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Tamra Barney

Kiss Off

Tamra addresses Fernanda's comments about their kiss.

Apr 23, 2011

At the fitting Jeana walked in, which took me by surprise. I had been avoiding her for months, because she is so nosy and asks so many questions. There has been a running joke for years that you can use a telephone or a tell-a-Jeana. Everything you tell her ends up in the Orange County register and 50% of it is wrong! When she says in her interview that I left Simon and never gave him a chance to fix it, wrong again, Jeana. I asked for a trial separation, and he slapped me with divorce papers and never talked about saving our marriage. Just a perfect example of her talking out of her a--.

The fashion show was pretty stressful for me. Like I said, I am not a model and have no experience walking a runway in front of hundreds of people. Peggy has a modeling background and did a great job. You can tell she is in her comfort zone. It was great to see her getting back into it after having two babies.

The way Alexis treated her dress designer was so disrespectful. To hear her say, "See who's boss," and, "You're not having it your way," was so rude after she spent all that time working on it. I couldn't believe Alexis cut the sleeves off after she asked her not to. I agree the dress looked better without the sleeves, but she could have rolled up the sleves to show her how it would look without ruining the dress. Then to hear her say, "I am always right, I'm right about everything, next time listen to me"... Talking to anyone like that is degrading and border line abusive... Trust me I know.

I could not workout with Fernanda and Lynne, because they changed the time last minute and I have a very small window of opportunity. From 8:00 AM to 3:00 PM I am dropping off and picking up the kids from school. They are all on diffrent schedules, I have one in kindergarten that goes half day, one in 5th grade, and one in middle school. From 8:00 AM to 3:00 PM I feel like I am in my car the entire time. So unless it's between 10:00 AM and 1:00 PM I can't make it! It was not because I had a problem with Fernanda like she said!

To listen to Fernanda talk to Lynne and her ex-girlfriend about a "silly moment" (as she put it herself) in front of the cameras and try to make it out to be something it wasn't really makes me mad. Why she felt the need to expose something so minor that happened over a year ago for no apparent reason blows my mind! Not to mention how uncomfortable she made Lynne feel. Lynne called me right after to tell me she felt totally set up and uncomfortable. To me it is very hurtful, especially since I brought her on the show. For the record, I did kiss her, I have a tendancy to kiss my friends when I'm drunk... I'm crazy like that! But, I dont make out with them! Although I did get a pretty good kiss from Andy Cohen on NYE! There is way more to come with this story... So keep watching!

Eddie and I will be at the Luxor in Las Vegas at T&T on May 5th. Come by and see us if you're in the area. To find out more details check on my Facebook @TamraBarney.

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I'm a big fan. Don't let that story about that kiss bring you down or spoil your fun. Sounds like someone is very wishful and jealous. You are so much fun to watch!!

tamra! i love you. your so funny i always laugh at the comments you make about the other girls, especially the one about alexis house going into foreclosure. "i feel really bad for them" hahaah that was hilarious. and tonight fernanda made some ridiculous accusations. good thing lynn was there to have your back! "tamra likes guys..." i miss lynn!

Thanks for keepin it real!

OK, so,,, you addressed everything but the kiss? What gives??

Fernanda to come out with the kiss like she did if just seems like she is wanting more drama! Jeeze!

I used to love Jenna. The way she is behaving, since not being on the show, she is showing her true colors!

Hate to say it Tamra but, you have been giving Fernanda a LOT of mixed signals. Drunk, silly, friends...or not. Considering you are both rather "playful" and Fernanda has been very forthright about her sexuality, you should have taken a step back awhile ago and thought to yourself "crap, I need to pull the reigns in a little." Go wild and have fun but not at the emotional expense of others. Sorry to drudge this up but even as a friend, I would have been hurt by you not attending or even acknowledging the importance of my citizenship party. Add in the kiss, peck, whatever-the-hell-it-was and bingo! Now we know why she was hurt and "disappointed" !! Personally I was sad to see you not go. I realize you were busy with the move but today, we as a nation need to praise the people that come to our country LEGALLY and work hard to become LEGAL citizens. I have such respect for the those that push through and make the American dream come true. I wish you, as her friend, made a bigger deal about it. Not just for her, but to honor those that have and are doing the same thing...

Eh, I am sure you are rolling your eyes by now. That's fine. I think you are a crazy b" who is getting a little overly wild and outspoken "but! BUT! "(channeling Alexis with that, ha!) I still like you and, what is more is that I get you. Just hurry up and finish the insanity so you can put your feet back down on the ground. Oh, and I know you don't care for Jeana however, it today's world of normal she is small! I thought it very tacky of you to give such a dig about her size.

Tamra you are the real beauty of the show. I only hope you are careful about your relationships. You did right by getting rid of that other phony manipulator but I am afraid that you may have landed another. Be aware! mio68@comcast.net

Tamra, I love you. You are the most real housewife. I think you have had a very hard couple of years. I've been in a bad marriage and people don't realize how much that unhappiness affects all aspects of your life. I'm glad you are happy now, it shows.

Stop being the mean girl.. Leave Slade and Grechen alone.. You really know how to clear a room. Learn from your behavior, don't make excuses!!

I am not your biggest fan due to the fact that your behavior is still inappropriate but what Jenna said about you leaving Simon was wrong and I back you up 100%. You deserved to be happy and your relationship with Simon was very toxic and no woman deserves to live like that. A man like that will never change and will always be controlling. Maybe that would have lead to family violence because I've seen alot of cases that do. I think you look happier and make a better couple with eddie. Live life because we only get one to live. Try to be a better person and make a mends with people without talking about them behind their back.

Team Tamra!!! 'nuf said!

Love you Tamara!! I think you have a great attitude and don't take life so seriously. Everyone could learn a lesson from you considering what you have been through. Don't sweat the haters. Alexis is so caught up in herself! She is self-righteous and delusional! Eddie is hot and you deserve him! Wishing you much happiness!!

You were so cute on the runway! You rocked it girlfriend! I, too, kiss my friends when I have had a few too many cocktails. No biggie as far as I'm concerned!

I definitely think Fernanda set Lynn up. Fernanda probably wanted more air time and you didn't give it to her!! So she is pissed!

Tamra you are sumthn else girl n I luv it!!u remind me sooo much of myself in so many ways which are all fabulous mite I add!haha..when are you gonna cum out 2 dc? Cali n vegas appearances are your norm I know but break the mold girl n' cum get you sum dc in ur life!!'itll b fun!!book sumthng here soon girl!i friggin adore you the show is sooo much better now that you are apart of it!!

Tamra, I'm a big fun I love you and all your comments!! You are pretty much spot on about everyone. Loved your tie-die jacket and tank last episode!! Where did you purchase!! Love the show can't wait for next week!!

She did briefly address the kiss and said there is more to come with that story line.

Tamra, I am LOVING the "new" you now that you're away from that slimey Simon and with HOT Eddie! You have found yourself and you rock it. Keep it up girl. Happy looks good on you.

I had to laugh about Fernanda making a big issue out of you and she kissing. Apparently Fernanda didn't see the footage of you kissing Andy Cohen (twice!) on New Year's Eve, LOL! I think that's proof that yes, you kiss all your friends when you're been drinking, and whether they are gay or straight makes no difference.

Fernanda just needs to be glad you took a dip in the lady pond. Ok...stuck a toe in. Especially, after seeing what her ex looks like. Was that a mullet? Dear Lord please tell me no....lol..

Look, the fact is you're the hottest housewife there is and you're the most down to earth. So, as a lezbyterian myself, no damn wonder Fernanda was boasting about it. I would be too....only not on tv. I think that could have stayed between the two of you. No need for the drama. Don't get me wrong, Fernanda is great, but some things are just better kept between two people.

Love the show and love you....

I miss lynn so much, bring her back already...haha her face when fernanda stormed out of the room was priceless she is always good for a laugh...:( miss lynn

You did so well in the fashion show and looked beautiful and graceful....every bit as much as the professional models! The "kiss" story seemed so odd and ill-timed....it came across as though she had been waiting for the cameras! I wish she would be taken off the show. Every time she is on I dread it and cant wait to get on to the other "real" housewives. One more thing about the fashion show....it was so great to see Eddie there supporting you and obviously so happy and proud for you!

I agree she put poor Lynn in an awkward position....big deal about the kiss..alot of women friends kiss (not make out, big difference) when their drunk.....as a fellow woman in her 40's.... U GO GIRL!!!! keep having fun!!!!

Not surprised by the "kiss" and tell.

I am married to a man and I too, kiss my girlfriends, all the time! Fernanda just wants air time, the entire conversation with her girlfriend looked like a put on to me, poor Lynne. Now the other RH are spreading rumours of you having an affair with her, how ridiculous, I don't know how you put up with all their BS. I think you are fun and glad that you and Peggy are becoming good friends, she seems great.

Love ya Tamara!! Keep being yourself!!

As a fashion student, I will say many, if not most, designers don't sew their own clothes. . . I thought that was commonly known. Most designing is done by sketch or computer and then a seamstress sews it. Do you think Karl Lagerfeld sews the garments you see on the Chanel runway? No way. I do think that Alexis was very rude and she comes across as knowing nothing about fashion, but I don't agree that just because somoene doesn't sew doesn't mean they don't have creative ideas or can't sketch a design they want brought to life.

I hate when you're the mean girl. Last week I loved watching you! I'm sorry, it's not normal to kiss your friends alone in a bathroom, especially when you're married. I think it's cheating. I also don't think it's normal to kiss your gay female friends, that would be like kissing a good guy friend that may be interested in you.

I can't believe you think Jeana asks too many questions (you mean kind of like how you used to ask Gretchen tons of questions about Jeff and her dating life. . .??)

She did address it. Re-read her blog.

You are by far the funniest HW. OMG you make me laugh so bad. You are happy this season and it shows. To hell with anyone who wants to H8 on you. Just do your thing and keep being who Tamra is. Can't go wrong with it. YOU AND EDDIE NEED YOUR OWN SHOW.

What if you kissed her? You kissed her on camera and we all saw it. This lady sounds like she had fallen in love with you over a kiss. OR could she be looking to make a name for herself. WARNING: Fernanda can not be trusted; she sounded like a scorned lover last night. No wonder she took it so personal that Tamara didn't attend her freedom party. It was a little childish how she approached her about the party.

You are pretty much the realest person this show has ever seen you tell it like it is and your hillarious. Don't let the other drama freaks on the show bring you down girl cause the ones that usually hate on you are the ones that envy you ( ahem gretchen...ahem). Fernanda is rediculous too and I totally agree, why in the world would she ever bring something up like that out of the blue a year later?? She is totally trying to get attention. And as far as Jeana goes-- she should learn to mind her own business she pretty much interrogates everyone she talks to its horrible..she never seemed to be that type of person.

Tamra, I love you this season.. I think you are great.. Team Tamra for sure..

Is so nice to see true love through TV.. and I think you and Eddie makes the nicest couple.. I'm so happy that you are happy..;)

Sending you many blessings...xoxoxoxoxo

Tamra You need to drop Eddie and spread your wings more - moving from a divorce right into another relationship is not being "free". There are some serious red flags with him and obviously you are not seeing them. Enjoy the sex, but move on from this one. He is not your soul-mate - you could find a guy like that in almost any city. He may seem like it coming from your divorce, but tread slowly. Trust me, I've been there, done that. Good luck

I love you Tamra!!! Continue to have fun and live your life to the fullest. You are my favorite on the show. You're also a wonderful mother. Gretchen and Alexis are just two jealous-hearted women and don't have anything better to do, but hate on you. Let them continue to hate!!!!!!!!!

Hi Tamra, I think Fernanda is intentionally creating drama hoping to be casted as the next housewife. I also have no doubt that she is using her ex-lover for a stepping stone for financial reasons. She's a wolf in sheeps clothing.

I love you, Tamra! BUT, I have to say I can see where Fernanda is coming from. Being a lesbian myself, I have had a very similar situation happen with me and my best friend, a straight woman. Like you, she is absolutely gorgeous! She also kisses her girlfriends when she is drunk. She has also kissed me when she was drunk. The problem is, I am a lesbian and I was falling in love with her at about the same time she did the kiss thing. So, I would have to say, don't always treat your lesbian friends like you do your straight friends, because there might be more going on there and someone is going to get hurt.

Tamra, this is the nicest, most respectful and positive post you have written so far this season :) Bravo!(no pun intended)

When Jeanna said the divorce was entirely your fault the first thing I thought is that divorce is never the "fault" of just one person! It takes two. I think there is some bitterness on her part.

Have a lovely week!

I have female friends who are gay and never did they confuse a kiss to be romantic if it wasn't. If you realize your boyfriend is young enough to be your son, why can't you realize Fernanda is young enough to be your daughter? You said she finds you attractive so why can't you leave it at that, a young girl with a crush and don't give her mixed signals. Just let Fernanda be her young self and you hangout with Peggy in Cougartown.

I love watching you, your my fav and I too will kiss and play around with my friends when i'm drinking. F needs to get over it! I think she may have had a little crush on you and wanted air time!!!

You did a great job on the runway. Lynne's face was priceless. I hope she is on again.

Jeana did look good. I always thought she was nice to people's face but not behind their backs. She did that to Vicki, Gretchen, and Lynne from the beginning.

I think it depends on what type of kiss it was. It really isn't ok to give more than a quick kiss on the lips to another person. Especially if you were married at the time and the woman is a lesbian who has the hots for you. Don't be cruel and lead her on. She seems sweet to me. We'll see what happens like you said-more to come.

err...are we reading the same blog? bcuz she just did

who cares who tamera kisses? why do all the other ladies judge her so much, like they're all perfect? tamera, i think you're the most down to earth of all the orange county housewives. you're truly beautiful, not only because of your physical beauty (i'm 40, why can't i look like that??!), but your honesty and humor make you so pretty. don't stop being who you are!

Tamra I love you this season. I used to be a Gretchen fan but no longer. She had shown her true colors by being so nitpicky about every cast member. I am so glad that you have freed yourself from mean comments, being told what to do, what to wear and what to think. I think Eddie is a great guy and in time since both you and Simon are dating both of you will have to introduce the children to the partners in your lives that you are really serious about. I am impressed with how you have handled dating since your seperation. You have remained the wonderful mother that we have always seen on Real Housewives. Keep your chin up and don't let the Gretchen's, Alexis's and Jeana's get you down. I used to like Jeana alot but for someone who lived with a husband like Simon I can't believe that she supports him in the divorce and says you should of given him a chance when he refused to work on the marriage in any way when you requested a short seperation. I am shocked by her judgmental attitude she used to be my favorate of all the shows, then she left and she became mean. Now they all gang up when you decided to empower yourself and free yourself from verbal and emotional abuse. I love you girl. Take the high road. I'll pray for you and your success.

Tamara stay away from Fernanda! She wants to have a relationship with you it's obvious! It seems she might me a jelly bean of Eddie. She was really taking some shots at you! Thats sick! So what you kissed your friend on your birthday! Your straight she don't get it! Luckily Lynn stuck up for you!! She's your real friend keep her around. Please get her back on the show we miss her!! Dump fernanda bring back Lynn. I love you and Peggy are becoming friends. She see like a good friend to you! You and Eddie are so cute together!!

Yes I kiss girls too when I'm drunk lol as does about 90% of women, they probably wake up and say "I don't remember" so that means they didn't do it? nope, they did lol

I thought you were so pretty and darling on the runway! I'm a petite girl like you and I was amazed at how well you held your own amongst the tall gals!! Bravo!

I was sad to see how badly Jeanna treated you. She is a treacherous woman; please stay far from her, Tamra!! Please don't ever again feel obligated to answer her questions!! Don't talk to her, stay far away from her, and let her say what she will about you. Jeanna is not fooling anyone!!

Tamra: You are by far the hottest housewife! It's not even close. You come across as a very real person on the show. You get into everything you do with so much passion. I admire you leaving Simon. It's gotta be crazy tough with 3 little kids. Dont let any of the other housewives get you down with their petty jealousies. I love the show. and I love watching you! Keep up the good work.

Tamra, I spent the last two years hating on you and this year I can't get enough of you! I feel like the true you finally is showing! Please get rid of the toxic friendship with Fernanda if you have not already. She is using you. Stay close to Vicki, Peggy, and Lynn. Eddie is great for you and I just love him. You guys should get your own show! I love how real you are and not wrapped up in the fame and money! You're a good mom, smart, beautiful, funny, you are the total package! Please stay who you are this season!

I just have to say I think you are right on with Jeana. Jeana tries to act like the sweet, caring person but I really think that deep down she is nasty. She acts like her feelings get hurt so easily, but then attacks others like nothing. I think is is absolutely insane of her to place blame for the demise and YOUR marriage all on you. First of all, she is hearing one side of the story. Does she just trust everything that is told to her? Second, she did not live with you guys. She is entitled to her opinion, but I really think on something like this she should have kept it to herself. I haven't like Jeana since she attacked Lynn when she was the new housewife. Ever since then she started throwing digs in here and there, but saying them with a smile so you couldn't get mad at her. I think because of the way her marriage went, Jeana is so used to being controlled by men that she just always takes the man's side of things. I honestly do not know what happened between you and Simon, but your decisions are exactly that - YOURS. I am not going to pass judgment either way when I didn't live through it. You would think Jeana would feel a little pity for you since she had a controlling marriage. But again, she believes everything a man tells her over a woman. Oh and while she looks good, are your sizes different in that part of the country? A Size Small/6 my butt!

I agree with what someone else told you. While you may have thought it to be innocent-she may be deeply in love with you and took it as a sign that it wasn't. When she found out it wasn't going anywhere she may have felt confused and angry and thats why she lashed out! I think you may be bi-curious and just haven't totally discovered it yet. I love you on all seasons. Take care of yourself and the kids and screw everyone else ;)