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Heather in TVLand

Heather discusses her role on 'Hot in Cleveland' and why she wishes Gretchen had been there for more of it.

Lights, camera, action!

I'm so happy to share this episode with everyone. I hope you enjoyed a little behind the scenes of Hollywood and what it's like to be on a set. If you missed my guest role on Hot in Cleveland when it aired in January and want to see it in its entirety go to my website heatherdubrow.com. You can also find my résumé there if you are wondering what shows I was on before having my kids! Check out my Instagram (@heatherdubrow) for some behind-the-scenes pictures from show night!

OK, on to the show. . .It's funny to watch Terry and me getting the kids ready in the morning. The way you saw them wake up pretty much sums up their personalities! Nicky is up and ready before everyone (rule follower) , Max will stay in bed until you drag her out (very relaxed) , Katarina is a smiley teddy bear (Mommy's girl) and Collette just rolls with it!

I was SO happy that Terry manipulated his surgery schedule so he could help me in the morning with our brood. This is exactly the kind of support I was looking for and it made my week on Hot in Cleveland so much less stressful!

I had a mix of emotions when I arrived at the table read. I was a little nervous, anxious, and also very excited to be back in the world of scripted TV. Once the table read got under way I was very relaxed and had a fantastic time. The whole week was a dream. Working with the incredibly talented cast of Hot in Cleveland was amazing and they were all so warm and welcoming.

Show night! I was really looking forward to having some of my special friends come and support me on this night! A few of them had never been to a studio taping before, and none of them had ever seen me "live" and in action. I realize that everyone has busy lives and some have young children, so it's extra special to see how excited everyone was to attend!

As you could see, Gretchen and Slade were very late. I didn't notice until about an hour after the show started. I was pretty sad to hear they were completely unapologetic and there was no excuse why they were late either to Terry when they arrived or to myself later. All the girls (as well as Terry) told me later that Gretchen and Slade were up from their seats several times during the evening and missed a number of my scenes.

I just found it so disappointing especially when I found out later that the calls were about a gift Gretchen was helping me with for Tamra. There was no emergency about it that needed to be taken care of at 7 pm on a Friday night.

I have always been a supporter of Gretchen and Slade's and their many career paths. Last year, I left my children for three days to see Gretchen perform in Las Vegas. I was happy to be there and I can promise you my phone was shut in my purse. I deserved the same support and friendship. I decided this was not the time to discuss this issue with Gretchen. I was on a high after the taping of the show ended and didn't want to spend my evening being annoyed.

Celebratory Dinner! Seriously so much fun! Everyone was in a great mood and laughed a lot! Especially after Tamra's gift of disguises and Lydia's fun party poppers!

Terry's toast was so sweet and meant so much to me. He really came through with everything he promised and allowed me to have my moment. It's all I asked for, and he delivered big time. Hitting the "pause" button on our recent issues was definitely the right idea. We had a great evening and enjoyed each other and our friends immensely!

I'd like to say a special thank you to some VERY special friends of mine. Joining us for the show and at dinner after were Lisa and David Heil and Nancy and Mike Bello. They are the best of the best and I'm so proud to have them in my life.

A big thank you to Betty White, Wendy Malick, Valerie Bertinelli, Jane Leeves, Suzanne Martin, the producers, crew, and everyone at TVLand for the amazing experience.

OK, I know this is starting to sound like an awards acceptance speech, so forgive me -- but a final shout out to Bravo and the amazing RHOC crew for their hard work coordinating a very complicated shoot.

I was really touched by all of the feedback from last week's show. Thank you all so much for caring about Terry and me and appreciating that we are showing everything real in our live. . .the fun, happy moments and also the less pretty, more complicated moments.

Until next week. . .

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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