks (tops three), then I need to switch off to hot tea! LOL! #oldlady

When Bettheny sits down at the restaurant to order a drink while waiting for her friend and the waiter asks her if she is familiar with the menu, her comment was hilarious! I was peeing my pants, she is so witty, I love it!

It’s nice to see that Lu and Bethany have a great friendship. After all these years they can pick up right where they left off!  

Victoria’s art is so captivating! Sexy! Congrats to her, what a huge deal to be part of such a prominent show!  

It was sweet to see Lu get emotional over her kids, they really are great children, and she is a wonderful mommy!

The whole clown thing was very bizarre and freaked me out! Art? Really?


Ramona and Dorinda’s work out. Not much to say about this other than how fantastic and strong and beautiful Ramona looks! She is so incredibly fit!

Sonja’s workout is hilarious, she is so busy! I met her trainer, who is very sweet! Did anyone else notice that Sonja was working out in her bathroom? 

Carole and Adam seem so sweet together and really enjoying getting to know each other. It’s cute to see them chatting on the phone. It’s always so fun when it’s new, I think Carole was actually blushing! Carole, get back to work! Write that BOOK!  

Bettheny meeting up with her stepdad after 25 years! Wow, this is some heavy and humbling stuff. I can’t even begin to imagine.

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