Ok, we get it. You love your new boyfriend and think your hotter than ever. Personally I've had enough of you and think you are becoming a joke. Leave Gretchen alone, stop stabbing everyone in the back, and grow up.

I am NOT looking forward to seeing you on the show. Just being honest. You & Vicki are my least favorite out of all the housewives series. Gretchen is the best - by far!

Hi, I just want to know when the real housewives will be airing?? I am in Australia and desperate for this show, I have also tried to add you but you have too many facebook friend request! Looking good in your photos. Cant believe bravo waited a year to reair season 6!!

Anyways cheers to this year show, take care xx

Hi Tamra,

Thanks for being such an interesting person! All of us here watching at my house hope you get back together with Vicki. You have your rough times, but she does care about you and the two of you make for some outrageous fun. Two spicy OC blondes!! Take care and remember, friendship is all we have in life. Cherish it - no matter the temporary setbacks.

tamra i am so anxious to see what happens this year i am so glad that you are a mother first the kids need you to be strong my husband and i have been married ten years. i am very lucky but we do have our disagreements the kids really pick up on all kinds of energy as long as your family is safe and happy as will they i have no idea what you all are going through i just want you to know that i watch the show and i hope for the best for your family best wishes and GOD BLESS

Glad to see you got Simon out of your life! Vicki was right he was WAY too controlling and you're a beautiful woman that deserves better! Hope to see you on another season!!!

Tamra please stop all the acting. Vicki is a great one to give advice> She has humiliated her husband so many times. I CRINGE WHEN I hear her giving advice.LEAVE the others out of your marriage. Why are you so jealous of Gretchen?

Your dress for the final party WASN'T too short! Does Simon want you to dress Amish?!? It didn't even have cleavage! The length of your dress was at the tip of your middle finger (arms down measurement). That's considered just right. Why does he not want you to feel confident in what you wear and why does he consider that disrespectful to you? Did he marry you for you or for what he can make you? We are not a fan of Simon.

Your dress for the final party WASN'T too short! Does Simon want you to dress Amish?!? It didn't even have cleavage! The length of your dress was at the tip of your middle finger (arms down measurement). That's considered just right. Why does he not want you to feel confident in what you wear and why does he consider that disrespectful to you? Did he marry you for you or for what he can make you? We are not a fan of Simon.

Tamra, you should come out of the running gate fast next season. Dont let anyone give you crap. Also, you should get closer again with Vicki, she does care about you. You are funny, smart and beautiful, flont it.

Tamra

When Simon talks to you he speaks to you like you are a possession. He is completely mind f$cking you. Seriously - open your eyes. You are a beautiful women with tons of potential. It's so easy to say - but honeslty leave him! Al he does is complain about you and everything you do. Vicki seems to really care about you. I think that's why Simon doesn't like her.

Stay strong - life is too short to waste a minute of it unhappy.

Tamara,

I think you are so beautiful and full of life. I know Simon seems to be more of the guiet type. I went through a similar type marraige and divorce 5 years ago. My sons suffered. PLEASE try more marriage counseling, do everything you can to stay married. I am remarried but I wish I could go back and undo the divorce. My kids suffered, I am now a financial wreck. I will never have what I had before. I will never have holiday's as a family. My youngest son is 21 and really screwed up now. I feel I am part to blame. I think I had a toxic friend that feed me all the negatives about my husband and I just focused on that. I did not really try to understand what he was going through. Now I realize I had so much and threw it all away because I focused on the negative.
Every marriage has problems. When you remarry you just swap one set of problems for another. No marriage is perfect.

Honey, I wish you the very best. I hope and pray that you can find peace and happiness. I am still looking.

Back to the topic of your parents divorce, I am 39 and my Dad and StepMom are going thru divorce and it is hard, I could not imagine what you went thru when you actual parents split. I understand what you went thru. As an adult it is killing me to see my Dad hurting.

Photo is reminding me a little of "Posh"... Posh Spice!! Love it. Victoria Beckham. I only hope and pray to God I look as good as you after kids!! Please find that as a complement!! Hope all is well :) Play on

I am only curious whether or not Simon is available? I personally think he is a great catch! You are just another ageing, conceited, jealous, drama queen. Happy you are moving on and hopefully he can meet someone who appreciates a man of his great qualities and high standards. Anyway, let him know I would love to meet him. Besides, there are plenty of men where I am from that I feel you are more suited:)
Sunny,
Mississippi

P.S. Leave Gretchen alone...your jealousy of her is sooo obvious.

Hi,love you on the show and i am following u on twitter,are you going to be on the show anymore or would you have your own show finding love i think bravo should give you your own show.Will follow you updates.xoxo

hey. I dont ever comment but i felt i had too. You are awesome and you remind me of myself BUT i think your actions towards Gretchen are very unlady like. You seem to be a very real person but to drag someones unaired persoanl life onto tv is wrong. Would you like that done to you? Fine you dont like Gretchen but to treat someone like that is so wrong on everl level, you are a gorgeous 40 year old with classless behaviour. You are so much better then that. If you are correct about Gretchen then only time will tell, and there is a sweet thing called Kharma but trashing her the way you do is very classless and will only bite you in the ass, and you are not very deserving of that. You look like the bad person cause right from the beginning you had it in for her, JEALOUSY??? it seems that way and all my friends think so to which means a lot of others feel the same.

Rise above it. Show your viewers and family that you are not jealous and devious, cause you are proving otherwise. You are playing a game that kids play in highschool!!

With regards to Simon..... Count yourself lucky. He is not demanding, you are dramatic. Yes, 9 out of 10 times he is correct because he sees the big picture, you focus on the small hence your fight with Gretchen. Simon tells you his poinion of things and you pounce on that like a victim, simon is the victin. You are throwing your own husband to the dogs on tv, when does it end for you? Please dont change because of fame and tv. You are trashin everybody, please please please stop it. To all yor actions there is consequences. KHARMA!!!! To viewers Simon look like the bad person, you look like the sad housewive looking for sympathy.

I adore you, you are my fave on the show but please stop acting like you are in highschool. Your children and fans look up to you and youy are showing / proving to everyone that you are an untrusting devious person. I really hope things work out for you and Simon because you guys are amazing together. And please rise above the Gretchen situation. Ignorance is bliss!!!

Tamra, I love you on the show you have been thou a lot in the past from your son being a bad ass living in a town house to getting married to Simon....I do think that Simon does try to run your life a lot and for you not going any where with out him is just plan old wrong in a way just because I think its a good thing to have some time by your self to do girl stuff but other then that I hope you stay on the show because if you leave I don't think I'll be watching it anymore

Tamra, Divorce is never easy. Time heals. I hope you return for the next season. I am watching.
Peace
Marjan

Tamara,
Hey sweet lady,
I have watched this show for a very long time and I really do love all you ladies you have different qualities about you that I love. I saw some changes in you that concerned me. I know it is none of my business even if you are on t.v. airing it all to God and country,but you and Simon were so happy it seemed till you and Vicki became best friends I dont blame her because you are a big girl and you make your own choices on what to do with your life. I also didn't live with you and didn't know what went on in your home 24/7. Just some comments you made towards some of the other housewives at times you seemed to only do it when you were around Vicki that is her personality sometimes they can bring that out in us. I believe she has a good heart and is very giving but on the show sometimes you wonder cant judge her I dont really know her just what I see on t.v. well I wish you well take care of you and your family hopefully you and simon can get along aleast for the kiddos that is a must if not the kids get very hurt believe me I know first hand my son is almost 11 and he deals with it every day his dad and I are divorced have been since 2002. May God bless you and your family and your Future to come!!
Sincerley,
Brigette Lee

Hey Tamra, I think your awesome and my heart really goes out to you when it comes to Ryan and Simon. i have a 23 yr old and went threw the same thing. I divorced now remarried and have never been happier. And my son is doing great. Best wishes to you and your family for the future. sending hugs from ontario canada.

poor poor Tamara. I think you have portrad yourself in a negative way. I feel that you are very jealous of Gretchen-whom is a fun,caring,giving person.Honestly all Gretchen wants to do is have a good time and laugh.The night you had your dinner party and decided to get Gretchen naked-drunk just as you said was a very ugly thing to do to someone. Simon is right when he stated you have gotten caught up in gossip and spending time with the girls.When the show first started i thought you was a beautiful lady but your actions have made you this spiteful, cold,jealous person.I do not find anything pretty about that.I feel you have destroyed your marriage.The ones who will hurt the most from all of this is your children.(God bless them)I hope you really take a look back at your actions and be a more humble person-the beautiful lady you can be!!!!!!!

Tamra..
I hope you can see the light and feel the relief from being belittled, talked down too, hurt and knocked down, even when all you did was to support or help others. I felt so hurt seeing you hurt. I may not know all the details but this didnt happen over night, but you deserve some consideration and value as a person. I wish you the best in life hun. I may slip to dreaming about meeting the gorgeous gal you are at one time or another, and wanting to take you under my care and show you some respect, but that is what it is, a dream. May you paths be filled with laugher, love and happiness hun. Keep your head up, you did nothing wrong in my eyes to deserve the crap you got. Take care Tamra.
Ken

It took a lot of strength to realize you both needed to separate. When it turns toxic, it's time to take a breather. I give you a lot of credit for hanging in as long as you did. I hope in time, Simon will become respectful and honor you. Separation and Divorce feels like experiencing a tragic death...a death of a relationship. It's excruciatingly painful, but you will heal and be happy again. You will be who you are and not have to win anyone's approval or acceptance. You are a great mom and a sweet woman who still has it going on, so cheer up Lady. Life has only just begun for you and your little darlings.

Tamara,
Proud of you for getting out of that relationship. I once had a husband that control me on everything to where I was every minute of the day to how much money did I spend and on what. I am so glad that I ended it when my daughter was 3 years old and she did't have that controlling father. She grew up beaufifully, went to Stanford for undergraduate and also for her Master's in Law. She and I both agreed that she would have turned so differently if I had stayed with my husband. You did good for you and your children. It's awful to be scare of your husband. I know you will fair well; you are a beautiful, smart, charming, independent woman. You will not regret your choice.

Girl! You are my favorite housewife! I know things look a little bleak right now - I've been divorced too! Everything changes so who knows what is in store for you next. You're young and beautiful and I know life is going to be great again!! Love ya and hang in there!!!!!!!!

Hi Tamra,
I watched the show where you were crying to Vicki about simon and couldnt help feeling sorry.I go through the samething.have 2 young kids. My husband is very loving and caring but controlling..Its always that fear inside of me whatever i try to do if he will like it. now i am kind of doing things to please him. i am not happy inside. is it ok to live like this? i dont know. i cant think about having to live with 2 kids with out their father around. so i am just going on like this. i can relate to you.. best of luck to u and kids
love you

good share, great article, very usefull for us...thank you

I THINK YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND MOM I CAN ONLY HOPE TO GROW UP TO BE LIKE YOU! IT MAKES ME WANT TO CRY WHEN SIMON SAYS THINGS SO HURTFUL TO YOU! YOU DON'T DESERVE THAT! FOR EVERY JERK THERE ARE TEN NICE GUYS AND YOU DESERVE TO BE PUT ON A PEDISTOOL NOT CONSTANTLY EMOTIONALLY ATTACKED I THINK YOU ARE JUST PERFECT AND IF HE CAN'T SEE THAT HE IS BLIND!!!

Tamra, I am glad you left Simon. He is a male chauvenist and it was his way or the highway. My friends and I do not have one husband that acts like Simon did. We all have girls nights, trips, etc. Our husbands trust us and us girls have so much fun. I don't mind if my husband goes on a golf or ski trip. Simon was so insecure. I hope you have a wonderful year! You deserve it. Life is not about being "controlled"!!!!!! Don't pick another one like him (smile).

don't let anyone control you. i'm so glad you have realized that and have moved on. no, it is not going to be easy being that you have a young family, but, noone deserves to be controlled the way you were controlled by simon. you maybe didn't see it the way outsiders did - but that's what happens when you're in a marriage, with children and you love your family - love makes us a little blind sometimes unfortunately. but, i'm so happy for you that you have moved on. your children don't need to see a controlling husband b/c the cycle will continue when they become adults and are in relationships and they think it's ok. stay strong!

Hey Tamra, you rock bella! Wishing you so much happiness ... you're simply FAB and gorgeous ... the show is my favorite! Can't wait for the next season! Love you here in Canada!

Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario, Canada

Tamra, you are a great lady. Humorous, gorgeous, real. You deserve some fun in your life! I wish you and your kids all the best.

Sorry your husband is an arrogant dirtbag and you've had to suffer at his hand. Men can be cruel. But so can women. You are a "mean girl" and not anyone I would ever want as a friend. Make some changes in your life, be a better person, stop this catty behavior or you will find yourself without any true friends.

Tamara,
I missed the last couple of shows, but I see where people are commenting on you leaving Simon.

I don't pretend to know your marriage, but I hope you did not take advice from Vicki when making this decision.

Remember this, It is easy for a woman to give you advice on you and your husband. She'll tell you how she wouldn't put up with that crap. She'll tell you that you'd be better off without him. She'll tell you how badly he treats you. She'll point out all his faults in the relationship and none of yours. BUT, when the day is over, she goes home and climbs into bed with her husband and you go to bed alone.

I'm just saying, if being divorced was easy a lot more of us ex-wives would be smiling.

Hi Tamra. Well it has been a couple of months, how are you doing? I am a very faithful watcher of you Ladies. I must say you ladies give me a great since of yes there is a life out there. I don't mean the housees, shopping, just the fact that you are strong women and that we deserve to be treated with love, respect, kindness. I am finally after 19 years of marriage (not one thing to show for it) going to start a new. I hope i can be as strong has you are Tamra, I have been raped twice, and mollested by my own father, But, some how alwasy kept a positve outlook on life, so no more telling me i am stupid for watching these shows(yea that was his thought)I will prove him wrong. I hope to one day(6months) be an event planner, i am taking the course now, and i hope to be able to meet you Tamra, You are my strength ( my husband was just like yours). Enough is Enough, and yes it is great to be a Free well you know. Hope to talk to you again.

Tamara I love watching you and you are a very sweet person but dont let anyone control you. You have a beautiful family and you are a fabulous woman. Simon feels insecure next you thats why he wants things his way. But this is because he loves you. Never forget your family it always have to come first. Preserve your marriage and pray every night to thank God for all you have. There are many people envy of you and you need to feel protected from all this negative vibe. YOU deserve all this success so ENJOY IT!!!!love you

Tamara, I think your great! And to decide to leave simon couldnt of been an easy decision especially with little children.. I support you in having the strength to do so. Its easy for everyone to tell you to do this or do that, but until your in there shoes.. its a hard thing to do.. So again live life like there is no tomorrow.

I tamra my name is krystal and im 25. I think you're absolutly gorgeous and if you could share some of your beauty secrets id appreciate it...

Tamara i love you! you are an amazing beautiful person and I am happy for you and your new start as a single house wife. You look and seem much happier and healthier. I wish you and your family all the best!

btw Simon does not deserve you one bit and the best cure is sucess to show Simon you can do this life on your own.

Hi Tamra, I am very happy that you are moving on with your life, saw how badly you were treated on tv. I can only imagine how bad it must have been in real life. I wish you all the best and can't wait for the new season!!!!

Denise from Rutherglen, ON CANADA

Omg, I love love love you Tamra! You are the realest of them all!!!!

I too suffered financial hardship having had a decent lifestyle as a realtor in Florida, got the 3 young children, one older teen son from a prior relationship and the controlling (but means well) husband who I love dearly but he had eternal issues with my teen son and we soon began to disagree on everything else...it must be hard to go through everything on TV, I am sure we don't even get half of it- but I saw alot of my life through you and want to thank you for being someone I can relate to, selfishly glad I am not the only one- sure feels like it at times! Good luck for the future, I am now starting mine, single again!

Tamra, you need to grow up...keep personal life personal.Get out and find a real job and stop whinning about Simon.