Alexis Bellino

Alexis addresses her situation with Peggy.

on Jun 15, 2011

Now, moving on to the most controversial matter at hand -- Peggy and Jim dating fifteen years ago. I must first tell all of you that from the minute Jim and I became boyfriend/girlfriend eight years ago, we told each other we would not discuss our past relationships. This went both ways. We both knew that we had both been married once before, we both had past relationships, and neither of us wanted to know the details about those past relationships. This is not keeping secrets from each other. We both had exes in the same town, and we didn't want to discuss details. If one of us asked the other about a certain person, then of course we would tell all, but if neither of us asked, we didn't really care to know. This was an agreement Jim and I BOTH felt was important. So if there were ever a time that I would have ASKED Jim if he dated Peggy, he would have told me. But I honestly would never think Jim would date her, so it never crossed my mind. The fact of the matter is that when I found out they had dated, of course I was angry with Jim for not telling me. Jim and I had to have many discussions about it. However Jim and I worked through it. The problem I have is that Peggy and I did not have that sort of an agreement. Peggy was my girlfriend and should have told me the minute she felt it was important enough to ask Jim to tell me. In fact, if the roles had been reversed, and Micah  would have asked me not to tell Peggy, I would have looked Micah in the eyes and said, "I'm sorry Micah, I have to tell her." Then I would have gone straight to Peggy and told her. Since when is friendship about not telling your girlfriend what you feel is important? If Peggy felt the need to mention it to Jim THREE times, then why didn't she tell me? Not to mention the fact that Jim and I had an agreement NOT to talk about our exes. And not to mention the fact that Peggy's loyalty is suppose to be to me, not to Jim. So once again, I see a common theme here. Jim seems to be the center of Peggy's thoughts, not me. She's more worried about the fact that Jim is NOT at her dinner party rather than excited that I AM, and she is more worried about Jim's loyalty in this situation than mine...hmm? 

And now, let's move on to the most important GRAND FINALE of this whole spiderweb. Peggy claims she and Jim simply had a couple casual Harley rides and that she is embarrassed she dated Jim? Really? Do a couple Harley rides provoke a girl to show up to her Harley friend's house when he doesn't return her calls? And for the record Jim isn't proud he dated her either. You don't see him running around shouting from the rooftops that he dated her, but he isn't lying about their past relationship. Up until that night at the reunion, I never asked Jim for the details about their relationship. However, there was something I could see in Peggy's meek look, and I had a feeling she wasn't being honest. So during break I texted my husband and asked him to be more specific about the details of their relationship. According to Jim they dated for two or three months, he dumped her, and then she broke into his house when he wouldn't answer her calls. Peggy denies this, but admitted that she went over to Jim's house when he wouldn't answer her calls. On that note, you can all draw your own conclusions.