Katie Maloney

Katie explains why she is no longer friends with Kristen and what she's looking for in a proposal.

on Jan 210

I saw Kristen at an all time low in Cabo and, when we returned, I was very very worried about her mental and emotional health. I even tried booking her a flight home because I felt she needed to go home and collect herself. Finally, she booked the trip on her own, and when I saw her tweets I felt disgusted and couldn't back her. I felt she wasn't facing the truth and was becoming weak.

Once Tom finally came clean it was so half-hearted. It was if he reluctantly confessed and then wanted everyone to shut up about it -- as if it wasn't a big deal and didn't cause so much pain for Kristen. As her friend, I felt destroyed to hear the truth. Personally I can never understand how something that crucial and all the lies around it could bring anyone closer together.

Kristen was out of her mind the night she confronted Ariana at SUR. She had the rightfully to talk to her but her approach was completely out of line. It's totally unfair for her to forgive Tom and put the blame on Ariana. She can have anger towards Ariana, for sure, but to name call and talk to her that way is tasteless. I had already come to terms with the fact that a friendship with Kristen had become a tireless feat. When I saw her reckless display that night at SUR it was confirmed for me.

Typically I would side with Kristen and support her argument. But given the torture I had endured, I was very much over her petty debate. A part of me felt for her, but she made it impossible to have sympathy. Her behavior was erratic and irrational. I was exhausted from trying to console her and side with her. It wasn't an easy decision for me to make about ending my friendship with Kristen but I had to be selfish, as it was toxic and really beginning to affect my life.

72 comments
kelken
kelken

Katie.  Why do you get involved with that bag of neurotic pathological jealousy?  Kristen is a mess and at 30 years old, she really hasn't got it yet.  Dudes lie, but Kristen justifies her own lying by getting bombed, blaming everyone for her 30 years of being an underachiever, and being the most pathetic member in the show….


By the way, I think you're really sexy when you don't drink and keep your hair straight—Love the colors, too! 

loripoole
loripoole

you should have had her back... you contributed to her anguish by digging and digging into her and Tom's personal life... she asked you all to stop.. but you were all relentless... and you cannot judge her reactions... you were not in her shoes.. and are not in her and Tom's relationship.. every relationship is different and every person is different..She has to live her life and make her own choices and mistakes.. you may not agree with them but she has to decide.. thats why you and stassi and your posse are not good friends... you tell ppl what to do and if they don't do it... you are no longer friends.. whose to say once they get through this .. they could be fine... you are not God.. you dont get to decide.  I think you are a nice person... but this is not your call.  You can tell her what you "think" you would do in her position, but thats it!! You all make her feel worse about herself and give her so much self-doubt.. she really feel s the only one that does have her back is Tom.. He is not a bad guy.. just made some bad choices... You choose what to do in your relationship... let everyone else make there own choices.  No two people are the same.

Bobbie.T
Bobbie.T

Katie... stop being a Lemming!  Get a backbone, and stop being part of that 'pack mentality'.  You would do well to change your image on the show and be your OWN person.  You have come across being very weak minded and very easy to manipulate.  You remind me of those kids who do anything to be part of the 'popular' group.

balharbour
balharbour

No one believes you Katie.  Are you jealous of Katies hot man and her figure or just that she is the fan favorite for the show?  You cooked all this up with Jax and Stassi as far as the viewers are concerned judging from tonights poll on WWHL - Kristen won and you all lost.

ale74
ale74

If Tom cheats on Kristen or viceversa it is their own business!!!! stay out of their relationship!!!!

saucy1949
saucy1949

First ya'll all couldn't stand Scheana, then ya'll counldn't stand Ariana , now you're all bff's . What a weird bunch of girls. I think you are all rainy day friends only. No true friendships.

fairytell
fairytell

he will never propose you are not able to be a friend 

ShariO
ShariO

Katie,  Now that you know about Kristen and Jax it makes does Kristen staying with Tom after him cheating on her make a little sense to you?  Why she is so paranoid about what Tom is doing she was obsessed with it him and Arianna, she gets mad at Arianna instead of Tom.  Because they both cheated.  Its sad to me the bunch of you are so childish, You all follow stasis like shes some kind of queen when really she just mean hateful and cold blooded.  Makes me kind feel bad for Tom and Kristen. Previous post is correct Stassi and Jax deserve one another after all misery does love company.

aspire236
aspire236

I  think Stassi and Jax deserve to be together. They love to destroy friendships, Stassi starts trouble and sits back and licks her chops. Misery LOVES company! Jax needs to just shut the hell up! And you Katie are O.K. with this? Sad so sad. No one wins when people hurt other people. Stassi loves to start trouble, its like a sport for her. For someone who does't like Jax she sure doesn't let it go.

chichilove
chichilove

You and Stassie are so mean and ugly inside and out. What Kristen does with her life is her business. The reason why Stassie is so miserable is because she so rotten, a rotten sole, she was with a man child and quite frankly got what she deserves. Keep hanging with her  you'll wind up alone and miserable.

CherylS27
CherylS27

For once, you make some sense, this is what happens when you don't drink.  Lets face it Kristen nor Tom are angels, the question I have to ask is when Ariana and Tom did what they  did, were Kristen and Tom broken up or on a break?  If so then Kristen has no right to be upset, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. As for Ariana lying, don't blame her, Kristen needs medication, Tom may have screwed up but since it wasn't the first time, it wouldn't be the last time and now Kristen wants to blame Ariana for everything when it takes two, please.  As for you and Stassi, the two of you shouldn't have barged in on her and Tom, but inform her that from now on, no more complaining about her relationship no matter what. Stassi and you have enabled her, therefore, she keeps on, she needs serious help. Tom should be happy to get away because a guy who cheats more than once isn't happy but more afraid of being alone.  Regardless of how old most of you are, you, tom, Kristen, Stassi, and Jax are all children who shouldn't be in a serious relationship of any kind but in rehab for your various mental disorders and addictions.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

Vanderpmp Rules should be Vanderpumps Kindergarten.......what a bunch of babies ......it would be more interesting to follow the cast and their aspirations outside of being bartenders and wait staff ......the show is too high school they are too old to be behaving this way.....I usually can't watch a full episode 

Expressni
Expressni

Please ask Lisa to fire Kristen .... she is awful to watch on the show and
Arianna is so pretty and nice and making the show more fun indeed!  Love you too Katie, glad to see more of you on the show now

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

I don't agree with the fact that Kristen went after Ariana but you and Stassi cannot talk! Do you not remember the texts Stassi sent to that coworker (forgot her name) Jax was seeing AFTER they had broken up.

usmc0703
usmc0703

Very disappointed you stuck up for Ariana. Poor choice against your friend remember that is what Ariana does keep her away from your boyfriend sweetie

Elise21
Elise21

I agree in some points with you Katie. Yes Kristen should have talked to tom not Ariana. However Ariana did deserve what Kristen had said. She also should have talked to tom about it first. Ariana is at fault but Kristen isn't in the relationship with Ariana she is in it with tom and that's who she should have talked it out with first an figure out where they stand then talk to ariana.

Fl
Fl

You sound like you have a little sense in your post. But when your friends are hurting and confused you don't yell at them call them names or put them down. You did all of this and are now changing your tune in the post. You are not innocent in this. Why didn't you break up with your boyfriend threw a drink on you, that was disrespectful and you should have more respect for yourself....see where I'm coming from. Kristen was hurting deeply and that's what happens when you love someone and they hurt you. You and jealous heart should have been better friends. She might just be better off without you two as "friends". I've posted twice because when I saw the preview of the slap it pissed me off. And if Jax is saying he slept with Kristen, take it for what it's worth. He's the kind of boy who thinks his looks will make up for all the wrong he does. He does stupid shit, he's a habitual liar, he'd fart and blame his mom.

Itokagi23
Itokagi23

You need to develop a spinal column and stop listening to everything Stassi the hater says. The girl is useless, why can't you see that. 

ColletteMichelle
ColletteMichelle

Yes she did!! Ariana deserved all of what Kristen said to her and much more.  I can't believe anyone would stick up for Ariana.  Ariana lied for years while accusing Kristen of being a paranoid fool. I mean Ariana enjoyed making a fool out of Kristen when Kristen's instincts were spot on.    Ariana tried to make Kristen look like a fool for seeing through her.  Ariana enjoyed Kristen's emotional pain and passive/aggressively made it worse for Kristen.  Just so ugly on Ariana's part.  Tom twisted Kristen into an emotional pretzel with all of his lying but Ariana also deserved to be called out..  Ariana worked with Tom and she had to know that Tom and Kristen had not broken up...  Who is going to believe at this point that it was just "one kiss" after all of the lying.  They should have owned whatever happened and then agreed to not work together out of respect for Tom/Kristen's relationship.  Kristen should have been told the truth and given the option to stay or leave her relationship based on the truth.  As far as Kristen sleeping with Jax, I think that girl has been put through it by everyone - and Tom has devalued her to the point of something like that happening.  Kristen lost the ability to value herself as a woman.  Jax has his own issues and was being treated like dirt at the time. It's wrong, but it is understandable and quite human.  Stassi needs to stop talking and find happiness in a new relationship - let go of Jax, really, and build a new life.  Katie stop being a hypocrite, step back and try to be a friend.  Kristen stood by you during times when you were barely tolerable.

KathyW
KathyW

Your blog was going good and then the contradiction:  She can have anger towards Ariana, for sure, but to name call and talk to her that way is tasteless.  Your bf Stassi does this in every episode to someone, but other people are tasteless?  It's pretty sad how you all seem to be Stassi's minions with no opinions of your own.

cupid
cupid

Katie, I like that you got to the root of the matter: Tom was the one Kristen needed to talk to; not Ariana.


"Tom was the one who cheated and she should have solely took it up with him... She can have anger towards Ariana, for sure, but to name call and talk to her that way is tasteless." 


The second part, however, raises a question. 


Katie, I would describe you as a level-headed, logical, and kind person. However, have you and the other girls not called Scheana tasteless names? Yes, Scheana made a mistake. She made a mistake (like how well have all made a mistake), and she (like we) is not defined by it. You have mentioned on television that you do not have a "drinking problem." It is clear that you reject being defined by those few incidences that have been caught on camera. 


The pot and kettle are indeed both black. It is evident that Scheana deserves a sincere apology from you and the other girls. It would be childish not to do so. 

Saminosity
Saminosity

Thanks, Katie for being honest, at least someone from Sur can be!!  The show is entertaining without all of the hysterical drama.  I wish it would focus more on your lives at Sur and having fun instead of all the relationship drama.  I agree Ariana didn't deserve that razing.  Ariana comes across as very likable on the show whereas I've never liked Kristen.  I don't know any of the case personally but that Jax rumor with Kristen was so believable.  Thank you Stassi for giving Krsiten her just desserts.  She clearly cannot see past Tom and her and they're both annoying.

mich0812
mich0812

Katie

Glad you colored your hair!

Kristin is lucky to have the group of friends that she does. You girls are a great support group for each other

Unfortunatley it seems as though Kristin is ruining it for herself

My bet is on she did sleep with Jax. I dont blame you for beig disgusted with her

She seriouly needs to calm down, It sucks when you are hurting that bad, but you and the other girls have been there for her so many times to guide her in this situation and she doesn['t get it.

You seem like a good girl, other than your personality change when you get drunk LOL

skizzy79
skizzy79

Well written post. 

It's funny to read the comments where people tell you to stay out of their business, etc. etc. etc.  Kind of hard to do when you are constantly being drug into it. It's hard when a friend you really cares about goes so far off the deep end because of a relationship.  It's easy to feed into the drama, but after awhile all you're doing is enabling bad behavior and getting your hand slapped for your efforts.

One sided friendships only benefit one side. I think it's unfortunate for Kristen that you have had to step back. You have a very clear headed perspective on how she handled herself.  I agree that Ariana shouldn't come out of this clean, but the anger was very clearly misplaced.

Lot of very off the wall comments here, don't take them to heart.

They're only opinions, even if they are not voiced very nicely.

wiscfan
wiscfan

I'd watch your attitude if I were you.  You and Schwartz could be next.

celnurse
celnurse

I can not believe that this group of "people" are in their late 20's, early 30's.  They have never shown a glimpse of maturity, so how can anyone expect them to act any other way.  Actually, the only one that has shown any normalcy is Ariana!  It was a kiss, 2 years ago.  Why would anyone mention it or even be concerned about it?  Why would she dignify any one of these nuts w/  the slightest response when questioned?  Lisa should have fired Kristin, on the spot when she called from Cabo. Situation D O N E! 

sofie7
sofie7

I can relate to your frustration because I was also involved in a similar situation with a very good friend. I was extremely supportive for months and months. She ended up turning against me when I tried to tell her that I didn't think she should continue in such an unhealthy relationship. It was tearing her up emotionally and I was emotionally exhausted as well. I realized that my friend really didn't want my advice or help, she just wanted someone to take her frustrations out on and cry to every day. That's when I realized that I was only enabling her to continue to carry on in a relationship with a liar and a cheater. Unfortunately it broke up our friendship. Eventually they did break up and after several more months she finally realized that I was really trying to be a good supportive & caring friend and she apologized. However our friendship was never the same "BFF" as before.


On another note, I am very happy that you and Tom were able to forgive and forget. There is never a perfect relationship, couples do fight, and we all say and do things at times to hurt each other. I'm glad that you both were able to recognize your mistakes and realize that you love each other way to much to let that hurt your relationship. Just use this as a reminder not to let this happen again in the future and your relationship can grow stronger from it. You two make such a cute couple and there is something special about your chemistry that sparkles when you are together and are not fighting. I would love to see you and Tom together more in the show in your happy times!

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

I agree with you 100%.  Don't listen to these haters.  You cannot be a friend to someone like Kristin.  It's simply a no win situation.  I had a friend who was in a torturous love affair with this guy and would complain to me 8 times a day about it, keep me on the phone all night about it, all the while telling me he cheated on her, he treated her like shit, he did all these horrible things - when she asked me what to do, I told her, break up with him.  She did and to this day blames me for making her lose the love of her life.  This is the kind of crazy Kristin is - actually worse.  She would rather be chained and tortured every day for the rest of her life than have the courage to walk alone into the unknown. She's a conditioned loser.  Let her go.

melsweet
melsweet

why the little dig towards shay and his planning of the engagement?  getting everyone involved was part of his manner of planning. so what?  it kills me how you throw shade at shaena for singing, yet she is a sweet girl who's learned from her past mistakes and landed herself a very sweet guy.  I bet shay would never dream of throwing a drink on her head.  he planned a beautiful engagement and she will have the memory of her friends being there to witness it forever.


as for kristin--you're right ariana didn't deserve her wrath, but it doesn't take much for you to dump a friend, does it? you need to get a mind of your own and not just follow stassi. i could see you taking a break or saying you don't want to hear about the relationship anymore, but to dump a friend? wow.

littlemay1
littlemay1

What would happen if "Princess Stassi" was in Kristen's shoes Katie? going through exactly what Kristen was going through? Would you just throw her off a 20 foot building as you have done with Kristen. Wow, your friendships are extremely contradictory and false, they really are. Kristen is far better off not having you or that princess mate as a friend. I suggest you look that meaning up or does LA have their own dictionary. There are far better people in the world for Kristen to enjoy good times with. Your just Stassi's little puppet and they way she treats you and all of her "friends" is just wrong.

okidikiepokie
okidikiepokie

Omg it was just a kiss.  For one thing its none of your or Stassi's bussiness.

miranda99
miranda99

WHY do you care at ALL about Kristen and Tom's relationship?  Get out of their business and into your own.  Creepy how involved in these two you and Stassi are!

foofty
foofty

@kelken ditto that! Kristen made herself psychotic with distrust of Tom because of her own guilt and shame for sleeping with Jax last year. Betraying Stassi as her best friend while her and Jax were trying to get back together, acting like such a moron by bringing up Tom sleeping with a girl in Vegas and then totally flipping out with the Arianna thing. She was obsessed with not trusting Tom, looking at all of his texts on his phone every single day, made everyone in their circle miserable because of her insecurity. What I have found in life, is that the person who is the most guilty and dishonest, is the one who doesn't trust anyone, especially the ones they are closest to. She drove everyone away from her. She does'nt deserve any friends, she is a disgusting spineless insecure piece of crap. She never deserved Tom. He is way to good for her. I'm so glad that he and Arianna are finally free to love each other, as it is so obvious they are super compatible and attracted to each other.

Viv444555
Viv444555

@Expressni Kristen is the only one that has a spine to stand up to Stassi, fire her and will just be watching Stassi beat everyone down every episode. What fun is that??? Kristen is way prettier than Arianna... and Katie is a wimp!

Viv444555
Viv444555

@usmc0703 She stuck up for the wrong party, Stassi will throw her under the bus too when she gets tired of her!  Katie better do some back tracking fast!

Andi77
Andi77

@ColletteMichelle Well said...I agree 100% and also feel they all need to do some serious growing up and stop judging so much! Be actual "friends" a friend is one who is there for you, loves you and supports you REGARDLESS if they agree or disagree with your choices and does not JUDGE the way these guys do!! Also WHY does everyone let Stacssi control, manipulate and treat them they way she does!?!? She has to be the most hateful, self absorbed, control freak in the world and my god she is soooo damn immature!!! She feeds off drama and LOVES to cause it...MISERY LOVES COMPANY!! Stacssi is a spoiled wanna be princess and I CAN NOT wait until she is truly put in her damn place once and for all!!! I think Arianna is sneaky and up to no good!! Jax just needs to go away...he is a MESS....Can not stand him!! A bunch of followers, all of them...its like a cult and Stacssi is Charlie Manson!!


ktrygrl22
ktrygrl22

@celnurse I was thinking the exact same thing. The oldest ones, which I'm assuming are Kristin and Jax, are the most immature. The show is entertaining, but OMG! What 30+ year olds act like that??

ktrygrl22
ktrygrl22

@melsweet I agree with your first paragraph about Scheana, but I disagree with you about Katie "dumping" Kristin. Having a friendship with Kristin is toxic--she is emotionally and mentally unstable. Katie is simply being rational and ridding herself of a toxic person. Kristin could learn a thing or two from Katie in that regard.

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

@littlemay1 Stassi was in Kristen's shoes - when Jax cheated on her - and she dumped him.  But I agree with you, everyone is Stassi's puppet

mparks
mparks

@okidikiepokie Kristin made it EVERYONE'S business.  I got sick of listening to her for the hour of Vanderpump Rules.  I couldn't imagine what it would be like having to hear it 24/7.  Kristin asking for help but then refusing to listen is then getting mad at them for not supporting her.   How can they, she changes her mind every five seconds.  I'm leaving Tom, no I'm not.....blah, blah, blah.  

bjunebug28
bjunebug28

@miranda99 Because Kristen makes it everyone's business by crying to them about it all the time!  She's a leech draining the life out of all of her friends - they have a right to comment about it!

skizzy79
skizzy79

@miranda99 What a bizarre statement to make when ALL Kristen does is beat the topic into the ground. You do watch don't you? 

okidikiepokie
okidikiepokie

@mparks@okidikiepokie 

I agree with you to a point but when Kristen takes off by herself to cry and pout.... her "friend" goes looking for more. She then goes looking for Kristen to happily get it all started all over again like in Cabo. Stassi started all the stress about Tom and Arianna and carried the tale. If she doesn't want to hear it don't add to it. Stay  out of it and away from it. Stassi and Katie went into a  bedroom and stood over two consenting adults and berated them for having sex against her advice and wishes. In what world????? whether she is right or wrong about the issue does that make her actions right???  Also Stassi is as bad as Kristen with the I am..I' nit. I'm your friend..I'm not your friend..blah blah. She is only loyal to people that she can lead around by the nose.

saucy1949
saucy1949

@skizzy79@miranda99 They all beat the topic. Look how long we've been listening and watching Stassi beat the topic on Jax. She was doing it until Kristen and Tom's deal came up.