When Your Parents or Close Relative Commit a Crime Where Does That Leave You?

When Your Parents or Close Relative Commit a Crime Where Does That Leave You?

In the college admissions scandal, actress Lori Loughlin's daughters have left USC amid bullying concerns (among other things).

By Marianne Garvey
Lori Loughlin, Olivia Jade Giannulli

For Lori Loughlin’s daughters, a college education may no longer be an option — for now, anyway. After the actress and her husband, fashion designer Mossimo Giannulli, were arrested for allegedly participating in a college admissions cheating scam to get their two daughters into USC, they’ve now left the school because of bullying.

Allegedly the parents shelled out $500,000 to a scam artist middleman to get the girls into USC by pretending the sisters were rowing champs.

Making things worse, quotes from their youngest, popular YouTuber Olivia Jade Giannulli, about Massimo’s own college years have been unearthed and they’re not helping things.

During an interview with the Zach Sang Show posted on March 8, Olivia Jade, 19, talked about her father’s unique way of breaking into the fashion world.

“He didn’t come from a lot so it’s cool to see that he built it all himself,” she said. “He, like, built his whole entire brand and he wasn’t actually, like, I don’t know if I’m supposed to say this, ever enrolled in college. But he, like, faked his way through it and then he started his whole business with tuition money that his parents thought was going to college. That’s, like, such a different time. I don’t know if I was supposed to say that, but it’s okay …Mostly my parents wanted me to go because both of them didn’t go to college. I’m so happy they made me go. That sounds so terrible, they didn’t make me. My sister goes to the same school and we are pretty much inseparable, so it was nice following in her footsteps in a little bit. I do like it.”

Oh boy.

Now Olivia and her sister, Isabella Rose, 20, have dropped out of the University of Southern California because they are being viciously bullied reports TMZ. Their parents, who are out on $1 million bond each, support the move, says the report.

Not much is know about how much — or if — the girls knew about their parents crimes. What happens when you're affected by your parents acting illegally?

“On the assumption the person didn't have anything to do with the scheme, he or she is going to struggle with the public shame and scrutiny and then think about the notion that ‘Did this person or people or parents not think I was capable on my own?’” says therapist Jason Eric Ross. “That can be a real blow to one's self esteem. This is another version of Helicopter Parenting.”

Ross says any mature person (despite their age) will be needing to express his or herself to the people who committed a crime, other on their behalf or not. On top of that, if you are “a name” it will very likely become public, and there is the embarrassment that comes with the world knowing. “In our social media-frenzied world, many things become public. The person who was wronged will have to get in touch with his or her anger and deal with outside judgment. People who swallow their feelings tend to struggle more.”

“It's a tough conflict when you love someone and this happens. However, you can love someone AND be angry, a concept many need to embrace,” Ross says. “Most people do not want to accept that, they believe it is either one or the other. You're going to have to talk about it all and get it out in the open. These families are going to need to go through some difficult conversations and hopefully some therapy to repair the deep wounds. Ultimately, the person who was affected or wronged will need to do their own healing either way — whether they forgive or even try to forget, which would be very difficult to do. Some meditation and self care is well-advised.”

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