Some Committed Couples Don't Ever Want to Get Married ... But Why?

Some Committed Couples Don't Ever Want to Get Married ... But Why?

For Joaquin Phoenix and Rooney Mara "marriage is too mainstream.”

By Marianne Garvey

Joaquin Phoenix and Rooney Mara don’t ever wanna tie the knot. Never ever ever.

Make no mistake, they are “so in love,” a source tells US Weekly about the couple who have been dating since January 2017. They just don’t want to get married.

“They’re never going to get married because they think marriage is too mainstream,” the source says, adding that Mara has embraced Joaquin’s vegan and spiritual ways. “Joaquin transforms all his girlfriends into being holistic, vegan, spiritual and into saving the world.”

Sounds nice.

There’s famous unmarried couples Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham, and many others who refuse to sign on the dotted line to make it legal.

Marriage doesn’t really make sense anymore for a lot of couples, Business Insider says in a recent report.

“We've come a long way. Women have equal rights and roles in the workforce, so they don't need financial security anymore. And while folks might still be interested in reproduction, does marriage still play a role?” it reads.

The old reasons for tax breaks (most dual-income couples with children still pay a ton), and to have kids no longer really apply, they add.

We say two-parent homes are better for child-rearing. This doesn't, however, mean parents have to be married,” says the report. “And all things being equal, studies show that children fare the same whether parents are married or not.”

In 2013, The New York Times asked “why even bother” with marriage?

"People marry to show their family and friends how well their lives are going, even if deep down they are unsure whether their partnership will last a lifetime,” they wrote.

Some don’t want the label, and consider “husband” or “wife” outdated.

But many couples who don’t marry feel secure in their relationships. According to Psychology Today, many people get married because it makes it harder to leave.

"This (often illusionary) feeling of security is enhanced by the legal binding of one to another. It makes it more difficult to leave, and thereby relates to possessing. In short, we want to marry so we can hold onto another,” they say. “It is difficult for many to admit they want to possess another. The sound of it is archaic and brings images of ownership.”

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