Now, moving on to the most controversial matter at hand -- Peggy and Jim dating fifteen years ago. I must first tell all of you that from the minute Jim and I became boyfriend/girlfriend eight years ago, we told each other we would not discuss our past relationships. This went both ways. We both knew that we had both been married once before, we both had past relationships, and neither of us wanted to know the details about those past relationships. This is not keeping secrets from each other. We both had exes in the same town, and we didn't want to discuss details. If one of us asked the other about a certain person, then of course we would tell all, but if neither of us asked, we didn't really care to know. This was an agreement Jim and I BOTH felt was important. So if there were ever a time that I would have ASKED Jim if he dated Peggy, he would have told me. But I honestly would never think Jim would date her, so it never crossed my mind. The fact of the matter is that when I found out they had dated, of course I was angry with Jim for not telling me. Jim and I had to have many discussions about it. However Jim and I worked through it. The problem I have is that Peggy and I did not have that sort of an agreement. Peggy was my girlfriend and should have told me the minute she felt it was important enough to ask Jim to tell me. In fact, if the roles had been reversed, and Micah would have asked me not to tell Peggy, I would have looked Micah in the eyes and said, "I'm sorry Micah, I have to tell her." Then I would have gone straight to Peggy and told her. Since when is friendship about not telling your girlfriend what you feel is important? If Peggy felt the need to mention it to Jim THREE times, then why didn't she tell me? Not to mention the fact that Jim and I had an agreement NOT to talk about our exes. And not to mention the fact that Peggy's loyalty is suppose to be to me, not to Jim. So once again, I see a common theme here. Jim seems to be the center of Peggy's thoughts, not me. She's more worried about the fact that Jim is NOT at her dinner party rather than excited that I AM, and she is more worried about Jim's loyalty in this situation than mine...hmm?
And now, let's move on to the most important GRAND FINALE of this whole spiderweb. Peggy claims she and Jim simply had a couple casual Harley rides and that she is embarrassed she dated Jim? Really? Do a couple Harley rides provoke a girl to show up to her Harley friend's house when he doesn't return her calls? And for the record Jim isn't proud he dated her either. You don't see him running around shouting from the rooftops that he dated her, but he isn't lying about their past relationship. Up until that night at the reunion, I never asked Jim for the details about their relationship. However, there was something I could see in Peggy's meek look, and I had a feeling she wasn't being honest. So during break I texted my husband and asked him to be more specific about the details of their relationship. According to Jim they dated for two or three months, he dumped her, and then she broke into his house when he wouldn't answer her calls. Peggy denies this, but admitted that she went over to Jim's house when he wouldn't answer her calls. On that note, you can all draw your own conclusions.
Alexis I actually feel sorry for you because you don't or CAN'T seem to appreciate the simple things in life, and it really bugs me when I have to watch scene after scene of the show of you trying to go one better than your so called "friends" if they mention their child walked at 11months instead of letting whoever it be enjoy recalling such moments you have to jump in straight away with a reply like ooh my child was singing, dancing and walking at 9months!! It is PATHETIC to see a grown woman just wanting to be above everyone all the time it's really off putting as real friends dont act this way. I think it was very odd how you held so much Venom for Peggy once you found out your husband and her dated briefly in the past, so what girlfriend you shouldn't feel insecure about this if you know Jim Loves you 110% so why let it ruffle your feathers? Trust me you have very little to moan about in Life so start treating people with more respect and you might find people warm to you more when they start to believe your being sincere towards them! Money in my opinion is not good in abundance as people turn into self absorbed heartless humans who do nothing but want want want!! Being materialistic is never attractive and either was seeing you disrespect that poor woman who made that beautiful dress for you and for her to have you storm in with scissors and hack the the sleeves off the dress she had obviously spent hours and hours putting together to me as a viewer that was just totally mean!! By the way the sleeves made that dress stunning without them it was nothing special so next time take a step back and remind yourself that these stylists and designers have spent years learning their craft in the fashion industry so show them the respect you expect from others, if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future. Lets be honest your no fashionista just because you can afford nice clothes from the worlds best designers, and before you can think of yourself in this league you need exceptionally good taste and need to have an eye for what women will want to wear and you clearly have alot to learn as you didnt even know what "couture" meant, which was amusing!! I think its about time you stop and think about other peoples feelings apart from your own! Can't remember the bible asking us all to act like selfish individuals, and just because you go to church this does in NO WAY mean that you are a good person in my eyes! To be seen as a decent person you need to show respect to everyone as nobody is below you in life, we all come into the world in the same way and we all go out the same way! As you are now a mother to your beautiful children then you need to remind yourself their eyes see everything and their ears hear everything so it's your job to ensure the children grow up showing Love and respect to everyone and that manners cost nothing in life!! Dont let them see a negative role model for their sake as nobody wants their kids to grow up being nasty and disrespectful so remember you do lead a very blessed life so appreciate that and STOP with the attitude as it's showing you in a very bad light. :-)
you say you are goodie 2 shoes bt to me you come across fake youv always got to be one better than everyone else you dnt just do it with peggy you do it with everyone tamras right about you.
You have a fab life bt youv gt to add bits to make it look and sound better dose that not say something to you maybe your life isnt as perfect as you say
Alexis! Hi there! Jodie from Texas here. Don't listen to this ppl. You just need to worry about you being happy. Yes, Jim is controlling and you are always trying to make him happy, but that is what you choose to do. I think you're great and if anything...tell Tamra to take a hike where the sun don't shine!!! They are all just jealous! Vicki seems cool, but the others, HATERS!!!! Keep up the great work but get rid of Tamra.
It's so odd to me that a couple would not discuss their past relationships. Very unhealthy, in my opinion. And then for Jim not to discuss Peggy when she became a part of your life, is just so odd to me. Your master is hiding something from you.
I must say my heart goes out to you and your children. Your so blinded by your marriage and how underminded and controlled you are by your husband. Puhleeeze look over the episoded carefully and how you come across(pls dont blame editing) your a hypecrit and extremely jealous of everyone when there absolutely no need to be. If you decide to come back next season I really hope you come back with confidence and a little sense of dignity. Just remember to PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Alexis, This is the first time I'm commenting on either of the RHOC's blogs but reading your last blog... I couldn't keep my thoughts to myself any longer. I think It's really sad that you decide to blame Peggy for keeping her relationship with your husband to herself.... Jim should have told you about the relationship the minute he realized that you and Peggy were becoming close. It was not Peggy's place to tell you something that would put a cloud over your marriage. The way I see it.. If Peggy had told you first, you would have found a way to blame it on her and say that she's jealous of your happyness hence the reason she's telling you about a relationship that happened 15 years ago....Think about it!!! One last thought about this matter: It's ok to say to everyone "my husband was wrong not to tell me, he should have been the one to come to me first, not you!! We've worked that matter out and now we're fine" I think if you had said that from the very beginning instead of blaming it on Peggy, it would not have made that big of a deal. Aside from that, unlike all the women seem to think, I don't think Jim is controlling you. I think you guys agreed on some ground rules when you entered each other's lives and I sincerely think it's none of the other women's business...You do what works for you. If you are as happy as you claim to be in your marriage, Stick to your recipe woman and don't be shy and intimidated to say how your marriage works!!! (Take it from me who's been married 20 years in Hollywood!!)
Alexis, just STOP! It's annoying how much you defend your relationship. Peggy doesn't really say anything about JIM. Who cares? Just you.
Seriously, Alexis I highly doubt that going over to someones home is the same as breaking into it. I still see that you are really seething over the fact that Jim and Peggy had a relationship. Get over it! You are very immature and do constantly try to one up everyone. You are so delusional about everything. I hope you're not even on the show next year. Your comment about women and the presidency is inexcusable.
Alexis, just let the Peggy stuff go. It isn't helping you any to harp on it anymore. The more you explain the worse it gets.
Live in the present and just go about your life!
I don't think the definition of stalking is going to a guy's house that you've been dating ONE time after he didn't answer the phone. Now if she would've continued doing it then maybe you can call it stalking but one time..I don't think so. You obviously can't get over it and it makes you feel better to try and make Peggy look stupid by saying that she was stalking Jim and saying that he dumped her..doubtful Peggy is way to good for him. You and him make a much better match
Alexis, you have got to stop obsessing about Peggy - it really makes you look pathetic. You constantly bringing up Peggy and Jim's past is the only reason the issue has gotten so much attention so shut up about it already! If you really didn't think it was that significant of a relationship then you wouldn't be obsessively talking about it STILL. When you called in to WWHL to bring up the issue AGAIN, you said they dated for 3-4 months.. now in your blog you say 2-3.. so which is it? Did Jim lie about that too? And to say Jim is the center of Peggy's attention is such a joke! You're just mad bc she moved on to find a better looking, more successful man and you got stuck with the ugly loser! You need to get off the show, all you do is embarrass yourself.
Alexis after reading your blog this week it seems you have the hang up on Peggy and Jim's dating experience. People move on from past relationships and honestly if JIM knew you two were friends he should have been the on to tell you no Peggy. Obviously she had put it in the past and you have not that is the only thing you are discussing this week. Peggy is a breath of fresh air to this show this season. Remember what comes around goes around and as I see it Peggy right now is on the higher road then you she has a husband who loves her likes her friends and kids that are just adorable. As for you saying you are a "Christian" your true colors are showing honey.
Not talking about past relationships is one thing, but when someone comes into your life as a friend and you don't make the spouse aware that the friend was your "EX," that's an ENTIRELY DIFFERENT STORY! Honesty is the KEY to a healthy marriage and without it, there is no trust, and without trust, it's NOT a REAL marriage! Peggy IS NOT A PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE, SO YOU CANNOT BLAME HER FOR NOT TELLING! JIM is YOUR HUSBAND and you're in a marriage with HIM, NOT PEGGY; therefore, you should blame HIM for not telling you about he and Peggy's past! I don't care how long your blog is blaming her, SHE IS NOT THE BLAME, so your blog was a WASTE OF TIME!
Jims loyalties were not with you either when he and Peggy talked about them dating and if they should tell you - they had a dirty little secret - and sorry alexis but omission is a lie!!! He knew it would hurt you so he took the sneaky route and didn't tell you - seems to me his loyalties lie with Peggy!!
I am sure that Jim dumped Peggy because she is not subservient like Alexis. One day Alexis will wake up and realize how controlling Jim is.
He was SNEAKY with Peggy, SNEAKY with his finances and SNEAKY with his real estate...thats the only "THEME" i'm seeing!!!
And the conclusion most of us will come to is that you are delusional. I'm with Peggy on this one. It was not her place to tell you about dating Jim in the past. Jim should've told you from the moment the two of you became friends. The fact that you put the onus of that on Peggy speaks volumes about the relationship you have with your husband.
I'm sorry, but you just don't make a lot of sense this season. A reality show shouldn't have ruined a friendship. I think your jealousy did that and would've done that regardless of RHOC.
Alexis, Best wishes to you in all of your future endeavors. One comment I do have for you is that, as a woman, I would much rather hear about my husband's decisions and behaviors from him rather than another woman.
There is one thing we know for sure -- you must always be right. I hope that your turn it around before next season. You become extremely unlikable especially with your last statement on the reunion.
Figured as much Alexis...Peggy is clearly out for her five minutes of fame. She is as fake as her model walk and Tamra/Vicky.
I guess you got the last word......too bad it didn't help your case. It just makes you look petty :(
I am sorry that this season brought out difficult things in your life but that does not give you the right to further smear the perception of Christians. You profess your faith so much on this show anyone would know it but you gossip, make very snide remarks about your cast mates, do not forgive and forget, you are not slow to anger, and you do get wrapped in the gossip from the media even if you say you don't. I am sorry but that is not what being a Christian is. You could give an amazing insight into the lives of a Godly woman but instead you don't. This upsets me dearly. Your husband, in someways, does personify a Godly husband (the episode where he asked you to dress more modestly) but in other ways he also does not. Even if he does not like your fellow castmates it would be easy for him to spend a few hours to support you and kill them with kindness. That is what he should do. Show them that Christians can rise above adversity and the snide comments and really portray what would Jesus do.
you have serious issues if you had to write all of that. You want everyone to believe you have this great marriage yet, he controls you and tells you how to dress! you writing all of that does not make me believe you...it makes me believe Peggy SO MUCH MORE!!!!
Oh my goodness, your blog makes you look even worse Alexis! The fact that Peggy didn't tell you about her relationship with Jim makes her a good friend and despite what you think I can guarantee the rest of God's green world would agree that Jim held the responsibility. Not to be mean, but you might just want to consider cutting your losses at this point and stop talking. Period.
Alexis, You are certifiable. Sometimes I think you just can't express yourself. To continue to blame Peggy when your husband clearly did not want you to know makes him untrustworthy. Do I believe his text? Hell to the no. I loved how Peggy said he should show himself and say that. You are delusional.
Alexis .... no matter what anyone say's I LIKE YOU very much and think you are kindhearted !!! you have nothing to worry about with Peggy - she is getting uglier by the episodes along with Tamra !! I was married to someone very similar to Jim and am very happy to be divorced !! I know you have children and hope you can work it out as a family so that you are truly appreciated and loved !! It is really jim who is lucky !! he can be the head of the family and get up to get his own toast .... you are not a servant !! anyway I wish you well and think you will be a success in whatever you do !!
Wowie lady, your blog actually just made you look even worse. I can promise you that everyone else on God's green earth will agree that it was your husband's responsibility to tell you about his relationship with your friend and that that burden should not fall upon a person outside your marriage; Peggy. Perhaps you should just stop talking. Period.
Alexis, the way you defend Jim's actions, never ceases to amaze me! Your HUSBAND should have told you about his past relationship with your friend. That was NOT Peggy's place to tell you!!! Why in the world would you think it was her responsibility??? Thats insanity!!! "Pack or no pack", commen sense tells you that, your husband should have filled you in. I m dumbfounded at the fact that you continue to defend Jim, over and over and over again!!! Unbelievable!
I am not a fan of yours or Jims but I have to say that if your marriage works for you two, good for you. I don't understand why you have to justify your life to the other women, especially Peggy or Tamara.
Girl, I just got done tearing Tamra up so I am a little tired. There is something about you that I like so believe me when I say that you have not lost people as supporters… yet! But if you keep up all this crap that you have been dishing out…well you are going to have to be friends with Tamra so you can both talk over each other and roll your eyes as the other is talking… dismissing anything anyone else has to say as not important. I have not made up my mind about Peggy yet, so here is my advice… she put on a better show than you. She tried to tell you how she felt and you just can’t shut up long enough to listen to anyone. You just keep talking and talking and talking. Do you think that anyone is going to read all that sh*t you posted? No because it is the same over explaining that no-one wants to deal with. No wonder why your husband doesn’t want to be around everyone, because you don’t know how to end a conversation, debate, or argument. You keep going on and on until we all want to throw something at you. I pray for your husband and kids that they have an off switch and can just stop listening after a while because it would drive someone to walk into a busy road. Would you argue with a wall? What you should do is to think about what you want to say… keep is short… and make it meaningful. You came across as 1) in some sort of competition with Peggy (only she was not in the same race as you) 2) not caring how anyone felt and 3) never letting people finish what they are trying to say. Seek first to understand then be understood. The sight of you doesn’t make me throw up in my mouth so you still have a chance next season to change it… and honey if there is a God he will compel you to shorten the blogs and make them more meaningful.
I feel that if you had an agreement with your husband to not discuss exes then it should have never come up that Peggy and Jim dated. Peggy was trying to respect you and your husbands agreement by not tell you. Also, a 2 month relationship hardly seems like something to lose a friend over. This blog seems like a tool to tare Peggy down and that is definitely not the Christian thing to do. Also, Peggy was repeatedly trying to work things out between the two of you. If you had just come out and said that you weren't over her dating your husband, then she could have backed off to give you room. The worst lie you can tell is that everything is fine.
If u did have postpartum nobody thinnks its funny,its how u do that thing u just did ......i had my postpartum first LMAO! jim says the women are catty and he dont wanna film with them,i mean u were both catty at the reunion texting u that peggy is a stalker then announce it to the world. you need to control your emotions better your hostility towards was apparent the whole season now we know why. goes to show no matter how pretty someone is on the outside they can be so insecure inside.
Well, you're not being paid to get along nicely and drama-free. Of course Peggy had to stir up the drama by bringing up Jim's absence on camera, regardless of whether it was a non-issue at that point. I don't think anyone is tuning in to hear you brag about your kids or see your "couture" designs, any more than we watch to learn about Vicki's insurance business or Gretchen's dumb purses.
If you are going to continue to discuss it publicly, you should know that "postpartum" means the period after giving birth. So anyone who has given birth is "postpartum" regardless of the condition of their mental health. The term you should use in reference to the disease is either "postpartum depression" or PPD if you want to abbreviate it. (Share that message with your friend Peggy too.)
I agree... with you. You can totally tell Peggy wasn't being 100% honest. If you are a TRUE friend, you will tell them what's on your mind, how your feeling, and what your concerns are no matter what!! She didn't do that. I do think she had a loyalty to you as a friend and not to Jim. As far as you "taking jabs" at her all the time... maybe she saw it that way because she was the one competeing with you!! You are beautiful, young, a great mother, wife, and friend. She is missing three out of the five things on that list. You keep doing you and stay who you are..... YOU'RE AMAZING!!!
Alexis -- first and foremost as the one stand-up Christian on the entire show, please remind yourself to be in the world by not "of" the world. You need not explain your beliefs, your marriage, etc. to appeal to these people. You truly know who you are and WHOSE you are. You my dear sister, are playing to the audience of One. You know when they are speaking lies about you/your family -- because you know the truth. And if you know the truth and God knows the truth ... do you truly care what these people think? I'm so sorry for your friendship issues with Peggy -- but again, you have tried to heal that, and judging by the venom she spilled regarding her and Jim pre-Alexis, shouts to me that the relationship isn't worth saving. A friend would just never do that -- let alone in public -- let alone on live television. I pray you no longer allow the "ick" these gals constantly dish out effect you. I wish you and your family the very best ....
You are young, beautiful, a great mom, great wife, and great friend. I think Peggy is trying to compete with you. she is lacking at least 3 of the 5 on that list and she feels that by her trying to compete with you she is staying young... lol... I love you and Gretchen so much!!!
Alexis, I'm sorry but your entire appearance, demeanor and tone just annoy the crap out of me! You drone on and on with such B.S. and I cracked up when Vicki said you would be talking for the whole 5 hours if they let you! Please just admit that it was Jim's place to tell you he dated Peggy, not hers! Your so-called traditional marriage is nothing more than your husband controlling your every thought and movement and treating you like a barbie doll. I sincerely hope you do not return to the show next year-its actually painful to watch you sometimes!
I find it hilarious that you keep talking about how much it doesn't bother you that Jim and Peggy dated yet by continuing to talk about it you just show how much it actually does bother you. You calling into Watch What Happens Live! and texting Jim during the reunion about a relationship that happened 15 years ago when you yourself said you made an an agreement with your husband not to discuss past relationships was stupid. The way you harp on things and overtalk every situation truly makes you unlikeable.
i love you alexis! i love how you never say anything behind anyones back that you wouldnt say to their face. so glad you and gretchen would not back down from the mean girls!
You have become one of the most hated housewives. Very unlikeable and insincere. Hopefully you do not return for another season. You are awful to have to watch on TV.
Really Alexis? Could you be any more insecure or jealous? Why do you feel the need to address every little thing said about you, be confident with you are. You have a good heart, but you are acting very insecure and spiteful to Peggy. Stating that Jim "dumped" Peggy, does that really make you feel better about yourself? Please be the lady you once were Alexis. Stand out from these women for the right reasons!