Lisa Nicole: Cheating Is Never Justified
Lisa reflects on Quad and Mariah's friendship, her sex life, and who really owns the uterus in the family.
Hello Married to Medicine Darlings,
Thank you for tuning in to another week of Married to Medicine. Another week of couples fun in Blue Ridge Mountains and boy was it eventful. Morning breakfast arguments, zip-lining, couples' therapy, more engaging couples' conversation and more.
I enjoyed myself in Blue Ridge. I love creating authentic relationships and bonds with other couples with similar experiences. There's a lot we can take from the experiences we have all had.
The breakfast discussion between Quad, Simone and Toya was draining. I don't like seeing the ladies argue. Personally, I wish Mariah and Quad would make up, and I wish Toya and Simone would kiss and make up too. One thing is clear to me as it relates to Quad/Mariah and Toya/Simone; deep down, they are saddened by whatever issue they are having with their friend, but they express their sadness as anger. I don't think Simone was being messy inviting Mariah. I really do think she was trying to get Mariah to just make an effort with the circle of friends. Toya is clearly frustrated that Simone keeps having amnesia about the remarks she makes, but Toya I think you should not let the situation get you so upset. Life is too short and this weekend is about couples bonding, NOT FIGHTING! Let's not lose sight of the big picture, we all love each other and came to the cabin to have quality couples' fun.
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Next we catch Mariah packing for her glamping trip and we catch glimpses of her getaway with her other friends. I'm glad she has another circle of friends to lean on. It's hard to be the lone woman out in a group of friends. She does show great strength to press on, but I also see sadness too. I do feel if she made a small effort to connect with the M2M circle of friends, issues could be healed and fixed. Sometimes, even though it's hard you have to let your guard down and be vulnerable. This act fosters authentic connections and allows genuine relationships to form. #enoughofthesuperficial I like the softer side of Mariah we saw around the campfire. I just wish she would let that Mariah come out more often with the ladies. The mean side that called the ladies witches and calls our cabin cheap (when she is in a decorated barn) is just not nice. There’s no need for all of that.
On to zip-lining. That was a lot of fun. I was surprised Heavenly was scared but I'm glad she didn't let fear get the best of her. FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real! Heavenly gave me a great laugh on the zip-line. Her facial expressions and those eyelashes had me crying as I watched her coming down. Thanks for the laugh.
Back at the homestead we get ready for the main event, "Couples Therapy." This is going to be a few hours of interesting and engaging couple’s conversation. Here is my thoughts on the topics that came up:
The topic of cheating: This is such a tough and controversial topic. Dealing with infidelity was one of the most difficult challenges Darren and I faced while dating. It took a long time to re-establish trust and let go of the pain but with hard work we were able to get through it. I believe that cheating is never good and there is never a reasonable excuse why it happens. Greg please let go of the idea that cheating in some instances is justified. It's never acceptable and it is very hurtful to the other person. Some people can get past it but many can NOT. Throwing away your family and a loving partner in life is not worth the short moments of pleasure. Most people never really know what they will do until they are faced with the situation of infidelity but through prayer, counseling and work. I am thankful Darren and I got past that relationship storm.
The topic of sex: This was another funny discussion. Darren and I feel we have to do our best to please each other. (Even when we don't feel like it.) Has he never been a bandit in the night and taken it while I slept. . .YES and me too. At the end of the day neither of us have pinned up sexual frustration and that works for us. A poor sex life greatly contributes to marital problems. I think everyone should be open to the opinion I offered around this topic. It's mature and fair for all parties involved. Come on Simone. . .Be open!
The topic of money and the uterus: Eugene you have a uterus now. Get out of here. That comment was hilarious and ridiculous. Marriage is about becoming one but now Toya's uterus is your uterus. . .You are taking this idea to a whole different level. Thanks so much for the laugh. I will pontificate more on what you said to see if I can at all see your point. #toofunny
The topic of goals and dreams: Greg we have to work on some of your philosophies. So you feel Quad has to put her dreams on hold because of marriage. I don’t agree with this at all. Marriage is about supporting the goals and dreams of both the man and the woman. If Quad’s business begins to generate more money than your practice of medicine, will you put your career on hold? I don’t think so. You have to find a balance where both the man and the woman feel fulfilled and everyone’s goal and dreams are being accomplished. This has to happen for a marriage to be successful. Support your wife and she will do the same for you include giving you that baby you want. You know I’m in your corner on that topic.
The topic of children: Jackie and Curtis had everyone crying. Jackie wants a baby so bad and Curtis does not. My prayer for them is that they find a compromise. I appreciate Jackie’s transparency. Thanks for sharing.
Our last day of the trip we had a little game of flag football. It was fun but I have to say the docs were cheating. I also have to say the wives have other interest than sports. . .None of us really knew the rules of flag football but we did look good while playing.
All and all, the couples trip was awesome. We had a great time, #Lowdrama. But it's time for me to get back to Hotlanta. I have a fashion show coming up and lots of work left to do. The Lisa Nicole Collection Fashion Experience is going to be my most fabulous affair yet. I'm showing four different collections and taking the Atlanta fashion scene to another level. Get ready. This is one fashion show experience you do not want to miss.
Until Next Week,
Love & Success,
Lisa Nicole
P.S. By the way, a couples retreat with some of the Married to Medicine ladies is being planned for September 2014. Stay tuned for more of the details and join us for a weekend of more couples fun and relationship building. Seats are very limited so when the info is released reserve your spot fast. Stay connected with me for more details of upcoming events by joining my email list at LisaNicoleCloud.com.
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