Alexis Bellino

Alexis explains how religion has helped her become a better spouse and mother.

on Jan 9, 20100

 

Happy New Year to you all!! What an amazing 2009, so much fun, so many memories and so many milestones made with our kids! It definitely was a year with a few struggles that weren't necessarily expected, but character is built by these obstacles, so we just have to keep truckin' along.

With that said, I have to apologize that my family and I were just plopped into your living rooms two months ago, without you even knowing who we are or what we are about. So please indulge me for a few paragraphs.

I met Jimmy Bellino six years ago, when I wanted NOTHING at all to do with finding a husband...but people say that's when God throws your soulmate in front of you. I was so content and finally at a place in my life where I was worrying only about me. (Well, ok AND my two teacup chihuahuas, Tica and Pepe.) I worked 9 to 12 hours a day at a local, family owned health club in Poway, CA. (near San Diego). I started there as a marketing/advertising director, and was soon managing the health club, and also personal training. I was so passionate about my career. It never felt like I was working 12 hour days because I loved my job. For me, going to work every day was a hobby I was getting paid for, and my members were my family. I truly cared about each of them and couldn't wait to see them the next day. So on Memorial Day weekend of 2004, I took a three day weekend with my girlfriend to Palm Desert Springs Marriot. For those of you that do not know, this is a resort in California that mimics a Las Vegas pool on certain weekends. There are 1500 people there to celebrate, all of us hot and sweating in 115 degree sun; having a great time with great music and wading in the pools. So on this weekend, I walk into the pool and Jimmy saw me and never left my side from that point on. I didn't even get a chance to put on my suntan lotion before he showed up beside my chair, looking handsome, confident and sleek, and said, "I know you are either hot or thirsty, so which one is it?" Needless to say, after a little bit of a shoulder from me, we have been together from that moment on. You could definitely say that Jim and I had a whirlwind relationship. He proposed to me after three months, we were married after 11 months, and I was pregnant 6 months after we married...which brings us to today...

 

143 comments
Michelle from Missouri
Michelle from Missouri

Alexis, your comment about Missouri women not wearing makeup was ridiculous. Not all women in Missouri live in the backwoods and have to cross a river to

Guy
Guy

Matthew 7:21 You should read it.

ESTHER-Atlanta
ESTHER-Atlanta

It's so good of you to encourage Alexis, appreciate your sincerity, however that is an actual Scripture:

Philippians 2:12-13 (New International Version)

Shining as Stars 12Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed—not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence—continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, 13for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.

i.e. with awesome reverence to God, do everything with the goal of honoring Him. Interesting that the subtitle is SHINING AS STARS. She's not perfect, just growing in her faith 1 day at a time

Blondegizmos
Blondegizmos

Oh, I totally agree.. A very sad thing to say " God first, Marriage second, children last!!!! Get you Priorities straight!!!!

michelle gaudet
michelle gaudet

Dear Alexis. I'm so glad that you have injected some Power of God into the show. I was so amazed and excited to see praying on TV. I'm so proud of you for being a minister of the truth in the middle of all the shallow people out there. You rock. Thanks again for the breath of fresh air. One thing though is that I don't think you have to work out your own salvation. He already worked it out thousands of years ago by dying for your sins and mine on the cross. If we had to work out our salvation his dying would have been in vain. "by grace are ye saved through faith not of your own works it is a gift of God"

Natalie23
Natalie23

ALEXIS!!!!! I've been dying to talk to you!

I want to commend you on being a believer! I admire your courage for being on the show. I am appalled at the Rude and judgmental comments to you in this blog. We are Christians, that doesn't mean we are perfect. one of the above comments just criticized you beyond belief. I bet you if half of the viewers were in your shoes and had cameras in their faces, it would show a few not so Christian Traits in them! Anyway, I was married 10 months ago, we've been together 7 years and just can't believe some of the conincedences in our relationships. My husband and I do not travel alone either. We love each other and are best friends. I love spending time with him. Watching the show in situations just sounds so framilliar sometimes. It's a tough world out there and we have to travel the not-so-easy road being Believers. But,, we know it's the right path!

I admire your loving relationship to Jim. You take such good care of him! You are a great example of a good wife. There's nothing wrong with taking care of your Husband the way you do. More women should!

You hit it on the nail on the head with life's order... GOD, husband then kids! YOU are amazing and georgeous and are priveledged to have the life you do. God has blessed you. I love how you always thank the Lord and trust in him! You are a BOLD Christian woman! God Bless you Alexis!! and your family!

NicoleSD
NicoleSD

alexis--i appreciate you being on the show for your family values. i think you're a great mom (though i don't know how necessary two nannies are when you are a stay-at-home mom...but i guess if i had the money i might take the extra help). however, i have to have that as a christian myself, you and your husband are embarrassing representatives of the rest of us. i'm a native southern-californian girl, so i understand the beauty and glamour and don't see anything 'unchristian' about plastic surgery. but you flat out said in this blog that you believe you've created a family with a foundation in God soley from "family prayers and church." umm oversimplify much? a true christian family invites god into their lives all day every day, not just on sundays and at the dinner table. a true christian family offers their time and resources to godly causes (which, with your new public image i would think you would be all over). also, i dont understand how you can justify the bikinis and workout and every clothes you wear yet you claim it's inappropriate to come out of a lingerie dressing room at a private party. most of the things you walk around in are inappropriate, alexis. own up to it. and please remember that you represent an entire community of people when you call yourself a christian.

Tamms N.C
Tamms N.C

I love your family are Christians. I do believe this is the first of the housewives shows that wasn't afraid of Religion! It is great having you on the show, & I do believe you are a true asset to HWOOC, and pray you will continue on with the show. I also hope you & Tamera have remained friends!

Ripcurl518
Ripcurl518

Alexis, I remember in one of the episodes you and Grechen were having lunch and you said you wanted the Skinny Girl Maragrita and I tried to look it up online but the one's that I found didn't sound like the one you were describing to the waitress. do you remember how you told her to make it, it sounded soo good!!

Darlene WCCC
Darlene WCCC

I think I like you the best because I see so much of myself when I watch you. You are comfortable with who you are and base your first and last thoughts of the day on God and how we represent him to the people that are from from him. Similar life story, met my husband when I was at my best stage in life, engaged 3 months later and married within the year. Our son came just after our 1st anniversary. Keep your relationship strong and don't be afraid to show it publicly like you have. It just makes people that lash out at you jealous that their relationships lack the strong foundation needed to thrive. See you next season!

Tianna
Tianna

Alexis, your perspective on marriage, life, and God is very well needed for this show. So many times, we Christian women are criticized and talked about when comes to the way we live our lives, especially when we are supported by a really strong man. I think you and your husband's relationship is what this world needs to see. I hope now and forever that the Lord will shine his face upon you and your husband's walk together on this earth. I pray that you find strength to overcome the "drama" behind the show's criticism and that your life remain to be a living example to the lives around you. Be encouraged. God Bless!

Chyna2
Chyna2

Alexis, You are a cool girl and u seem to be a genuine Christian woman. I personally do not think it is a sin to have plastic surgery, God may not totally approve,but a sin, no. People get their ears pierced and if you don't abuse it it's like alcohol. The bible never says don't drink it says don't get drunk and make a fool of yourself. Anyway, I just want to encourage you not to let the world punk you down about your Christian beliefs. When Collin, or whatever his name is that hosts the reunion show asked you if you think that God approves of changing what He made, you should've responded "Do you think He approves of a man changing to a woman when He made him a man. Or does he think God made butts to poop from or to have another man go up in it for sexual pleasure. The bible says the bed is undefiled between a man and his wife. The bible never says don't get a boob job. LOL Much love, Chyna

Nicole Blizzard
Nicole Blizzard

How do you make the skinny girl margarita Alexis drinks?

Doris
Doris

I hope you don't come back next season. You and your husband are the biggest hipocrites with all your god talk--your are both nauseating. I can't believe what your husband said to your preacher about your breasts - they're not even real for god's sake. Please stop all your B S-ing about being such a good christian. You are a mean and self-centered witch. You are a terrible role model for your children. I hope they don't all turn out to have your values.

Gina g
Gina g

Hi alexis , wow I love u and your family keep it up u are such a joy to the show. can u tell me whats the name of your drink u always get. how do u make it? take care god bless u.

oc viewer
oc viewer

I think I just threw up in my mouth - ech!

micahel
micahel

What an awful moment for your Pastor. Jentezen Franklin looked horrible in association with you.

CEMILLS
CEMILLS

very well said. I never comment on there, but your comments on your relationship/life changes after children are articulate and inspiring. Thanks Alexis. I appreciate your addition to the show.

Nique Young
Nique Young

Alexis,

I like the energy you bring to the show. I also like your family ethics. You and your family are a good edition to the show. Keep standing up for yourself in a upstanding way. Congrats!

Danielle
Danielle

Alexis, I loooove your style and am so proud to see someone stand up to Vicki with confidence and in a no-nonsense kinda way. Congrats to u and Jim for 5 years and bravo to u for being a great mom and taking care of "business" (heart and hearth). QUESTION: Would u mind letting "us" know where u got the gorgeous white dress u wore to dinner in Palm Desert? Thanks. Hope 2010 brings u and ur family only the best and that u step forth in life with Jesus in ur heart.

Viewer 2010
Viewer 2010

I don't know if it is the editing or what, but u want to always go on how you are a Godly person and most of the time your breast or butt is hanging out. I thought a Godly person would respect themselves and cover themselves for God and there husbands. There are plenty of clolethes that are high fashion that are Godly.

Gina C
Gina C

Alexis, I don't know what 'god' you are talking about and I honestly don't know what church you belong to. But you say you are so Holier than thou, but as a Catholic, and again I don't know what 'religion' you say you are, but as a Catholic in our God's eyes you and Jim are not married due to the fact that you were both married before. See, the Catholic church does not recognize two people as being divorced. So unless the both of you had your marriages annulled, you are not husband and wife in the eyes of the church or God for that matter. You're not even allowed to receive Communion if you are a divorced Catholic. Again, the church and god that you worship may not be Catholic. But I love the way you put your church first, your marriage second and your children third. I'm sure your three children love to know that they have to wait in line after church and daddy. Priorities change when you have children and I know Jim is probably a big child himself, but he's going to have to put his big boy underwear on and realize that the children come first now, not him. But then again, he pays the bills so I guess you have to make him feel that way.

Viewer 1000002
Viewer 1000002

You are my least favorite housewife! I think it is crazy how you put your marriage before your own children! Grow Up!

CAF
CAF

Its good to see someone the has good values and morals. The disappointment that I have is that you cherish the idea that you are a stay at home mom that works hard, but I do not understand the need for the nanny. If you truly put effort into taking care of your kids a nanny is not needed, especially when you do not work. I find it suprising that when you were preparing your kids for church that the nanny had to get them dress when you and your husband were sitting right there. In the episode that was featured today you gave mad at Vicki for saying that you do not work hard, but when you and your husband are always out and having fun with the mini vacations I have to agree with that. I know that the cameras do not show everything, but from what is showen its hard not to make that judgement. You are a good person and will do well in life. Best wishes

Jaime in Valencia
Jaime in Valencia

Alexis! You are my favorite housewife and I LOVE that you are showing that you can "have it all"--great family, great life and a GREAT example of living God's word! Isn't it amazing what blessings come to us when we are faithful to Him? You are a breath of fresh air on the show and I love what you stand for. I only hope we can see more of you on the show!! Grace to you!

kelkeepinitreal
kelkeepinitreal

Alexis, I am so happy that you are a housewife that represents Jesus Christ. Often times people hide their religion because they don't want to offend anyone, but I like how you and your family have shared the importance of living for God and raising your kids by biblical principles. I also like your interaction with the other housewives and how you always try to bring encouragement and peace to chaotic situations. I like how you don't allow others to pull you into the drama. I'm looking forward to the show, showing more of you and your family so I can get to know more about you. It is my prayer that you allow your light to shine as a Christian so brightly, so others will be drawn and coming running, saying "what must I do to be saved" Continue to be be blessed and a blessing to others. take care kelkeepinitreal

Sherry From Alabama
Sherry From Alabama

Alexis...

You are a "breathe of fresh air"... just look at all these people posting about their LOVE OF GOD because you are NOT ashamed to talk about your relationship and belief in God on a national tv show that usually doesn't promote Christian beliefs and morals! Of course, no one is perfect, and when we ALL fail, we get back up!

I agree about Gretchen, she asked Lynn's permission to talk to Alexa, and Lynn said "Good Luck"! Lynn shouldn't worry about being "friends with her daughter", she should be a MOTHER and say... NO! There has to be consequences to actions! Something Alexa isn't familar with!

I love the line "He doesn't change diapers and I don't change oil"... LOL, that sounds good to me! And, how could anybody blame you for not sleeping over at Vickie's... you have small children!

About Simon... I know you want to help and your heart is in the right place, but Simon is controlling and stubborn, until he owns up to his part of the failure of his marriage... nothing will ever change for him! He wrote another blog blaming Vickie for his problems when the blame should of been on what he's doing wrong! Vickie's marriage is just fine! Vickie owned up to her part of their problems without blaming anyone else, and took steps to repair it!... Good for Vickie and Donn!

God Bless You and Your Beautiful Family! I look forward to seeing more of you, Jim and the kids!

LinCT
LinCT

You are a great addition to the show, and a great addition to the TV world all together. It's great to see a successful, loving, beautiful family so grounded in faith - something you can hardly find anywhere else on TV. Not to sound too dramatic, but watching you and your husband on TV has honestly made me think about my personal relationship, and my boyfriend and I's relationship with God. He needs to be our number 1 in life because through Him all things are possible. Thanks!

Faithful watcher
Faithful watcher

Nicely written. I believe you are sincere. Glad to see someone on the show with strong values. Don't let it drag you in the wrong direction. But instead, let everything you say or do be a good example of Christlike behavior so as not to bring shame to your ministry(and this may very well be a ministry for you). I think Paul talks about that in the bible.

Marie-SW
Marie-SW

Initially I did not have the best impression of you and your husband. I guess it was a little difficult for me to believe that a couple who appears to be superficial and materialistic could have such a strong faith in God and I apologize for that. We have all been guilty of being quick to judge and I have respect for anyone who chooses to put God first in their lives.

Also, I agree that Grtchen's heart was in the right place when she reached out Lynn's daughter. I was disapointed when Lynn acted like she didn't know what Gretchen's intentions were in spite of the fcat that Gretchen asked for permisison to hang out and talk with Aexa.

Quanya
Quanya

Alexis...I just wanted to know the name of the church that you and your family attends?...

peacheslovesJESUS
peacheslovesJESUS

Hi honey...i know you probabaly didnt want to seemrude when the whole "psychic" dude was there...thats understandable, but next time, just exscuse yourself and if they have something to say, let the HOLY GHOST do the talking through you...I love your addition to the show...and keep talking about GOD and throw some JESUS in there...I LOVE you values and I hope that you guys tithe and where as everyone seems to be down sizing..I pray that GOD blesses you and your family with so much that yall have to GIVE some away..4real..and check it...looking at you..this lets the nonbeleiveing dudes out there know that "Thats" the kind of woman of GOD that the LORD will bless you with when you become saved/born again...and ps...You also show proof that GOD has NOOOO problem with prosperity as long as you put GOD firt....look at Sarah, Rebekkah, Rachel and Leah, Ruth and Esther(after she convinced him to spare her people) to name some bible ladies...they were ALL married to SUPER WEALTHY men of GOD..and even Jobs wife sstill had a extremely wealthy husband twice over, evn after she told him to curse GOD and die...thank GOD he didn't. I am waiting for GOD to bless me with a WEALTHY but HOLY ON FIRE FOR JESUS man of GOD and HE will really soon....Im not in a rush...Id rather have JESUS come back first....GOD bless...And ladies wait on GOD for your husband...dont pick him yourself..Thats how you avoid the oj simpsons and ike turners and charlie sheens and tiger woods....and if you are not saved and washed in blood of JESUS, , seek JESUS out...thats the only way you can be blessed for real like Alexis....put GOD FIRST, Husband 2nd, kids third, friends 4th, and business/occupation 5th....BE BLESSED in JESUS name.

lunasdoxiemom
lunasdoxiemom

Alexis, I believe that you are a wonderful addition to the OC franchise. I believe in not making snap decisions about people until I get to know more about them. I saw the episode when your family attended church together and I found myself wishing and praying that there was a similar church in my area that I could attend! I was raised as a strict Roman Catholic and was even educated through the church...all the way through nursing school (I graduated from a school founded by the IHM sisters of Mercy). There is so much GUILT that the RC church preaches. It would be so refreshing to attend church and have that "cleansed feeling" you described instead of leaving my church feeling guilty! As a single mother I was required to go to work everyday in order to provide for my daughter. I took her to mass on Mother's Day and the homily was on the evils of the working mother...women who work so that they can buy themselves flashy jewelry and fur coats! I was furious! Against all I was taught I stood up, stopped the priest in his tracks, told him that *I* did not work to give myself all the novelties he described but rather I worked so that I could put food on the table and a roof over our head! I also said that if the church was willing to support us I would gladly stay home to raise my daughter. I was quickly dismissed and told to leave! I was not confrontational but rather curious as to how this priest thought that I should provide for my family. Please let us know what denomination you are so that I can look into it in my area. God has given me many many challenges in my life..serious challenges that would make others question if there is a God and what kind of sick sense of humor He has (people have actually said this to me!) but I never lost faith. I just lost the RC Church! I look forward to getting to know you better!

babe146
babe146

You are beautiful and a lovely person, but your husband is way too controlling. Tell him to lighten up.

jk
jk

Alexis, I am so excited to see a family on tv that understands and knows God is their number one priority. We are all human and we all fall. That's a truth not anyone can hide from. I am happy to see that you are making a difference and creating waves by having people talk about it. It's better than being silent and keeping God to yourself. I love watching you and your family and wish you nothing but the best!

Bamagirl13
Bamagirl13

I have known your pastor since he was 16. He came to our church and preached, played his saxophone and prayed! He is an awesome preacher, person and pastor! My marriage is based on the same beliefs as you, and if we are crazy so be it! I am crazy for Jesus! and more of his blessings everyday! Keep letting your light sign, you have been given an opportunity to touch many lives and let people see just how good life can be with Jesus! Its not a perfect life, but man its a fulfilled, everlasting, full of joy! And I'll take that anyday!

Rachelle
Rachelle

I have a question for you? I loved the dress you wore to Flordia! The orange color one! Who is the designer and where could I get it? Oh and one other thing too is the top you wore at a lunchen with your hubby. Its a bright yellow top. I want to know where you got that too!

Rachelle Thanks!! I love your Fashion Style!!

charlie s.
charlie s.

hey o.c. couple !! i was amazed that you guys are a christian family. The more on our side the better. Believers, are changed people, to make the world a better place. There definetly needs to be more of us in this world. The last days are near, so be prepared and have your family and friends join us in heaven. The parties are better up there !! me and jesus love you !!! we love the show as well, god bless xoxo

Grace Poole
Grace Poole

I can understand your need to explain your family and its wonderful relationships -- if people only saw an hour of my family's life together (and an hour in small snippets, at that), I'd feel the same way! Kudos for giving your hubby credit when it's needed and for letting us all see that you are part of a real, American family.

Just wondering...
Just wondering...

I heard your brief comment about how nice it is to have "girl time" because you don't have to be "perfect" if your husband isn't there. Wow! You are really setting yourself up for a big fall girl! No amount of exercise, botox or surgery will prevent the clock from ticking and now is the time to cultivate a relationship built on love, trust and being HUMAN, not PERFECT! No, I'm not jealous, just at the point myself where I am not willing to sacrifice who I am to be who I am no longer...good luck!

Guy
Guy

Hello Alexis & Jim! It is great to see a good-looking housewife representing O.C. Christian women! I like the way Jim looks out for you, (especially in the lingare store...he doesn't want men drooling over you). I like to see Class....you are a good role model for the other housewives.

May God Bless you and your Beautiful Family!

SLM
SLM

Alexis,

You are such an inspiring woman! I love that your blog isn't about bashing the other cast mates. I look forward to hearing more of your view points on the show, getting to know your family through watching the show. I am also so glad that there is a little diversity now on RHOC with having an active Christian. Your family is truly blessed.

Diane Garcia
Diane Garcia

You know I was in that situation once. My sister was having an event for me & she invited one. I told her I didn't approve for myself & why. And that I would participate w/ everything else but not w/ the psycic. When I went to the restroom before the guests arrived I saw the pysic had my 4 yr old son. I almost snatched him away. She saw my face & let go of his arm. Then tried to tell me how special he was. I felt like washing him off. I shook it off & stepped out to get air. I'm not a prude by anymeans. But, the vibe I got was strange.

Diane Garcia
Diane Garcia

Very happy to hear how the Lord works in your family. It has brought blessing to my life also. It shows your castmates lack of knowedge about religion & the Christian life to think we all have to live & dress as if we are Amish. (nothing against the Amish). On other blogs (some NYH & others) they say S.CA & the OCH are fake & materialistic. Which I always dispute. Were blessed & enjoy the blessing God has given us. We also share our blessing & talents w/others less fortunate. We love dressing feminine & keeping in shape. It might have to do w/ our perfect weather & all our differant cultures in S.CA or our confidence.

J
J

I love the show since you joined. You bring a great added element to the show. Don't feel badly that Jim is shown disciplining the kids. Too few people discipline at all-they'd rather be friends. Your kids will grow up with rules and respect. Also, it's nice seeing a family bring religion into everyday life without being too extreme.

Jen C
Jen C

Alexis, I enjoy watching you on the show. I'm curious to know what your husband thought about the comment you made while you and your friend were getting a massage about not being able to be yourself around him..having to be perfect. While I understand the sentiment, it doesnt sound so good.

Martin
Martin

Thank you for not changing your beliefs just because you are on t.v. And also thank you for seeing and saying that you also understood were Gretchen was comeing from. I as a viewer appreciated that someone can be a real person without show and pomp. I think that you and your husband are a perfect match and you have beautiful family. THANK YOU!!!

ctaylor
ctaylor

Hi Alexis! I think your blog entry was amazing! I pray for protection for youand your family from the influneces of the enemy, the world and from the flesh. Please keep Alexis and her family as a strong Christian role models and do not let any actions or decisions stumble others from turning to you Lord Jesus! Allow Alexis further opportunity to bring glory to your kingdom. In the name of Jesus, our Lord and Saviour,AMEN!

aboutme38
aboutme38

Alexis..... I LOVE IT GIRL!!! You and your family keep believing and trusting in the LORD for he is good and worthy to be praised at all times. We need more spiritual shows on TV, maybe the world will be a better place. Kepp up the good work and God Loves You & your family.

Kirby2151
Kirby2151

Just wondering - as a Christian, do you support Pat Robertson and his comment on Haiti?