Speaking of Slade, we have never had a "real reason" not to like each other and I actually don't know how it even started. Bottom line is I have NO respect for the man. I was a single mother of two children who never received child support when I got divorced. For Slade to be jumping around from red carpet event to traveling and NOT providing for his children is wrong! I don't understand how Gretchen supports that in a man. I sure hope she doesn't have children with him with four children that he elects not to support. We'll see how much she condones his actions then!
I'm sad to see Tamra and Simon start the process of divorce but I truly didn't see any way out of it for them. They were on a downhill spiral and without serious counseling I don't know how it could have survived. I'm proud of Tamra that she has the strength with three little kids to move out and to start a life with herself free from the abuse.
When I told Andy tonight that the fun is gone - I meant it. We used to have SO much fun - now it's almost painful with the new cast these past two years. Between Slade, Simon and Alexis, it's brutal for me to be around. I said last week that if it was my last day on earth, Alexis, Simon and Slade would be the last three people I would have wanted to spend my life on this earth with. They are disrespectful, hurtful and mean. From this day forward, I'm only going to surround myself with people that love me, respect me, teach me to be a better person and make me laugh. Don't you think that's a great way to live?
Vicki, you were so classy and strong at the reunion. Alexis came across as she truly is: hypocritical, pious, and downright mean-spirited. You are the only true lady in the bunch and it really showed last night.
I really grew to like and repsect you this season. The only thing I feel I have to say is - Why do you continue to talk about Slade (as you did in your blog). You are playing into their drama!! Don't do it!! It is obvious what he is about and Gretchen has really shown her true colors this season. She's quite the busy body and know it all (at least she thinks she has) and for me personally, I'm over her!! You're better than that! Best of luck to you!!! You are an inspiration to the professional career woman!!
I hope Gretchen takes your advice about Slade instead of being so quick to dismiss you genuine concern. You and Gretchen were the only two women that I saw genuine kindness in this season, and I think she deserves to have a happy relationship like you and Donn have, instead of becoming trapped in one with an opportunistic and potentially controlling man.
While you don't always control your emotions, everything you said on the reunion special was spot on, and the way in which some of the women ganged up on you was ugly. Hopefully they've thought about their actions.
Love you Vicki!
Vicki, I think you were targeted at the reunion. THEY DON'T WORK and they drive me crazy that they think they do. They don't go to work 9-5 and they are trying to launch make up careers? Please!! Gretchen and Alexis were very mean to you. Wow, very interesting coming from a "Christian". Maybe she should take some time off from the spa and hit the church a little more. AND, did you notice Tamra did not stick up for you not one time. It made me mad that she just sat there while you were taking the heat. Some friend! Good riddons to those girls as boy they were mean. I think they are mad that you are so successful, work hard...and they can't say that. As for Slade...they got caught in a few lies and they looked ridiculous. He is just shady. Gretchen will learn the hard way.They were very mean but you held your own very well.
It was hard to watch you sit on the couch too. The only thing that kept running through my mind was "even if Alexis felt beat up by you" WHY is living "eye for an eye". As a Christian, she should turn the other cheek instead of ganging up on you during the finale. It was so hypocritical. I love what you wrote in your blog and think you should surround yourself with positivity. You are a fabulous woman with a fabulous family. We love you!!!
.. You say that others dont respect you but yet you have fought with 85 percent of the people on the show. Its NOT THEM.. ITS YOU..Look back and see how you bash them and how you treat them but yet you expect them to treat you with respect. You dont deserve it. To be painfully honest you dont even deserve Don. Hes too good for you. Your not a nice person. Take a long look at yourself and CHANGE.
I just have to say, out of everyone in the show, I love you the most. I honestly think, people take "independence" as a negative thing. I admire you for that, because you show exactly what a woman is capable of doing. I think a lot of the housewives criticize you because you are different, different in the sense that you are not a "traditional" housewife. Today in age, housewives are not just stay at home moms and devoted wives. Though I admire those who do that, and I think it's absolutely great. There are also those, who show a little bit more independenc, and I think that is you. I think you are fearless, and will do anything in your power to go the extra mile, and to work harder and harder to try and get the best for you and your family. I think that you are great friend, and you truly speak your mind. If you don't like someone, you make sure it is known. I admire you Vicki and I think it is great what you have done, and the life you have made for yourself. I also am proud of Donn, because he is not initimidated by an independent woman. I think that shows confidence and brings a healthy marriage. I love this show, but if you do not come back next season, I will not watch, because it just will not be the same. Best wishes for you always, Kelly
Vicki, you are the woman that every other woman should aspire to be! you are hard working and you own it. Slade is a loser-he doesnt have a job and he is not even trying to look for one. Don't let any of the other girls' or guys' words get to you because we love who you are!
I want you to know how much I admire you! Out here in the "real world" I would consider you "the most down to earth, remember where you came from and know how you got to where you are" person on the entire show.
Your marriage to Donn is the most honest. The other wives have to worry so much about not embarrassing their husbands "in public" - they can't even be themselves.
I feel many of the housewives married "money" and they know what they have to do to keep the money. If that means to bow down to their husbands, workout 3 hrs a day and loose themselves along the way - they will do it. And you aren't like that.
Some of the house-husbands are threatened by a woman like you. They can tell that you would never make a good wife for a man like them. They are too insecure about themselves and they fear that you may influence their wives to become less dependent on them. They know how they got their wives & the wives know how they got them and it has to be horrible to know that at any moment they could be ex-wife #3.
Keep doing what you're doing. Keep it real. And tell Donn that out of all of the husbands...He's the best!
Vickie, you are the only genuine woman on the show and the only reason worth watching. Decide whether to stay or leave based on what will make you happy. No one needs all the crap. And you are absolutley dead on about Slade.
Vicki, I'm very familiar with the attitudes of women in OC and your's is refreshingly realistic! It does take hard to have what you want and for all the BS about money not making people happy, the two couples on the show who are not hurting for it are the strongest. Stay strong and stand your ground, you have a lot to be proud of!
This is the first season i watch the show...wasn't sure how i felt about any of you considering it is reality tv and they always seem to drawn on the negative...but i must say You and your family are very real...you seem to be an extradinary Mother with well balanced adult children...>At first i thought ill of you with Tamara and Simon but after watching the last episode when the two of you were speaking it became clear that you were right about Simon and tamra is lucky to have you as a friend....best of luck to you and your family...as for the other housewives i have nothing negative to say except that the other housewives should take notes from you...you have been through it all and are still a winner
Thank you for your comments on the reunion and your introspection of the show. After all, RHWOC started it all. You're like the "First lLady" of a Reality Knots Landing... During the reunion, you handled yourself well; being under so much fire. I like when you called out for reinforcements (to Donn) when the attack grew more intense. Donn is the best of the men on the show. He's so grounded and REAL! I agree with everything you said here. Slade is sleazy, period. Obviously, I don't know the man personally. But, he inserts himself into his paramour's lives as though he's "Svengali", when in fact, he's just a cheap hustler. He makes my skin crawl. Whether you choose to return or not, is up to you. You've garnered a strong fan base and would be missed if you chose not to return. Best of everything to you and your wonderful family!!!
Vickie all I can say is please dont leave! You are my absolute favorite housewife and the show wouldnt be the same without you! You had so much class at the reunion. I think the other woman get so annoyed because you say the truth and they dont like it. You ARE the only one that works! You have a real job that supports yourself and your family well. When you get in a group that is full of followers and Holy Rollers ( I am not including Tamra or Lynn ) then unfortunatley thats what happens. I adore you and hope you come back!!
This group of females is unrealistic and petty. Though I like seeing you on the program...I would understand if you left. Life is too short to surround yourself with miserable people. Your daughter was ill and STILL these women could not let up. Unbelievable. My only criticism of you is that it may have been better for Tamra (sp?) and her husband if you had not been so involved in her drama. Doing that left you open to be blamed for their troubles, even if he WAS behaving badly. I do know that it was very tempting to get sucked into her vortex of foolishness, but if it comes up again, try to resist the urge. Just listen to your friend and don't try to direct her on what to do. She had enough of that at home. Other than that I think you are a reasonable and delightful person to watch. Have a great day and bless you in your future endeavors.
Vicki, I believe you get in what you put out in any situation. Having a reason to dislike Slade and Simon, I can see - but Alexis? This show is about the women, not the men, so don't blame the men for making you miserable this season. And Alexis seems like a nice person who hadn't done anything to you. She wasn't "mean" as you say, and to be honest, you can be pretty mean yourself. If you can dish it out, you better be able to take it. You were dishing it out to her all season, so you are the one who set the tone for your relationship. If you don't mesh with someone, fine - but there is a big difference between not meshing with someone and agreeing to disagree on your ways of life, and being completely intolerant and rude. You were the latter and that is what prompted Alexis to say certain things and stick up for herself. Are you not watching the same show I am? Do you not see and hear yourself?
I hope you read this comment because I would like for you to know what an inspiration you are to women all over. You, Jeana, Lori and Tammy were the only wives worth watching, because of the similarities in your lives. Overall, the way you have handled yourself with these "people" is better than anyone else could have. You keep doing what you're doing....
Best of luck! Hope Breanna is doing well! (p.s. to confront you in front of your sick daughter in san fran was so trashy and low...Alexis was trying to make herself relevant in the group because she doesn't have anything to talk about other than "maintaining her looks, not having Jim grow old with a frumpy wife, and how she needs time outs") I can't even stand her voice. So boringgg
You go girl..
Everyone totally ganged up on you Vicki. I too, and sick and tired of the bickering and cat fights. I don't blame you if you decide not to return to the show. It's no fun any more. Love you and Don.
Vickie! You stayed so classy during the reunion! Alexis is so god for sacking fake and stupid!!!! I think that most people can see right through her and know that she has nothing better to do than to choose someone and pick on them, unfortunately she chose you. She is NO FUN!!!! If you left the show there would be no more fun left! You have the most fun although you always put your family first which is very respectful. Some of the other girls need to take some pointers from you although they are all so stuck on themselves that they are so closed minded. You are the original and we all love you!!!
Vicki-I've been rooting for you all season! Sometimes your word choice might be a little harsh, but in my opinion, you tell it like it is. You are the Simon Cowell of the OC housewives! You say what everyone else is thinking and I respect you for that. No doubt there is often a backlash from being brutally honest but I still think you have the best heart out of all the housewives. I agree that Jim is a "smelly dork". Well, I've never seen him in person to know for sure but he looks like he would smell. And I can't STAND Alexis. Tamra said she seems confident but I think that's being a bit too kind. Alexis is conceited and fake and she tries too hard to appear 'perfect'. The audience can see right through her. However with you, what you see is what you get. I think your kids are excellent proof of the kind of person and mother you are. Your daughter is an extremely intelligent and well spoken young lady and your son is the cutest! And I'm so happy for you and Donn and your new-found relationship. Keep doing what you're doing girl-YOU ROCK!
Hi Vicki, You are an independent, strong woman and you are proud of it and you should be. You are the kind of woman that is inspiring to young women. You prove that you don't need a man to live the good life. You are honest and I respect you for it. I feel bad you were ganged up on this season. In my opinion, you are the housewife most of America wants to relate to. You are a role model. Alexis lives in a fantasy world with her controlling husband. She has herself convinced that their marriage is healthy. It isn't a competition. I knew exactly what you meant on the reunion show when you said she thinks she is better than everyone. I just want you to know that you are highly respected and inspiring! My Dad runs an insurance agency otherwise I would call you for a quote. I hope to see you back again in season six!
Vicki, Never blog but had to after last nights show. I dont know any man that would want to argue and fight with a woman the way Slade and Jim did, it was like they couldnt wait to gang up on you, I guess they see you as a threat, they wouldnt want their own women to be independent and strong like you. Just another way for them to control. They are both losers. I also thought you were a mean girl last year, but you didnt deserve what you got this year. Gretchen is an air head and Alexis is a hypocrit. I think you, Jeanna and Lynn should start your own show and maybe Gretchen,Slade,Alexis, and Jim could go on Jerry Springer for Controling Husbands.
Vicki, I love the show and you are one of my favorites, but sometimes it seems like you have foot in mouth disease because you do not think of that you say before you say it. At the time, it can come across as funny, but to those the comments are directed at can be hurtful. It seems to me, that you sometimes feel offended when you apologize for saying something hurtful.. I would much rather you just own it and not apologize because it does not seem sincere sometimes. As for the husband's on the reunion show... HELLO DON! You stated that when you watched the show there were times when Simon was ripping Vicki apart, that you wish you had known so you could have spoken up.. well dear, last night was your chance and you totally blew it, do you think that Jim and Slade were inpressed with your angry face. I think not, you should have defended Vicki like you said you wanted too with Simon. Vicki, if you do come back for another season, I hope that you will be able to set aside time from work and be more laid back and relaxed because then I think the fun would come back for you.
I think you should leave the show. You are too classy and responsible to hang out with any of those othr women. Tamra is going to turn into a wild women now that she is free and probably be as bad as Gretchen and Alexis. I will certainly miss your common sense on the show, but, I will not watch it anymore if you and Don leave.
You are too good for this. Leave them now before they berate you anymore for being responsible and intelligent.
Vickie, You really need to disassociate yourself from these people who thrive on the conflict and drama. You dont need that. You are self sufficient and have a good head on your shoulders.
Vicki, I figured out during the reunion what gave me such an aversion toward Alexis -- she completely lacks empathy. The way she was giving you that awful look when you were struggling with emotions gave me the chills. She may be more self controlled than you are, but you are more human and giving.
Andy was so mean to you! I love him and I was so disappointed in what he chose to question you about and read on air. Most of the e-mails are so supportive of you so why didn't he mention that. Stay strong! And please continue on the show. It would be lost without you. And to the previous viewer who said Gretchen lost her shine, I felt the same way. She looked like a deer caught in the headlights during the reunion. I hope she is okay.
THere you go again....bashing others. You are not nice, you love the attention from the show and you know that's why you'll be back. You contradicted yourself so many times on the reunion show. Clearly, you are threatened by Alexis, who, I might add, conducted herself with dignity. No one would say that about you. You point your finger at others, then yell and cry when they point one back at you. go away!!
Vicki I completely understand what you were saying this season. On previous seasons you were harsh on some of the ladies but I do feel this year you were trying to stay out of the drama and was brought into it. The other ladies were constantly egging you on and I feel Alexis wanted confrontation with you because she felt the other women never stuck up for themselves with you. Slade and Gretchen are two peas in a pod. How come when Andy asked Slade if they started dating right after Jeff dies he lied and said 7 months? In actually it had to be less than the 5 months after Jeff died. It makes me question Gretchen and Slades' motives. I love watching your family and how hard you work has motivated me to go after my dreams. I would love for you to have your own show! I really don’t enjoy these ladies. Can't wait to see what you do next~
Vickie it is nice to see you have some good supporters for your role on the OC Housewives.
I cannot agree with their take however and should you return I hope you can dial back your desperate need to control and direct the other players who have personalities of their own to share.
You have enough intelligence to look at your own flaws and by continually pointing out your perfections and others' faults I believe you cast some doubt as to your confidence.
Spend more time on yourself and your husband if you are seeking to improve your life. You won't find it within a group of women you constantly demean.
Vicki I think it is great that you speak your mind even if it offends. "Own It" is what the OC's T-shirts should say. I ask that you don't let Alexis push you out I am sure thats what she would want. You're just the right person to put her in her place. Stay and HELP! We can't endure a season of self centered, rigteous, stuck-up high and mighty Alexis without you there to show her she's really not better than anyone and please tell her to stop useing god as her personal shield. STAY WITH US AND OWN IT!!
Vicki, you are the most grounded of all the housewives. You do say what you think--and that is a good thing. All those other girls talk behind your back. What you do is up front and honest and their holier & hotter than thou attitude is rude and mean.
Alexis came on that show with guns blazing and she needs to practice what she preaches!! When she made the comment that people in Missouri don't wear makeup and don't do their hair and sit around in jeans and tshirts about put me through the roof!!! You should be proud of where you come from and count your blessings that you found someone to boss you around the rest of your life and be a humble servant to a jerk!! How about taking care of your kids youself and focus on the family--not yourself.
You have always been my favorite housewife. I really miss most of the original wives. It was more enjoyable to watch back then.I really felt bad for you this season and would understand if you don't return, however I would not be able to watch anymore with the other cast members .I think Lynn is a nice person Inever hear her say anything negative about anyone.I .also thought on last nites reunion special Andy was a little mean to you and sort of favored Gretchen. Ireally wish some of the other girls would come back and Gretchen and Alexis would leave. Take care and God Bless you and your family.
Well Lady, they sure didn't cut you any slack last night. Actually, there were times when I had to change the channel because I was so uncomfortable watching the "bashing". There were moments this season when you are far to blunt, but there is a lot of truth in that bluntness. For the most part I really love the other housewives, EXCEPT Alexis. Wow, she sure thinks her stuff is something else...and hides behind her "religion" (if that's what you want to call it). I think she really did ruin the entire show this year and I wouldn't blame you for not going back for another season and having to deal with her. On the other hand, it would not be the same without you....just a bunch of younger women who don't seem to have any connection, vie for the most camera time and don't seam to even enjoy hanging out with each other. Makes me really miss the original gals who seemed to really like each other and truly had each others backs. Good luck this year Vicki and I hope to see you back next year and maybe if the producers are smart, they will bring back some of the original gals and even out the "quality" gap.
Vicki, I have one word for the other housewives, hypocrites. I wish, wish, wish, they had done a montage of all the harsh words everyone said over the season. The other women need to take a look at themselves more closely. If they think you are mean, they are wrong. You are honest and have no filter. You are not fake at all. You don't have it in you. Simon was upset and blaming you for his marriage problems and bent the other men's ears about how horrible you are and they believed everything he said. Interesting how Jim is such a God fearing man, but found it so funny that Slade had "Good Game." Yuck! Stay on the show Vicki. Gretchen and Alexis want you to leave and you know it. Talk about mean girls, or should I say Barbies. Hang in there. You are worth watching. Toodles.
Vickie - I've watched RHOC from the beginning and I see how much it has changed. I would agree that it doesn't look nearly as "fun" as it used to be. The one thing I would like to point out is that you never seem to take any responsibility for your part in things. Could it be that your condescending attitude, hurtful comments, and desire to be the "queen bee" contribute greatly to the way the Housewives is today? You are quick to blame everyone else, but never seem to see your part in all this. When it's pointed out to you, you just want to run from it and play the victim. It's a shame really, because acknowledging our actions and taking responsibility for them is how we learn, grow, and become better people.
Vicki you are the best Oc Wife there is. You are true and real not fake like some others that you have to deal with.
I watched every episode this season and I was just shocked at all the negative comments. You have to admit that it wasn't just everyone else against you. For the "holier than Thou" comments, I think you fall into that category as well, you never let anyone forget what you do and what you say, and even though other peoples relationship may have nothing to do with you, you still make comments when it's not your concern. As for Slade, there does seem to be something going on with him and wanting the fame, but it that YOUR concern? I just think that you do have a big heart and you are a sensitive woman, I think you forget or refuse to see how anyone else may feel when you say things.
i think you are right in some ways but i also think you have a way of dishing it but you cant take it.
Vicki, you are the only wife on the show that I can respect. You are the only cast member who is not searching for a "sugar daddy" to support her & her superficial priorities. I can understand & respect a mother who chooses to stay home with her children and not work, but not one of these non-working mothers puts a priority on her children. Their days consist of working- out, manicures, tanning, hair salons, and shopping. However, if you look closely at these women not one of them is truly happy. The trade-off they've have made in life for not earning their own way, is they are controlled by their over-bearing husbands. How sad for them that they feel this need to give the "appearance" of perfection all the time. They are not leading a genuine life.
Vicki, I've only been watching "Housewives" for a short while, but I have to say, it would pay everyone, including yourself, to go back and watch the episodes again and be aware of their own conduct, comments, meddling, etc., rather than judging everyone else's relationships, actions, etc.
The one thing that jumps out at me as a viewer is how everyone acts as if they know how everyone else should be living, behaving, etc., yet not one of the cast members doesn't have some sort of drama of their own.
There's way too much speculation about everyone else's lives, way too much repeating of rumors and talking about everyone else. The individual interview bits are horrible.
Anyone wanting to truly 'rise above' the drama wouldn't be participating in any of that.
Everyone on the show is guilty of adding to the drama, rumors, discourse and ugliness that is the catty nature of every "Real Housewives" series.
Vicki are the best OC Wife there is. You are true and real not like some wives you have to work with. Please don't let them get you down. You are better then them.
Whatever you decide to do is ok with me. I would run from this cast of housewives personally..
Just wanted to let you know that I have the most respect for you out of all of them.
You work hard, worked on you marriage, have respectable children and were honest on a show full of opinionated housewives whose lives are a mess.
I hope Tamra becomes a more sincere, better person without her husband and I do like Gretchen and hope she finds anyone but Slade. He rubs me the wrong way and I don't like someone giving so much "I know it all" advice when their life is a mess...
RUN from them Vicki and take care of yourself...
Thank you Vicki for all of your insights. As I think about your show moving forward for another season, I am hoping that you will continue. Good for your business and good for my entertainment. You are a strong woman with strong values. That is something that needs to continue to be shown. However, if your emotionally drained all the time from this, maybe you should re-think. What ever you decide to do, assuming Bravo picks this up for another season, you have a fan for life. Thanks again.
Vicki grow up!! You love to dish it out but can't take it. You have been filmed saying nasty things about the other wives but when called on it you backpedal and make up excuses for what you say.
Vicki, you are absolutely my favorite housewife! It truly seems as though some of the other women are living in a la la land. You show what a real working woman (and housewife)is! I hate it that you've gotten such a bad rap for caring about whether or not people have planned for their future financially, not only is it your passion and life, but an inevitable part of everyones future that they often toss by the wayside. I hope to see you back next season as you are one of the only "real" women. If only some of the others realized how classless they look and act and what a mockery they are making of themselves. Love you Vicki! You're the greatest!!
I've watched the show every year it's been on, and Vicki is Queen of Denial. None of the women are perfect, nor is anyone. But Vicki apparently believes their comments aren't valid unless they come from someone perfect. Vicki is so insecure that it is painful to watch. Look at Tamra's expression when Vicki says she isn't jealous of Alexis. It makes for great TV but a miserable life for her to live, demanding validation from everyone around her. Yet she refuses to be accountable for her own words and actions. Not the high road and not something to be proud of. I hope she does decide not to do next season so they can find someone FUN!!!
Wait a minute....was I watching a different reunion show than the rest of you?! I thought Vicki was out of line several times and I was pleased when Gretchen put her in check (and finally left her speechless!). Vicki spoke about Alexis not showing her respect, but you have to earn respect. It's not automatically given to you because you've been on the show the longest!
I started to like you this season, Vicki, but the reunion show & your blog made me see that you really still are the mean girl you were last season.