Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen talks about Alexis and Jim's relationship, her confrontation with Tamra, and more.

on Dec 10, 2009


OK, I know some of you appreciate the longer blogs and some of you don’t, but typing and writing is very easy for me and I love to express myself with words. So for all of you who enjoy my intimate thoughts about the episode, thank you, for those of you that don’t and complain it is too long, I have a thought, DON’T READ IT THEN! I say that with a smile on my face.

Well, let me start by saying that I just love and adore Jim and Alexis and actually admire their relationship so much, therefore it was weird to see me have such a different point of view in this episode, but I realized that I was being asked questions about them during a period when I did not know them yet. We had only been around each other a few times and at that point there had been no indication or conversation about their religious beliefs. I hope not, but assume there might be a few more times where I stick my foot in my mouth based off of not knowing them on that intimate level yet. For instance, the comment about the “fishing lures" on Alexis. When asked the uncomfortable question about what I thought about when Alexis said they "don’t allow temptation into their marriage," all I could think about was what Slade had made a funny about on camera when I returned home from lunch with Alexis. I told him what she was saying about temptation, and that was when he made the statement about the “fishing lures on the front of her” and how it could look contradictory. I guess I thought it would be a lighthearted way to answer an uncomfortable question, but I don’t think it came across that way and I regret what I said. The questions I was asked in my interviews were very one sided regarding their religious beliefs and how it could look contradictory. I was asked a lot about their beliefs because I was the one privy to that talk with Alexis. I would have never even had an opinion about it or questioned if they were “godly” if I didn’t has not been asked those specific questions. I was answering based on my knowledge of their relationship at that time. At the time Alexis and I had lunch I really didn’t know her yet and I feel it was really crappy to be asked questions about their beliefs and if they were “godly” in my interviews, because I had limited knowledge at that point.

I FEEL COMPLETELY DIFFERENT NOW ABOUT JIM AND ALEXIS and how their relationship works and if they are “godly” people! For the record they are very godly people! For goodness sakes, we have gone to church together. I have grown up in the church and am a Christian myself, so for it to look as though I was disgusted by Jim being a godly man, or disgusted by the way they chose to have their relationship, bummed me out. I was actually agreeing with a lot of what Alexis said -- I was raised the same way in the church. Alexis knows I was agreeing with her because she was at the lunch with me, but of course I'm only shown playing the devil’s advocate because I couldn’t relate to some of the things she was saying. For instance, I had never been in a relationship where the rule was we never traveled apart. I was more intrigued as to why they believed that way than I was judging the concept. I think on camera I came across as judging her marriage because of my reactions to her comments, but God knows I am the last to ever judge another person because of how much I have been judged in my life. Like I said before, their relationship is very commendable. Being around them the last six months has made me realize how great some of those “rules to live by” could work for my own marriage/relationship.