Shahs of Sunset's Mercedes "MJ" Javid has not even been married long but, hey, she's a quick study in this whole happily-ever-after business. In fact, she's already sharing her wisdom in the marriage department with the rest of us.
We got a glimpse of her new life as Mrs. Feight (in the clip above) and caught up with her at the DailyMail.com & DailyMailTV Summer Party (also celebrating Tom Tom's soft opening). Here are her tips to marital bliss — and why she says "married life is better than [she] thought it’d be. Surprisingly."
Married life should be romantic.
Even though the couple had been dating for years, MJ confessed at the Tom Tom opening that marriage is "so friendly, it’s romantic." She also shared that her relationship has gotten better since tying the knot: "My favorite thing is how much more romantic things have become for some reason. We became more polite to each other. We don’t want to fight so we’re really minding our P’s and Q’s."
Partners need to be patient and compassionate.
It's not all automatic sunshine and rainbows once the vows are said and rings have changed hands. MJ dished that "anything that might bother you before you’re married, it’s still going to be that way after you’re married." So, if they "run into problems like the dishes in the sink," she makes sure she is patient and compassionate and "you know, kill[s] him with kindness."
Remember there's no 'I' in 'we.'
Now that you're a set unit, it's not time to be selfish. Happy couples consider each other in decision making, even for the small things. “Everything is 'we' now, it’s not 'I,' she confessed. "I’ve started being that annoying person that answers text messages in we and I'm so ready to get shit from everybody" about it. Even Tommy says that his relationship with Mama Javid and Toya has changed for the better, too.
Quality time is so important.
Even if you're no longer actively wooing a new partner, it doesn't mean that you no longer need to make time and plans for and with each other. In order to keep that quality time up, it's important to have things that you can do together on a regular basis. For MJ and Tommy, she says that three nights a week they will cook a meal together and they sit together at the table to eat it.
But it's also important to spend time apart.
That's not to say that couples should be spending every minute of every day together once they're married. Time apart where each person follows his or her individual interests is key. MJ is a self-admitted "Bravo addict" and, most of the time, she says, she's "watching Bravo in [her] room while Tommy's watching baseball in the other room."
That sounds about right for us, too ... Hey, MJ, want some company for the season 7 premiere? We'll even bring the snacks.
Additional reporting by Alice Dubin.
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