Cast Blog: #RHOC

Death by Omission

Gretchen explains how she's staying positive and catches you up on her endeavors.

Hi Guys!

I have been out of commission writing blogs for the last few weeks for a few different reasons (including my extremely busy travel schedule lately) however I have had so many exciting and amazing things happening lately that it's been hard to focus on anything negative. When I see what other Wives are claiming about me on the show or what they "really" think about me when they have told me another thing in person, it sparks emotions and frustrations that creates negativity in my life.

I was finding myself trying to explain the reason why I choose to do something every week in my blog, and the bottom line is that I realized that I don’t have to explain who I know I am or my intentions to anyone. I know my heart, and I know my intentions are always coming from a good place whether it involves my friends or my partner. I have and will never waver from that.

Sometimes I am even willing to risk a friendship for the sake of letting the person know the truth about something they might not be aware of. I would hope a friend would be willing to do the same thing for me. It's not always easy telling your friend or partner something they don't want to hear, but sometimes you have to in order to help them in the long run. Maybe my delivery or timing can get better, but I have only wanted the best for everyone -- including people that I don't even like or get along with per say.

Instead of trying to make anyone, including my fellow 'Wives, try to understand that I am just actively choosing to live in the positive space of knowing who I am, I am confident that one day they will realize it was done out of love and not out of spite.

I found that when I went to write my blog I would end up spending my energy trying to call another 'Wife  on something due to their ignorance or self-righteous ways, and I realized that was only hurting me by giving them any energy because their ways are never going to change. Therefore I decided to sink my energy into positive things and it has been the best thing in the world for me, my ultimate goals, and my career!

Do I have a lot to say? Yes. Do I have a lot of frustrations about what people are out saying about me to uncredible media sources simply for press, of course! However I have learned from the no-nonsense infamous business woman Anna Wintour (Editor in Chief of Vogue) that "Death by Omission" is a good motto to live by. Rather than talking negative about a designer they simply just don't make the cut in the magazine.

I’m not claiming I won't ever have something to say again, however I am just taking a break from the negative and am focused on the positive as best as I can right now.

So with that said thank you to everyone that has been sending me such positive messages about all my fun adventures and the great opportunities that I have had come my way lately. I have literally been on a plane every week traveling for work, an appearance, or hosting gig, and therefore it’s been difficult to even find time lately to do anything. So I would like to share a little bit of what has been going on in my world that has been positive lately!Tamra and I were asked to go on Chelsea Lately a few weeks ago and we had a blast with the whole cast and crew there! Slade and I went on Dr. Drew's show on HLN to talk about relationships, and he paid Slade and I the most memorable compliment yet. He said, "you guys seem to have a very healthy relationship," as if he was beyond shocked. . .LOL. That one made me crack up!

I was thrilled to be asked on Bethenny's new talk show and had a ball with her and Loni Love (who is hilarious!). I am beyond happy for my fellow Housewife sister and all her success.

Then you can imagine my surprise and excitement when Good Morning America asked me as a designer to give my two cents on the latest concerns regarding dangerous levels of lead in handbags while I was in New York this week. They also filmed me working in my showroom designing my next Gretchen Christine Collection! It was a huge honor to have the Gretchen Christine Collection shown and talked about on Good Morning America! You can check out the clip on my site GretchenChristine.com under videos.

The next bit of fun and exciting news was that Slade was offered his own radio show due to his act that he has been performing at different comedy clubs! Playlist 92.7 was looking for a comedian to host a new talk show for them and Slade is the one who got the job! He is on everyday from 12 to 1pm talking all things Housewives, Hollywood gossip, what men and woman really want, just to name a few topics, plus so much more!

He has a segment called "Life Lessons with Liz" (who is his amazingly brutal and hilarious mom) and even Terry Dubrow is going to be a regular guest talking about the good, bad, and ugly of plastic surgery. This show is the opportunity for everyone to get to see a different side to Slade, one I know you all haven't ever seen before. It's the Slade I know and wake up with everyday. It's the hilarious, smart, loving, caring, business oriented, real parent, extremely full of information all the time about anything and everything Slade that I feel in love with.

The best news is that last week there were so many listeners that streamed his show live on Playlist927.com that it actually shut the servers down! Go Slade! I have always believed in him, and that is why I have stuck by his side through the good and bad for the last three years. It has been hard at times as you all have seen us be authentic, but I knew something big was going to happen for him and it finally has! Congratulations baby! Be sure to tune into Radio Slade weekdays or follow him on Twitter (@sladesmiley) to find out which guest he is going to have on every day! Or better yet, call in and talk to him!

Since I keep getting a lot of questions about it, I wanted to give you an update on my Pink Travel Collection. The samples are in and they are just to die for! Currently we have only five custom, high-end handbags available right now for sale and if you are interested in one of these extremely limited edition, gorgeous, all leather croc, embossed pink satchels please email me at info@gretchenchristine.com and I can let you know how to get one of these very custom bags.

The more affordable pink satchels will be available in the next 3-4 weeks as well as all the other pieces in the pink travel set. I have been super hard at work for the last three years building my brand and my companies. As difficult as it can be at times, it has been so worth it and beyond rewarding as I start to see the fruits of my labor reap great success!

As you saw a little bit of this season music and writing is my favorite past time! It relaxes me and gives me a way to express my emotions about the things I have experienced or gone through in my life. No I'm not trying to be Britney Spears, but I am enjoying exploring this space and getting to express myself in ways I haven't before. My new single "Unbreakable" made its world premiere on Ryan Seacrest this morning June 22! You can continue to hear it at here then it will be available June 26th on iTunes for download!

Playlist 92.7 will be playing it on the air all day Monday too if you want to tune it to hear it! Be sure to visit my website to see the behind-the-scenes video of me recording the song in the studio and talking about the inspiration behind the song. It's a great dance song, however there is so much meaning behind the lyrics. This has been a long work in process, and it's something that I am extremely proud of and can't wait to share with all of you.

If you watched the sneak peak of next week's episode you will see me give Tamra a bracelet and talking to her about being "Unbreakable" despite everything that she had going on in her life. This song is a song that can apply to all of us and all the things we all have had to endure in our lives (sickness of a family member, divorce, death, loss of job, ending of a relationship, being bullied, cancer, loss of friendship, etc.) and to always remember that you can be unbreakable no matter what life throws you.

Well that about sums up why I have been a busy little bee and focused on the positive lately. I just wanted to stay in this space for at least another week, if that’s ok with you guys. . .LOL.

I hope you guys can understand that, and forgive me for not wanting to talk about things that are draining or negative right now. Thank you to all the amazing fans for giving us RHOC girls another successful season! Be sure to tune into the finale and the reunion, you won't want to miss it! You guys are my inspiration to keep being Unbreakable no matter what!

Xoxo
Gretchen Christine

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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