Cast Blog: #RHOC

Facing Facts

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Facing Facts

Vicki discusses adult friendships and defends Brooks.

I wanted to apologize for posting this blog late. It is not in my nature to be late on these, but this week has really been tough on me. Without getting into too many of the details, I had to reorganize and terminate some of my staff in order to have it grow in a positive manner which caused my workload to be at an all time high.

This weeks' episode as you can tell is leading up to a lot of different situations that will actually unfold all season long.

First of all, I want to talk about the Catalina boat ride with Tamra, Eddie, and Brooks. What you didn't see on the boat ride, was Eddie and I talking about both being Aries, about our drive and passion for success (in all areas of our lives), our work ethic and our desire to travel the world. I never thought Tamra would get jealous of that, because she was the one who always talked about how much Eddie and I were alike and we used to laugh about it. When she placed Brooks' hand on her "boobie," it wasn't sexual -– but I do see how Eddie felt she crossed the line. I feel that Eddie laid the groundwork down as to the boundaries in their relationship, and I don't think Tamra will jeopardize that anymore.

When Heather called me and invited me to a painting party --- I was like "What?" What the heck is a painting party? I had never been one to paint or draw and although I believe I have a lot of talents. . .drawing or painting is not one of them. I surprised myself when I actually painted a shoe without the help of a paint-by-number paper. At the end of the night, it was fun to do something different. Brooks actually surprised all the girls when he showed up to pick me up. I had a flight out the next morning to New Jersey and he drove me to a hotel near L.A. so I could spend the night there for my early morning flight. I didn't know how the girls were going to accept him, but everyone seemed really sweet. The fact of the matter is that Tamra and Eddie had met Brooks a few months earlier, so it wasn't as if Brooks was meeting all the girls for the first time.

When I was saying goodbye to the ladies I didn't even realize that I didn't hug Tamra goodbye. To hear her say I was jealous of Tamra and Gretchen's relationship is just silly. I told Tamra last year, I had hoped that they could be at least cordial to one another and I encouraged her to stop all that nonsense. To say I'm jealous is the farthest thing from my mind. I have many, many "best friends" that you the viewers never meet and never have any of them been jealous of each other. I mean really. . .we are in our 40s. Why can't we have many friends versus just one? I feel Tamra is the type of friend that focuses on one friend at a time, and then tends to find faults in the others to alienate them from the group. You can see that happening this year again. It seems every year she is mad at someone or trying to find fault in someone, which I just don't understand.

My view on friendships is plain and simple. Have many of them, treat them with respect, laugh with them, learn from them, encourage them, be true to them, truly have their "back," and hopefully grow old with them. I wish and pray that Tamra and Gretchen will have a friendship that will last a lifetime. I think they are very much alike and that if they have chosen to truly "bury the hatchet," then they are both doing the right thing. But to state publicly they are BFFs right out of the gate is a little odd. . .

Now the subject everyone seems to be talking about this season is BROOKS. I am saddened and appalled that Gretchen and Slade felt it important to bring Brooks child support issues up. First of all, if most of you remember I did not talk about Slade, his work, or child support issues at all last year. If you recall I actually publicly apologized for commenting on something that is so personal and none of my business. I did not condone Tamra calling Grayson's mom when we were filming the reunion last year to discuss his personal and financial issues. It was NONE of my business or Tamra's, and I found it terribly disrespectful and felt it crossed the line. Now that I am dating Brooks, I guess Gretchen and Slade feel I'm a good target to hit because of Brooks' past situation. I think it's best to state the FACTS:

1. Brooks children are his utmost priority in his life. It is for this reason that I respect and love him so immensely. PERIOD. He loves his children with all of his might and sees his children as much as possible. He is not a deadbeat dad.

2. Brooks got behind in child support and was arrested. Neither Brooks nor I have denied that and it is terribly humiliating and embarrassing to him.

3. Because Brooks is dating me (which equates to being on camera), he has had to publicly face the backlash from press and people, which he did not want.

4. I do not condone fathers who don't support their children. It is not only a financial responsibility to support your children, but also requires emotional, spiritual, and physical support. When the financial difficulty hit Brooks he more than made up in the other areas of their lives.

5. I have been a single mom and a recipient of an ex-husband who did not consistently financially assist me in supporting Mike and Briana. Not only did my ex-husband abandon my children emotionally, but also he did spiritually and physically. I would never encourage or be with a deadbeat dad because of my personal experience raising Michael and Briana. I therefore understand both sides, but ultimately it's not only the father's responsibility to raise and provide for their children, it's also the mother's. When my ex-husband could not assist me in supporting our children, I picked up the slack and became more creative on how I could support them on my own. I didn't lie down and expect another man to come in and support them for me, nor did I lie down and depend on the government to support me. Read more about this in my book at MoreThanaHousewifeBook.com

I could continue on and on about this, but at the end of the day I just want everyone to know that there are TWO sides to every story. Brooks is an amazing man and father, or I wouldn't be with him. End of discussion.

I wanted to thank all of you for your continued support. Life is hard and it hasn't been easy for most of us these past few years. People are getting married, people are divorcing, people have health issues, have lost loved ones, and had financial issues, which have affected almost every one of us.

For those of you that have contacted me about your IRA or 401K rollovers, thank you for your business. For those of you that haven't, please do. I am a safe money advisor and in 22 years, not one of my clients have ever lost $1 due to non-guaranteed accounts. Please visit my website for any of your retirement planning needs at CotoRetirementPlanning.com or email us at info@cotoretirementplanning.com.  For those of you that are interested in reviewing your current life insurance policy or are in the need of a new policy, please visit my website at CotoInsurance.com.

My feeling and beliefs are simple and true to my core. Treat others as you wish to be treated, try to look at the glass as half-full -- and not half-empty, hug someone that you just met, be forgiving instead of judgmental, smile a lot -– it will confuse "them," save more and spend less, be honest and don't lie, and do a little "Woo Hoo" once in a while.

I wish you all peace and thank you for taking the time to read my blog.

Warmly,
Vicki
www.vickigunvalson.com

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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