The girls' day of shopping with me, Gretchen, and Peggy was such a fun day. I actually thought it was funny that Gretchen answered the door wearing a tiara! I knew it was her way of saying, "It's over and done with." It looked as though I am frustrated about it, but looking back I truly feel it was funny! I don't take anything like that serious with Gretchen, because we are so close. The funniest part is that she even got a license plate frame that says, "This is What a Princess Looks Like." It shows she has a good sense of humor regarding that whole hiccup between us. Good friends argue, and good friends make up. Arguing can be done without name calling and back-stabbing, believe it or not!
Now we are off to Charlie Palmer's for dinner and girl talk... Wow, that was definitely some girl talk! I remember leaving that night thinking how much fun we all had and how great we all got along! Something important to know is that this date at Charlie Palmer's occurred six months ago, and boy have things changed since then. Peggy was a good friend to me at this dinner, and I still had not seen her true colors. After seeing the last two episodes, it's apparent that Peggy had already written me and our friendship off. (Wonder who her influence was...)
However, it was difficult for me to watch the conversation between the three of us once the topic turned to sex. This was one of those times when my head was ducked under the pillow on my couch as I watched... I used bad judgment and it was in poor taste. (But news alert -- married Christian women do have sex with their husbands.)
When it looked as though I was once again competing with Peggy, it was actually my way of relating to her and saying, "I totally get that closet thing..." The one thing Peggy and I have in common is that we both have small toddlers that need a lot of our attention. Peggy needs to chill, I'm not one-upping her, I'm simply relating to the one part of our life that is similar -- young kids and sneaking in the closet.
Aw, you seem like such a wonderful wife and mother! It is sad that it seems that you have to defend yourself and marriage so much, but that is reality tv. Don't forget that only you and Jim know what's really happening...
Awww Alexis, you really do try very hard to be a good person. It shows. Not to worry. Most of us get you.
Sorry to see the new girl is so so competitive with you. It's obvious now that she is the one trying to outdo you but says it's the other way around to cover her tracks. How embarrassing for her......Ouch!
The Closet! Who knew there were others out there who do The Closet! HA!!!!! We haven't done the closet in quite sometime.....the kids have grown and out.....but I do remember very well our Closet time.....what are ya going to do when the urge strikes! We could never close our bedroom door, needed to hear the children.....so.....we closed the closet door.....they never looked for us in The Closet. Ha! Here's to The Closets across America!
Oh Wait....does this mean I was trying to outdo Peggy? I ask sarcastically.
For a Christian woman, you are remarkable unconcerned with any matters of real substance. Thus, your constant referencing of yourself as Christian is a bit off putting.
It really bugs me when people say they are a christian over and over again. Who are they trying to convince? Themselves? All I can say is good for you. I've been trying to be one for many years and it's a really hard thing to be. Actions speak louder than words. You obviously are upset and angry at Peggy, Tamara, and Vicki. Being unable to forgive is a form of self abuse. You really need to find some way to forgive them and move on. You do seem to genuinely love your family and do what ever needs to be done for them. I'm sure you are a great mom.
Stop judging Tamra, The bathtub scene may not be in your taste, but it's not your job to judge it, practice what your preach!
Wow you say you are a Christian, yet you are still hating on Vicki and now Peggy! Is it because Vicki likes her and is friends with her now? Isn't that what the comment ""Wonder who her influence was"" in your blog is for!! Not very Christian like of you! If you don't want people to talk about about your marriage , maybe you should stop talking about it in every episode! Enough already, put it away already! Can you say one sentence on the show without mentioning Jim's name, don't think so!
Hi Alexis, You come off so much better this year!! I don't think you are making excuses, but I don't feel like you need to explain yourself as much as you do. Much of the stuff you talking about is perfectly normal. Would I be OK with my husband talking to me that way? NO. but we all have our own relationships. I like you a lot more this season, but I wish you'd feel comfortable being you. Or maybe you are comfortable, but I wish you didn't feel the need to explain it. Your life is fine. It's fun to watch! :) Till next episode!
Alexis, I'm a Mom of four who has recently lost close to 100 pounds. You always look so put together and classy. Any pointers on how to do this on a budget? You are so real and I've seen a little change since last year. Thank you
I love your dress that you wore when you first arrived in San Diego. What brand is it? Where can I get one? Thanks!
I love your take on the show and your Christian standards...That is what it is all about..doing the best you can, trying to better who you are, being a good wife and mom. You are a beautiful person and don't need to make excuses or explain yourself to anyone, although you do have a show to run... I wasn't a fan of Jim's until the suitcase scene. I thought that was hilarious and it showed that you two don't take yourselves too seriously!
You are a classy, amazing wife, mom and servant of the Lord. Yo are an inspiration who gives me hope. You sin but own it. I truly admire you. Stay true to yourself as always.
You are an amazing wife, mother, and servant of the Lord...and a class act. You sin but own it and learn...Stay true to yourself.
Well said, Alexis. I think the intelligent viewers realize that your husband is not really how he's shown on the show, or else you wouldn't be married to him. He clearly takes care of you, emotionally & materially. People are going to think whatever they want and you need to stop defending your marriage to every naysayer.
Too bad about your friendship w/ Peggy. It seems to me the camp lines have been drawn & it's now you & Gretchen vs. the others. Well, I am one of MANY who are on your team!!!! Peggy seems like she'd fit in well w/ Vicki & Tamra. Hahahaha!
I just want to say that I think you have been a bit of fresh air to the ROHC. I have watched this show from the beginning and I think the seasons just keep getting better. Some people may judge you and your relationship, but as long as you and Jim are happy in your relationship that's all that matters. I'm a stay at home mom, not in Orange County but in rural Iowa, and while we come from two different lifestyles we have similar roles. My husband is the provider for our family and I do check with him before I do things like go out with my friends and even when it comes to spending large amounts of money. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. It's not my husband being controlling, it's just how we communicate and how we decide to run our marriage. But it's a two-way street, my husband checks with me before he goes out with his friends too. It's not that I have complete control over whether or not he goes out, but more of just a quick "Hey is it ok if I go out tonight?" I sometimes get aggravated when the other housewives ridicule you for having nannies, supposedly being controlled by your husband, and not being independent. It's so easy for people to judge when they're looking in from the outside. It's a whole different story when your living it and you know what really happens. Anyways, after all the rambling I just want to say that I totally don't agree with the other housewives. I think you are a great role model for other moms and I think that you and Jim have a great relationship! Keep up the good work with your kids and being real!
Don't let that caller from Watch What Happens Live get to you......you ARE a good representative of Christianity and you've done nothing to be ashamed of. It's not like you were filmed getting busy in a bathtub with your boyfriend! >wink!
No apologies ???? Maybe not but u have spent 3 pages of blog to defend your marriage-husband !!! If you r happy and " it works for you " then why r you spending so much time defending ?? And I saw the look in ur face at the zoo when Jim was being his usual smart a$$ . The look was a little obvious !! Anyway if u love ur arrangment u should never have to spend any time defending it. It's getting old
Hi Alexis! I want to start off by saying this is the first time I've ever commented on a blog!! I just got done watching tonight's episode and your appearance on WWHL and I wanted to say that I've been a fan of the Housewife franchise since the first OC season 1 and I've never said any housewife was my favorite just because there are so many greats but after watching you tonight YOU are my FAVORITE HOUSEWIFE!! I am a married woman (not yet a mom) who has a passion for fashion, fitness and my Christian faith. I love having a housewife that is so relatable to my life. Its refreshing to see someone (on reality TV) that has a commitment to being a Christian and their actions (and words) reflect that commitment. I thought it was so cool when you said "God first, then our marriage, then the children" my husband have the same beliefs and I had to rewind, call him in the room and show him!! One last thing, I also loved the scene last week with you and Tamara at the gym, my husband and I are both in the fitness industry and too often I see mom's that feel guilty for taking time away from their kids to workout but what they don't see is that being in great shape helps you be a better mom (you have more energy, can keep up with them, etc.) Your demonstrating that staying in great shape takes work but its worth the effort not only for you (and your husband "wink-wink" :) but also your kids too! Great season so far!!
LOVE YOU ON THE SHOW. You are right to call Vicki on her sh**t. PS, the reason Vicki won that poll on Andy is because she made all her employees text in and vote a dozen times for her side. Sad but true.
It never fails with you. On air, on your voice-overs, you complain or saying something, like irritated with your husband and unpacking and him flying the kite,etc, and saying have patience, and then you come on your blogs and totally gloss over with your newer version of the events. There is nothing wrong with complaining. All men leave the unpacking to the wives. Jim is no different. He's a guy. Typical. You were irritated. But you come on here and gloss it over. I like you better on the show when you show your real emotions, rather than your sanitized version on here.
Alexis, Please stop trying to "sell" us on Jim. Did you ever hear the saying..."Thou protest too much'? If he is a good man, people will see it. Unfortunatly, he is chauvinist (deep down you know this). He may make good money but money does not make a good daddy or husband. Jim had the chance to bond with his little boy and said No. He says NO alot, when it comes to putting someone else first. Alexis, dont confuse Jim buying you things with respect and love. OK, now onto your "judgment" of Tamera. You my friend have NO room to talk! You are just as catty as the best of them! And even better, you come across as snobby and VERY opinionated! You form opinions out of one side of your mouth and then out of the other side you state how your not here to judge! Make up your mind sweetie!
Your innocence is a breath of fresh air! You do not need to defend your actions to the viewers. I think we can read between the lines!
I see a big change in you this season, a much more grounded person who does well with her children. I saw last week where the biting event happened. Good job, it is great to see parenting that is effective and not physical. My son bit and it is very hard to take and time outs and taking things away worked for me.
I still do not see much improvement with Jim. Honestly he is not worth the effort and he is not getting any younger, nor charming or better looking. Good luck you seem to be doing so well.
Can you please tell me who makes that black maxi dress with the black and white woven straps you were wearing to go to SD? It is so adorable
Too much competition between you and Peggy, Gretchen and Peggy... it was too awful and childish to watch. I switched to CNN and some true reality.
Too bad Jim didnt put some of the luggage where James would be riding with you, I felt terrible for James!
You know.. I've never really been a big fan of you.. Last season I just didn't get you. I realize you're under a little fire and involved in a few more sticky situations this season.. but, for whatever reason, I really like you this season. I like the way you're handling yourself. You & I have different opinions about religion and salvation, but I still respect you. Stay strong and proud. Hang in there!
Totally get you. It's very unfortunate the whole story isn't out there, but like you said, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone. You do you, and whether the things you do is good or bad, people will always talk.
The whole bathtub scene I think wasn't necessary , but I'm sure there is a reason it was put on the show ;) and whatever gets good ratings right? Haha
Also, I know you bump heads with Vicki, but hopefully you two will see eye to eye. Since we all mistakes and no one is perfect, we should all be given another chance to understand each other.
Wishing the best of everything for you and your lovely family.
Alexis you are Stunningly Gorgeous! One word of advice...Never tell people how Beautiful you KNOW you are. It makes you ugly and you have too much going on to go there....With that said....I have to know what the name of your designer sunglasses you had on in while on vacation in LaJolla ......Please! Luv them!
I commend you for putting yourself out there on this show and for admitting that you have and will make mistakes (like ALL of us humans) and that you will you do your best to learn and grow from those mistakes. Keep up the good work taking care of your children and husband. As you know, your children won't be this small forever so keep enjoying their lives with them.
P.S. I loved it when Jim kissed everyone and said something like "be blessed in the Lord today". That was great!
thank you for clearing this up. Bravo's editing makes you look very subservient to your husband. They(Bravo producers) make Jim look detached and frustrated with kids. I hope its ALL EDITING. The scene in the jewelry store was enough for me...I mean he bought himself a $27,000 dollar watch and didnt get you anything. My reaction was: Appalled. I think you are great mother and you love your husband dearly. I would like to see the bravo team edit more scenes with him looking like has a good time with family, instead of a controlling,bossy,well off, husband who appears to not like his kids too much.
fyi: i think your a very classy women. Pretty as hell!
I wish Bravo would show the side of your husband that you talk about (funny, etc)...because after last nights episode, I am even more dumbfounded as to why such a beautiful woman would put up with his crap. Bravo - help us out here and show that Alexis is right in what she says!! :)
You are a great mother!! Don't get caught up in the drama or worry about the negative, catty comments the other housewives make about you.
Regardless of what we see a viewers, I feel that you are always following the episodes with addendums to your husbands behavior. I understand you are protective as all wives should be and don't want the negative assumptions towards your marriage but I think it makes it worse that you try so hard to make him look like a great man. Let his actions speak for himself and don't feel the need to explain!
You definitely seem like you are always explaining yourself and your husband's behavior and btw he did seem like a jerk on this episode! If your marriage works for you then it does so please STOP with the excuses- it's annoying.
What would happen if you told Jim to get up and get his own toast or make his own snack? My husband would never treat me like that and if he barked orders out like that at me, there would be a problem because not only do I respect him I expect to receive respect in the same manner. I don't get the comment that you made about Jim only being able to be around his children for a few hours at a time. It's been several years now since the kids arrived, isn't he used to them yet?
I know that you addressed this issue in your last paragraph, but you really DO seem to be constantly defending yourself or explaining yourself in your blogs. I enjoy watching you and your family on the show and I hope that you get over this fear of being judged that you seem to have.
Alexis, lat season I worried that maybe you were drinking the Kool-Aid that your husband made and that you weren't really seeing reality. I have now changed my mind because I see that your life works for you. You seem happy in your role as wife, mother and friend. Also, according to your blog, you seem to be the only one on RHOC that can admit to mistakes and to let the readers know that you learn from them. We are all works in progress. And I completely agree with your assessment of Tamra. WHAT can she be thinking? She is so caught up in herself and sticking it to Simon that she's compromising herself as a woman. Anyway, keep being you and don't let this show change you!
Alexis you are such a strong and BEAUTIFUL woman. It is so obvious that you are a wonderful mommy and your husband seems to be a sweetheart with you and your kids. I truly look up to your family!
Its not so much excuses, but explanations for your husband, your behavior or why your kids act thet way they do-who cares-its your life-own it and stop explaining it away. Jeez!
Yes you are competing with Peggy. You don't like being on the bottom list so you try so hard to be on top. One upper! Out of all the housewives, you are very dependent. Always depending on your husband. Doing everything your husband says and guess what? You can't complain coz he's the one who makes all the money. You need to be like Gretchen, she works hard for her money and nit depending on somebody.
I know you say "you wonder who is influencing Peggy" about not being your true friend, I think we know who is influencing you. Tamara says what is on her mind. She did not make a comment that was behind your back. So what if she said she did not think your marriage would not last, you just said your opinion of the bathtub scene was soft porn. What is the difference. Unless you keep your mouth shut and your opinions to yourself, you are just as bad.
Alexis, Alexis, Alexis!!!
I so appreciate seeing your relationship on public TV becuase I too am a Christian woman/wife. But what I don't understand about you is your ability to compromise your walk with God to prove things to others. I totally get being submissive to your husband. But again, what I don't understand is how his attitude is displayed toward you and the children. You really don't have to explain to anyone why you do what you do. For some reason you make excuses for everything. If you feel that you are doing the right thing as it pertains to being a Christian wife, then WHY EXPLAIN... ??? Especially if no one asked to you to. I can see if you Andy was interviewing you asking you questions, but you took it upon yourself to write a 3 page letter to explain every questionable interaction to viewers.... you sound very insecure. And by the way, the Bible teaches that the husband is suppose to love the wife as Christ loves the Church. Meaning, his actions should display love, respect, and equal contribution to the well being of both the kids and you as His wife. If Christ treated us in the same manner as your husband treats you ... then I would not be a Christian. I pray that you search the scriptures for yourself and stop depending on Jim to display and/or explain the meaning of scripture. Based on what I've seen displayed on TV, you talk the talk, but you don't walk what you truly believe. A person should know you are a Christian without you having to same ONE word. Your actions speak louder than words ...