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Great Sadness

Vicki shares how hard it was to watch this season and her disappointment over the party drama.

Well here we are at the end of the season of The Real Housewives of Orange County. When I look back and reflect on this season, it brings me great sadness. Starting this season’s filming in August of 2010, I had no idea what would unfold in my personal life. I guess that’s why they call it reality TV.

I was so pleased with how my backyard turned out for the fall party. I had planned it a few months before and really couldn’t cancel it due to my personal issues, so I decided to go ahead with it anyway. I had no idea how difficult it was going to be for me when the day actually came without Donn being there. I had never hosted a party without Donn, and it made me very sad. When my makeup artist was trying to put my makeup on, it became almost comical, because every time she would get my eyes finished, I started crying again and she had to keep fixing it.

It was nice that the girls came up to the bathroom to rally me downstairs to see everyone. I don’t know if I could have gone down on my own without some nudging. Tamra definitely knows how emotional it is to go through a separation, and she’s been a great friend to me through all of this. Thank you, Tamra, I love you!

My brother Billy flew in from Chicago to support me and be there, which was a huge thing for me. The support of my family and close friends has been great, and any of you that are or have gone through a divorce knows how important it is.

Only a short time into the party, I heard some commotion in the middle of my backyard and realized it was Tamra and Jeana arguing. I knew ahead of time that Tamra was going to serve Jeana with a cease and desist letter to tell her to stop talking to the press and newspapers, but I didn’t know when it was going to happen. There has been a lot of tension between Jeana and Tamra this year, because Jeana got in the middle of Tamra and Simon’s personal issues. Tamra had asked Jeana on several occasions to stop talking about her, and she wouldn’t, so Tamra really had no other choice.

When I heard Tamra screaming at Jeana I immediately went over to them to see if I could help, and that’s when the pushing and wine throwing started. I think I counted five glasses of wine thrown…unbelievable. Here I’m thinking we are going to have a nice, quiet party, and the next thing I know it was anything but that! You couldn’t script all of that to happen even if you tried.

Well the dust has settled since that party, we have all resumed our non TV camera lives, which is always good. Trying to juggle filming, my business, and my family is always a challenge each year. There are times when I just don’t know how much longer I can do it.

We filmed the reunion show two weeks ago, and I have to say watch out New Jersey, this is going to be a good one. Let’s put it this way, every one of us cried including, Jeana Keough, which never happens.

I wish all of you a healthy, happy and wonderful summer. Keep me in mind if you are in the need of any life insurance, 401K/IRA rollover planning, or if you want a good book to read this summer called More Than a Housewife.

I challenge all of you to love one another more, apologize more, spend less, save more, and plan to save for your retirement now! It will be here before you know it. If you have had a job change or need a safe place to invest your money, please visit my website www.cotoretirementplanning.com for more information. I’d be happy to help you with your retirement investment goals and planning needs.

Many blessings to all of you, and thank you so much for your support during this past season. All of your messages to me about your marriages and your relationships have been very good for me to read to know that I’m not alone during this transition in my life.

Warmly,

Vicki Gunvalson

www.vickigunvalson.com

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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