Today is Easter! Christ has risen! What an amazing day! My kids wake up to cotton balls all over the house "proving" that Peter Cottontail did actually come drop off the Easter baskets! (It's fun to see their expressions, but it sure is a lot of work to clean up!) Then we go to our family brunch and egg hunt and then church! This Easter Pastor Jentezen flew in live lions for the church set, so the kids are pretty excited!
Slade's birthday surprise for Gretchen was such an amazingly thoughtful, fun, and spontaneous gift! I loved it! Jim almost had a painting of me done last year for our anniversary, so I totally related to it and thought Slade hit a home run. Gretchen was a great sport with the painter pants, and I love the painting they made together! The fact that Slade had a portrait of Gretchen made was priceless. It doesn't matter how much the gift is worth, it matters more the thought and meaning...and it was apparent Slade put a lot of time and thought into this special day! This scene is living proof that if you step outside your box (i.e. Gretchen was timid at first but dove right in), it can become one of the best experiences of your life.
When I was driving to Vicki's house, I cannot lie, I was nervous! I didn't know what to expect, and I didn't know why I would agree to go to her home, rather than meet at a neutral location. However, something in me told me to just go. So when she opened the door with a smile and soft hello, I remembered why I liked her. Vicki has this way about her to make you feel OK and comfortable when you are in her presence. The thing I do not understand is that I thought our conversation went so well. When I was driving home that night, I thought she was truly happy for me and that she seemed happy for Alexis Couture. However, when I watched this episode, it shocked me to hear the things come out in the interview. She was acting kind and supportive to my face, and then BAM! She throws a dig at me behind my back. Vicki states, "What's with the dresses? How can she do that? Last I heard she was a fitness instructor...so which is it?" Now why in the heck didn't she tell me that to my face -- at her house? Why didn't she just be real with me? That's all I want from these girls. I'm not being judgmental, I'm simply asking a question. And for the record, yes, I did just start a dress line. I graduated from college with a marketing degree, changed my mind about my career, and ended up managing a health club for a few years, and now I'm designing dresses. Yes, it's called the American dream, it's called thinking outside the box, and I may even change my mind tomorrow and decide to become a chocolatier. Who is to stop me? People don't have to be labeled a certain way. Last I heard Vicki was making robes and some eyelash product. Isn't that the same as what I'm doing? Insurance sales to robes to eyelashes? Hmm. We can all chase our dreams, and I did just that.
Then Vicki continues to say, "Alexis thinks she's in the big girl world. She's got a lot to learn." Yes, I do have a lot to learn. Bring it on! I love the challenge, I am not afraid, and I learn from my mistakes. I love everything about life. Plus, when Vicki was my age do you think she was sitting back thinking, "Oh, I'm only 34 years old. I have way too much to learn to start this insurance company. I am too young to do anything." No, she was 34 years old and ambitious. If someone has a talent, why sit back and wait? Seize the opportunity, and if you fall along the way, you pick yourself up and start again. At least that is how I live my life. A few moments later I say, "Yes, but I'm married to a man who's had a lot of life lessons." Jim is fifteen years older than me, and I am so blessed to have a best friend who is also my husband and who has already made a lot of the mistakes! He gives me sound advice -- sometimes I listen, sometimes I don't, but the point I was trying to make to Vicki is that just because I am young, doesn't mean I'm not wise enough to ask my other half for advice when I need it.
alexis i just love you! why? because you keep it real. all the other girls are just jealous bottom line.(except gretchen). they all wish they had what you have.
I love your honesty and it's refreshing to see. Everyone is just jealous of how stunning you are. I wish you and Gretchen would share tips on what your workout routine is for legs and abs!!
I understand that your man and family come first, but seriously- you need to be able to go somewhere without falling apart just because your husband isn't around. I get that you miss him and want him to share all moments with you, and we have all experienced longing for our partners when we were alone at a dinner party or an event at some point or another BUT COME ON! When I heard you say "Without Jim I didn't know what to do or what to say, I was so overwhelmed." I really just wanted to reach through my TV screen and smack some sense into you! He wasn't there but for a few hours, you're a grown woman! Surely you can just take the situation for what it is, enjoy the good food, go home and call it a day. If the women on the show are that horrendous and cause you some kind of anxiety where you can't bear to be alone with them, then perhaps you should just refrain from being on the show altogether.
I hope you find it within yourself to have an identity separate of your man, while still having a happy marriage. I'm sure you think you do, and that anyone who thinks otherwise does not understand what you have, but it utterly makes me cringe to watch a woman not being able to go through life without the support of a man. As a Christian woman myself, I find confidence in my walk with God in regards to all aspects of my life, with or without a man present by my side.
PS: I do agree with some other comments that you were a bit harsh with your dress designer, the dress is gorgeous, and I agree that the sleeves didn't need to be there but it was obvious she had put her sweat and tears it, and for you to tear away at her work with cheap scissors was a tad mean... You could have told her kindly. but firmly to remove them at a later time.
You and Gretchen are truely the most real and honest housewives on the show. Peggy should have been more understanding of how you were feeling that evening at her dinner party.
Alexis, I just love you. Remember always stay true to yourself, you did not have to tell the ladies where Jim was, it was nobodys business. You did not have to lie to anyone, next time just tell them he was not able to come, and that is the truth you don't have to explain the reason to anyone. As christians we all have some she/he devils that come into our lives and we just need to pray for them. You know who your real friends are and you know that you can always count on God he will never let you down. Be strong my sister in Christ.
Everyone just proved themselves after this last episode at Peggy's dinner party. My advice for you would be to not do the show next season. Work out your issues and don't get so caught up in this so called OC lifestyle. It will ruin you. You seem like a nice person deep down and as I had suspected, there are some insecurities going on. You don't have to have perfect this and perfect that to be happy. Appreciate the important things in life, namely your family and real friends. Good luck to you.
Hi Alexis,Just wanted to say You are awesome!And that dress did look much better without the sleeves, but you could have been a little bit nicer about cutting them off of the dress,that poor designer looked like she was going to burst in to tears.
Alexis you look so much prettier this year and I hated to see you so upset last night. Maybe Jim is right about staying away from the evil women.
For furture reference be mature at a party and be gracious towards your hostess; leave your baggage at door put on a happy face and enjoy. You were bucking for drama queen of the evening; it was kinds of embarrassing!
Alexis, I love you. I think you should have a show by yourself. I love your husband to. I think you guys are a good wittness for marriage. I can't stand Vicky and Tamera and I have to keep turning the show off. The two of them are sooooo mean.They are complete gossips. Hurtfull and potty mouths. Your husband is right to avoid them all. Bravo please fire Tamra . Also Peggy can go to. She is not your friend Alexis. She only thinks of herself.
Your'e very right about Gretchen being your only true friend on the show. The other so called women acted like junior high mean girls. Can't believe grown women act like that. Keep you great Christian ways, you know people are always going to pick on us Christians but you just hang in there.
Just keep being the class act you are Alexis. Like Laurie and Gina (sp?) you are one of the small group of H/W's who don't act like 12 yr old mean girls. All that giggling and talking behind their hands make them look like children. Mean little children. People like that aren't worth your time.
The dress did look much better without the sleeves in the way, they looked like moth wings. When you cut the sleeves off, the dress looked beautiful.
You are my favorite housewife, Alexis! I love that you are outspoken about your faith and always act with class. You are definitely the nicest of the ladies and I completely agree they should say comments to your face not behind your back.
I can't wait to see your dress line. I hope you make some more casual dresses that are available to all of us!
Mark 4:19 But the worries of the world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the desires for other things enter in and choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful.
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Luke 6:36-38 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. And do not judge and you will not be judged; and do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; pardon, and you will be pardoned. Give and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, they will pour into your lap. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.
Alexis, You are gorgeous and I know your heart is in the right place. Don't let Tamara bug you. She is just a different bird and a little insecure. I'm sure with your faith, you can see when someone is very defensive, they are scared. Anyway...shallow subject loved your lipgloss. lipstick you had on in your housr when Tamara came over....can you tell us what it was???
You blogged about the castmates and your interpretations to their actions on the show. What did you think about your own actions when you took the pair of scissors and cut your design? Why did you need to do that? Someone invested a lot of time into your design and she kept asking you to not cut it and you started going on about yourself. Why didn't you just make a dress without the sleeves also? I lost a lot of respect for you when you felt you didn't have control and someone else had an opinion.
Oh can't wait to buy your entire line. I guess I will have to add an entire closet to my double wide trailer so I can own all of these glitzy - flashy pieces. My husband will have to wait to get a new set of teeth. I need those clothes.
What comes around goes around. Your blog needs to be about you. Hold your head high. You will look like the better one if you don't even even mention any conflict. People have already formed an opinion of you and everyone else, There really is no need to justify how you have handled any situation, if you are confident in yourself and your God. Treat people with respect and kindness as if you were a pauper.
Don't ever feel as if you have to justify yourself to anyone, not even yourself. I agree about the whole Renaissance person thing. One the one hand, its great to focus and be an expert on one thing. On the other, back in classical times, it seems like it might have been common for people to be doctors, philosophers, painters, poets, and saints all at once. Why not now also? It doesn't matter if you go to school for something or if you don't or if you have a reason or the credentials to start a project. We do things in life because we want to, and that is all the reason anyone really needs. Just be happy and confident and don't let others determine what is right for you or valuable. I just wouldn't take Vicki's comments too seriously or personally. You should take pride in what you do as she does herself.
Not sure if you ever respond to these comments but I would love to know where you got the necklace you wore once while shopping with Peggy and Gretchen; then again while trying on your dress line this past episode. It is shaped in an outline of a clover/flower and it is gold.
The definition of Couture: the business of designing, making, and selling fashionable custom-made women's clothing
I commend you for taking the sancticy of marriage seriously. However, I think that there is a difference between an affair and a drunken smootch. It was wrong but nobody was there and can say for sure what was going on in Tamaras head. What I do know is that there really was no point in Fernanda bringing it up.
As a professing Christian, I wish your actions reflected your words. You can tell a Christian by the fruit that they bear...
I thought the dress was much more wearable without the sleeves. If the designer did work for you, then it was your right to take the sleeves off, regardless of the time it took to put them on. That is what prototypes are all about. I thought Vickie's comments about your dress line were mean spirited. Over the course of our lives, we will try many things to see what works at what point in our lives. So what if you were a fitness instructor first? People reinvent themselves all the time and I think Vickie, being so absorbed in her business life, will someday recognize that her identity shouldn't be solely derived from her work, which is what it appears that she is doing.
Alexis, Im starting to like you a little more this year. I think you were right about the dress and i think you went to the extreme because she prob wasnt going to listen to what you wanted. And I think its great what your doing when the iorn is hot you got to strike and not hold back its always good to see someone persue a dream. And i agree with you about Tamara I dont care how drunk i got my husband wouldnt like me to kiss a friend even if its another female. Theres a certain respect you have to show to your partner and thats not the way you show it.
I would have let her keep that dress and design another one without the long sleeves. She worked long and hard and obviously put her heart into that dress and you ruined it! You need to work with her along the way. Not after the dress is already made!
oh people, I would love to come on this show so you can experience a real housewife, most of them are single , so tey should change the name of these shows I sometimes wonder if this is all acting ,cause they can't possibly be this dramatic
All of the people hating on you because you cut the sleeves have no idea what goes on in business. Do you really think in a couture line people are running around saying - Please change this or please change that? No - if she (the seamtress) was working FOR YOU then she should have listened to what you said and said - yes Alexis or offer a suggestion like - perhaps we can make one with sleeves or one without? As a business person you must be in control. I agree with another viewer who said if you were a man we wouldn't even be having this conversation!
I'm SURE you know that Tamara didn't cheat with Fernanda, it's just another dig you're using to try and make her look bad. To say you're a Christian, you're very judgmental and offensive. That's just my opinion, sorry.
I am a real fashion designer just thought you should know the real meaning of the word Couture. Couture is a common abbreviation of haute couture refers to the creation of exclusive custom-fitted clothing. Haute couture is made to order for a specific customer, and it is usually made from high-quality, expensive fabric and sewn with extreme attention to detail and finished by the most experienced and capable seamstresses, often using time-consuming, hand-executed techniques.
You are so awesome. Please don't think twice about what others are saying about you. You only have God to answer to. You have great taste, always go with your intuition. As for Vicki..she is a snake, watch your back with her. She is so jealous and it shows. Love, love, love ya. Keep up the good work!!
Gretchen, I always love to hear what you have to say. You are so honest, which is exactly how I am. You are honest and do not put up with crap. Keep on being you!
I agree with one of post that said maybe you should observe your seamstress sewing for one day and then maybe you'll have a better understanding of what actually goes into making a dress since you have no clue what it is like to sew.I hope that lady never works with you again.
Ok, the dress looked great both ways and if I had the body, money or occasion I would totally wear it either way! But Alexis I am sure you know that you could have been a bit more tactful. Hindsight is always 20/20 so live and learn, it seems like you generally do. Go for your dreams and who knows what you will accomplish! That will set a wonderful example for your girls that they can be their own person with dreams too.
And please enlighten me, where do the lions fit into the Easter story? I am not remembering them in there at all. A donkey on Palm Sunday but no lions.
Best wishes in your future endevors what ever you dream them to be.
Alexis....after last year I was not sure you could do anything to put you back on top but I like the Alexis you are this year. You seem to me to be more of Alexis and less of Jim's wife. I like to see women who own who they are and not just a wife to someone. You go girl!
Absolutly love you stick to your guns and be true to yourself!! Thank you for also sticking by Gretchen as a true friend and defending her to selfish people aka Tamara!
I'm on your side all the way. Cheating is cheating. And business is business.
Honestly. If you were a man and you had hired someone to sew your designs and then you saw it and thought, this would be better with short or no sleeves and then cut them, if you were a man, you'd just be applauded. But since you're a woman, you're going to be looked at as 'severe'.
So, you're absolutely right - cheating is cheating ESPECIALLY since their marriage was in trouble. And you are right to make that dress what you want.
She shouldn't be so sensitive.
Gotta agree with the comments about the Lions. The stress caused to animals flying cargo is unthinkable and wrong...and I don't care if they were sedated it's just wrong. What was your Pastor thinking in showing them off in an Easter celebration? I don't get that at all. And the expense? Really? Not criticizing you as I think you just don't know any better and were just thinking about your kids and how they'd love it, but now you have been informed --exploiting animals isn't the way to delight children. Take them to a zoo who focuses on their animal welfare in the spirit of conservation. I would love it if you would send the comments about the Lions to your pastor and maybe consider a church that is a little less extravagant. That is just weird. Good luck to you.
Alexis, while I think you are a great mom, wife, you are smart, and no doubt beautiful I feel like you really need to check yourself and do some soul searching. It bothers me that you say you wake up every day and try to do what Jesus would do but do you really think Jesus would slam the ladies like you do? I know it is hard when they are dishing it out but when you are preaching that you are so Christen this and Christen that please rise above. Yes, Christens are allowed to make mistakes and can ask for forgiveness but again you are smart and you say godly so just rise above.
Alexis, I think it's great that you represent your Christian faith openly in such an 'anything goes' society. Although you're my favorite of the cast members, I do think at times you do come across as being somewhat vain which is against Christian principle. Also, it seems that you try to hold on to the world's way of doing things and hold on to your faith at the same time and we either have to be hot or cold, not somewhere in between.God says we're to be IN the world, but not OF the world so that you can be an effective witness for Christ. Unfortunately, I don't think that wearing tight, revealing clothes (you can look great w/out looking frumpy believe it or not) having drinks regularly, and constantly showing your high maintenance is an effective way to promote Christianity. The way you treated your dress designer was SOOO not Christian, I was shocked to see you talk that way...almost like a power trip. (I'M the boss!!) Doesn't give you the right to undermine her efforts. We're not perfect and never will be, but we should continuously be growing.
I just wanted to say that I think that dress was gorgeous and the material was amazing...but it looked a 1000 times better when you cut that sleeve off! I wouldn't feel comfy in it as it was but I would buy it and love it with the short sleeves. You've got an excellent eye!
You are one of my favorites and I appreciate your honesty and your guts. Who cares if you didn't go to design school - you know what looks good and since your name is going on the product then it should be your vision too.
Seriously, the insults lobbed at you over your new venture are ridiculous. I don't hear any of those stone throwers complain about the lack of chemistry degrees sported by all these celebrities with perfume and make up lines. LOL
Alexis, That dress was stunning with the sleeves ON!! I THOUGHT YOU LOOKED SO BEAUTIFUL WITH THE DRESS ON IN THE PREVIEWS WITH THE SLEEVES!!! That Dress with the sleeves ON is what SOLD ME on your Dress Line!!!! The Dress wore by you is def. RED CARPET MATERIAL!!! Joan Rivers would be Proud!!! LOVE IT!!