Next when Vicki claims my husband doesn't have a job, it sounds like bitterness to me. The fact that Jim could be retired, or that he only has to work four hours a day if he prefers, and Vicki works twenty hours a day, hmm, a little angry?
Gretchen pulling out the scale makes it look as though Gretchen thinks Slade is overweight, however, I know Gretchen very well, and I know that her only complaint is that he supposedly walks around saying he's fat, but then he'll order pasta for dinner. Gretchen is madly in love with Slade and would love him fat, skinny, bald or furry!
When Gretchen and Slade go to dinner with Micah and Peggy, and Peggy makes the comment that I probably copied her daytime wedding ring, it is confusing to me. Since I didn't even know Peggy when Jim gave me my daytime ring, how could I copy her? The thought of me copying anything Peggy does is absurd. There is nothing, zero, zilch, nada that I would ever want related to Peggy. We are completely different people, and she is not the friend I had a year ago. This is proven when she goes to lunch with Tamra, and Peggy says she thinks I was overreacting about the mace joke. The day before her lunch with Tamra, Peggy came over to my house to discuss the mace joke and at that time Peggy agreed with me that she thought that Tamra shouldn't have done that. However, she then meets up with Tamra and says that I overreacted? Which is it? Pick a lane. The lunch ends with Tamra calling Jim a douche bag, and they both laugh at it. What's new? Get some new material if you want to be funny. Is being a faithful and amazing husband and an exceptional father the definition of a douche bag?
While watching Vicki and Donn at dinner, it is evident that there is no way to repair their marriage. I felt the tension the entire time I was watching. Talking about where they see their lives in ten years, Donn saying there is more to life than work and Vicki saying she wouldn't change anything in her life...it's all sad. I had to chuckle when Vicki didn't remember Donn's age though, because I often forget what anniversary Jim and I are on in our marriage! It's terrible! But Jim always remembers and I always seem to be a year off, or I say it's April 15th when it's actually April 16th. Thank goodness I have a husband who laughs it off and rolls his eyes instead of being sensitive about it!
Thank you for always showing your faith and having class. You do it so well. Stay true to you and your family and God. Wow this show is so evil at times hard to stomach.
I just keep liking you more and more! It's refreshing to finally have someone on one of these housewives shows that actually PRACTICE what they PREACH. Keep it up. I've yet to find any hypocrisy with you; seriously refreshing.
Alexis, you should know it is a sin to use the "I'll pray for her" bit as a way to be self-righteous. It is a sin to say you will pray for someone and not pray for them or mean it. You say it to act holier-than-thou. Reread the book of Matthew.
Well you supposedly were Tamara's friend! Funny that Gretchen went on and on at Tamaras party the WHOLE time. Tamara makes the joke at yours at the END when they are leaving and you slam her for it. You did and are overreacting! Alexis did you ever stop to think that maybe Peggy needed to hear your side of the story and hear Tamaras then make her opinion. Peggy doesn't pull punches. Stop beating everything up this season. This season you started off strong and we were excited. You are not acting like you with your own opinion. And yes you and Gretchen are being two mean school girls. That I never thought I would see that out of either you or Gretchen.
You are most definitely your own person, and I think you are a very honest and caring person. Hold your head high and ignore rude, mean people.
Tamra is like Bethenny. She says what the viewers are thinking, therefore she is like the greek chorus. We like the honesty
"My only point about the mace is that Tamra shouldn't do the exact same thing she gets mad about. Tamra throws a fit when Gretchen pulls an evil eye joke at Tamra's house, yet when Tamra does it to Gretchen, Tamra can't understand why it's inappropriate. You can't argue with stupid on that one. It's called common sense, something Tamra seems to lack this season."
Enough Said! You could have not said it any better!
Alexis, Tamera meant the mace as a JOKE. I know you’re a growing Christian and I think that is great but remember Jesus says we are to be peace seekers. This is what I love about Gods word it always brings it back to us, so forget about what Tamera did, or what Vicky does; concern yourself with what you do. Ask yourself a few questions before speaking, is what am about to say necessary, going to bless someone, seek peace? What you said to Tamera and Gretchen was certainly not necessary. Maybe you can join a women bible study group where there is accountability just a thought.
Please girls, make this show worth watching again. All the backstabbing and cattiness is taking the fun out. Now you girls are taking sides with each other. After a while it will be impossible to film all of you together. What happened to the way things were with Jeana, Vicki, Laurie and Jo? Find a way to talk things out with each other so friendships can be restored. The show is losing viewers, look at the few number of comments on all your blogs. God bless you all.
People who live in glass houses should not throw stones.
Who cares what your husband does...but lets call it as it is....you spend more of what he makes than put it away for a rainy day....
Your personality just wants to make me cringe...
Alexis are we watching the same show??? Do you not see when you make judgements on the other girls, especially Peggy, go back a few shows, you were not too kind to your friend! YOU DO KNOW WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT JUDGEMENTS! maybe you need a little bible study group instead of a SPA session. In your blog you bring up Tamaras kids--shame on you! You just have to throw those Jabs--Now Now Alexis Is that what Jesus would do???
YOU WROTE A SMART, SENSITIVE BLOG. GREAT, GREAT, ALEXIS!!!!!! I agree with your summary of Tamra. She was flipping out about the "evil eye" joke made by Gretchen at her party, YET, goes ballistic when you see her "can of mace" joke as inappropriate. She might have a lot to regret several years down the line, but you, Alexis, should be proud of yourself, your family and your accomplishments. Your happiness and success is achieved on your own, and NOT at someone else's expense.
Hi Alexis, I hope you embrace the Jesus Barbie comment. They have Dr. Barbie, Vet Barbie now Jesus Barbie please take it as a compliment no matter how intended. It will make you look like you can take a joke and you can still be who you are..... Bye for now Jesus Barbie Alexis!! Nancy
I love you on the show! Yet, I must say I did think you were overracting with the mace. When you entertain things you give them more power than they are worth. I think you should have let it roll off and kept it moving. As a Christian it seems that you try to hold non Christians to the same accountability as yourself and you shouldn't. You should know the character of the person you are dealing with, i.e. Tamra, and react accordingly, with love. I know they hold you to flame based on your religion which you speak proudly about, so be conscious of that, dont treat non-Christians as if they are Christians. It's really unfair...Love ya and as long as you are happy in your home, that's what is important NOT THE SIZE! Not to jab, but look at Vicki, the largest home, but happiness was at a great decline.
Alexis I think that you would be more likable as a person if sometimes you didn't act as if you and your life were perfect. Its hard for people to relate to you because anytime something is said you have to point out how good your life is, or how wonderful your husband is. You make like everything in your life is perfect, and there is no perfect in this world. Humility can be a wonderful thing to add to your life. I respect the fact that you have christian values, I too am a christian. Just make sure that if that is what you claim, you have to understand that you are under a lot of scrutiny. I want to see someone who lives by their christian values instead of talking about them. Make sure that your life reflects the things that you say.
Exactly! Tamra can't complain about how hurt she is by Gretchen's joke when she's doing the exact same thing. The only difference was Gretchen name called and referenced a hat. Tamra brought mace. It was over-the-top and inappropriate to bring. And the fact that Tamra can't even comprehend what she did and understand your feelings shows what type of person she is. If Peggy wants to follow in Tamra's footsteps with the backstabbing, then good luck to her. Peggy and Tamra deserve each other.
I think the mace joke was a lot less hurtful than being called an evil bitch twice in front of a lot of people at your own party. If it was about you it would be different. Just let it go... it's making you look bad and it does make you look like your kissing Gretchen's butt, she's a big girl let her fight her own battles.
Hi sweetie :) I am a sister in Christ, and would like to offer these words of strength; "When critcized, evangelize!" I feel you do your best to love others when they are being difficult to love and you're trying to live for Christ the best way you know how. Being a Christian doesn't mean being perfect (or else why would we even need Christ?) it means trying to live the best way you possibly can as Christ as your role model. Making mistakes is a refining process of character; when you accept and learn from your mistakes, you grow. I see you working on this. Not everyone gets it, so don't feel pressured to explain yourself, marriage or relationship with God :)
I agree. She way over dramatized the mace. It harmed no one, did not ruin the party in any shape or form, and was funny. Take it as the joke it was meant to be. Tamara apologized and she kept it going. ahhh turn the other cheek my dear.
I am so glad you are putting Dr. Niccole's name out there. He is a wonderful surgeon and a wonderful human being. Over twenty years ago he fixed a congenital defect in my breasts. He was kind and compassionate and they still look and feel great! Even after two children!
If Peggy would have went to him the first time, she would not have had to have had them redone! I am living proof of that!
(Sorry...didnt mean to make an infommercial...I am just that passionate about him!)
I agree!! Even though she meant it as an insult.... take it as a compliment girl!!! Jesus-Barbie Alexis, you are my favorite!!
You overreact about the mace, yet you defend Gretchen's evil eye comment. Your actions just scream hypocrisy.
Stay classy, Alexis. You are a rare one with that capacity. And watch out for the reality-show curse: it seems the Real Housewives are ending up the Real Divorcees. You clearly value your marriage, so maybe you want to make this your last season...
Thank you Courtney, you said what i was thinking perfectly and gracefully. I feel Alexis is totally wrong however at the same time I don't want to bash her over the head with her mistakes. I like the way you said it.
I think I would take the Jesus barbie comment as a compliment and go with it. I think you are very lovely. Maybe the next time Tamara wants to have soft core porn on tv or body shots in Cabo, she should say "Hey what would Jesus Barbie do?" I totally got that you were not taking up for Gretchen and that you thought her behavior at Tamaras' party was unacceptable. I dont know Jim but if you two are happy then who are we to judge! And all those people commenting on your financial status...well heck we have all had financial problems at one time or the other, ours just are displayed for everyone to see. I was really disappointed in Tamara and her comments about you losing your home...that was just ugly! Stay nice and take care.
If Alexis was upset by the mace joke, it's her prerogative. It was done at her party, in front of her guests, and she did not like it, and said so TO TAMRA'S FACE, not behind Tamra's back (as Tamra does). Come On guys, maybe it wouldn't upset you, but each of us is different, and what might upset one person, might not upset another. I don't think she is losing sleep over it, and she did the right thing by confronting the person directly. And I agree, Tamra is immature.
must must must must know what lipstick/gloss you were wearing in this episode! I didn't even hear what you and Tamra were discussing, because I was too focused on it.
Alexis it would be nice to see you rise above the criticism and not attack back. It's wrong to say that Tamra can't change and never will. With God all things are possible. The way to show her that is to forgive and not hold grudges. That mace incident was stupid at best but it was obviously a very poor idea of a joke. In other words, there was no way she was going to mace you or anyone else. Admit when you are wrong and accept others for their mistakes as well. I hope you can be friends with everybody because I see that in you. Don't let Gretchen pull you into her hate against Tamra. It's not who you are.
You have a lot of haters out there it's clear--please let them be your motivators. Stick with Gretchen as she is clearly your only friend amongst this bunch.
You have a beautiful family and appear very happy. Remember misery hates company and clearly these women are miserable. It's quite refreshing seeing you and Gretchen happy!
You write, "When Vicki states that she hears our home was in foreclosure, I was thinking, "Hmm, why didn't she pick up the phone and call me to find out what was going on?" Then I remembered who I was dealing with. Do I ever expect her or Tamra to ask me anything before beginning gossip in the rumor mill?"
I do recall that on the show, Tamra asked you point blank about it when she came over to your house to discuss the mace joke. Not sure you should really throw Tamra's name in that.
Also, I love your personality, but let go of the mace joke. It's not like they actually got it out and threatened to spray anyone with it. It was simply a joke! I think you are the one over-reacting and it's sad because you are a much better person than that!!
Thank you for navigating through this season with grace and dignity! Throughout the housewives shows it seems to me that the ladies get sooo sensitive and argue over trivial things in order to make aliances with the other housewives. Please stay the course and resist the temptation to "mix it up" with the other women when they are being catty or overly sensitive.