I like the way that you protect your family. Tamra is very cool I like her ways LOL but we also have to be careful what we say and do because of our kids our jobs and close family, we don't always want other people to know your private life (sex comments) I really want to see you both happy in the next eppisodes because you look good together... AND YOU ARE VERY HANDSOME....

Simon,

Whether people want to agree or not, love and justice goes hand in hand. What people call tough love is the real meaning of love of our Creator. Without this severity on your part, Ryan will continue down on a long bleak road. One day he will realize it and thank you. I strongly believe he should be left to his vices one day he will wake up and decide its time to make that change, afterall he is a man. We as mothers tend to want to pet our children but that is not what they need in particular for a growing boy. All the best and thank you for being a shining example on what it means to love in the purest sense.

i think how u wanna run ur family is great! i think tamra does needa give her son some tough love, but she is rite she shouldnt stand back from helping out her son, but really, i think she needs some help herself. by how she pushes ur buttons and the way she verbally communicates with the other girls are very high school, and i know why u are the way u are from watching u guys. keep it up and i hope that everything turns out.

Hi Simon,

BRAVO. You said exactly what needed to be said, Tamra has got to let Ryan or else he will never be a productive adult. Ryan seems to take everything as a joke and he keeps getting into trouble, getting a slap on the wrist and moving on. It's all going to catch up with him sooner then later. We all love our children but Tamra is an enabler. Stick to your guns, your deserve an apology, face to face and online too. And Tamra needs to get a backbone.

Okay, so I've watched the episode twice and what you said to Jim about Donn and Vicki's relationship and what Donn heard and reported to Vicki are 2 different things. Donn took offense where none was given. You said their relationship was different but you didn't mean different in a bad way, just different from yours. Donn told Vicki you said "Not normal". Okay ... I didn't hear that at all. I love Donn but he sure had a drama moment didn't he? LOL

Simon,
This world would be a much better place if parents could follow the parenting approach you attempt to achieve. I know it's not easy if your partner is going the opposite direction so I feel for you, especially with the TV microscope and editing. It has to be hell to see your scenes edited without all the parts there to show what really happened & your true intentions and not what makes the producers think they have achieved RealityShow Nirvana.

It's obvious how much you love Tamra because no matter how much you're made to look like the bad guy, you give her all your support. I'm glad it works for you guys. Or I hope it does.

Your blog is refreshing and real. Thank you for giving it a straight shot.

Simon I am totally agree with you and the advice on tough love which can be hard as a parent. However, I think that it is time that you let up on the leash little when it comes to Tamara and being able to take a trip with the girls... I am not trying to be critical and I am sure that you saw her comments and her face when you were saying that she couldn't go to Florida without you. That is one of the biggest reasons for my leaving my ex-husband. I know everyone has their own way and I am not trying to tell you what to do just giving you something to think about (another perspective). Sorry if this seems critical, but I know you love her and she loves you so show her some trust...

Tamra...ur amazing...ur beautiful..ur an awesome mom. I agree with you on many levels!! When it comes to Ryan...u should be there for him 100% no matter what..u r a mother first. When it comes to Simon.he must have issuess..or he wouldn't care if u went with the girls...(Alexia too)I was in a relationship that wasnt healthy.I see the signs so I had to write you...I don't usualy do this kind of thing but after watching the last episode I had to...I DON'T know you or your family but what has been shown on tv.... but I had to write you...if any person in a relationship is controlling it's not a good thing! I believe in family first but any relationship needs time to spend with friends...my parents have been married 54 yrs and trusted one amother...Please hear me and be make the best choice for yourself and your children...ur children see what's going on....they are more aware than you know...All my best to you!! God bless you!

Simon,

ACS (American Community School of Athens)...sound familiar. Funny thing is, I saw you on a website for that school. I didn't recognize you as being the same Simon from the show but it looked a little like you and Tamra. After looking closer, I discovered it was you. I was in middle school while you attended high school. I called my older sister Debbie Henry and had her look you up in her yearbook. She found you - what a small world. I've been watching the show for a few years now and never realized we had gone to school together. Your good for Ryan, kids sometimes take a while to come around...stay steady, he will appreciate all you do for him one day.

Simon-
As a step parent with a child who went on Facebook and trashed talk their bio dad, b/c he couldn't get his way I'm soooo feeling you!

You do what you have to to preserve your family - you are 100% RIGHT!! don't let anyone tell you different, Tamara and Ryan are very fortunate to have you in their lives.

Hopefully there's more of your voice of reason this season! Keep up the good work!

I completely agree with you Simon and feel for what you go through with your stepson. Stepchildren are really difficult and I know having a stepdaughter myself how difficult it has been for all of us. I wish you and Tamra the best!

Simon, you're awesome! I love watching you and Tamara on the show. You're my favorite husband!

Simon, my opinion of you is changing for the better with each blog, you seem like a great family man and thats great!

I have a tough time sometimes with what Tamara does and says, she is judging Gretchen when she really should just stay out of it and keep her opinions to herself.

When it comes to Ryan however, she has done her best, she didn't abuse him or starve him, she did what she could with what she had at the time and should never feel guilty about that. She seems like a great mom!

Hi Simon, It's just a fact of life that young people will take advantage if you let them.Having raised three sons (who are now grown and pretty wonderful)they constantly tested me and my Husband. It's not easy, but in the long run you have to do whats best for them and they might hate you for awhile but after all is said and done they will realize that you want only the best for them and that you love them.Many a time my Husband was too strict and I was too soft so we tried to compromise and make decisions in private.It's so true that a united front is so much better than a divided one.Ryan will realize this one day and I hope you and Tamra hang in there. You're a good man and He's lucky to have you!!!!

Simon, I think that being tough on Ryan was exactly what he needed. It is obvious that both of you love Ryan, sometimes I think that Tamara's guilt keeps her from showing Ryan some of the tough love he has needed - insert you! Tamara, don't feel guilty. You did what you had to do and it doesn't mean you loved him any less/or showed it. Stay strong. Nice to read your blog, thank you for taking the time to write one. The OC crowd really fills the fans in and that is much appreciated. The ATLA ladies, didn't bother to blog to the fans.

Simon,,,Please tell Tamra she shouldn't feel guilty for raising her son as a young woman... she could have done what so many women do and take the easy road and had an abortion.. I commend her for giving him life. It's now his turn to take control of his and do something with it. I wish you two the best and really enjoy the show.

Simon, good to read your blogs. You seem very grounded and such a good family man. Keep up the positive home life and remember Tamra is only human and I do believe she means the best for all her children. Happy Holidays to you and yours.

Simon - I will like the way the you look at things. We have all had hard lives in one way or another it is just how handle it that defines you for the rest of your life. I am so glad you stand by your character. Tamra is really lucky to have you!

I enjoy the balance you bring. I totally understand Tamra's position as I was a single mom too for many many years. Despite all the Bravo editing, the love that you too have is very encouraging. Keep blogging. I don't think it is fair that Bravo has chosen to make Tamra the mean girl.

Surprised how much more I am liking you this year. It is better to hold your tongue about others; the cream always rises to the top without anyone's help or hinderance. Just keep doing what you are doing to love and support your family. Love what you said about people in glass houses not throwing stones. So often we forget that. It is fun to "gossip" sometimes- but not in such a hurtful and untrue way- and not in public. Hang in there! All will work out.

Love the blog and keep writing.

After reading your blog, I hope that you will stand firm on all the points you raised with Ryan and Tamra regarding their behaviors and the way they treat other people. As you noted, they are role models for your younger children, who are getting older and more impressionable every day. Hopefully Ryan will find the motivation to deal with his issues and carve out a life for himself that you can all be proud of.

I agree with your perspective. I'm sure that Ryan is a good guy, but he's also not a minor anymore and he has to learn to care for himself. It's appropriate to set boundaries with him, especially when he isn't legally permitted to drive.

I'm sure for Tamra it must be difficult not to keep feeling guilty because Ryan did not have as much guidance growing up, but she has to get over that. Ryan needs to start building for the next stage of his life.

You are the most normal person on this show!!!

You were how you needed to be at the party. Don't ever try to explain your actions.I'm glad we will see that better side to Ryan in the episodes coming. Simon you are the best thing on that show right now. We are all sick of the Tamra-Gretchen thing. No one really cares any more. It's over. Although it seems that Gretchen wants to keep it in the limelight by her blog but I suppose that is what you mean when you talk about people telling you what you want to hear even if it is far from the truth. You keep doing what you are doing Simon and keep loving Tamra. You have a wonderful family that is lucky to have you as their lead. (you know what I mean) Love you and Tamra!!!!!!

The best thing to do is to be there for your children.You are their number one support system. God bless you and your beautiful family.

I totally agree with you Simon, keep it real!

Actually Simon I didn't think you were confrontational at all with Tamra. You said what needed to be said. You are a parent first. If you try to be a friend first it never works out.