Holy cow! What an insane evening! For me, this night involved laughter, sobbing, shock, and sadness.
The party started off so well! A Winter Wonderland Win! It didn't take long for the drama to approach. Heather and Gretchen's conversation was weird to me. I can agree with points on both of their sides, however the hug didn't seem genuine. It was like they were at an awkward standstill, so they hugged because they didn't know what else to do.
The same goes for Tamra and Gretchen's talk. Perhaps Vicki's party was the wrong place to try for a serious conversation because time is limited which creates pressure. I have a feeling that neither conversation is completely over yet.
Vicki giving Tamra a bigger, blingier friendship bracelet was hysterical! I have gotten pretty close to Vicki over the past two years, and I knew she was missing Tamra. Vicki would say little comments, or say things in passing that let me know she missed Tamra. Then when I saw them reconnect in Whistler, I was happy for them. I wanted Tamra to know that Vicki had missed her.
Alexis you were the only one to start out as a true "housewife" the others were career married women. There's a big difference in attitude and character. They were in the shark tank all of their lives, it steels the softness out of a woman. You were a true sweet, wanting to be part of the team, new comer. You will never be as cunning or schrewed as Vicki or as crass or as loud as Tamera, or as cuttingly intelligent as Heather. It takes years. You could become them, but they can never become a you. You are the rarest, they are the common. Don't envy them, they have empty parts, you really don't. I think you think you do, by wanting to act. The only thing in old age that counts is how well you've done for your children, your husband and your community.
I just watched the episode of you at the "reading" for a director or whoever that was. Why oh why did you draw stick people? It was a READING! Then you covered the page up as if you were supposed to have the lines memorized, it was a READING!
You and Jim are real people with visibly kind hearts. You are actually the only one on this show who exemplifies Christianity with your willingness to approach situations with positivity ( even though it rarely ends like that). You seek out peace and resolution even though you have been terribly wronged. I am proud of your growth Alexis. You seem to have grown in security, maturity and confidence in yourself; I'm sure your husband finds these sexier than ever. You are a friend I would love to have, one that is truthful and loyal. Love ya girl and keep representing
Sometimes I feel like you are the pretty little rich girl that just desires to have friends. But be careful at how much it will cost to have them. If you have to "buy" their freindship with not being truthful to yourself or others then they are really not worth having. Becareful of the "mean" girls. Let them run in their own crazy circles cuz if you get in their way they will run all over you. Tell your husband to be a little more respectful and loving to YOU on the show. He needs to show that teddy bear side towards you for the public to see.
Alexis I can't really figure you out. I know you love your husband, but I think his love of material things has made you insecure..You love material things, too, but I don't think you are obsessed with them like Jim is..
omg I really, really REALLY cannot stand you! I cant believe that you twisted, yes TWISTED something Gretchen said jokingly, JOKINGLY with a friend (or who she thought was her friend) and you USED that and TIWSTED it so much out of context just to spite or Hurt Gretchen -- you accuse everyone of being a Bully and you just sat there and MADE UP something, TWISTED IT to your own desires just to hurt Gretchen---to get on the bandwagon. How Awful of you! How hypocritical! Gretchen and Heather are probably the only honest ones in the bunch of you Bitches. Unbelieveable what you did!!!
I like it that Tamra apologized!! I do NOT like it when people feel the need somehow to let everyone know that they are the "bigger person" for doing something. I guess I feel that that is a long the same lines as telling how much your scarf costs ...or saying that you (yourself) are the "hottest housewife" There are somethings that IF you are ... you are. You do NOT have to tell people. because if it's a fact they'll know. So I'm not really seeing the big difference.
I STILL think it's good that she apologized. But it was way more impressive BEFORE I heard her say, about herself, that SHE was being the bigger person... =^/
It broke my heart to see Jim cry when Tamra apologized to him. She doesn't realize the hurt she causes when she says such mean things for no reason.
Alexis and Jim, You are both such good people and have been treated so badly and you have both exhibited such integrity in the face of it all. God bless both of you. I only hope that I can be as good a person and you have been the last two seasons. Some people are jealous of others and you have had to live through that, unfortunately. You will never fail as long as you stick with The Lord. Thank you for being such a good example.
Laying low for you works. Keep it up. Jim seems to be learning too that his previous ways were annoying. I hope you both are moving in the right direction now. Money does not equal happiness. You do not need to have money to be a quality person. I am watching and hoping to see the changes progress in a good direction for you... Gretchen will come around once she trusts you again. She got swallowed up by Tamra's fake friendship. Unfortunately she had to learn the hard way that Tamra will never change.
Slowly Jim is coming out the better man huh? Lets see, Vickie has a questionable Brooks and his past...but moreso she has that **** for a son in law...Brianna's husband whatshisname...Ryan?
Gretchen has Slade...though not near as bad as what I just named but lacks a little class.
Eddie will reveal what he is really like in time so who knows.
@nickf1girl It is obvious that she is a liar! Oh, wait! It's Gretchen that Tamra calls a liar, right!
This show is a Vickie & Tamera show & they will turn on you in a second! The rest of you need to forget old wounds & show an undivided front! If you don't they will get rid of y'all one by one!!! And if you don't I will probably stop watching the show! Vickie & Tamera are so vulgar they make me sick! Good luck & God Bless!!!
They did and are bullying you. your old man is cool as hell. you r scrumptious, we love u. and you do your christian thing your perfect
Do not fall into the Tamara Vicki web. They are two peas in a pod and will never be a true friend to you. Gretchen only tried to talk to you and help you not attack you when the others did. I feel you are making a mistake in letting them destroy your friendship with Gretchen.
I am a Jim convert, after this episode!!!
I've been watching RHOC forever, and while I was not the biggest fan of the 2 of you in the beginning, I've grown to love you... and now Jim after this episode! I noticed that new housewives often come on the show strong and a bit over the top. Then, the next season, they start to chillax and grow more comfortable in their own skin, and that they aren't as annoying as they first appeared. I think that happened with you, and with this particular episode (where Tamra apologizes to Jim), I totally see what you mean about Jim being a teddy bear in a turtle shell. He does often come off as being chauvinistic and very bossy, but I totally get it now, that he is actually a pretty nice person inside... he just hides it well with his shell.
You go girl... keep it authentic and stay strong! I love the 2 of you!
Kudos for not getting sucked into the Gretchen bashing on Part 1 of the reunion show. Hope it continues.
You are one of my favorite HW! I'm so glad to see that you stood up for yourself this season! As Vicki would say -WooHoo Alexis!
girl you need to run from this show... slinging mud is not a good look!
I hope you figure out something , you know your up next on the Tamara and Vicki show .. and its not a good show.
karma always bites back...
When Gretchen asked you why you changed your story about the boat trip you should of said its called being a good friend and having your friends back!! Now that we're not friends I c=feel more obliged to speak the truth!!! Tp me Gretchen looks pathetic!! What did she expect from the ladies?! I mean she was the "new" girl on a reality show! She was dating a man ten years older than her father who happened to be very ill, all the while she is seen hanging out with her ex sitting on his lap!! kissing him on New Years?! Did she really think that was going to be kept quiet?! Give me a break!! She should just come clean!!!!!
patiomama piperbeau Okay...so if your significant other went out on New Year's Eve with someone else, and sat on her lap and kissed her, you'd be cool with that? Because I'm pretty sure that if my husband did that, I'd call it cheating!
piperbeau And how would that not be "bullying" Gretchen? Alexis turning on Gretchen now, that she is friends with Tamra just shows, that she is no different than the other women. Btw, if you have watched the show, you would know that Jeff became sick a year AFTER dating Gretchen. Who cares how old Jeff was? Isn't Jim 15 years older than Alexis?
Love you. Keep strong -- the way you talk about others in your blog is respectful and decent --- and the way you say Lydia's mom handled it gracefully is true. I'm so very happy things have turned around for you because you do seem to have more elegeance than others. Enjoy being in the group but honestly with these women watch your back. First they were all on you and now they are turning on Gretchen. Not a healthy true friendship type of people I would want to hand out with. Best wishes!!
Alexis BRAVO to you doll for not trying to be in the middle of things during the reunion. People are saying that you were trying to be nasty to Gretchen and actually I didnt see it that way. But word of advice when they keep asking you about things that happen 100 years ago, continue to say you dont want a part of it. Stay out of that craziness with Gretchen, Vicki, and Tamra. If you have too just smile and pray for peace quietly, do that. I am so happy with all that I have seen out of you this season! And please no more talk of bullying Alexis let that be done, move on to supporting children that have been bullied and the different organizations. Maybe a good idea would be for you to give a fashion show, showcasing your clothing line and donating to this cause. I wish you and your family much success!
It was dumb! Does anyone care if Gretchen made out with a guy 3 years ago? Seriously? They better step it up a notch next week
Eurogirl catz1 yeah who cares? but she was engaged and her fiance was in the hospital or sick. that is why we care and gretchen acted wrong.
@catz1 , WHAT?? She didn't do that. In fact said out loud she refused to do that. And when they kept pressing her for a comment she still didnt throw Gretchen under the bus. She said she saw nothing that backed up what Trashy Tamera said.
catz1 Especially when you know what it feels like. Gretchen has not lied about anything that I can remember. And I've watched every season. I think it was really mean for you all to say she only proposed to Slade for tv. Tamra had to almost beg Eddie to set a wedding date so she can get married on tv. So whats the difference. And we all know Tamra is a liar, she even admitted it and thinks it ok because "at least she owned it". Sad to see how grown? women act.
Alexis is a joke she's like the girl in school wishing for the bully to pick her on there team.. Pick me Pick me! And when they pick her she Kisses Ass pretty well..
Please please stop saying you were bullied. A better word would be "called out" for your constant bragging about material things. To say bullied is a very serious accusation and when used incorrectly is taking away the seriousness of the true bullies. You did not like the way you were approached is one thing but to say your were bullied is completely incorrect and to keep hearing it is making you less likable. I want to believe you are a true person and have real friendships but finding it very hard when you join the pack to gang up on Gretchen. Even you have to admit Gretchen has been attacked since the moment she got into the limo her first appearance and you are too now changing your story about her. You continue to make it about you and have yet to mature from this. You are getting enjoyment from Vicki and the only reason she is doing it is the fact she hates Gretchen so much. Give it another season or two and Jim will be considered the jerk again and some will apologize to Slade. There are no real friendships on this show and I find it hard to not see you as fake. You need to have your own back not Gretchen and to end a friendship over it, so immature. I don't see you have changed, only see you following different wives. You have many friendships end on this show and you still see them all being the other persons fault. You have never owned anything so please stop telling other to do so. Gretchen tried to talk to you before you felt attacked but you only hear what you want never considering anything else and with Vicki backing you has given validity to it. Are you so insecure you need to be defended? I think letting go of Gretchen's friendship was a huge mistake because she didn't meet your terms of forgiveness or apologies. You convince yourself before hearing anyone out, what does that say about you.
I'm sorry but who in the heck would cry if the Two Face Tamra apologized to them!! That evil thing doesn't have a single ounce of loyalty in her!!! Alexis and Jim acted like Tamra was some goddess when in reality she's the fricken Devils daughter! Really Why Cry fools sooner or later that little trailer trash will turn on you.. You wont know what hit you.. Alexis your so easily manipulated!
@astacalombado , I don't think Jim nor Alexis want to be Tameras BFF. They only want everyone to please act as polite adults. If you hate me fine. Just use manners towards me in public and I will do the same.
Tamara is always apologizing! I'ts never sincere and within a year she is trashing the person she apologized to all over again. Of course Gretchen an Heather were awkward. Heather wanted Gretchen to "pop a vein" not just apologize. Who wouldn't want to walk away from that conversation? Why is everyone going so easy on Ryan?
Alexis, I'm not sure you have changed. With your conversation with Gretchen during lunch and last nights 1st reunion, it is still all about you. You feel you were bullied and I don't feel it. But lets say you were bullied in Costa Rico, Gretchen did not bully you. In fact she said she told you the others were going to have a conversation with you about your ways that bothered them. You brought it up at the table, not the others. Gretchen tried to explain it to you. She didn't yell at you or contribute to the tone of the conversation. You asked her and she said you have shown those tendencies to brag and she explained it to you as a good friend would. You saying Gretchen didn't have your back is so childish. What are you 5 years old. You are responsible for your own back. Because Gretchen didn't say what you wanted her to say is also childish, so you deflected the situation to being bullied even by Gretchen. As I recall, you did the same thing to Vicki but I won't get into that one. You had a good friend in Gretchen but you blew it not Gretchen. During your lunch you wanted Gretchen to fall all over you but she didn't because you were not sincere. It was all about how she hurt you. Me, me, me! I was starting to like you but not so much now. Time to woman up and act like an adult and not something you are not. Own your mistakes because we all make them!
I liked you this season. You said you and Jim were "working on it" when you discussed the scarf situation. I think the other women were just trying to explain to you that you don't discuss certain things and it ultimately embarrassed you so you called them bullies. Either way, you took the advice and are trying to do the right thing and you should be proud. I agree with the other bloggers. Gretchen was a true friend. The others are not. Don't let what happened between you and Peggy Tanous happen again with Gretchen. Keep trying.
p.s. Tamara also had a heartfelt apology for Slade and Gretchen. Until she really understands what she is doing wrong, you will end up in the "hate" seat again.
Gretchen, Heather & Lydia are the only true friends you will have on this show... Be kind to Tamara and Vickie to keep the peace but never tell a thing to them. It will be held against you later. Treat the first 3 I mentioned decent because they will be the only ones real with you.
Aprilrose13 Yes, i watched the reunion Part 1:
There appears to be a game plan for Vicki & Tamra.
Seek & Destroy Gretchen. It appears to be failing.
Vicki appears to crumble in the next Part 2.
Brooks is revealed by Brianna. It is very bad.
On a side note: Heather & Lydia do not have good
chemistry. - Princess ? -
Alexis, you are my favorite. Be careful with all of these women.....they are all out for themselves. Don't trust them....play their game but always have your guard up.
Akexis, I have watched you for three seasons. Some of the things you have dealt with have been harsh, but I think that in your desire to be accepted and liked, you have become willing to hear the things that you want to hear and have closed your ears to the truth. It is difficult to watch all of you ladies try and have a real conversation that quickly explodes into crying and name calling and trying to cast blame on to someone else. Everyone, EVERYONE was trying to tell you on that long ago, ill fated trip that some of the things you said or the way that you behaved could easily be perceived as being pretentious. I have never doubted your sincerity of faith. As a woman of faith, you should have been willing to look at yourself and ask, "Is this how people see me? What can I do to change that perception?" Instead, you cried and called everyone bullies. By the way, the only one at that table who came to your defense (while still trying to get you to see how your behavior could be misinterpreted) was Gretchen. Of course, Vicki used the opportunity to go to your room and tell you how mean they were. After quite some time, Tamra apologized and all was well. Gretchen tried to apologize and somehow that wasn't good enough. As a woman who has experienced the power of forgiveness, you should probably be willing to offer that same forgiveness. Let's face it, Gretchen liked you when no one else gave you the time of day. She accepted you when the others did not. You forgave Tamra and Vicki and Heather for their 'transgressions' against you, but how is it that Gretchen's sins are intolerable? Come on now, sister. You know better.
@LeaAnne You speak the truth and sadly that makes me question Alexis' true faith. Is she really sincere in her faith or is her faith as phony as her friendships. She not only is selective in her forgiveness, but I believe that to her all friendship means is being "in with the in crowd". You pointed that out very clearly for me.
patiomama I agree with all you said. And if you notice when Alexis did try to not say anything bad about Gretchen, I think it was Heather and Lydia that insisted she say something to try to make Gretchen look bad. Sad.
Alexis, I really liked you this season. Although I know that the Costa Rica debacle upset you, I think it ultimately had a positive impact on you. It seems like you took what they said to heart and kicked it down a notch or two. You seem more real this season and thereby more likeable. I guess the lesson is to always be yourself. You seem very sweet and caring. Keep it real!
Wow, its amazing how you went for Gretchen instead of Tamra when talking about the party at Tamra's studio. If I remember correctly Tamra screamed like Vickie and told you to get out. Its sad to see you are afraid of Vickie and Tamra.
saucy, it's not cause she is afraid, but more because Tamra doesn't mean that much to her. She expects that behavior from Tamra. Gretchen's behavior cut deeper and hurt her more. This is why she talks about Gretchen and not Tamra.
Alexis never thought you were two faced. You people don't watch rematch the episodes. Vicki and tamra are typical mean girls. Good luck honey. You said you were bullied. Gretchen never said the things you are doing to heard. Man this show is so fake like these girls.
Your two besties got bored with your conversation with Lydia on the reunion show. See how good of friends they are. Its about to begin so don't burn your bridges with Lydia and Gretchen, and Heather, they will be your only true friends on the show. Vickie and little Vickie can only be friends (and I use the term loosely) with each other.