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Hope everyone is well. We all should stop and take a moment to pray for all the people and families hurting from the tragedy in Haiti. May God bless every person that is hurting or who has lost a loved one.
To be honest every week I struggle with my blog. I feel like no matter what we (cast members) say, someone will misconstrue it at some point, whether it is a response from a fan or someone else from another blog world that picks up our words and puts it into their stories. This for me is a place to share behind the scenes if you will. A place to give you a little more insight to the very small percent of our lives the show airs. It is impossible to share all aspects of our lives in the short hour we are on every week. In writing the blogs I have realized that no matter what you say, someone will have something to say about the way you said it. For instance one week everyone will be saying, “You should stick up for yourself and say something to her for the way she treated you.” Then when you finally do, the next week the consensus is, “You should take the high road and not say anything.” When we give behind the scenes insight into what took place in an episode it’s, “You don’t need to explain yourself so much” or “You're being defensive” etc. So you can understand how difficult it is sometimes to write our blogs. It truly makes me laugh to see how up and down it goes. This is why I have committed myself every week to writing from my heart, and more than likely it will be long because I have a big heart!
I am the kind of person who hates to see people hurting, so no matter how many times it might bite me in the ass I will always extend my hand, it’s just the right way to be. We start out this week with Lynne and I going for a walk in the park, with a very interesting metaphor of her and my dogs in the park. It sets up the scene for our talk together and why I have concerns for her daughter. I remember being very concerned about her dog possibly running into the street as she was chasing her around the park, and it was just making my stomach turn. I wouldn’t want to see that happen to Lynne or her dog. As I stated in my talk with Slade on the couch when I got home, I was very taken back by Lynne’s demeanor towards me in the park that day. I really felt Alexa and I had a good talk and that she shared some things with me that day that I know she did not share with her mom afterwards (the footage did not show all of our conversation in the store that day). I sincerely was concerned about her and all I wanted to do was communicate with Alexa that I had heard her crying out for attention on three separate occasions and therefore I was there to let her know someone was listening. I never once spoke an ill word about Lynne or Frank and who they are as parents. I never wanted to give Alexa advice either; I wanted to let her know someone cared and was there to listen if needed because I had been there before. A few episodes back Alexa even said herself that her mother never listens or hears her and that they don’t communicate. So for Lynne to pretend that they talk about everything seems very odd to me. Thank you to all the fans who wrote me e-mails supporting my concerns and intentions.
Gretchen, you did the right thing by talking to Lynne's daughter. Now, more than ever, teens need more people in their lives that are listening to them.
I thought the reading was a bunch of crap too! He just said things that were a recap of last season and how your personalities are portrayed on the show.
I love your dress that you wore during your dinner party with Lynn. I want to know where you shop!
You have shown that you have a giving and big heart. Lynne took your concern of Alexa the wrong way because Alexa led her astray with misinformation. That said, Slade was out of line to insinuate himself into the mix. He really had no business to pontificate his views onto Frank and Lynne. Why should they listen to your boyfriend correcting their parenting skills? I beleive that Slade stirred the kettle to distance you further from your friend. He has not shown one iota of kindness toward anyone in OC. The more he hangs on to you, the more camera time he gets. In short, he's a loser!
Teenagers need all the positive adult interaction that they can get their hands on. As a parent of three, the teenage years were really difficult and if it would not have been for my adult girlfriends who befriended my kids,they may not have been as successful as they are today. Keep it up, Gretchen, even if their parents don't want you to. You may be the one that keeps those girls from going down the wrong path.
Gretchen, My heart goes out to you. Every week I see you try and try. And I see you being a good person. I don't know how you do it frankly, being a part of this group. These women really don't have a clue about what true friendship is as far as I can see. You are not a judgemental person at all. Can't say the same for the rest of them (except Lynn)to me they are fake, judgemental and mean. God bless you for staying true to who you are. Keep it up and good luck!
Love you Gretchen! Omg!! Your song is beautiful and you have an amazing voice!!! Hope we can hear more of you!! xo
Gretchen, you are the best one on the show and I always enjoy watching the show because of you. When everyone calls you a liar I don't understand because I have never seen that.You are the funniest out the group and have the biggest heart.
I think the core of you is genuine but you get caught up in others and the show. Again, if you would not respond to what others say, than they cannot come back on you. Last night on the after show they said you were already talking about the "impending" divorce of Tamara and Simon. I think more people would warm up to you if you just kept your two cents to yourself. As a mother of 5, I can tell you that you do the best you can for your children. No parent is perfect and yes I am sure at times all children feel misunderstood. You really need to tread lightly in this situation!!! Best of luck for a happy and successful 2010!
hey gretchen, to be honest your not my favorite on the show. But as a teenager myself I feel like you didn't do anything wrong in this one. you said you were bringing it up to lynn, and she oked. I also think you talked to her in a good way. I don't know why alexa suddenly turned on you, it was weird. but one thing that did go wrong is when slade talked during dinner. He didn't have a right
To be quite honest, Gretchen, I don't think you gave Alexa advice. You told her if she ever needed someone to vent to, talk to, that you would listen. Alexa went back to her mother and turned everything around which put Lynne on the defensive.
Lynne has issues, and let's face it, she tries to be her kids' friend when in fact she needs to be their mother as they have enough friends.
I think, what you did, was very nice. You were concerned and you thought you were doing the right thing for your friend.
Kids need to talk about stuff that is gonig on in their lives and they don't always feel comfortable telling their parents everything. To have someone else listen, someone who has been there, is a wonderful suggestion.
I think you are a wonderful person, inside and out.
love you Gretchen! I have 2 Akitas that I walk twice daily and have them @ work with me all day also. The park scene had me wincing - who goes for dog walks in heels anyhow? To let go of the leash was just crazy. I appreciate you trying to be a good friend to Alexa, we all need ppl in our lives that care about us. Keep it up!!
Gretchen it seems like you meant well when it came to giving Lynne advice about her daughter. Parenting is a challenge and until you've been there it's different from someone else view. Being a parent myself I see where Lynne is coming from and hoe she feels. So Gretchen you should stay out of that situation because it can cause problems between friendship. The psychic knew to much info on all of you he's been doing his homework on you all. Take care
Quite simply you dont have to justify yourself or your actions to anyone. In my oppinion as far as Tamra goes when you defend her comments it almost like your kicking a man when hes already down. On this subject what was taped months ago for her is another life ago. I hope I make sence with what I am trying to say. I still think you are awesome.
Yeah, Gretchen the Dougall boy, I was thinking the same things about his reading, like, I'm sure he has heard about the show or he took a peak to see who you ladies were before he came. And, my favorite , "Tamara you are pretty", why did he say that? Beccause he knew she wanted to hear it! I thought he said she was smart??????? Hmmmm...
I love to watch the show, and to be honest you're my favorite. I feel you're a very honest girl and true to your believes. I wish I can have a friend like you... Remember, when people find a tree full of juicy fruits, they always throw stones in order to get a fruit from it and you are compared to that tree. When people look at you, you're a blessed girl and they start to throw stones because they want what you have. May God fill you with lots of blessings
Gretchen, Dont worry about what the world or the other housewives think of you as long as you have GOD in your center and you can lay your head down at night knowing you have done your best that is all that matters. While it is true that we see very little of the whole story it is difficult as a viewer not to judge and get sucked into the drama that the other girls bring to the mix but I find them funny. They help me to take a look at the way I handle things within my own daily life. I try very hard not to be phony and materialistic. Life is hard enough without the added bull of caddiness from those who judge us because of what they are missing in their own lives. I can only say continue doing what you do and keep that beautiful voice and love of life going strong. As a mom you make us proud. xoxo God Bless
Gretchen, I really like, what I know of you, on the show. I think you take a lot of crap from the rest of the housewives. But, you have to be respectful of Lynne being Alexa's parent. In my opinion you should have asked her first before bringing anything up to her daughter. If it were my child, I would have been pissed too. I know your intentions were good, but maybe next time communicate with the parents first. Just a thought.
I think your awesome Gretchen! You're spirit and attitude is very uplifting and positive! The world could use more people like you in it!
Gretchen, I think you're wonderful! Despite all the drama on the show (a true testament that money doesn't equal class), you and Jeana are the only two women who come across genuine and real. You're a great role model. Thanks.
Gretchen, here is a flash.. you can believe both in God and the paranormal.. this guy may have been a local phony but many are not.. and no psychic will tell you when you are going to die,there are many layers and complexity to paranormal psychology. It is intriguing and used by many not the least of whom were Mary Todd Lincoln and her rather well-known husband. You've heard of them?
So, try to educate yourself a little.. Think Edgar Cayce, the brilliant Baptist/Christian who was dedicated to 'The Master"(Jesus)but was also known as the Great American Psychic and the Sleeping Prophet .. Read about some of the things he did in his life to help people.
I havent been watching the show that long, but you are completely my favorite! I love that you always have the best of intentions and I love your confidence in who you are. Im sorry that the others on the show dont seem to share my opinion but I cant imagine how many fans you must have that DO agree with me :)
Gretchen I don't know how you can be around people who talk about you so much. We have all made mistakes, I just don't see why they bring it up constantly as if they don't have anything else to talk about that is important.
You are a sweetheart. Don't worry...now that Alexis is on the show, she will be ruffling some feathers too. I think it is because you are young and pretty that these women are out to get you and she will probably get the same jealous response.
You are great. You are alot like myself, a very uplifting person, even when you are sad, you are worrying about other peoples feelings. I enjoy watching you laugh. I enjoy laughing, but the person i am with is such a not happy person with the world and i guess i am is voice (bunchning bag by voice, always unhappy, and i am so tired of it. I look up to you and slade and know that there is real happiness out there.. i will be there next year, I am looking to move out there. Tks for all that you give to us for hope. dh
You absolutely did the right thing with Alexis. It wasn't that you were saying Alexis doesn't talk to her parents or that Lynn/Frank are bad parents. All you were saying was that it's always great to know that there's someone else there to talk to *besides* her parents. And then in typical fashion, everything you do is SO misunderstood. That's not right! We have all made mistakes at some point in our lives, but they should not be held over our heads forever. The important thing is to learn from them and then help others who were in your situation. That's what you did. You did nothing wrong! Love you!
Hey Gretchen, I never comment but I had to give you props for reaching out to a teen in pain. So few do it and our kids suffer for it. It was gutsy and, in my opinion, it's always worth it to "cross a line" where kid's safety is concerned. When you've had hard times you've got wisdom to give kids. Wishing you all the best!
Hey Gretchen, I also agree w/ what you said about Lynn's daughter... But maybe you should have done it off camera. I love your honesty when confronting all the bull**** this season. One more thing take your time w/ Slade, whats the rush, don't put pressure on yourself to get married...
You are the nicest housewife (not really a housewife) on the show. However you really should not have approached Lynne's daughter. Mother's dont take to kindly to people interfering with their children. But, you did let Lynn know what you plan was.
I'm now just watching your episode from last night and I'm at the part where Lynn doesn't appreciate your concern about her daughter. I am 41 and have no children but my BFF has already asked me to tt her 16 yr old about life and personal things. She knows I've done crazy things in the past and can give good perspective without being judgemental. A true friend would want your help. Not be offended for you trying to help her. It doesn't mean she is a bad mother, it just means that young teenage girls need to tt someone other than MOM. You did a Great! job trying to help.
Gretchen- youare absolutely my fave housewife!! You are always so bubbly and just living your life having a great time while you're young!!
LOOVE your hair- you've written on how you style it but what are some of your fave hair and beauty products? LIek what do you shampoo & condition with? Do you use any special products? And finally- what is your fave lip gloss that doesn't stick in your hair!! THANKS
Hi Gretchen, I am 36 and want to thank you for bringing up the disease of Bulimia. I ALSO SUFFERED FROM THIS HORRIBLE DISEASE IN HIGHSCHOOL AND FELT i NEEDEd TO CONTROL SOMETHING SO THAT WAS ONE OF THE THINGS i COULD CONTROL WAS MY WEIGHT AND WHAT STAYED INSIDE ME.i SUFFERED FOR 3 YEARS WITH THIS ALL BECAUSE OF 1 REMARK MY BOYFRIEND MADE WHEN i WAS 16 ( I was not heavy at all) Sorry about the caps did not realize it was on..:) anyways he said maybe I should lose a little on my thighs I think I weighed 120 well I got down to 100 lbs and my gym teacher actually talked to me and I will never ever forget him he helped me by talking to me even if it was for 10 minutes because I to could not talk to my parents.They were busy in thier own lives and just could not reach out to them. I remember when I was 16 years old I was sitting with my dad and he was reading the paper. I said dad I need to talk to you about protection. He said I dont want to talk about it go aske your mother end of story I ended up getting pregnant 6 months later. devesting I had an abortion I hope that does not upset you! It still upsets me today and my parents decided I had no say of the abortion. So believe me Lynn's daughter will remember you short talk because it is an impact I still remember my short talk with my gym teacher. Thanks for being true and honest and you...LOVE YOU :)
Gretchen, I love you on the show. I would hope if my child needed someone to talk to that there would be someone like you around for her. Tamara is not worth your time. You are much classier than her. To be honest, you are the classiest of any of them.
My question is why do you still wear your engagement ring from Jeff? I could understand if you were in mourning but you are with Slade now.
Gretchen, I think you are so great!! I love watching you on the show, You are a great person. I also Love all your clothes they are so cutie
Gretchen, keep being yourself, there are only a few of us still out there. Voice the truth and u will always be standing there in the middle of the circle w/ no one around you. We are the type that our actions will always be examined under the microscope. The best advice that I was told, and didn't realize in the beginning, your actions are from the heart, but you are going to stay true to reasons of your actions. Never let everyone turn your beliefs, into their happiness
I just luv ya!! you are awesome! I would like to hang out with for the day and see what Orange County life is like! I live in Kansas so Im just a small town country girl that would love to see that lifestyle for a day!
I love you Gretchen, you are a beautiful and caring person and the only reason I watch the show. Love you and stand strong.
I'd like to know where all of you shop. You all dress the way I would like to, but there is no place around here that comes close!
Gretchen, You are awsome...your part on the show is the best..i hope you know how many young women look up to you. I think you made the right choice by letting Lynns daughter talk to you, she prob feels alot better knowing that she can come to you and tell you whats on her mind, every young teenage girl need that in her life!
When they stop talking about you is when you need to worry......your just a threat to them!!! Let your haters be your motivators!!! Hehe
As long as you are true to yourself and God, you are good to go, Gretchen! No worries about any of that "bullhocky". Keep smiling, keep laughing, and keep singing!!! As my stepmom used to tell me, "Don't let the B's wear you down" and of course, NEVER, EVER, let em see ya sweat! Take care, we love and admire ya'
Gretchen, you're great! I so enjoy watching your segments on Housewives every week and your generous spirit and fun laugh are so uplifting. You did the right thing with Alexa and I can't believe your helpful intentions have been so completely misconstrued. Hang in there! Your fans love you! :)
Hello Gretchen! Omg, seems like everytime you try to help one of the ladies out on the show, it just back fires on you! U seem like a very sweet lady, and i don't feel like the housewives really and truly understand you at all. They put this front up in front of you, then they treat you badly, by talking alot of trash behind your back. I think its crazy. But u r my favorite housewife. Keep up that bubbly personality
Gretchen, keep your head up and good people and God in your life, youll always rise above the people who try to bring you down, I think you and Slade are good together. Although it was a little funny TPing Jeanas home, it was mean,she didnt deserve that from any of you and all of you need to apologize to her. Heard your song and its great, hope you do more.
Gretchen, I love watching you on the show and I want you to know that most of those that watch "reality" shows realize that they don't always show all of the "reality" going on in front of the camera. I do hope that when times really do get tough that Alexa will remember that you were there for her. Also remember that when you filmed this season, Lynn and her family were going thru a lot of changes and challenges and may have been overwhelmed with what was going on in the rest of their lives.
Lastly, I wanted to thank you for something you shared on this episode. It takes a lot of courage to show the world who you really are and share parts of yourself after everything you have been thru. Thank you for sharing about your past struggles, specifically with bulimia. As a person who struggles with my own challenges, it is nice to see someone I admire being "real".
Take care of you! God Bless! XOXO
You are our girl!! Be true to yourself. I love slade's devotion to you. ROFL! He cracks me up. It is hard to find a guy that is all up into your world but he is and it is really fun to watch. He is so dramatic sometimes; and his facial expressions when he is trying to act like the other women is hilarious. You both care about people; that's your bond.