She does fall of the wagon!! A couple of episodes ago while Gretchen and Slade are in the car, she is seen eating a Jack In The Box burger AND taco.
I have never once had Tamra, Vicki, or anyone else that continues to talk badly about Slade call to ask about the truth and find out what is really going on in regards to his situation with Gray. If these women had any integrity at all they would not be spouting off in regards to a parent who has a very ill child. Slade will always choose to pay medical bills first before he pays towards child support, because he wants to keep his child alive! They have never once been around Slade and his kids, they have never seen how much his boys love and adore him, and the saddest part of all is that Tamra has never asked how Grayson was doing. At least Vicki has had the decency to ask how he was doing. Tamra instead finds it fun to just sit back and make fun of a man who is losing his child to cancer. Do any of you find that a laughing matter, because I sure don't. Tamra has never met Grayson's mother, and would have no reason to ever communicate with her. Grayson's medical condition, and Slade's child support has nothing to do with her, and it just goes to show how desperate she is to try and involve herself in our life in some way or fashion. Again just creepy!
If Tamra for one second could get her head out of her a-- long enough to actually hear the truth, she would know that Slade is the one that requested to go to court and get a reduction in child support because his income changed drastically. Although I don't think it's anyone's business what Slade's situation is, I find it important to get the truth out there because of people like Tamra that continue to spread lies once again about someone else's life on an international TV show. Let me be clear Slade pays as much child support as he can every month, but to keep up with his original order of $4,000 a month on top of medical bills would be difficult for anyone in these harder economic times. Hopefully the court will soon reduce his support order, so he can continue to focus on Grayson's medical issues and work towards getting him well. I am sure many of us across the country have felt the impact of this economy, and just because Slade and I are on TV it doesn't make us immune to these realities in life. Not being able to pay the same amount in child support has nothing to do with your ability to be a good dad. Simon wasn't able to keep their house anymore because of hard financial times. Does that make him a bad father...no! That just makes his financial situation different than before. I just find it ironic that Tamra left Simon right when he lost his job and wasn't making the same amount of money anymore. I don't operate that way. I don't leave just because the cards are down, I fight and I stick it out, just like I did with Jeff. I am not going to walk away from a person just because they are down. That is when they need you the most, and if Slade and I can make it through this rough patch, then this just helps prove to me that nothing life throws our way will come between us. It's called loyalty, something that Tamra has proven over and over again through friendships and relationships that she grossly lacks.
At the dinner party I noticed that Alexis wasn't doing well, she seemed very upset and distracted. Of course I agree that it wasn't the best time to be upset, and I wish it didn't happen during the dinner party, but friendship to me means in good and bad times, and sometimes those bad times come at inopportune times. When she was gone for so long I went to check on her because that is what friends do. When I saw how upset she was I knew it was important to be there for her and help her through her tough moment. I knew in my heart it was the perfect opportunity for the women to talk trash about us, but my concern was to be there for a friend in need. After watching the show, I don't know if these women truly understand the meaning of friendship. I mean they even make fun of me grabbing powder for my friend who had mascara all over her face from crying. She didn't have hers with her, and I didn't want her to come back out looking like a mess. Wouldn't you guys do that for a friend? I'm not perfect and looking back I wish I would have not feed into some of the drama that was happening around me, however I stand by my decision to be there for my friend in a time of pain. Later this season you see all of us gather around Vicki during a hard time. Why is it different when it comes to Alexis or me for that matter (like when Jeff was sick, or now with Slade's situation with Grayson)? From my experience, it always seems to be one sided with this group.
She does fall of the wagon!! A couple of episodes ago while Gretchen and Slade are in the car, she is seen eating a Jack In The Box burger AND taco.
yes those girls need to lay off slade, he seems so good to you, and you guys can have fun together...the other girls are just jelous they dont have what you have
Gretchen, Your blog is very well-written and thanks for sharing your side of Slade's story. However, I think that part of being a mature adult is recognizing that you can only control yourself. What others choose to do is their choice. Lowering yourself to their level is your choice. And Gretchen, you choose to give as good as you get.
Truly and finally: just look the other way and stop commenting on Tamra and Vicki. Tamra seems really happy. On the flip side, you seem very frustrated that Slade is not where you'd like him to be financially or professionally. Your actions indicate that you are bitter. Focus on you, Slade and your life together and good things will come to you. Don't waste energy on them.
Wishing you all the best....
I really like you and you are right that it is no one's business what Slade does. On the other hand, your comments toward the other 2 women were not necessary and you should really refrain from being unkind. Let them be sharks and stay out of the frey.
Hi Gretchen- Since it's May, I was wondering if you could share with all your fans that it's Brain Tumor Awareness Month. As you well know, brain tumors are some of the most the most insidious of all pediatric cancers, and many of them have very low survival rates (particularly DIPG's). I'll be wearing Grey For the Kids all month; I hope you'll join me. Thanks so much!
What Slade is or is not doing is beside the point. The point is that both of you have a very sick child you both love and the LAST thing this little boy needs is for him or his friends hear trash talk about his father who I am sure he loves very much. This woman lacks any human empathy. Is she so afraid that yours and Slades situation will overshadow her empty shallow selfish story line that she is willing to cross the line of human decency. Every little boy loves his daddy. What kind of woman would do this to a child especially a very sick child ? Her behavior and lack of human empathy and decency during this trying time and towards this little boy are repulsive. My heart goes out to both of you for having to deal with this vicious trivial and shallow person. I use to think she was just stupid, but as time goes by it is evident she is a mean, evil, vindictive, shallow, self serving, selfish, and heartless person.
".....standing by someone in good times and bad, that what love is....." Hmmmmm. Sounds like what marriage vows are all about yet you won't marry Slade. You just stated he gives you everything BUT money, yet you refuse to marry him, so we DO all know the real reason. It's why you wanted to marry Jeff and the reason you won't marry Slade. You are a gold-digger. Plain and simple.
My heart goes out to Grayson, and I wish him a speedy recovery and a long healthy life. No parent should go through this...Not even Slade.
As for the dinner party, you and your guest started it, so don't be surprised if Tamra, Donn or Vicki finish it. You had it coming.
You are the best! Your are super funny and it clear the other women are jealous...y else would they talk crap? "just sayin"
It was really glad to see you on Slade's side for the first time this whole season. It's nice to hear you say other things about him besides, "Tubba Wubba," and the other not-so-nice things you've said. You have always been a favorite, but this season somethings kinda changed, and not for the better. In tonight's episode the old Gretchen was back, the fan-favorite version. Welcome back!!!
Hey Gretchen......well written.....anyone who reads it and then says/thinks anything negative about it are Looking to make anything out of nothing or ugly out of pretty.....it's called 'tamaraism'.
I just wrote Alexis that I stopped watching the show and am now only reading yours and Alexis' blog....I like you two and like to see what you're up to! If they post my post under her blog.....great! I go into my reasons at length. If they don't then know I tried to watch but can't anymore. Too much negative and not just negatives but mean/evil/bitchy/ulgy negatives. You and Alexis should team up with the 'some' of the ladies on other shows.....but, only the fun loving ones.....go on vacation a couple of times a year together.......they could probably do an entire season on one vacation!
My cast wish list are as follows...... You and Alexis Alex and Ramona - New York Lisa, Kyle, Kim, and the other cute blond whose boys break their dad's nose - Beveryly Hills Caroline and her sister in law....I really like her but STILL can't remember her name.....the one married to Caroline's brother - New Jersey Can't forget Tardy for the Party, Kim and Kandi! Gotta have Kandi.....AND her mom too! - Atlanta
I might have forgotten someone......but, I think you get the idea.........these are the ladies I truly enjoy.
I think the above would make a great show! Go on some crazy vacation....maybe a river boat trip with loads of stops. Bethenny could catch up with you guys too! Heck, why not bring the kids along too.....and a good babysitter!!!!
Am I asking too much?
Are you friends with Grey's mom? I was wondering if she allowed you to post that pic of her son? The entire story is sad, plus you always date someone that is ill or has an ill loved one. What a hard situation for you to be in. I feel bad for Slade. I hope everything works out for all of you and God bless little Greyson from the top of his head, to the soles of the bottom of his little feet, mind, soul and body, in Jesus name AMEN!
Stay strong, you are doing great this season, you are the only one that seems to have your head on straight. I cringed when they were making fun of Alexis's friend - too mean
GRETCHEN, I DON'T CARE (OR EVER DID) WHAT SLADE'S FINANCIAL SITUATION IS, OR WHY IT IS THE WAY IT IS. IT'S NOT OUR BUSINESS. I DID KNOW HIS SON WAS ILL, BUT DID NOT KNOW HE HAD BRAIN CANCER. WHAT TURMOIL THEY MUST ALL BE IN OVER THAT SAD SITUATION. I'VE CARED FOR MANY BRAIN TUMOR PATIENTS AS A NURSE PRACTITIONER, SO I WILL PUT GRAYSON IN MY PRAYERS. HE'S ADORABLE! SLADE OWES NO ONE AN EXPLANATION AS TO HOW/WHY/WHEN HE PARENTS. I THINK IT'S AWFUL HOW EVERYONE ACTS...OFTEN TIMES YOU AS WELL. AT LEAST YOU ADMIT TO SOME RUDE COMMENTS YOU MADE. BUT IT'S GOT TO COME TO AN END SOON. IT'S BECOME SO UNCOMFORTABLE AND UNHEALTHY TO EVEN WATCH---LET ALONE FILM IN I'M ASSUMING. THERE'S JUST TOO MUCH ANIMOSITY THAT'S BUILT UP OVER THE MOST RIDICULOUS THINGS. I HOPE FOR ALL YOUR SAKES, THIS FEUDING ENDS AND YOU CAN ALL COME TO SOME PLACE OF PEACE. I KNOW BRAVO WANTS DRAMA, BUT I KEEP HOPING SOME OF THE FIGHTING GETS TONED DOWN A BIT. NONE OF US ARE PERFECT, BUT ALL OF YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN THIS!
Is that date Gretchen brought to the party the same man that was taking photo's of Jo ??? At the photo shoot for the record deal there was Slade, Jo and that same man. Someone please let me know if he's the guy. And how interesting he is still around the NEW couple.
QUESTION: WHY DOES TAMRA/VICKY EVEN CARE WHAT SLADE IS DOING? That is always my question when they are trash talking. They're obsessed with him and you.
I love watching you guys. You're all entertaining to me, I don't mean that in a bad way. Gretchen, I also have experience with the child support issue. Lots of it doesn't make sense. And for some bizarre reason if you can't afford to pay, let's say you lost your job, then they suspend your license making it harder to be able to find a job. How is that supposed to help? Anyway, don't marry Slade unless he can get his support issues cleared up. I think it would just make it difficult for you. Why do people feel they need a marriage certificate to validate a relationship? Lastly, you guys are all beautiful women. I'm not sure why you all wear so much make up. I guess it's an OC thing. ?
To Gretchen, You are dish it out but you can not take it. As soon as the ladies walk into the party you refer to them as the bitches. The bottom line is that they have been knowing Slade longer than you and if he was such a wonderful guy, then marry him broke or not. You know yourself that he has a lot of issues. I feel that you are just to stubborn to admit it.
Gretchen, I have always liked you on the show and your blog today said a lot of great things that make so much sense but I would love to see you take accountability for acting just as immature as the other women, you were being just as rude at Peggy's party.
You're one of the good ones, Gretchen, and it shows. I hope you can reflect on the ways you reacted, when perhaps it wasn't worth it. Other than that, I'm proud of who you are becoming. Be proud too.
your comments are totally funny, i loved the comments you made about Tamara dance with her bf, that was hilarious !!!! i like you but i cant never agree with you so im never on your side but i like you.
Gretchen, you're a good friend to Alexis and a wonderful significant other to Slade. Finding someone to love is hard and unemployment isn't a reason to let them go. It's hard, but you just persevere through hard times. That's how it is. I don't think you should have EVER made any fun of or comments about Eddie. You have watched the show, you know he is a very nice man and doesn't deserve your rude comments, or comments of your friends. Say what you want about Vicki and Tamra, because they'll shoot right back, but Eddie has been very mature about everything since being on the show and doesn't deserve to be hated simply because he fell in love with a not so perfect woman. You know how that is. You fell in love with a person who is not so perfect. It's how the world is. Next time, watch your tongue, don't stoop to their level and just be funny G. Alexis is lucky to have you. And if the only other women in Orange County is Vicki and Tamra, you're lucky to have Alexis. P.S. I don't feel like Peggy is as bad as Alexis makes her out to be. She seems to be pretty neutral to me. She likes you, she like Tamra........It is possible to like you both....I do! Keep your head up and prayers to Slade and Grayson! He's adorable!!! And really....Slade is too! He may have financial woes, but he's a sweetie!
Gretchen, LOVED the white eyelet dress you wore to the Party. Who makes that?? I would really love to wear that to my daughter's graduation party!!! PLEASE RESPOND! I have searched the internet, with no luck.
Gretchen, I think Vicky and Tamra are not nice people and they give you a very hard time. I do believe that you should ignore them which I know is harder said then done. You do not come out the right side when you stoop to their level. On this past episode, you said some rude comments about Tamra and Eddie when they walked in the door. While I understand you wanting to retaliate, it didn't make you look good. You are my favourite and I wish you well with your relationship with Slade. I wish Slade and his family the best during this tough time.
You were the only one who showed any class on last night's episode. And I truly see it..Tamra doesn't even enjoy being with Eddie, she enjoys flaunting him but her focus is on you, and any other woman she's envious of in the room. She's happy when things don't go well for other people...her putting her ear to the door to hear a private conversation was so high school. Wow. And when you laugh or are having a good time or are visibly content, it kills her. She's very strange, and she does twist things. She needs a therapist. Keep smiling, Gretchen.
Gretchen, thanks so much for mentioning the devastation in the South. I am originally from Alabama, and I've been heart-broken to see the decimation of my hometown for four of the best years of my life so far, Tuscaloosa. Keep that perspective, girl, it's such a valuable asset.
Thank you so much for mentioning the devastation in the South. I am originally from Alabama and am heart-broken over the decimation of my home for four years, Tuscaloosa. Perspective is such a valuable asset, right?
What a wonderful of looking at life, relationships, and family. You couldn't have verbalized it better, Gretchen! Go girl!
Well, because people say negative things about her on national TV, it's hard not to explain yourself. The top comment I just read said to let it go... But that is easier said than done. When she has people constantly trash talking, it then gives others (millions) the wrong impression of her & or her loved one that is more than likely not even true. Being on TV you almost need to care what people say... Being out there in the eye of the public, I'm pretty sure Gretchen doesn't want those false, negative comments to reflect on her positive goals like her business ventures & people she cares for. No one wants to hear something false said about them or someone they care about. Again, especially all over national TV. So I can side with her on getting her story out there for people viewing to understand and not be so judgmental and quick to believe everything they hear.
I am usually one to say "don't worry about what others think" but I think Gretchen has reasons to get her side of the story out there.
Gretchen I think you should take the high road and drop it! I am a huge fan of the show, but lately it has become so catty, I feel like I'm watching Teen Mom or something.
Gretchen, you and Tamra both trash talk. I don't see the difference between your behavior and Tamra's. You both have nasty behavior.
No Gretchen you might not have said the 999-Salsa comment but you did make a similar comment about him being an escort. Same thing. Can't stand you.
U r about the most down to earth girl at that dinner party. I was cringing watching the high school girls and boys at the other end of the table.. wow... If that attitude is what wealth and fame brings, I wish to be broke and live under a rock! Vicki and Tamara are just abosulte mean girls. It was kind of you to attend to Alexa and that drama. Karma is a blessing and a bitch... hold your head up girl!
I commend you on taking the high road on this latest episode! The things that were said were uncalled for and childish. Hold your head high, girl! You looked absolutely fabulous & acted accordingly!! Great Job!
Typically, I have a hard time accepting you but this blog was really nice to read. It was great to get the truth about Slade and his family/financial situation. I now understand more where you are coming from and can appreciate why you get so frustrated with Tamra and Vicki. Although, I must say that you still have to own up to some of the things you have said. You and your friend were quick with the jabs at the beginning of the party regarding Eddie. I think once Tamra and Vicki heard that, they too became snarky and mean. You can't expect them to keep their mouth shut if you can't either. The same goes for the evil bitch comment...even though you did not say those exact words, you still implied them...not very nice on your part!
I wish you the best with everything else and I am definitely excited to continue watching your story. I hope everything works out!
Amen, you took the words right out of my mouth. You guys all bash each other, but want to point the finger at the other. When does it get old?
Hi Gretchen! I think it was totally unfair for the ladies to discuss Slade's situation. No one ever really knows what goes on behind closed doors in the family unit. I truely wish you and Slade the best. However, what made you think that telling Alexis that the girls were talking about her would calm her down. You even admitted you had no idea what they said. I think you were trying to stir the pot. You could have told her at a later date. But that would not have calmed me down or anyone I know for that matter.
Gretchen you do more trash talking than anyone. Besides being immature and narcissistic and loud! You are a beauty though just wished you would grow up and act like a lady!
I thought Peggys boyfriend was rude to. So what if Alexis was crying.If your friends you should be more compassionate about a friend being upset.These women are not Friends of Gretchen or Alexis,so why even be around them.
Gretchen, I personally love reading your blog. I read the blogs to know your reactions to the show. I think you explain what your feeling spot on without trying to tear the other women down. Tamra has been horrible this season (& last season) & of course you're going to write about it in your blog. Alexis did have a meltdown at the wrong time, but everyone makes mistakes. Tamra used to be one of my favorites, but she has turned into a classic "mean girl" & I can't stand watching her. I love your attitude & humor. Don't even let her get you down. You have so much going for you. My prayers are with you & Slad & his family.
That is so true about Tamra.She needs to clean up her own back yard before she trashes somebody elses.
Gretchen overall I like you, however I do not understand why Slade does not have a job. I know my husband would lick dirt off the floor if it would help him take care of his kids financially. Slade seems like a nice person but he really should get a job outside the housewives franchise. I know the economy is bad but there are jobs out there, maybe ones not up to his standards but jobs that make some money.