I have never once had Tamra, Vicki, or anyone else that continues to talk badly about Slade call to ask about the truth and find out what is really going on in regards to his situation with Gray. If these women had any integrity at all they would not be spouting off in regards to a parent who has a very ill child. Slade will always choose to pay medical bills first before he pays towards child support, because he wants to keep his child alive! They have never once been around Slade and his kids, they have never seen how much his boys love and adore him, and the saddest part of all is that Tamra has never asked how Grayson was doing. At least Vicki has had the decency to ask how he was doing. Tamra instead finds it fun to just sit back and make fun of a man who is losing his child to cancer. Do any of you find that a laughing matter, because I sure don't. Tamra has never met Grayson's mother, and would have no reason to ever communicate with her. Grayson's medical condition, and Slade's child support has nothing to do with her, and it just goes to show how desperate she is to try and involve herself in our life in some way or fashion. Again just creepy!
If Tamra for one second could get her head out of her a-- long enough to actually hear the truth, she would know that Slade is the one that requested to go to court and get a reduction in child support because his income changed drastically. Although I don't think it's anyone's business what Slade's situation is, I find it important to get the truth out there because of people like Tamra that continue to spread lies once again about someone else's life on an international TV show. Let me be clear Slade pays as much child support as he can every month, but to keep up with his original order of $4,000 a month on top of medical bills would be difficult for anyone in these harder economic times. Hopefully the court will soon reduce his support order, so he can continue to focus on Grayson's medical issues and work towards getting him well. I am sure many of us across the country have felt the impact of this economy, and just because Slade and I are on TV it doesn't make us immune to these realities in life. Not being able to pay the same amount in child support has nothing to do with your ability to be a good dad. Simon wasn't able to keep their house anymore because of hard financial times. Does that make him a bad father...no! That just makes his financial situation different than before. I just find it ironic that Tamra left Simon right when he lost his job and wasn't making the same amount of money anymore. I don't operate that way. I don't leave just because the cards are down, I fight and I stick it out, just like I did with Jeff. I am not going to walk away from a person just because they are down. That is when they need you the most, and if Slade and I can make it through this rough patch, then this just helps prove to me that nothing life throws our way will come between us. It's called loyalty, something that Tamra has proven over and over again through friendships and relationships that she grossly lacks.
At the dinner party I noticed that Alexis wasn't doing well, she seemed very upset and distracted. Of course I agree that it wasn't the best time to be upset, and I wish it didn't happen during the dinner party, but friendship to me means in good and bad times, and sometimes those bad times come at inopportune times. When she was gone for so long I went to check on her because that is what friends do. When I saw how upset she was I knew it was important to be there for her and help her through her tough moment. I knew in my heart it was the perfect opportunity for the women to talk trash about us, but my concern was to be there for a friend in need. After watching the show, I don't know if these women truly understand the meaning of friendship. I mean they even make fun of me grabbing powder for my friend who had mascara all over her face from crying. She didn't have hers with her, and I didn't want her to come back out looking like a mess. Wouldn't you guys do that for a friend? I'm not perfect and looking back I wish I would have not feed into some of the drama that was happening around me, however I stand by my decision to be there for my friend in a time of pain. Later this season you see all of us gather around Vicki during a hard time. Why is it different when it comes to Alexis or me for that matter (like when Jeff was sick, or now with Slade's situation with Grayson)? From my experience, it always seems to be one sided with this group.
Gretchen, You have a lot of class. Don't let anyone bring ya down. Tamara used to be a favorite of mine but she has become too full of herself. Stay classy!
Those who live in glass houses should not cast stones. Gretchen, you are equally guilty of trash talking Tamara and trying to get others to join in.
Yes, they should mind their business about you, Slade, your relationship, and everything else in your lives. But your behavior is not any better. Someone has to be the first to let it go and you obviously thrive on the drama. On multiple occasions Tamra has asked you to let it go and you will not. Whether she was sincere or not, she was at least willing to make a public attempt at peace. That is more than I can say for you. Stop stirring the pot.
You are so much better then they are. Keep your head up and keep loving your man. They just want what you have happiness and a man that loves you. I think you standing up for your man and friend say a lot about what kind of person you are. Good job. Wish you and Slade family the best in life. God bless
If you are secure with yourself and your relationship with Slade, you shouldn't get in such a hissy about what Tamra says about you. Seems to me you are both jelous of each other, you for her relationship with Eddie, her about how you are younger and in some opinions, hotter.
This blog is RIGHT ON! I was so uncomfortable watching Peggy's dinner party.....Tamra started the WHOLE drama before she even got to Peggy's with her internet "research" on you and Slade. She was looking for drama, and she got it! You are sooooo right....if Tamra is so happy, why does she take such vicious pleasure in other people's misfortune??? Hmmmmmm
I thought you were being a good friend. Your are a strong woman and I kept shaking my head in shame at Vickie and Tamara. Good luck with your business. You are a beautiful and sweet person!
Thanks so much for giving us the in scoop on Slade. I hope and pray that his son has a full recovery. Thanks for the picture of him. He is adorable.
As far as Tamara well she acts like 10 and hopefully as she sees her self on TV she will realize how immature she is acting.
It seems like all she wants to do is gossip about you and Slade.
Keep your head and your spirits up, honey. Do NOT let these miserable, unhappy women bring you down to their level. Please. You have alot. Now, don't throw it away like they all seem to love to do.
My prayers are with Slade's son...I hope he gets better. No one should have to see their child suffer through an illness.
You're awesome!!!!!!!!!! One of my favorite people on the RH series. I hope you come to Chicago!!!!!!
G, I was thinking the exact thing. I am not sure what you did to be in her target, but that is all she thinks and talks about. It is hateful and pathetic. Don't worry, she makes herself look foolish. I hope all is well with grayson. What a great picture!!!!
Gretchen. You really showed a lot of class in this episode. Good on you! You are a true friend and although you're not perfect, like ALL of us. . . you do have a lot of integrity. I wish you all of the success in the world. Keep shinning! :)
Well said Gretchen. Yes, I would have done exactly what you did for Alexis for any of my girlfriends. Remember, those two women, are NOT your friends. I cherish the word FRIEND and adhere to its definition. I have few friends, but many acquaintances. Vicki and Tamra are your acquaintances.
Thanks for always being honest about your situations even when we don't derserve an explanation. I know it must be hard to be forced to talk about some things regarding your significant other, however I admire that you address the rumors and things that are being said about you head on. You don't just ignore them, but you get the truth out there and let your true fans know! I think that is very commendable. You can tell how much you love Slade and his son. You will make a great Mom and wife one day!
You are such a sweetie! Just keep smiling and being you...Your soooo funny and smart . You are the reason I keep watching! Love ya & hi to Slade
I'm glad that you defended your man. I think that you handled yourself very well at the party and were a rock for Alexis. You helped brighten her mood and lighten the whole atmosphere. Keep on rocking and don't worry so much about Tamara. It takes two to fuel the fire. Clear up misconceptions by all means. But take a page from Countess Luannes book. Cat insulted her but she did not respond. She said that everyone could have an opinion. The reason she did that is because Cat doesn't matter to her. Cat was on a show for one year that ended up failing. Cat basically made a fool of herself and forced Andy to defend Luanne. Luanne came out looking like a class act and probably infuriated Cat even more by not feeling the need to justify herself to Cat.
Gretchen....my stepmother (who was an amazing woman) once told me "to never let anyone else's actions dictate how I behave".... I cannot imagine the stress these women (& sometimes their husbands) must cause you. Not to mention how they believe that their "peer pressure" (strange to even use that expression in reference to 40-something year-old women) will effectively mke to dump Slade and be more like them!! It is impressive that you (& Slade) can just ignore it. You're right about it being borderline creepy that they spend so much of their time discussing/trashing/confronting/blogging on you (you both). Of course,(deflection is a wonderful thing!) the more time they harp on you, the less time they have to address their own respective problems and neuroses, which in and of itself is overwhelming to even think about. (Also, must have had my own head in the sand because I was unaware of Gray's illness, I'm so sorry. It certainly puts things into perspective though, doesn't it? God bless.
the pic of slade and gray is so cute, but made me cry. that precious little boy. i can't even imagine what you guys are going through. i have a 3 yr. old son and it would just break my heart if he had to go thru all that pain and operations. i'll keep you all in my prayers. best of luck to grayson :) please keep us posted on gray's condition. may he be cured and never have to endure that pain. God bless you all :)
Maybe if you stopped saying harsh things about Slade on camera everyone else would too. Just a thought.
I love you Gretchen! You are such a doll! I wish the best for you and Slade and his handsome boys! :)
I so agree with you Gretchen. I hope that Tamra grows up and quit judging other people's lives.I will certainly put you,Slade and Grayson in my prayers.
I like you Gretchen. I think that you do have morals and like a lot of other people, you have made mistakes and will continue to do so. In saying that, I feel that sometimes you spend so much energy and time speaking of the other women and how bad they are, that they almost become your life on this show. They do say hurtful things, that is evident. You have also said hurtful and mean things picking on them, so don't point you finger at everyone else all the time. Take the time to talk with your fans about the wonderful things that happen in your life. When they see that the things they say to you, don't get a rise out of you, they will stop. Don't focus so much on the negative of whats going on around you, be a role model for the other women to look up to.
Gretchen, I wrote this once but not sure it went through. So I will re-write it. This blog ,you wrote, I feel was one of the first that came from the heart . I feel you really let the reader in. I agree with you that some of the women on your show may not know what is really going on in your's and Slade's life. I for one will not judge again. I had no idea Slade had a sick child. my prayers go to slade and his son. I work in Columbus,Oh and will be at work the day you are there to visit. If you are near the Ohio State campus ,ask where Select Speciality Hospital is and come visit our patients and their families. again my prayers for Slade's son.
Gretchen-the problem with people's impression of Slade is he clearly is not looking for employment, has not for years-and clearly has no intention on finding a "real" job. I think if the viewers saw him actually interviewing and looking for "real work" where he brings a paycheck home, things would change. You said you wanted a partner who is a true partner-not you being the only income earner in the marriage. Move on, you won't get an equal partner in Slade.
Gretchen, I watch HWOC every Sunday as it is very entertaining. I undertand you have to write a blog almost after every episode. However, Tamra's behavior was very caddy and childish. I don't feel it necessary to justify someone's whereabouts especially when it has it do with a sick child. I don't find it funny nor amusing. I think it is disturbing. Continue with the good work and stay strong.
Gretchen, you rock. Everything you say in your comments is spot on. Tamara and Vicki are acting like 15 year old 'mean girls'. It's not even worth anyone's time to go any further into their behaviour. Tamara is obviously feeling untouchable, she's gotten a lot of attention this season, glamming up, finding a new boy, etc. Vicki, of course, has glommed on to her because she hasn't given any of the other ladies a chance. I know she's going through something rough this season, with Donn, but yannoo.. what goes around comes around, and I am seriously having a hard time finding any sympathy at all for her. I think that soon enough, she's going to find out her 'work' isn't going to keep her warm and feeling loved at night.
Anyway, hang in there. My heart breaks for Slades situation, and he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
I love you Gretchen!! Couldnt have said it better myself. Keep doing what youre doing....enjoy your life and forget the rest!!!
gretchen, just keep strong and remember those who talk trash because a couple is happy shows just how unhappy they really are. your fans are on your side!
Gretchen You looked amazing on last nights episode, whats the designers name of the White dress with the black ribbon ?
Bravo please post my comment.. Gretchen the difference between you and Tamra is simple she knows she did a few things wrong you only focus on what she and Vicky did wrong. Take responsibitly for your actions girl.
Gretchen, your blog was perfect. Don't ever let the words of others get under your skin, it is just too unhealthy. You also know that most of these people are not your friends. Just stay true to who you are, and rise above their garbage. I will pray that Grayson gets through all of his trials and comes out of it as a healthy boy who can live life to the fullest.
Gretchen.....your blog was "spot on". Especially about Tamara. I totally agree with you. In order for her to feel good about herself she has to make others feel like garbage. What goes around Tamara, Comes around!!!
My prayers are with Slades son and that he will soon be well! I'm sure that he is a wonderful father to his children and being with them instead of going to a dinner party proves that! And it is sad that people have nothing better to do but talk and gossip but that's the way of the world. Best to do is never change who you are and enjoy your life no matter what anyone has to say!
I have seen these shows for years. Gretchen, I am much older than you. In my opinion, you should not say anything or make a comment about Tamra and Vicky unless they confront you. Even if they say all the trash they love to talk about you and the other cast members. With Tamra, I have always seen the jealousy and envious that she has had for you. All of the above are negative vibrations that is sent to the target (which is you). Forget about this. Be yourself, continue to work with the things that you would like to accomplish and good luck to you.
God Bless you, your family, Slade and his Boys.
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Tamra has said that Simon and her chose to not have the kids filmed this season, so she only films when the kids are with Simon. So it's probably not that she's not around....
Hold your head high Gretchen, they are just jealous because you have beauty inside and out. By the way, are you sure your not from the south? Because you have the grace,beauty, and strength of a true Southern woman.
love your blog, spoken from your heart. These women have a heart that is two sizes to small. Your are the greatest, keep doing what you are doing. Thank you for posting picture of Slade and Grayson, love it very sweet.
Not sure if you realized about 95% or your thoughts were attributed to those hens who keep harassing you. You hit it the nail right on the head - they are both miserable. Why would you expect them to be happy for you when they are both going through marriage difficulties and hating on anyone who is happy and in a committed relationship? I really want to read about your thoughts on an episode but allowing Tamara and Vicki to have that much power of you is not productive. My Pastor always says "don't let anyone rent any space in your mind" so ignore them and continue to support your man and what he is going though. Be fab!
Maybe you need to go back and rewatch that episode. You started on Tamara and Eddie the minute they walked in the door.
Gretchen, I have to say I didn't know what to think of you this season when you started to engage in the bad behavior with Tamra and Vicki - I didn't like it because it is so beneath you, but I understand you wanting to stand up for yourself. Your blogs remind me you are still the same kind-hearted person we have seen the past 2 years. Engaging with these "ladies" (and I use that term loosely) is not going to make them stop and it will only make you look bad. Please take the high road and (I can't believe I'm going to say this) practice what Kelly B. from RHNYC said "you don't have to like them but you have to be polite". I hope you, Slade, Gavin, and especially Grayson are doing well. (Tamra - pay attention - it is NEVER okay to talk about the kind of situation like Slade is in with Grayson the way you do - it is none of your business so BUTT OUT!)
Gretch listen, it doesn't matter what anyone else says about you and Slade. Matter of fact, when you were talking to your hairdresser about your relationship, you said something to the effect of you not taking the next step in your relationship with Slade because of what others might say.
Here's some good advice for you: If you really love someone, you can never be embarrassed by them.
At the end of the day, your life is yours. You have no need to answer to anyone else. If being with Slade is what you want, then go for it. I'm a widow so you can trust me when I tell you that there is never going to be enough time with the person you love.
You seem so negative this season Gretchen. For all you say Tamra talks about you, you're not any better. I used to think that you got the raw end of the deal but now it appears that you are more unhappy than ever. You boss Slade around like he's a servant. You basically called him fat as a way to help him get into shape, really? Great way to boost someone's self esteem. You come off this season not stronger just meaner. I always thought you were a gorgeous woman but now I'm starting to see a side of you that is making you ugly on the inside. Here's some advice. Stop worrying what Tamra is doing and saying and work on finding your own happiness. If life is so great for you then why do you feel the need to blog about others in a negative way? Your life isn't dictated by the actions of others. Have fun Gretchen and if you feel someone is holding you down or back then maybe it's time to move on. Good luck.
Just like you want everyone to hear you, Slade, and Alexis's side of the story instead of rumors, why can't that be the same rule when it comes to Tamara?! Why is it that you are always right but Tamara is always wrong? When she tried to apologize to you time and time again you refused to accept it, so just stop talking about her and move on. Also, I pray that God bless Slade's children and that they are doing well.