Welcome back to our final episode of Season 5. It's very bittersweet knowing that this season is over. I'm ready to pass the baton onto NYC and hope you enjoy watching them as much as you did us. From talking with Jill, seems like they have had their share of tears this season so it should be just as juicy.
When I said in my interview that this season was tough for me, I was referring to the drama with the other women. Seeing how Tamra spoke about me when I left Lynne's was shocking and still very upsetting. Regarding Alexis, this girl just turned out to be nothing but drama and a hypocrite. Tamra and I have talked a lot since the season wrapped filming, but it still makes me wonder why she felt the need to be so mean when I wasn't around. In my "real life," I just don't have that type of drama or fighting going on. My family is doing awesome, my book is getting amazing reviews, my marriage is really good and my business Coto Insurance is still solid. I just don't have this type of negativity in my life and if it comes in — I do whatever I can to get it out as soon as possible.
The season finale at the St. Regis was so pretty and I went there with the intent of just having a great time. When I saw Gretchen and Slade arrive, I thought maybe they were going to announce to us that we were attending their wedding because of how they were dressed. I would have been shocked, because if they were going to get married, I doubt Tamra and I would have been included on the guest list. As I have said before, if Gretchen is happy with Slade then that's all that matters. I just know there is a BIG world out there, and would hate to see Gretchen settle. After Jeff died, she immediately started dating Slade and I'm sure that's why her mother is so hesitant of him as well. My advice if she was my daughter would be to stand on her own for a while and date casually to really figure out what you want in a husband and the father of your children. Gretchen, you need to read my book!
When I saw Lynne's girls Alexa and Raquel show up to the party drunk I was pretty shocked. If they were my daughters, I would have sent them home with myself — party or no party! No questions asked and no arguing — HOME we would have gone. They continue to humiliate Frank and Lynne which is completely disrespectful and I don't understand it. Don't they know they are being filmed??
It's been so amazing having Michael join Coto Insurance this year. He is consistently becoming one of our top agents and is just a natural on the phone with our clients. When our customers get a call from him, they always have nice things to say to him about our family and the TV show and they always let me know how courteous and customer service friendly he is. It makes me so proud to know that he is entering a business that he will be able to be in for a long time, and will be able to be in a career that allows him to have a nice life for him and his family if he so chooses. I was raised in a family-owned business of construction in Chicago, and it was always my father's dream to have my brother take the business over. Once my father passed away, my brother was able to carry on the business and make it very successful. It's a great feeling when your children decide to follow in your career path; it makes me feel like i'm leaving a legacy as well. Go Michael!
Vicki, I love reading your blogs. They continue to inspire me. I too have learned to "gravitate to those who inspire". For me that has even included cutting family members who "crave the drama". I, myself, crave the peace and joy that life offers. I wish only the best for you and your amazing family. I have always said "Woo Hoo", but you have now made it socially acceptable to shout out "WOO HOO!" HA HA.
Vicki, I wasn't fond of you at first because it seemed you talked badly about your husband a lot. I have to admit that you are one of my favorite housewives now! You really put forth the effort into your marriage and made it stronger. When you have a disagreement with the other girls, you do so with honesty and class. I think when Tamra spoke badly about you at Lynne's house, it was Simon's feelings toward you coming out in her. It came across (to me as a viewer watching) as though it really hurt her to say those things--but she felt she had to say them to make her controlling husband happy with her. You go, girl! I hope you continue to be a good friend to Tamra...she's gonna need support.
Go Vicki! I am sad to see the season end, but am happy for you to be able to put the year behind you! And I agree, Alexis added nothing but the worst, bring back Jeanna, Lauri and Tammy!! See you next season, Anne
PS: Loved your book! woo hoo!
I am in the same age group as you and have been watching you since day 1. You are a very strong woman and have a good heart that shows through during all the rough times on the show. It must be hard to have your scenes edited to improve the ratings. I would love to meet you and Don some day. I have met Jeana at her house a few times over the years. She is the one that calls me Alpaca Sue, because I raise alpacas her in Michigan. If you are in need of anything like a cute alpaca shawl or the softest socks in the world just let me know. I know you can't wear wool but alpaca fiber is hypoallergetic and will not cause itching. I will miss you. Have a great and prosperous year. Whoo Hoo!!!
Vicki...love you! You are a strong woman, great mother and terrific business woman. You are to be admired. I think that often times you don't soften words and others may see them as brutal, but I don't think any of these woman hold back. I also have to agree about Alexis. She doesn't seem very bright and focuses on very superficial things to make her who she is. I don't think I can handle another season with a woman who has to get "permission" to do things. I also agree that Lynn and Frank have their head stuck in the sand and it is no longer entertaining...it is painful to watch. Arent there laws against allowing kids underage to drink?
good morning Victory :)
Love ya!!! There's alot of us that just love you too death for a million reasons! The main reason being you're a real person with real feelings and I don't see anything you do as being done "for the camera" With Alexis especially she is always playing to the camera and trying to sell something about herself whether it's having a hot sexy husband or being a Christain. I wonder what Alexis is like with camera's off. With you I feel I know what you're like with them off. That in a nutshell is why I love watching this show, because of you!!!
I have to agree, I miss the old days. The ladies were classy and a lot less bs. I haven't kept up with the show because there is just too much drama, I am too old to watch that kind of stuff.
I agree that the old housewives was better and classier. Of course Alexis and Gretchen are beautiful, but I like Lauri and Jeana so much better!!!!
Love you Love you!!! Class pure Class. Yesterdays episode was the icing on the cake. Everything was expose from the Tamara,Simon, and Vicki situation. Tamara is not happy at all. And she couldn't help but talk to YOU. and of course SIMON blames EVERYONE ELSE, BUY CLEARLY HE NEEDS TO TAKE A LONG LOOK IN THE MIRROR. I seen hate in his eyes too. I love you. You can read ppl. ANd you can tell that your faith is strong. But you don't need ppl to know that to like you. VIcki true class. The last episode did everything for you and EXPOSED THE HORRIBLE MAN NAME SIMON (DILIGINAL FOR 1 MILLI SIMON!!!)
PLease bring back the old housewives!! I miss the "real" girls. Not the publicity seeking, over the top, "gotcha" girls. Vicki, you are too good for all that drama. I hope RHOC goes back to the original version. NYC housewives are making my stomach churn. We don;t like to watch people fight. Real friendships, family, ect is much better.
Vicky, I applaud you for your hard work and dedication to job, and mostly your family. I too think family first. Watching the last show brought out a lot of feelings with regards to my own relationship with my husband. Seeing you with Tamara made me wish I had a true friend like you to talk to. My marriage looks a lot like hers and hearing you say that she should "live for her own happiness" made a lot of sense. I hope I can get the strength to get through this and make the right choice for me and my boys. Can't wait till next season. take care till then!! Woo-hoo
Good for you Vicki! I have the same philosophy on life. I can't wait to see you when you come to my town and hear your inspiring story! I wish you still had that coupon code for your book though! Woo Hoo! :)
Class is the operative word. We all hope you will return next year. I know it has been a difficult year. Tamera was grasping at straws all season and was looking for validation from everyone. Happiness starts with ourselves. Something you tried to explain..You are a good friend, mother, wife and entrepreneur. And as far as Alexis is concerned, she had it out for you from the beginning, and why? NO SUBSTANCE. And that marriage...I just don't have it today to go there. Best of luck and I love Breanna's bangs!
When the show first started I really liked you even thought some things you did were a little off the chart. This past year you have become almost venomous. You decide everything for everyone. You say whatever you want to say, make faces (whenever the camera is on you), decide how everyone should lead their lives and then you wonder why they lash back. Are you kidding? You need to watch the shows and see just how insulting you are. This is karma Vicki - you're reaping what you sow. You decide who should come on a trip - who are you? You tell Tamra she should take your side against her own husband and then get insulted if she doesn't do what you have commanded. The fact that he's her husband and you have no business to tell him how to act seems to elude you. Friends do confide in each other. That doesn't give you carte blanche to take that information back to the husband and demand he operate according to Vicki - are you kidding? People react to your bad behavior - you are not the victim here. If you insult people or try to control them, they have a right to react - you have opened that door. You need to MYOB. No one is hanging onto your every word - they don't care what you think. Work on your own realtionships. Your poor husband acts as if he is almost afraid of you - maybe that is what you want. If that's OK for you and him, then it's great. But your relationship only works for you and your should not try to control other peoples relationships - it's none of your business. The fact that you think you are always right is laughable. I won't be watching the shown anymore. Once Jeana left it has changed and you obviously think you are the Queen of Bravo TV - get over yourself. I feel sorry for Tamra that she threw her husband under the bus whenever she could this year (much like you did to Donn in the past) and sided with you. WOW - she would throw her marriage away for you - it really makes one wonder what might be going on between the two of you - that is certainly more than friendship. Your 15 minutes of fame is ending. It would be a shame if you left the image you're showing now as the final image for people to remember you by.
Love you Vicki & you are sooooo right - we need Jeana & Laurie back!!! Bravo - please don't ask Alexis back for another season!!!!
I am new to watching the RHOC and have never seen the previous seasons. Watching the finale I have to say I really enjoyed seeing some of the other housewives who previously left the show. It appears you had a bond with them that you don't seem to share with some of the newer housewives. Tamra said the cast seemed off this year and I agree. I enjoyed watching Jeana and her daughter interact with Lynn and her daughter Alexa. I would much rather see scenes like that than watching someone's mother having plastic surgery or hearing people arguing. I hope you will just continue to be the way you are. Thanks again for your promptness with blogging; although your opinions may not be shared by all at least you put them out there and allow others to comment..for better or worse. Best wishes.
So glad to hear your daughter is doing well. Between the stress of the show, the drama with the other "wives," and your daughter's health scare, you carried a heavy load this season. Keep your chin up girl! On another note, your clothes this season were to die for! I loved your work clothes and the yellow dress from last night's show. Where do you get your clothes? They are beautiful!!!
I agree with your Vicki--the show needs the old housewives back--it's a whole new dynamic with these new ladies and it's not good.
I'm glad Briana's health scare has passed and happy that all is going well with you--you were my favorite this season
You are not perfect Vicki...and we all could use a little bit of constructive criticism once in awhile...just sayin'.
I hate it when people can dish it, but not take it. Vicki, you are a classic bully. Hope you leave next season.
Vicki, Tamara has a way of blowing with whichever way the prevailing wind is blowing. That is a weakness of hers that she will hopefully overcome. The one thing that drove me crazy all season was how you kept insisting Tamara stick up for you regarding Simon. No one, on the face of this earth, no matter how horrible the husband, has the right to ask that. No one. It is the craziest thing I have ever heard. He didn't like you, you don't like him. Enough said. It was very insensitive for you to put her in the middle like that. Very insensitive. She needed to figure out what was happening in her marriage and whatever she was going to do. That last thing she needed to do was stick-up for you in a petty fight when her entire world was falling apart. Grow up.
We'll, I think your really nice for giving Tamra a shoulder to cry on,she's really not been a great friend on the show & I feel like you were last one she could get that night to talk too! Hope the reality doesn't come between you & her with the divorce, watch your back it could be worse for season 6. As for Alexis she's just too much hope you sock it to her at reunion!!!
Seeing Lynn, Lori, Alexis and just about every other housewives cast, I think you should really start a women's independance seminar. I can't imagine getting that comfortable off someone else's money. Your old life is one good divorce lawyer away so these women need to sit down with you and get some work ethic. We all saw with Lori how a woman's life can get turned upside down when a man and his money leave. Maybe you could come up with a lifestyle calculator to show women of affluent (or pretend affluent) neighborhoods how much it costs to maintain a certain lifestyle. And woo-hoo on that financial seminar you did for Brianna and her friends. I am 28 and wish my mom had sat me down to learn the difference between what goes in and out.
I'd just like to say that I have come to really respect and appreciate you this season, I have seen another side of you that I hadn't seen before. More caring, loving and genuine. I can really relate to you and your personality now. Congratulations on your success in your business and your marriage. You and Donn are now my favorite couple! Breanna is my fave housewive's daughter/child. I really enjoyed watching you and your family grow this season. Can't wait to see more of you again!
Keep being you!
You are so right! The show was classier and much more fun to watch with the "old" Housewives...the re-runs of previous seasons are proof!
Vicki, I loved you this season. I seen more of the woman you are and so seen some of myself in you. You are a great powerful friend, wife and mother. I too love and adore my children like you do, some say I am overly loving toward my family but you know they are your life. My marriage is a lot like yours as well, I love it. As for the others, let them be controlled and smothered. I love how you stand on your own and speak your mind, its great and more women should. As for Tamara, she is not a good friend. I know you want to help her and give her good advice, but I too have many friends like her and they just want to remain the victim. You are strong, carefree and successful, keep up the good work. God bless and I hope to see more of you and your family in the coming up seasons.
I am really happy that you have put more focus on Don and strenghtening your marriage this season. It has obviously paid off and your renewed vows episode was very touching and one of my favorites. Last night was hard to watch...Good for you Vick for being a friend to Tamra even though Simon was looming nearby while she was having a breakdown. Does he not realize that ALL girlfriends cry on each others shoulders? He is upset that she has someone to turn to to build her back up after he strips her of her self worth. I was appalled to see him verbally beat her down and then remorsefully expect her to hug him and go on like nothing was wrong. He is in denial of his issues and it was alarming to see him go after her talking to you and want to know everything being said... she was visibly shaken. Simon obviously is avoiding addressing his own inadequacies by focusing on what he thinks are Tamra's weaknesses and bullying her into being submissive. I too, miss the days of watching you and Jeana and Laurie... I wish the producers would bring that combo back. Combining all these random other fame seekers together is just a recipe for disfunction and petty drama. Best of luck to you and your family and prayers for Brianna.
Hi Vicki I have to say I agree with you. I hope next season is alot less drama free, and more friendship orientated. Get that idiot Alexis off the show! She adds nothing! This show used to be fun to watch. It makes me upset now. Bring back Jeanna and Lori :) I admire you and wish I had your "balls" when I was younger. I wanted to have my own business but was too scared to try. Im getting your book this weekend.
I have to say Vicki, I didn't like you for the first four seasons of Housewives and most of this one. But I'll give credit where it's due: you are the most levelheaded of the group. Your kids are stable and will be successful, your business allows you to still be in the realm of an "affluent" housewife, unlike the other girls - whose glamorous lives have turned drab right before my eyes in the last 4 years. I can't say I like you as a person, but I respect you for being a good mom and hard worker.
Vicki, you are by far my favorite housewife. You inspire me; being strong and independent doesn’t make you a bad wife, mother or friend. I think you show women that it is possible to have it all. Yes we all make mistakes but it’s our values and loyalties that are important. Keep doing all the amazing things you do. Your children are happy, your husband is happy and most of all your happy! I think your relationship with your husband is wonderful to watch, you work on yourself and on your relationship and I think that’s what marriage is all about. As a newlywed it’s nice to see that a real couple can grow and change but if they put in the effort they can stay together and be happy.
Love you Vicki! Continued success, great health and happiness to you and your family! You continue to be fascinating to watch. You should be so proud of the husband and children that you have. Briana is an amazing young woman.
Loyalty is oviously important to you and to most of us...evaluate seriously who you're friends are. Tamra obviously has affection for you BUT she is not, and has proven that she is not a "loyal" friend.
Stay happy! We'll miss watching you. Until next season! Wooooo-hooooo!
Love you Vicki! Continued success, great health and happiness to you and your family! You continue to be fascinating to watch. Stay happy! We'll miss watching you. Until next season! Wooooo-hooooo!
U GO VICK!!!! I THINK U WERE A GOOD FRIEND TO TAMRA!!! AND SHE KNEW IT ITS JUST SIMON WAS KINDA TRYING TO BRAIN WASH HER ALL THE TIME SHE DIDNT REALLY KNOW WHICH WAY TO TURN.. N I KNO ITS HARD TO TURN UR BACK ON UR HUSBAND!!! U GO!! LOVE U!
I love your blog and that last paragraph is powerful! I think that when it finally "clicks" in your life that you must live each day to the fullest, you have no patience for people that waste their time on stupidity! God Bless!!!
That show was so weird. Tamra was completely bipolar. I didn't really like you when this show started, but I appreciate you and respect you because you are the realest housewife out of all the housewives in NY, NJ, ATL, and the OC. I think you and Ramona would make great friends. Why is that religious woman part of the show. She's so...You know.
You worked that dress last night and looked fantastic! I wish you well with your company and cannot wait to see you again next year, love ya vick! :o)
Vicki If you like Tim Magraws song you'd like Kris Allens song of the same title (DIFFERENT WORDS)even more.
Vicki...Watching this last episode reminds me what an amazing true friend you've always been to Tamara. Even when she hasn't stuck up for you...you always been there for her. When she pulled you aside crying at the party you were her shoulder to cry on. You are an amazing person Vicki, Great friend, Awesome Mom to Michael and Brianna, and Wonderful wife to Donn.
Farewell for now to you too, Vicki!
Thank-you for letting us into your life and family! I've really enjoyed seeing you and Donn renew your marriage, and Briana becoming a fine young lady and nurse! Congratulations to Michael also, I know you're very proud!
I respect and admire you the most! Don't ever let anybody drag you down, you deserve the best life has to offer because out of all the Housewives... you've EARNED it!
I agree with you about Alexis and think she has no place on the show! You're so right about Florida... you should have gone home. All you wanted was a Girl's Getaway and instead you were attacked and made to feel bad... shame on those who were involved in that! You know who you are!
Good Luck with Tamra, but I don't think she's a TRUE friend... Jeana however, I think her friendship is worth keeping and working on!
God Bless You and Your Family! Southern Sherry
well-put! The last blog of the season was insightful and I agreed on everything you said. I am a career girl and I'm surrounded by other career girls. You can't make it to every birthday event especially if it's on a Tuesday afternoon. I can barely make it to an evening event. Meetings are definitely more important and the other housewives should understand. Good luck with everything from here on out.
In my earlier post, I forgot to mention how I LOVED the comment from Gretchen's own Father when he said...
"I just stepped in a pile of Slade"... LOL, and so TRUE!
Vicky, you don't deserve friends like Tamra. She talks behind your back and called you jealous. You deserve better friends than that. Don't believe her when she pretends like she's crying.. You are a very succesful woman and deserve the best.