Married to Medicine has had its share of scandals this season — especially surrounding Dr. Heavenly Kimes and her husband, Dr. Damon Kimes. There was Mariah Huq's allegations that Damon had been unfaithful. There were eyebrows raised over why Dr. Heavenly calls Damon "Daddy," and there was a glass-shattering showdown.
But jaws truly dropped when Quad Webb-Lunceford straight up asked if Dr. Heavenly trapped Damon by getting pregnant while on their candlelit beach group therapy session. (Dr. Heavenly and Damon’s oldest son is 20, and they have been married for 20 years. You do the math.)
"I did. I was five months pregnant when I got married," Dr. Heavenly admitted, saying, "I love my husband, he’s everything I ever wanted."
But Damon saw it differently, telling the group he knew what he was getting into from the beginning. "I have to make a correction. There’s no way you trapped me, I knew from the start, this is gonna be my wife, I was done. That’s my boy… his mother was my wife. She always has been and she always will be," he said.
Getting pregnant to keep someone in a relationship happens to both sexes, actually. (Men have done this, too.) Shocking news: The relationship doesn't usually end up as successful as Dr. Heavenly's.
According to one therapist who worked with The Fatherhood Project, studies show that a young man will often stay up until the baby is born and then generally will leave sometime shortly after. “It is so much easier for a man to run out on responsibility. You, the woman, are left holding the child, it is impossible to run out on an infant in your arms that is completely dependent on you for everything (although on rare occasions some women have done this or had to do this). What is also true, from statistics, is that the rate of domestic violence, that sometimes includes homicide, is much greater during pregnancy.”
Aside from the emotional complications, there are financial problems that arise as well when one partner wasn't planning on becoming a parent (whether at that time or ever.)
"The question that arises is whether a man should be obligated to financially support a child that his partner gives birth to, if the man would prefer to remain childless. After birth, the father generally will be responsible for child support payments despite his objections to carrying the pregnancy to term. This has led some fathers' rights advocates to oppose what they see as a double standard in family planning," reported Family Law.
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