What's the Best Way to Handle Seeing Your Ex Hooking up with Another Person?

What's the Best Way to Handle Seeing Your Ex Hooking up with Another Person?

We feel you, Liam Hemsworth. 

By Marianne Garvey
Kaitlynn Carter, Miley Cyrus in Italy

Poor Liam Hemsworth. It's impossible being famous and avoiding your even more famous ex online when she's making out with another person.

According to Page Six, Miley Cyrus and Kaitlynn Carter's major PDA is hurting the “Hunger Games” actor, and he's devastated by the pictures of his soon-to-be ex-wife making out with another woman.

“He was heartbroken and blindsided by those photos,” a source told the publication of the duo's vacation in Lake Como, Italy, which has been blowing up on the internet.

Liam and Miley have announced they're splitting after less than a year of marriage. It's understandable he's hurt that she's moved on already. 

"Divorce is the death of a dream you thought would last forever. Betrayal is one of the most painful emotions we will ever feel. It’s impossible to make sense of it as much as we want to," relationship expert Fran Greene, author of Dating Again With Courage and Confidencetold Personal Space. "Understanding that grief and dealing with loss is a process will help you move through the agony."

Greene has advice for Liam (and anyone who has had to see an ex move on so publicly so fast).

"Although heartbreak will shatter you to the core, it actually will help you realize that you were worth much more than what you had. Once you realize that you deserve someone so much better, you will be able to better deal with the pain," she said. "There is no quick fix to dealing with seeing your ex hook up with someone."

She advises the following:

"Disconnect from your ex. Detox from social media. Cut off all social media contact, everything. Unfriend, unfollow, untag etc. It’s so tempting to think that if you stay connected on social media 'you’ll know the whole story' about what your ex is doing and who they are doing it with. On the contrary, you’ll only get snippets of info and your imagination will be your worst enemy.

"Delete texts and emails. Holding onto loving texts and emails just lends a false sense of security. The fact is, your ex is gone. Purge the photos. They are everywhere, on your phone, tablet, computer, on your desk; they need to be out of sight. Shred, delete, rip them up, or give them to a friend to hold for you. Seeing photos of your ex is not good for your healing."

Follow the 90-day no contact rule.

"The best way to free yourself from the power your ex has over you is to sever all contact. Do not call, text, email, leave messages, drive past your ex’s house, ask about your ex, send packages, show up at your ex’s favorite spots," Greene said. "This may seem impossible, but your cravings, dependence, and obsession will lessen dramatically if you follow the 90-day no contact rule. They can even disappear completely. J.K. Rowling’s quote is incredibly helpful if your ex has hooked up with someone else. 'Rock-bottom became the solid foundation I rebuilt my life.' Rejection is a gift because no marriage ever ended because it was not broken. Consider that."

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