Cast Blog: #RHOC

On Slade and Lauri's Poor Timing

Lydia discusses why Slade's nickname bothered her, when Lauri should have chimed in, and defends Gretchen.

First of all, Happy Canada Day! I know everyone will be celebrating the Fourth of July this week. Nothing beats fireworks, family, and freedom. Yay America! A little known fact though, July 1st is Canada Day so pour some maple syrup on your pancakes, eh? On to this week's episode. . .

Who doesn't love a day of dress shopping with all of your girlfriends, right!? I was so excited to watch Tamra try on all sorts of dresses and find the wedding gown of her dreams. Doug and I just went to her wedding a couple of weekend's ago so, it was perfect timing to watch this episode. Tamra looked beautiful in every dress she tried on. It's no wonder she choose three! (You can see all of Tamra and Eddie's wedding day bliss in September in a multi-episode special all about their big day.)

Anyway, this was the first time I'd see everyone since the Salsa Night. So on the drive up to LA, the girls asked me all about Slade's now infamous "cheeseburger" comment. Some fans have commented that they think I overreacted, and they are entitled to their opinions. However, my feelings were hurt by Slade's whispered "joke." That is my reality. I am a direct person and I told him right then and there that it is never OK for a man to put down a woman's appearance. End of story. Slade should have just said sorry and moved on, but that didn't happen, and instead it grew into more then his mere comment. It was validating to hear that the girls understood where I was coming from and affirm my feelings. I felt really supported and justified by my friends.

When Gretchen got into the limo, all I saw was a big, honking diamond ring! I was blinded by bling! I thought Slade had proposed! The second I saw it, I asked her about it. I'm not sure why she decided to wear her old engagement ring -- on her left hand -- on Tamra's day, but it's not really that big of a deal to me. If I were Tamra, I may have been a little annoyed, but I don't really have a dog in this race so I have no real comment. That said, I am curious about Gretchen's reasoning.

Seeing Heather and Alexis getting along and talking made me so happy! Finally, we are one big, happy family celebrating Tamra together. Then Lauri had to chime in!

Watching this scene back is so crazy. In my opinion, if Lauri really felt that Vicki needed to hear what she knew about Brooks, Lauri should have called or taken Vicki aside. Instead she just dropped the bomb in front of all of us. My heart broke for Vicki. I don't think Lauri's intentions were bad, but Vicki's response was real and honest and it was so hard to see my friend in pain.

Once the shopping was over, we all went to dinner where NONE of us ate placenta, thank you very much! TMI!

When the subject of Gretchen's lying came up, I felt uncomfortable. It's no secret that Gretchen and I haven't been able to become best friends, but why are we talking about her, especially since she wasn't there to give her side of the story. It seemed wrong to be speculating behind her back especially since Gretchen DID come wedding dress shopping, and made the right decision.

In the good news department, I was really excited for Heather and her role on Malibu Country. I know it's Heather's dream to be a working actress and I love seeing it becoming a reality for her. Heather is so talented and this role sounds like it could open even more doors for her. At dinner, we should have been celebrating for all these wonderful things happening in our lives.

Be sure to watch next week for our trip to Canada. I show the ladies my motherland!

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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