The Lunch: Lunch with Tamra and Alexis went really well. Just like I knew it would! I wasn't setting Alexis up and I would never bring her into a firestorm especially after the whole experience at the CUT party.
Since Alexis knew it went well last week when she posted her blog, I was kind of baffled by her post where she accuses me of not being more understanding about why she was dragging her feet and asking me not to push it with her and the other woman. I knew she was gunshy, but having already spoken to Tamra, I knew that once Alexis and Tamra met in person and cleared the air all would turn out well. I like people to get along. I know some fans think I like to stir up drama, but that couldn't be further from the truth. I'm actually a peacemaker. I say what's on my mind and if a situation is tense -- because the ladies aren't getting along -- I will try to get everyone together to talk about it and move forward.
Mexico: It was a long day of traveling to Puerto Vallarta so going to bed after dinner wasn't far-fetched. However, I was gravitating towards Vicki's carefree attitude of "whooping it up." Plus, we were only there for two nights, it was Tamra's bachelorette, I didn't have my kids with me and I love to dance and have a good time.
Lydia, I was horrified to hear what Ryan said to your mother the night of the party. That was totally uncalled for.
He and Brianna need to have their own place. Vicki needs to have her own life too.
Everybody I've ever met from Newfoundland are sweet, peaceful, and peacemaking people.
I love you and your mom too.
Lydia is a troublemaker,, tonight she tried as hard a she could to make an issue over Slade's joke to her, she calls him out for saying jokingly to Gretchen about her being thin and instead of talking abut it later in private she stands there in front of bunch of people and embarrasses him and Gretchen! I think she did it in retaliation for what happened in the Limo from the trip.. She I not well intended,, and no Christian in many persons eyes.. God, I'm sure agrees! She's not a good addition to the show.
Lydia, when did you get your Ph.D in psychology? Do you have any idea how much damage you are causing? You run from person to person telling the other what was said about them, then you try to act like the peacemaker, Really ? You are an adult tattletale and their worse than the juvenile kind ! You better watch out your tail might get caught in the door !!! You are annoying as hell !!! Shut up and BUTT OUT !!!! These women have gone through worse before you and they always work it out, so mind your own business !! Pay attention to your own affairs and stay out of everyone else's !!!!!
I am trying to give Lydia a chance. The further we get into the season the more I do not trust or like her. She seems to be a follower and not a leader. She appears to want to fit in with the "Popular Girls" and plays both sides of the fence. Jury still out on her...stay tuned...should be an interesting season.
I love your wisdom and honesty. Glad you are on the show this year. Be nice to Gretchen too ok
You are a great addition to RHOC. Very refreshing! My son is very involved in YoungLife as well. It is such a powerful force in his life. So good to hear you still stay involved! Stay sweet!
Wow, Lydia - SO refreshing to have you on the show. Seems like YOU are the friendship whisperer / forgive and move on friend. SO thankful you are on the show!!! :)
i used to like lydia till tonight, the way she acted in the limo saing "that mad the trip" she is really showing what a "mean girl" is. she did not act to sorry for leaving heather and grechen. i am ANTI LYDIA....
dest322 In fact Lydia was very cruel and insensitive to Gretchen. For a woman that brags that she is a christian that was a very loveless action. Admit you were wrong and be truly sorry, but do not joke that the escapade was the highlight of the trip. It is hipocritical. You are acting like a hypocrite. Grow up in your christian life before you can call yourself a friendship whisperer. Your actions on that trip showed us the true Lydia.
She is a christian - but she is also human and prone to err. If she was insenstive to Gretchen - then was Gretchen insensitve to take control of the enire evening? ...This is another incident where people beat the horse to death...Lydia apologized . I believe that she was sorry but she also is being truthful that they had a great time - it was the highlight of their tripfor her...besides the disgusting stripper event there really wasn't much more to their outing... i don;t know about you and your friends but my friends and I LOVE to dance- we love to have a good time......I would think that after awhile hearng someone whine about being left behind - especillay when you had texted them where you had gone to ...would get old and annoyiing....let's face it the batchlorette party was a bust - boring...and GROSS.
Yes I believe that Lydia was probably harboring some resentment for Gretchen - let's not forget that Gretchen wasn't too friendly with Lydia when she first met her..... and I'm sure that part of it has had to do with the dynamic of lydia and Alexis being friends,.. so there are alot of emotions, assunmptions and negative feelings among these women that are causing alot of this ongoing friction and drama ...i believe Lydia is a good person and trying to bring peace to this awful season that's been a burden to watch...up until lately. These women all have alot of growing up to do and OWNING up to do. NONE of them are innocent...and there's been SO much twofaced bevaior that none of us can follow and keep\ track of what is real or fakeexcept i"m sure of one thing ...vickie and Tamra 's friendship is real.....
dragonslayer mmcruz5 dest322
did you watch the same show I did? They didn't text them until after they were leaving the bar they were dancing in. Lydia never apologized to Gretchen, just Heather. Her comment was totally insensitive and rude. I do not believe it was an innocent slip of the tongue. Gretchen had not mentioned one thing about the night before. She was going on with her plans for the day, she was a tad pouty- but she was trying to just move on for Tamara's sake. Lydia screaming at her was just over the top. She was just trying to impress the mean girls and that's all she was doing. Gretchen had every right to be upset. Lydia has been looking for reasons to not like Gretchen since she met her. Gretchen is not the easiest person to like but I've never seen her go out of her was to be cruel and hateful-- even when she's had the ammunition. Lydia is a troublemaking, boot-licking phony. It's disgusting to watch her start sh**, then sit back and lick her chops watching the drama she created unfold.
I was really tough on you in the beginning. Now, I feel differently. I thought of you as the girl who throws gasoline on the fire and then asks what is burning.,...but you are just blunt and open. I like that.
ughagain From my perspective she is still the girl that throws gasoline on the fire and then asks what is burning.
I am uncertain as to why you have so many mean comments on here - I think you are by far my favorite on the show (next to Heather of course) as you show that class and realness do exist in Orange County! Also, thank you for bringing new flava to the group and for being yourself despite the drama between the veterans; you are proof that logic can exist on a Bravo show without it having to be used as a tactic to win viewers over...because you do that just by being you!!!
Really Lydia? Your the peacemaker? Do you think anyone with a brain believes that? Far from it my dear....BUTT OUT. You are all ready super annoying. Its a desperate situation that I would rather see Alexis than you.
I just have one comment...when you said these women are "pillars in the community"...REALLY??? Orange County is in deep trouble!
I caught that too and almost spit my drink out! There are my favs of the women on this show but I would hardly call them Pillars.
Darling shoes you had on at the airport on your way to Tamra' s bachelorette party in Mexico. Who are they by, and where can I get a pair???
You really should mind your own business. You are not the friend whisperer.
I think your true personality is yet to be revealed. Watch your back ladies.
Lydia, you are just about as sweet as a person can be. Your obvious concern and guilt over leaving the other two behind seems very sincere.
Giving you advice now is like letting the cattle out of the pen and finding out you were supposed to close the gate. But....here goes. These women are very different than you. They all have hidden agendas and will act out without too much provocation.
Vicky is a legend in her own mind. She is perfect and treats everyone like they are idiots but she is nice to their face (usually). Never, ever trust her.
Tamra is trying to change but if she is serious, it will take a lot of time and practice and she will have relapses.
I think Alexis means well bit she is very superficial and cries victim a lot. She uses God like designer shoes, brags about it.
Gretchen used to be so much fun and now she's very confusing to me. She wants to slam Vicki for all the years of verbal abuse she gave her and Slade.
Love your sweetness and goodness and your quiet love for God. Good luck.
justanopinion I totally agree. And on top of it she called Gretchen Malibu Barbie doll. Looks like Lydia is catching the jealousy fever from Vicky toward Gretchen. You are a dissapointment as a christian woman you claim to be. And you fit with that group of woman perfectly. You are as mean as they are. Really Gretchen is the only one with the best heart. If Alexis would not be so worry to fit in, she will be ok. But her desire to keep up with the JOneses and fit in has ruined her testimony.
its awful the way you were such a phony friend to Alexis....mind your own business and quit trying to act like you are trying to help when you are really trying to keep trouble going....Bravo please find someone to replace her shes beyond boring and a complete fake
Lydia....you are amazing...not because you are a friend whisperer...but you seem to be honest, REAL, and so appreciative of what you have accomplished...You have elevated the show!!!
Awekiss A dark cloud drifted away when Lydia
arrived on the show. She is strong, confident and is
very comfortable in her own skin. She brings with her
the Power of Forgiveness.
@DrTruth @Awekiss DrTruth I would have agreed with you before tonight's episode. Tonight she showed her true colors!
Lydia, why don't you just admit you're not a true friend to Alexis. It's funny how you can see everyone's side but hers. She was right. You sat there and watched her being verbally attacked by everyone at the table and offer to sit down one on one with each one of the women and be soundly rejected. Yet, you pretend you weren't there and keep pestering her to try harder. YOU WERE THERE!!! Then you claim you don't understand why she would after knowing how it all turned out still express that. Here's something simple for you: You have had the advantage of watching last season where Alexis did sit down one on one with Tamra to see what the issue was only to be told by Tamra that basically, she didn't like her just because, and would continue to dislike her without any rational reasoning. You also had the advantage of being present at the dinner party while your "friend" was being treated poorly and instead of standing up for her you immediately side with her attackers after seeing Tamara outside the limo, like a coward. After all these numerous occasions you STILL don't understand or have the least bit of compassion for her position BUT you meet the other women. First they are pretty much rude and indifferent to you at the dinner party, yet you immediately say, "I see why they don't like her". So you understand their side immediately but STILL don't see hers. She's not asking for you to take her side just to understand it. I wouldn't think that would be too much to ask of a "friend".
My guess is that Lydia can see Alexis for what she really is, a perpetual victim, braggart, shallow self indulgent wanna be queen of the group.
My only observation about you Lydia is that you drink like a fish yet judge your Mom smoking weed like it was heroin. Think about that Lydia, is drinking everyday any better?
crandahl The people of France drink a lot.
In moderation alcohol can improve your health.
Just don't over do it. Jesus served wine at a wedding.
Oh absolutely! You may have misunderstood me....I refer to the hypocrisy regarding the two drugs. If you do one you get to judge everyone else too? No I don't think so.
@spats25 @crandahl @DrTruth Actually pot is legal in some states in determined amounts per town/ city In other words you can posses a certain amount on your person, in your house, car, without getting busted. The delay in being fully legal at any amount, is the govt. figuring out how to get their cut! Same as they do with liquor. It is also legal for medicinal use, in some states, same way liquor was long ago.
spats25 I totally agree! If it had been alcohol that had been illegal all Lydia's life; and marijuana had been legal all Lydia's life; Lydia would have been whooping it up with marijuana in Mexico, and she would be accusing her mother about her mother's dirty little secret of drinking alcohol.
spats25 @does not have anything to do with the drug. Drinking can cause the ability to controll yourself. crandahl DrTruth
Jesus changed water to wine at the wedding...first miracle in public! It is all good in moderation unless allergic.
crandahl susanamarie That is why the
people of France are healthier than Americans.
Fewer burgers and fries: More glasses of red wine
I'm allergic to alcohol but I love the smell of red wine, um. Sadly projectile vomiting occurs which is so inappropriate at parties. I adjusted to no alcohol long ago, it's all good. However I weigh 99 lbs and do indulge on occasion in the French fry in my opinion the finest use of the potato.
Lydia you normally blog and give us your thoughts about the entire episode! I'm curious why you had no comment about all the awful things Gretchen and Laurie had to say about Vicki?? And I'm also curious as to what your opinion is about all the snarky under the breath comments Gretchen makes all the freaking time??!!