Lydia's Poor Mom
Lydia shares what she thinks is behind Ryan's treatment of his mother -- and where she is with Slade now.
Whoa, this night was intense! Many of this season's issues came to a head on tonight's show. I express many of my opinions about the various dramas during the reunion, so I'm just going to focus on the things I was involved in tonight.
My poor mom. It's super hard for me to watch that scene unfold. I wasn't in the room with her when the whole Ryan confrontation took place. However, my brother and sister-in-law were there and they left right after because they couldn't believe what they saw. Although my mom is incredibly youthful and energetic she's not used to being out late and wearing high heels standing for so long. Vicki's party was a late night for her and she went inside to get warm, and put her feet up. It's not like she was Tom Cruise jumping up and down on Oprah's couch. She was literally putting her feet up. I am proud that my mom remained so calm when Ryan was yelling profanities at her.
I wonder if Brianna would have reacted differently had she seen what really happened. That said, I don't blame her for taking her husband's side. If Doug told me something had happened with another person, I would be on his side no questions asked. But the beauty of this show is that we can watch it back and see what actually happened. There are three sides to every story -- yours, mine and the truth. It seems to me Ryan was way out of line no matter what side of the story. Watching his face, so full of anger, and the way he is talking about my mom is disturbing. I have to believe his reaction has more to do with something much greater than the condition of their new couch.
I was so traumatized and in tears because I felt responsible for my mom. I invited her to have a wonderful night with my new friends. I know that drama seems to follow everyone, but I didn't think it would involve my mother. I was feeling protective of her. I left her alone for two minutes only to find that she was being verbally assaulted and getting kicked out. Even now, watching her put her hand on her head makes me so sad. Tamra and Alexis were so sweet to follow us out and calm us down. And, Vicki went above and beyond as a friend to make us feel comfortable. It must have been hard for her to balance her friends and her family and I felt she did an amazing job. There hasn't been any weirdness in our friendship because of it, we both were innocent bystanders.
As far as Slade goes, we have moved on. I don't think he is malicious. Doug and I have hung out with him and Gretchen since this party and I actually enjoy his company. There is obviously a lot of history between him and Vicki that I know nothing about. However, I don't believe two wrongs make a right and there is no justification for his behavior, which is what I was trying to explain to him at the party. He was defending his comments against Vicki by focusing on what she had done to him, but I had never done anything to him and he did the same thing to me, on a lesser scale. As the old adage goes, time heals all wounds and I'm truly over it now. Hopefully, he has grown from it all as well. What can you do, but let go and move on. . .