Cast Blog: #RHOC

I Would Do Anything for Love

Heather explains the motivation and meaning behind her name change.

Memorial Day weekend is here!!! Yeah! I love long weekends with my family! I had such an amazing trip to NYC this week! I loved being with Andy Cohen on WWHL! My first time in the clubhouse was a blast! Dr. Oz is a great guy, and I was happy to see him again. I'm especially proud of my new WWHL Medical Degree. I knew I could be a doctor! 

I also saw lots of family and a few friends while I was in town.

There is never enough time but I can't stay away too long from my brood. Plus, it was open house night at school -- the kids would be devastated if we missed that!

So this episode was special to me. Changing my name legally was representative of so many things. No one wants to feel they have lost their identity. It was a struggle between my past, present, and future. I feel I made the right decision for me and my family. Truthfully though, there is no right or wrong decision when it comes to changing one's name after marriage. The prevailing factors should be that the decision is mutually agreed upon by both partners in the relationship and that everyone feels happy and confident.Lunch with my dear friend Dina Waters was fun to watch. We have known each other for many years and I cherish our time together. She's smart, honest, cares about me, and she gives sound advice. All amazing qualities to have in a friend. I feel so grateful and blessed to have her in my life.

The DMV! I was actually nervous to go there. That trip finalized my name as Heather Dubrow! It was the first time I ever signed that name. Very strange. Meanwhile, they didn't think I was very funny at the DMV. Maybe you didn't either -- but I amused myself. Sometimes that's all that is important!

Telling Terry I had legally changed my name was a great moment. I loved his reaction. It totally touched my heart to see how much it meant to him.

Look, for most people changing your name after marriage is a no brainer -- for me it wasn't. I realize however, this is not hugely important in the scheme of life. We still love each other the same, have the same family, live the same lives. We didn't cure a disease or defeat an enemy.

The truth is, in our small corner of the world, we got an opportunity to stop for a minute, look at each other and say "I love you so much I will do anything for you." Moments like that are precious and reaffirm what you mean to each other. I love my husband fiercely. He is an amazingly smart, generous, sweet, sexy man. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world when I am with him. I would do anything for him (well, having just read 50 Shades of Grey that may not be 100 percent true. . .) and this was just a small show of support and appreciation.

So, until next week! Can't wait to see what Costa Rica brings! Should be fun!

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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