Cast Blog: #PUMPRULES

Tom: I'm Kristen's Punching Bag

Tom opens up about the aftermath of cheating on Kristen and his thoughts on Scheana’s “Tooth Incident.”

"Scheana's Tooth". . .Well, don't get me wrong, I understand that an injury like that has to be so catastrophic and devastating, but at times I felt like I heard so much about "Scheana's Tooth" that it could very well be the title of a three part book series that would rival Lord of the Rings in length!

Hmm. . .OK, so let's think about this for a minute. None of us called Scheana the day of her (not even close to life threatening) oral surgery because. . .we are all bad people? Or just maybe, there's more to it than it just being about the tooth. . .I will let you come up with your own conclusion...

Oh, and now her and Pandora are bestie's wearing the same outfits. . .Jeez. . .Watching Scheana dry-hump Pandora kinda says it all. I feel the tooth thing is one more thing that Scheana used to get her to be Lisa's favorite.
 
See, Scheana was insecure at that point because she knew full well that she had violated our trust, and the fact that she refused to admit this further more annoyed most of us. Instead she spent her time manipulating Lisa with constant tears, who facilitated bullying us into formal apologies because of this damn tooth situation. It overall put a wedge between Scheana and the rest of us and further added to the tension between Kristen and Lisa, as well as Stassi and Lisa.

Stassi opted to "fake apologize" to Scheana to get Lisa off her back. I think it's pretty damn s----y for Scheana to use her "tooth incident" to manipulate people and situations to her favor, all while jeopardizing our jobs and relationship with Lisa.

Kristen definitely overreacted to the bartending situation at Kyle's. I know that it came from pent up frustration with Lisa. But Lisa put Scheana in charge of us at Kyle's party, and in my opinion (and probably most everyone else's), she did this to ruffle Kristen and the rest of our feathers. Believe it or not, Lisa likes to stir things up sometimes. But it wasn't the time or the place or the battle that Kristen should have picked.

I was really embarrassed with the way Kristen acted. And, of course, because she is my girlfriend, I definitely feel the residual heat from Lisa and it always puts me in the most awkward position. She deserved the probation.

 

At that point I was pretty much over the Jax and Stassi thing, you can only hear about something so much. Plus Jax changes his mind like changes his socks. I will always try to help Jax out the best I can, but it gets frustrating when one minute Jax is telling me how much in love he is with Stassi, and the next he is showing me a picture of some new girl he just met.

I’m really frustrated with Kristen's constant scolding. The fact that Kristen pretty much tells anyone with two ears that I cheated on her gets really obnoxious at times. It's been over three months, and still every time Kristen has two glasses of wine she wants to started telling or reminding everyone that I cheated on her. And the only time she wants to sit down and talk about our relationship is after at least a bottle of wine. Pretty much every social gathering or every time the girls get together and drink, I become a punching bag.

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Ariana: Tom and I Have Reached Our Boiling Points

Ariana is more convinced than ever that the Miami affair didn't happen.

Right off the bat, I want to get something out of the way: I’m not the smartest person I've ever met in my life (I’ve also never technically "met" myself, so that choice of words is hilarious.). I didn't mean that seriously; I let my frustrations get to me, and I lashed out. There are much better and more clear ways to express my point of view without sounding like a total ---hole. Smooth move, Ferguson.


That being said, when you live your life amid second and third-hand rumors and lies, it's hard to have an objective point of view. Watching conversations that I wasn't present for gives me a much clearer perspective…it’s an out-of-body experience.


Let's be clear: Jax didn't "crack," "reveal," or "admit" anything. He never made a choice between being loyal and being honest, because he has never been either of those things (and I doubt even knows the definition of those words). I was so frustrated that people were interested in the “story” and the gossip and were so desperate for it to be true that they weren't paying attention to the fact that NONE of it made any sense!


Every single time that someone attempts to perpetuate this story about Tom, their story changes, without fail. Each person involved has their own reasons for doing so. While neither Tom nor I have anything to actually worry about, both of us reached our boiling points due to the relentlessness with which this has been brought up. We’ve always told the truth, but because it’s not interesting, people jumped at the chance to buy into the bullsh--. I mean, there are people who still believe that our relationship started as an affair. I don’t have to go on a ridiculous crusade to "clear my name" and then act as though I've been a martyr to truth. But if that’s what helps someone sleep better at night? Hopefully a good night's rest will help them be a better human.


I've been told that I'm pretending to be someone I'm not, that I'm fake, because I'm not interested in petty drama, or because Tom and I don't feel the need to hide our happiness. I've been told I'm shady and mean, because I'm not nice 100% of the time, but when I am, I get called a doormat. Guess what? I’m a three-dimensional human being, like the rest of the world. I’ve got issues: I’m not forthright with my feelings, I have crippling anxiety, cellulite, and my hair always refuses to part where I want. But while I may not be nice 25/8, I try not to be rude to anyone who doesn't deserve it.


2014 was the best year of my life in so many ways, exacerbated by the fact that my 2013 was full of tragedy, struggle, and pain. Tom has always been a good friend to me, and I feel so incredibly grateful for the life we have together. I am so proud of him and proud to be his partner and teammate. Tom always has my back, and I will always have his.
The bottom line is that some people will love you, some people will hate you, but most people don't care either way. I'm doing the very best I can, and that's all I can do. Gossip, rumors, and a flair for the dramatic rank very low on my list of priorities. I'm so thankful for the people who have always been there for me. It's such a great feeling to know that there are wonderful and kind people in this world. I'm truly lucky to know so many.


True love is real. Onward and upward. Live long and prosper. In case I don't see you: good afternoon, good evening, and good night.

 

 

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