Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki reflects back on her mindset at the start of Season 7 and what's changed since then.

on Jun 27, 20120

After their fourth month of their marriage, Briana announced to me that she was pregnant. Again. . .another emotion that I thought I didn't have in me to endure. Our family had hoped that they would have waited longer to have some time alone as a married couple, but at the end of the day I couldn't be happier for them. I am going to be a grandma, and am thrilled to have this new previous life enter our family. I have been fortunate enough to go to their ultrasound visits and our little bundle of joy is growing healthy and even waved to his momma last week. Yes, she’s having a boy!

I have a lot of travels coming up this summer, and I'm sure some of you do as well. I’ll be in MN, AZ, Las Vegas, Grand Cayman, Chicago, and NYC. If you see me around, be sure to yell my infamous "Woo Hoo." I hope it puts a smile on your face as it does mine.

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276 comments
linda.foltz.7
linda.foltz.7

Hi,   When is Brianna Baby Boy due ?    I too am going to be grandma again   # 6 for me.  :)

DeeDee5304
DeeDee5304

Vicki,

I really don't know about your relationship with Don, he always seems so nice. You stated that Don has been cheating on you for 20 years. I really don't know, but if this is the case I apologize for judging. It surprised me that you would stay with someone that you know was cheating on you. Then when I watch you and Brooks, I am not surprised. I judged you for numerous of reason with Don. You always seem to emasculate him of his manhood. You were so disrespectful to him on national TV. I  When your daughter stated that she knew he cheated on you, I also thought that was sad. Again, I am surprised to hear this because how critical you were about all the about the men the other ladies husbands or men that were in the ladies lives. I really don’t know what is really true. I personally feel that you should pay Don spousal support, just like I feel a man should pay a woman spousal support.

I have to say you allowed Brooks on the show with you, so this allows people to make comments about him.  His character is questionable.  I think thank you need to protect yourself by having him investigated before you continue anything else with him.  I watched the 20/20 interview with one of his baby’s mother.  They stated they tried to get an interview with Brooks and they also went to your home and office, but body would comment about the case.  It doesn’t look good for either of you.  Vicki you have always appeared to be very intelligent, but you obviously have not demonstrated that in your relationships with the men in your life.  You genuinely seem like a person that truly love her children and have a good heart.  I really wish you the best. 

I believe friends should keep personal information about their friends’ private for life.  This also applies to if you are no longer friends with the person.  I don’t know if it was true of what Tamra said about you and a man.  If it was true she was dead wrong for blurting it out on national TV.  If I was Gretchen or Heather I wouldn’t tell her anything.  Especially, what she had the nerve to do.

 

randrew
randrew

 

As Heather says "oh dear."

Vicki, just read the Dish Blog and cannot believe what I just read. After the 20/20 aired you're still with that man??? Are you kidding me?

Well, as the old saying goes, the more the family/friends protest the more you gravitate towards anyone one that's in a romantic situation, and that' exactly what's happening. Just like a teenage child whose parents forbid her to quit seeing the BF are what have you.

Open your eyes and clean out your ears, otherwise you'll be sorry, when he alienates everyone that's not on the Brook's train.

Sorry if my wording is off, not good in saying what's in my mind when I put it on paper

Lynda58
Lynda58

Victory,

I thought you were very composed in the Reunion Part 1.  I'm glad to see you miss your friendship with Tamra.  She obviously feels badly about the loss as well.  Maybe, now, you will see your "boyfriend" for what he is, rather than what he pretends to be for you.  I don't believe I need to say much more.  If you won't consider dear friends and family's concerns about Crooks, then a bunch of viewers' comments won't hold sway either.  I wish you well and I sincerely hope you don't get taken for everything.  

JaneJ
JaneJ

Vicki, I can't believe you're defending Brooks, it's 20/20 not Inside Edition that did the expose.  I am disappointed that you are do desperate for affection that you are blinded by this con man.  So sad.  I thought you were a stronger woman than that.

Barbarajean
Barbarajean

Vicki, For what reason would Tamra have to lie about you calling her from Cabo and telling you that you woke up in your bed naked with a man. The way I figure it is that you got so drunk and didn't know what the heck happened. You flat out deny it but you sure were quick to throw the infidelity card on Don in front of all the country.  I don't condone it but you of all people should stop being so innocent and high and mighty.  You surely haven't set a good example for Briana and Michael.  You think your daughter disrespected you by running off and getting married, my goodness if it were me I wouldn't have even taken you out for dinner to tell you. I would have sent an e-mail.  You think Brooks is so great. Why I don't know. From what I know he is nothing but a gigglo. He is playing the game very well. Mark my words, he is going to have a lot to say if you lose money. You are playing a dangerous game. What grown woman shares a checking account with a boyfriend. You can't tell me that he hasn't shown signs of infidelity too. He's probably looking for another desparate single lady who is willing to take him on. I know that this isn't a nice comment but I certainly hope you see what is ahead of you and take the high road. I wish you happiness but I don't think it will be with Brooks.

 

debinAL
debinAL

This is for Vicki.... I have watched you for years. This season I have seen my past in your life. Twelve years ago I was divorcing a man who wasn't very nice to me either. I wanted so badly to meet the perfect man. I was pretty, succesful, and (so I thouht) smart. I was a prime target 4 a very good-looking, smooth talking con man that "didn't have a pot 2 piss in". I did  everything for him, just like you have Brooks...from my car to his teeth, his clothes, shelter,etc. I paid a $5K legal fine to get him out of jail. I  defended  him to my adult children & friends. Sound familiar? We were together 8 years before my eyes were opened. After he had maxed me out emotionally, financially, etc there was no happily ever after. He was and still is the best talker & liar I have ever met. Vicki, I hope Brooks is the man you think he is. You really need to investigate his past, including relationships, credit, criminal records..everything. Save your money to share wi someone who deserves it. Do something nice for your kids. And LISTEN TO THEM! Kids have instincts too.

RHOBROOKLYN
RHOBROOKLYN

Vicki

I think you're a big girl and if you are happy and want it to last with Brooks, more power to you.  The people who are trying to tell you what to do should let you make your own mistakes and see things on your own.  You may find that Brooks is not the one for you, but  I think you're old enough to make that decision.  I can't stand Tamara telling everyone else how to live, act and conduct their relationship.  she is the last person you should listen to and you should not even worry about renewing your friendship with her.  She is a one side friend.  Only out for herself.

 

Sherry_C
Sherry_C

Don't let Tamra break up your relationship! She is not a nice person or a true friend. If she was she'd be happy for you because you are happy.  She broke up your friendship with Jeana and she acted like she was your friend. She wasn't. I don't think she is even capable of being anyone's friend.  She's just a mean person. Don't let her fool you and worm her way back into your life.  Gretchen is so obnoxious and so is Slade.  If Tamra thinks Gretchen is so great, that tells you alot about the kind of person she is now.  She is a phony.  She only likes Gretchen because she's making more money and getting offers for shows etc. You should get back to your true friends like Jeana and Lauri and even Jo.  Gretchen stole Slade from Jo who was also supposed to be her "friend". And she is so quickly involved with Slade after her fiance died.  How can Tamra like someone like that? Gretchen also turned on Alexis to be accepted by the "mean" girls.  They deserve each other.

JesG0723
JesG0723

Vicki, I am a recently graduated Masters student. You are a strong independent women and it is so refreshing to see. I think this reunion you have showed much more growth than the other women and your background has given you the strength to. Also, it seems you have read The five love language. I recently read it and there's nothing wrong with wanting to hear words of affirmation!!

traci.m.salter
traci.m.salter

Vicki, I too am twice divorced and have two adult "children". I am extremely close with my son and my daughter. I have to tell you that if I were to find myself in your situation, I would have to sit back and say "what am I not seeing here?" If your children have never acted this way before, if your friends have never felt the need to protect you from your man before, if you have never seen stories on 20/20 about your man being a con man and a deadbeat dad, even though he is assuring you that he is not, that is all a part of the con... Giving you the daily "affirmations" is all part of the con... Please realize that he has gotten you "under his spell" and distanced you from your family and destroyed your friendships so that he can keep you isolated from everyone.. It is easier to con you this way. You MUST be questioning some of this.. Please take a closer look and realize that everyone can't be wrong about him.

 

Hulali
Hulali

Oh... and it was totally inappropriate for you to make that "toast" about you and Brooks after Heather made such a lovely speech about her name change.  It was not relevent to the settting at all and was once again all about you being the center of attention.

Hulali
Hulali

Vicki,  you forced the Brooks issue with your kids to soon and too fast. Its really sad to see you try to equate Brooks with Brianna's husband. Its like you are trying to compete with her about your "men". Its sad and very imature.

 

Brianna and Mike are dealing with your divorce and although you are entitled to your  immediate relationship you should consider their feelings and just introduce him in a simple nonthreatening get togethers. By introducing him at the same time you announced Brianna's wedding you made them feel like you were going to marry Brooks too. You are too eager to push him on them and its weird.  That and the fact that he does have a questionable past is something you should discuss with your kids so they can get to know him better and not feel threatened by him.  You don't have to scream at people to make your point, it just makes you look hysterical and crazy.

tkpookie74
tkpookie74

Vicki, please take an objective look at everything.  That 20/20 interview was real not dramatic television.  Please listen to what your children, Tamra and Gretchen are saying.  I truly believe they only have your best interest at heart regardless of the show.  Much luck my friend.

ibis
ibis

@Diane.rivera.186 I do agree with you regarding the blog for Briana, she could share more. The 20/20 interview with Brooks ex spoke a lot for itself....

diane.rivera.186
diane.rivera.186

I would LOVE to see Brianna have her own blog on this site.  She is intelligent, articulate and I would love to "hear" the inside story of how she is trying to help her mom open her eyes to such an obvious opportunist. 

geewhizz
geewhizz

Vicki, I don't like Brooks. I think he is using you. Use him back for whatever is missing in your life, but don't get attached to him. I think in time a real man will come along for you.

toofunny101
toofunny101

You just seriously owe Gretchen & Slade one HUGE apology.  You have been horrific to her for years, due to her relationship with Slade....and here you are.  I mean...if you fail to own that, you have some serious issues going on & need some help. 

karij98
karij98

Maybe you should google search your man Brooks and read the article from 20/20 who did an interview his ex-girlfriend, mother of his 3rd child.  Very interesting to say the least......a lot of things being said about him being " a southern man" "opens doors" etc.....sound familiar!?!?  He's a CON MAN!!!!! Duh!!

merpcola
merpcola

Vicki, any relationship that isolates you from your family and friends is unhealthy, period.  I cannot believe that your children and your friends would ever begrudge you a true relationship with a man who loves you.  Your loved ones want nothing more than to see you happy!  Brooks does not come across well on the show, without a doubt.  Especially in the last few episodes; there were actually times when he stood between you and Briana.  Honestly, if everyone in your life is saying the exact same thing about Brooks, perhaps you should take a step back and listen.  I have been where you are, and you can't let flattery and a full "love tank" cloud your good judgement.  You are a beautiful, smart, strong woman, Vicki.  You deserve a man who enriches your life, not one who seeks to separate you from everyone who cares about you.

betsy4444
betsy4444

Vicki,

It's up to each of us to choose the people in our lives; boyfriends, spouses, or friends. Advice is also welcome until it reaches the point of people telling us what we should do. Your children should be the only ones to be concerned with as far as opinions about your relationships (with any boyfriend) you have.  If your children don't accept your relationship with Brooks, that's okay, just make sure you take the time to be in their lives. Another thing, don't let Tamra see you upset because she absolutely loves it and has all season. She's a user and right now, you have nothing she needs.

dsmpj1
dsmpj1

I see through people and Vicki needs to open her eyes concerning this man. He is using her and her daughter, son and even Tamara see it. That is who she needs to trust. This man is very good with words and she needs to wake up. I pray that her family takes a stand with this guy, I have seen this happen before with wealthy women. That fight at the party, he was the one in the wrong and Tamara took a stand. Men like that will try to put wedges between friends and family and try to look like the good guy. Vicki owes Tamara an apology. He started trouble by saying owe do you want to go there. WOW what a jerk. Tamara made a look but it was taken out of context.  This guy is trouble and Vicki is in for some big surprises with him if she stays. She will loose everything she's worked for and her family tried to warn her. The people who love us the most always see what we dont. They are trying to protect her, the warning signs are so there about this man... So sad she's not listening to the people she should trust the most.

 

terry.klemmmatthews
terry.klemmmatthews

how can you be so stupid to believe this man over your own friends and family? im sorry tamra didnt give you the evel eye she just simply rolled her eyes because you were pretending to toast alexis! The tape will tell and believe me you look like a real idiot sticking up for him!!!! He was snickering behind your back when you was talking to your own daughter! He also did it when u took away heathers moment and butted in and praised him when your best friend was trying to tell you ta wake up!! youll wake up one day and hes gna run u 2 the bank n youl be broke and believe me you will be alone because you dropped a lot of friends because of that lil weisel! good luck instead of standing behind your man you better watch his frount!!!! the woohoooo next season will be boooooohoooooo!!!!

mrsd@13
mrsd@13

It is clear that Brooks doesnt look at you with loving eyes. trust me. Get rid of this creep. I can read people well. The eyes are the window to the souli. Wake up! 

CMWT
CMWT

All I can say is, get rid of Brookes and heal your relationship with your children....be alone for awhile, you deserve time alone to heal and start again...

LAhousewife
LAhousewife

All Tamra did was ROLL HER EYES in regards to you wanting to toast Alexis...Brooks completely made up the "evil eye" comment and kept pressing you and whispering in your eye until you finally believed him. You are a fool to continue defending this man...your children and Tamra are right about him.

Wiki45
Wiki45

Vicki, Please listen to your family and friends. You need to check out Brooks before it is to late.

Wiki45
Wiki45

Vicki, you need to get rid of Brooks and do it fast. I just watched the episode on 20/20 with Brooks on it and you are better than that and if your friends and family are having a problem with your boyfriend then you should be listening to them. I have been down this road before and let me tell you it will not end well for you.

loldantay
loldantay

Hi vicky, from North Wales, UK.

We dont have Bravo TV over here at the min, so i have been trying to catch up wih this years season on youtube.First of all i would like to thank you for allowing the cameras in to  yours and your childrens lives for so many years, you have been amazing to watch,

I am so glad for you that you have found someone who you feel loves you the way we all want to be loved, you can have all the diamonds in the world, but if your not happy, its not worth it.

YOU GO GIRL!, listen to your heart, Brianna will come around in the end, because as long as mum is happy everyone else is happy.!!

I wish you all the luck in the world,

Can I hear a Whoohoo

 

mrsd@13
mrsd@13

Vicki,

I think Don is a wuss for sueing you for spousal support. He needs to be a man and work & make his own living too. Please watch Brooks. If I were you, I'd do a background check on this man. I don't want to see you get hurt in any way including financially.I wish i would have known about the 20/20 show. I hope they re-run it. I also hope you will comment on it.  Men who are oppurtunist/psychos/controllers will first pull you away from family & friends, then try to take whatever they want.

Tess1588
Tess1588

It's interesting to read a blog versus seeing what you see on tv. Hearing your with Ryan about how you pulled him into an argument to try and prove a point to your daughter seemed juvenile. I feel as though you should be listening to your daughter's concerns, she's your blood. You may be the matriarch; however, your daughter is posing legitimate concerns because you've brought her u conversation p well. You should take her concerns seriously because just like you want the best for her, she wants the best for you. As for Brooks he's just a guy and is causing a rift in what seems to be all your relationships, just one question.... Doesn't that seem a little odd to you? He's the new guy if anything he should be trying to fit in with the people you love and adore already right?

cindy8w
cindy8w

Vicki,  We all make mistakes.  It is time to take your life back and realize that you are the only one that can “fill your tank.”  This is a great time to try to figure out why you feel so empty.  Send Brooks packing and start rebuilding.   If not, you are “settling.”

Barbarajean
Barbarajean

 @debinAL so sorry about what happened to you but maybe Vicki will listen. They say love is blind. Lets hope its not too late for her.

acauntcindy
acauntcindy

 @RHOBROOKLYN So, being that her daughter seems to have researched Brooks and is saying the same as Tamara, means nothing as well?

mermaidbch
mermaidbch

 @traci.m.salter

 I agree, basically, he is grooming her. Isn't that what predators do? Another thing,  Vicki will owe Don spousal support. He didn't make as much money as she did and he was very much involved with her children and the were married over 10 years. Like it or not, courts don't favor gender.

DramaQueen67
DramaQueen67

@gene060603 I don't know we bother to make her see the light. If her own daughter & son can't do it what makes us think she'd listen to us? My dad was a wise man. He told me once "a person's ability to believe whatever they want to is infinite."

Lynda58
Lynda58

 @LAhousewife That's what I thought too.  Vicki has rolled her eyes at Tamra's friendship with Gretchen and Tamra didn't have a major meltdown over it.  Brokes totally played Vicki and baited Tamra to separate them.  He's a manipulative POS.

bravo-tv-viewer
bravo-tv-viewer

Why do people feel the need to tell others what they should or shouldn't wear based on THEIR own views? If YOU don't like fur then don't wear fur but to tell others not to do something because you personally don't care for it is very irritating.

AntoinetteS
AntoinetteS

 @loldantay You may change your mind after you see the 20/20 report on Brooks.  Google Brooks Ayers and you can bring up the whole report. He is EVERYTHING AND THEN SOME that Tamra and Brianna feared; in fact, he's worse.  Vicki ended up needing to befriend Alexis, who she did nothing but bash in years past. Vicki passed judgment on everyone else's relationships, children, marriages, etc., and now Karma is paying her back. She needs to be ALONE for awhile and not hook up with someone (who...it appears she hooked up with to some extent while still married). Admire Vicki?  Don't think so!

cindy8w
cindy8w

 @mrsd@13 IMO, Don probably has a right to ask for support.  Since the beginning of RHOC, Vicki has bragged about being a workaholic.  Don and the kids have talked about Vicki never being home.  That makes me think that Don took care of the home while Vicki chose to be away.

AJR
AJR

 @mrsd@13 I think Don has every right to sue Vicky, if she is making more money than him.  Not to mention she started the divorce proceedings.  This is the land of equality and equal opportunity, so get used to it.  I think he has every right to sue her for alimony.  And by the way, he does work for a living.  I think he is a VP of a company there.

DramaQueen67
DramaQueen67

@buzzman9054 I love uuuuuuuuu, too & I don't even know uuuuuuuuu!! FDLMAO!

DramaQueen67
DramaQueen67

@cindy8w I would contend that Vicki does not really care if her kids are happy -- as long as they do what she wants. That's not genuine love -- that's ownership.

AntoinetteS
AntoinetteS

 @cindy8w Well said!  I contend that if you look for someone to "make you happy" sooner or later you will be right back where you started. NOBODY can "make' you happy. You have to be happy, truly happy, within yourself, before you can SHARE happiness with anyone else.  Vicki may be a smart businesswoman, but she sure isn't smart when it comes to this relationship with Brooks.

HappyHousewife19years
HappyHousewife19years

 @bravo-tv-viewer

 It is like a smoker asking us non smokers to start smoking!  I used to like fur until I saw I HORRIBLE video of the abuse the animals go through Before their death...It is sick but who am I to ask people to do the same? Nobody!!!!

RealWorldYogi
RealWorldYogi

 @bravo-tv-viewer People share their views on fur because it involves more than just the person buying it. The animals whose skins are removed live an inhumane, tortured life and suffer a painful death, often being skinned alive. It's a shameful process that fashion in no way justifies. Anyone sharing their views against up are doing so for the animals who can't speak for themselves.   

mermaidbch
mermaidbch

 @AJR

 I agree 100%! If Don was a woman he would get spousal support, you claim to be this strong woman, so pay up!