Tamra Barney

Tamra reflects on the many changes this season brought, including her rift with Vicki.

on Jun 27, 20120

Watching the finale allowed me to reflect over the past year and remember how blessed I am to have such amazing people in my life. I finally feel like I have achieved the happiness I deserve. I can't watch this episode without being thankful for my friends, my amazing children, and of course WinesbyWives.com.

Finding the diamond at Heather's party was so exciting. What woman doesn't love a rock?! It was another reminder of how lucky I am to have found Eddie though, and it really made me think about all the couples out there who are as lucky as I am to have found someone that makes everyday more enjoyable.

Getting engaged to Eddie was one of the happiest days of my life, and I realized finding the diamond was a way for me to share that joy. I am going to give the diamond from Heather's party away to a deserving couple that may not be able to afford a ring but whose love story moves me and my fans.

By visiting WinesbyWives.com
couples can submit their love stories. I will choose my top five and then let the fans vote for their favorite. Being engaged to Eddie has been so wonderful, and I can't wait to give the diamond to another couple so they can enjoy in the magic of such an incredible time in their life and in their relationship. . .

406 comments
tiger111
tiger111

Worry  about  your  own life.And  leave  the  show,no  more  fake  tears,and evil back stabbing.

karalinn
karalinn

Oh Tamara,

You are a very pretty lady, why do you have to cry every episode?  Is that a rating's 'getter'?  You used to be so nice to all the ladies, but now you and Vicki aren't even close.  She is getting over a long relationship and trying to find someone who make her feel awesome and worth something, it is going to take a few losers before she finds her prince.  Please stand by her until she does.

cpul802
cpul802

I've always liked you from day one.. As for your friendship with Vicki.. She can dish it out but not take it. She gets into everyone's business and yet no one better question Brooks. I feel that Vicki did the changing. Had you brought someone in and had the back ground Brooks done she been all up your ass. Not that Brooks cant be a nice guy, but come on Vicki you choose him over everyone in your life? stupid... You and Gretchen are proof people change.. Life has changed for you and your happy and a different person. Love it! 

lisers
lisers

 You have gone down in my estimation  with how you treated Vicky i cant understand why you have turned on her ,she was so there for you  through your marriage troubles  and really thought you her best friend  but basically  as soon as you hooked up with gretchen  you started  putting Vicky down  treating her different  and  lets not forget Vicky was scared for her daughters health  . The fact you dont trust  her boyfriend   is ok but you went round it the wrong way  she was supposed to be your best friend but you didnt treat her like  as if she was .

I know Vicky has her faults  same as everyone else but i could not get over have quick you dropped her as soon as you got tight with Gretchen   meaning the  friendship did not mean as much  to you as people thought 

loriblue
loriblue

Tamra here from England you are the best!  Your one liners are beautiful.  Keep then coming!!!!I pinch them all the time!!!!!  xxx

sue702
sue702

You look great for your age. I too have great skin for my age of 67. I know your much younger but your will always look good!

 

Leechiv
Leechiv

Tamra you are a fair weather friend. What ever happened to being the best friend you can be and supporting a girlfriend no matter what. I can't wait to see which way the wind will blow u next season.

Elizabeth18
Elizabeth18

@lisa2270

Excuse me but i dont understand why you replied to my post and said the exact same thing i said about Tamra talking about them 2 yrs ago. also i never mentioned the word hipocrte or said anything about that.

 

Also i go to church every sunday so i dont need to hear a quote  from the bible regarding a hipocrite especially when i never mentioned anything about that, I'd like to know where you spend your Sunday morning (probably sleeping.) I KNOW that Jesus forgives so theres no point in telling me that.

 

I simply stated my opinion and i can tell that your the type of person who loves to be right and show people up, the problem is you didnt take the time to understand what i said and u said the exact same thing i did while trying to make me look wrong. Its like your trying to prove someone wrong who said the same thing you did. If you spend your life waiting for a situation to come up where you can try to make yourself look better your life is gonna really suck.

 

P.S. Its usually takes a very close-minded person to take a situation (a stupid little reality show) and make it about religion. Its really not that deep, and i dont like getting some smart comment that implies that i need someone to give me a lesson on God and the bible. If you want to make this about religion you should probably get off the blogs. :)

 

Thanks, bye :)

Elizabeth18
Elizabeth18

 @lisa2270  Excuse me but i dont understand why you replied to my post and said the exact same thing i said about Tamra talking about them 2 yrs ago. also i never mentioned the word hipocrte or said anything about that.

 

Also i go to church every sunday so i dont need to hear a quote  from the bible regarding a hipocrite especially when i never mentioned anything about that, I'd like to know where you spend your Sunday morning (probably sleeping.) I KNOW that Jesus forgives so theres no point in telling me that.

 

I simply stated my opinion and i can tell that your the type of person who loves to be right and show people up, the problem is you didnt take the time to understand what i said and u said the exact same thing i did while trying to make me look wrong. Its like your trying to prove someone wrong who said the same thing you did. If you spend your life waiting for a situation to come up where you can try to make yourself look better your life is gonna really suck.

 

P.S. Its usually takes a very close-minded person to take a situation (a stupid little reality show) and make it about religion. Its really not that deep, and i dont like getting some smartass comment that implies that i need someone to give me a lesson on God and the bible. If you want to make this about religion you should probably get off the blogs. :)

 

Thanks, bye :)

 

 

 

chickapea82
chickapea82

Tamra, You did not do anything the night you and Vicki got into the argument at Heather's party. Brooks wanted to start something with you, he is jealous of your and Vicki's friendship and wants Vicki for his self. Congratulations on your and Eddie's Wedding. Reconsider inviting Vicki... you both have always been best friends and you have too much history to let the likes of the A--hole from the "south" come between you.

Watch Gretchen.  She is not that trustworthy.

 

bradyblack
bradyblack

Tamra ,you should not worry anymore about Vickie .The only thing that desturbed me is why didnt Heather kick Vickie out for making a hugh scene ,like she did with Alexis's  guest . I so would have and have before .  be happy Tamra . Oh as a person from Orange County I can so say you need a fur about as much as you need snow boots .At least one that thick .......

JessicaM27
JessicaM27

Tamra,

I joined this site just so I could comment on your blog! You are by far my favorite housewife and I think you have made some amazing transformations over the past few seasons. I love that you made peace with Gretchen, I think it reflected the peace and security you are feeling in your life now. You and Eddie are adorable and I am so happy for you guys! Sadly, I think Vicki is in a place where she is in denial right now. I really believe that 'Brooks' is a con-man and I know personally I wouldn't want to face that truth if I were her. It would be incredibly painful and such a blow to the ego to admit to yourself that you fell in love with a man who was only in it for the money or other materialistic gains. Bottom line, if your family and dear friends are telling you that the person you are with has other motives and isn't being genuine with you, it's almost ALWAYS true! I wish the best for Vicki but I also hope she sees things for what they really are. I know this is just a show but I think that in a way many people can relate these situations ( in a way) to things they are going through with their own friends or in their own lives. But anyways, I have really grown to respect you this season, from taking your implants out, to speaking your mind as always =). YOU ROCK!!!

sugare
sugare

Tamra...I am very happy to see that you and Gretchen have become such good friends!!   We all need 'true friends' that we can count on to always be there for each other, and now you and Gretchen seem to have that kind of bond.   I am sorry to see that your relationship with Vickie has changed because of Brooks.  He comes across very 'fake...and ungenuine'.   I hope for her sake, that she realizes what he is!   Sometimes, though, when we try to give advice to someone who thinks they are in love...., these people will not listen because they don't want to face the facts.   Maybe it is your approach to Vickie that is the problem, even though the words you are speaking are the truth....she is just not ready to see it.   You can come on very strong in your opinion, and I totally understand your passion when you are concerned for a friend, but, try to take a much softer approach when you talk to Vickie......maybe she would come around....it might not be today or tomorrow......but, whether she know it or not, she NEEDS you.   

MarilynB
MarilynB

Tamara,

     Although you haven't always been a favorite of mine, my opinion of you changed when you were having problems with Simon. I even sent you a message to listen to the song,"Even Angels Cry". I AM SSSOOO HAPPY that you and Grethen are now friends. Until the reunion show, my favorite housewives saying was NeNE's, "Close your legs to married men".   BUT HUNNY, that saying of yours, 'Jesus jugs'! ! ! ! ! ! RIFLMAO! ! !!!!!!!!

That is the best one yet.

SheilaShyne7
SheilaShyne7

I liked the little change you made..seemed like over the years you were a very angry person and it showed towards the other woman. however you tend to have a habit to pick on other people and belittle them:-( 

and then it shows, you still have anger that seeps through~ 

although i admire your fiance. you are lucky to have him

Wildfire2
Wildfire2

Tamra - I am glad that you and Gretchen have finally buried the hatchet. It was nice seeing the 2 of you having fun together for once. I do think that you get too involved in other people's issues, but there is no need to call people out on every single thing. Also, there is a way to get your point across without offending people. It's called tact. You should try it some time.

Pchangel-Alli
Pchangel-Alli

Tamara - I'm so glad you healed the relationship between you and Gretchen and I'm also glad you're not letting Vicki tell you what to say and think anymore!  Or so it seemed.  You are so outspoken this season and good for you, it's about time! 

Vicki will learn that her snoop dog - Barney, I mean Brooks is obviously more about drama than any woman I've ever seen.  He wants to be the center of attention, you can tell that by the crazy, non-sense he comes up with on the show. Even Vicki doesn't understand half of what he says.  Oh and wait - I even noticed one episode when he was preaching about "love", Vicki rolled her eyes at him - maybe you should let him know that his loving Victoria gave him the evil eye as well. HA!  Briana is so right about him being an oportunist!  Among other things! 

I wish you and Eddie the best  - can't wait to see a wedding and seeing you guys on the show next season!  Keep on standing up for yourself!

 

BeccaWillisKing
BeccaWillisKing

You are a very pretty woman. I was wondering if you ever thought about doing a lighter look on the make up. You always have the really dark black look going and I think you would be even prettier with a softer look. Be blessed!

Mary@123
Mary@123

I love watching the show you are finally happy and it shows Eddie is so good for you loves you for who you are and I'm glad you and Gretchen worked things out hope things get better with you and Vickie but you are just being you and telling her the truth she would be in your business with Eddie if she didn't like him

Fdeck
Fdeck

ugh please please do not return another season!

BIGBOO
BIGBOO

I wonder what kind of people actually LIKE Tamra's personality. I am pondering about the people that defend her behavior. I think there maybe a lot of self centered, mean spirited people out there, that get off on seeing someone bully and malign others. I think Tamra owes Vicky an apology for SURE and I don't even particularly LIKE Vicky but this year, she at least showed a little heart when she FINALLY said everyone is flawed, everyone is a bit of a hypocrite, and nobody really changes....that is right,..except a  few people change and  I DO see improvement in Vicky and as for the other  the other ladies(loosely stated)....well, there is room for MUCHO improvement there as well. EYE ROLLING is a sign of contempt. Think about it, whenever I have rolled my eyes, I was never feeling the love....and that is the wrong attitude toward a friend....especially one of your best friends and on national television. 

lla53711
lla53711

You've been coming very mean girl.  Not good to tell your friends secrets in public even if your fighting.

JKSDiego
JKSDiego

Tamra, if.....you are truly in Love with your fiance why are you not in a loving mood at all. You started this mean girl act with your divorce. Now you must be sorry to have let Simon go? Since you are still miserable to everyone around you, You really messed up there..... I believe you are misserable. You certainly look and act miserable. I think you are typical of a couple that gets caught messing around and now you have to stay together to justify the whole thing messing up your life, My advice would be run like hell and get rid of your misery and get back to being a mother and a Friend with compassion and get some Love in your life again. Eddie seems like a nice guy, but not for you. You are a classic case of stuck. Thats why you keep crying and crying,

Kathym329
Kathym329

Not a single word about Vicki? I liked you at the beginning of the season (and for the first time)...a middle-aged woman, learning to stand on her own two feet was almost inspiring. Then poof. You called out Alexis in a vile and hurtful way just because she didn't live by your rules,  you are jumping right back into a marriage with only a hot second in between, and you rocked the boat with one of your closest friends and ultimately destroyed the relationship - and because she didn't live by your rules. The speed and ease with which you accomplished these things is perhaps the most frightening.  All I can come up with is that you were never a true friend.  I'm not a sold on Brooks, but I can think of a hundred different ways you could have shared your concerns and still maintained your friendship with Vicki.  Your goal wasn't to help Vicki, your goal was to get Vicki to live by your rules.

 

 

 

realdaye
realdaye

You like to tell it like it is, but there is a correct way to do that, and there is a wrong.  I don't know why I watched any of this, but what I saw from you was mean, hateful and truly sad.  I don't think you understand true friendship, or how to even love yourself or others.  I hope that when you look back and watch yourself you realize that there is something much deeper in your life that is missing, and until you get that figured out you are never going to have lasting relationships. 

NeutronBomb
NeutronBomb

Tamra, you can dish it...but can't take it! Vicki had been a very good friend to you and supported Eddie...so why can't you support Brooks? Vicki is a grown woman and has to make her own choices/mistakes...

skyecoteFL
skyecoteFL

Can I just say. That I have been watching real housewives for about 4 years. I think for the birds to be chirping loyal, and how they are victems. The only victems are alexis and vicki. They are being bullied. Alexis might feel as if she has to prove something. Look to whom. The most judgemental women on tv. Think that tamra and gretchen are the only people who are truly trying to prove something. Doing so by attacking their friends and leaving them behind by being disloyal and tamra and gretchen come together, when clearly they have ben the reason that there has been a block between everyone. I'm not a blogger. This is my first time. But I find it sickening that this seasons reunion had the only people that truly screwed eachother sitting next to eachother, attacking the only 2 that stood by them thru thick n thin, getting to put the fake or real sticker on whoever they please. I'm 21 btw. If I c it n u don't...wow

LIVLUVLAF58
LIVLUVLAF58

Tamara, I think you’re the best. I also think Brooks is creepy. Why it is Vicki can point out everything wrong with just about everyone but never turns that mirror on herself. It’s all about Vicki. I’m don’t know the woman but it is so clear she is desperate for a man in her life that she would take a loser like Brooks. Just a note, on every season there is enough eye rolling from everyone. In fact if I had a nickel for every time I saw someone rolling their eyes I would be living like Heather (who I also love now.) So why would creepy Brookes decide that time that moment to call you out on your eye rolling? To put a wedge between you and Vickie, I thought the same thing exactly right when you said it, I was so proud of you for putting that loser of a man in his place. I am so upset with Vicki I could spit nails, I hope this is her last season. Smart business women but dumb as a rock when it comes to relationships. She has learned nothing. He saying that she ripped into Don’s new girlfriend only means to me she has not allowed herself to heal from Don and that she is probably still in love with the man. If she put as much work into her marriage as she did to her work, she would have been successful in both. She should have stayed with Don. I think your great you should be allowed to have as many close friends as you wish without feeling you have to choose or that Vickie will get jealous. So happy for you and Eddie and the reason Vickie can’t say anything bad about Eddie is because there is nothing to say. He seems like a real nice guy and I for one am happy for you both.

cindyBreeding
cindyBreeding

Tamara, I liked you but now I dislike you. you change your sides like no other. You are just like an uneducated and classless girls in high school who picks on girls and bullies them. Very saddened by the way you displayed your character.

Justamomof2
Justamomof2

Tamra, I am so happy you and Gretchen have become friends, I hope things keep going smooth between you two. I agree with you and seems like everyone agrees Brooks is creepy, cannot figure out what's wrong with Vicki that she cant see it., but then I always loved Don. I thought Vicki was mean to Don and began to finally like her when she started being nice to him, didn't last long. I am not surprised because Vicki always has seemed to be very much into Vicki. To bad she didn't take the time to make Don happy as she has to make Brooks look presentable. I wish you all happiness with Eddie.

antonie16
antonie16

Tamra-you are so right. Vicki said anything she wanted about Simon, now she is with Brooks and even her own daughter can't show any concern or she just shuts her down. You have no choice but to seperate from the situation. Just make sure you are there when she needs to pick up the pieces....that is what a true friend would do. 

LuvMyYorkie
LuvMyYorkie

Jesus Jugs!  LOL!!!  I almost fell out of my seat laughing!  OMG that was so funny!  Hate the hair though....yikes!  You are such a little thing and now that you are going to be a fitness mogal why not cut your hair into a cute, sassy shorter cut?  I'm just saying......would look lots better..

TulsaHousewife
TulsaHousewife

Tamra,

First it was Gretchen, then Jeanna, then Slade and Gretchen, then Alexis...see the pattern here? You cannot seem to get along with everyone. Someone has to be your target and now it is Vicki. Shame on you. I hope you are replaced next season because you have come across this season as a mean girl and no one likes a mean girl.

NewYorkNY
NewYorkNY

Way to throw Vicki under the bus by making the Cabo statement in the upcoming reunion show.  Whether she did it or not, a true friend doesn't do that to their friend.  You're a horrible friend and a nasty person.  Gretchen, RUN!

lisa2270@
lisa2270@

 @Elizabeth18Sounds like someone forgot about what they posted. And I quote, Elizabeth18:  "and also: besides the religious aspect... just because Tamra had her implants removed doesnt give her the right to start making fun of Alexis for having implants.

Sounds like a hipocrite to me."

 

This is what I replied to.  If you posted anything prior, then you need to get over it. I could care less about what you said elsewhere. From what anyone can read here, YOU DID say something about Tamra being a 'hipocrite'.

 

As for religion, don't go there. All I did was refer to a Bible verse, which I still stand behind 100%. Read before you speak.

 

Lastly, get a dictionary. Learn how to spell HYPOCRITE. Then maybe you'll actually UNDERSTAND what people are actually talking about. (then again, this makes perfect sense....)

lisa2270@
lisa2270@

@Elizabeth18

GOOD JOB in posting this tirade 2x's! You made my job wayyyy to easy. If anything, your tirade shows exactly how judgemental (and ignorant) you are.

 

All I did was to simply point that out and was proven ten-fold; all in 1-2 sentences. You can obviously dish it out to others and cannot take it when someone calls you out on it. :)

 

BTW, the smiley face seems inappropriate, don't you think? You really need to think about your actions (not to mention your grammar) before you pull crap like this in your replies. It makes real Christians look bad.

 

karalinn
karalinn

 @MarilynB 

I like your comment.  If I had a problem with it or any comments, I wouldn't participate on this website.

BIGBOO
BIGBOO

 @MarilynB See, that is o.k. if you love the Jesus Jugs comment but Christians find it offensive and sacreligious......people should leave Jesus out of this.....wrong wrong wrong.

Beckymgrey
Beckymgrey

 @BIGBOO Vicky did the same thing to Jenna, with Tamra. Turnabout is fair play!

 

teamalexis
teamalexis

JKSdiego... don't you mean "acting" like she's crying.  I have yet to see a tear drop from her eye.  lol

balmoralgal
balmoralgal

 @LuvMyYorkie It's VERY sad that you find that funny. You obviously aren't a Christian but there are many of us who are. Personally, I would NEVER make such crude remarks to people of a different faith. Never have, never will. It's called respect, courtesy and maturity. I don't believe in mocking, belittling, or humiliating ANYONE, simply because I don't like that person, or for ANY reason. I don't have to agree or hang out with that person but I live by the Golden Rule. Tamra's comment is BEYOND disgusting, insulting, and it shows how she's devoid of empathy for others. So if she wants others to listen to her and respect her, she must do the same with others, and not because she can get something out of that friendship for the time being? How would she feel if anyone treated her kids later on in life, the same way she treats others? She acts so cavalier about others' feelings, and thinks she can say whatever she wants without consequences, defame them, and get others to join her, yet it would hurt her deeply if anyone would say that about her, and her loved ones.

cab2012
cab2012

 @NewYorkNY

 Tamra is going to be Gretchen's Karma. Gretchen did exactly the same thing to Alexis. LOL....I can't wait to sit back and watch these two take each other down, both deserve it!

Hulali
Hulali

Kim's wigs look much better than the Lauwrence Welch hairdo that Tamera was sporting!

BIGBOO
BIGBOO

 @Beckymgrey I hated her last year but I see a change. I think people deserve the chance to grow and become better people, Becky. Tamra has yet to grow. I hope next season will bring about a different person. I hate bullies.

rebeccablom
rebeccablom

@peridot @LuvMyYorkie not funny! Don't make fun of someones beliefs! I find it offensive!

Beckymgrey
Beckymgrey

@amorenomore @Beckymgrey Exactly it doesnt make it right no matter who does it. So this whole poor Vickie "I am a victim of Tamra." again Karma. Learn from your mistakes and keep it moving. Oh sidebar: Vicky is a good judge of character What?