Buffie Purselle on Dr. Jackie Walters Drama: "I Don't Think She Thinks I'm Deserving of an Apology"

Buffie Purselle on Dr. Jackie Walters Drama: "I Don't Think She Thinks I'm Deserving of an Apology"

The Married to Medicine friend opens up about that explosive dinner during the Cabo couples trip.

By Laura Rosenfeld
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Dr. Jackie Walters Reveals Some Very Personal Info About Buffie Purselle

Buffie Purselle was visibly taken aback when Dr. Jackie Walters called her "infertile" during her book cover reveal party in the November 17 episode of Married to Medicine (clip above). However, the tax and personal finance queen didn't confront the OBGYN about the comment that night.

"I was really upset when Dr. Walters made the statement that I was infertile at her party. But I was determined to be the debutante my mother raised me to be, and I wouldn't make her event about me because it was a big deal; she was celebrating the launch of her book," Buffie told The Daily Dish prior to filming the Married to Medicine Season 7 reunion on Thursday, November 21. "But I was definitely hurt, and I just did my best to channel my inner Buffie and just smile through it and deal with it later because it wasn't the time or place. But it was very hurtful or humiliating."

It wasn't until the Married to Medicine crew's first dinner together during their couples trip to Cabo that Buffie broached the subject with Dr. Jackie, which resulted in an incredibly tense moment between the ladies. Even though Dr. Jackie apologized, Buffie accepted it, and they eventually moved on, Buffie recently shared on Instagram that the OBGYN "has NEVER offered me a sincere apology."

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This was one of the most humiliating and painful moments in my life. I am proud that I was able to rise above my pain and embarrassment and conduct myself as the lady that my Mother and Grandmother raised me to be. When you first meet someone and they see that you are happily married they ask the inevitable question “do you have kids?” I always answer no. No - period. Then SOME people ask “why NOT” as if my husband and I have done something wrong. I am then forced to explain my many failed attempts at motherhood. This is the level of discussion that Dr. Walters and I had regarding my CHALLENGES with fertility. To call another woman infertile is cruel. That word doesn’t begin to describe the type of person that I am. The clinical definition is that you are unable to GET pregnant. Well, I can and have gotten pregnant many times. I was just unable to carry my babies to full term. Additionally, it means that you bear no fruit. Well, I like to think that I have been a productive member of society and that my mark will be left through philanthropy. I believe that Dr. Walters said this with malicious intent because she could have said many other things about me if she truly wanted to relate to me. We are both successful businesswomen, we are both extremely organized, we both do a lot of charity work, the list goes on and on but she settled on this. And to date, she has NEVER offered me a sincere apology. I don’t want an apology from her anyway because she doesn’t think that she did anything wrong. A mouse has more emotional intelligence. For all of the people saying this is some sort of editing trick - sadly it’s not, it happened, and being forced to relive it on television and social media hasn’t been fun. Thank you to everyone for the positive words of encouragement. The kindness of strangers will never cease to amaze me. I’m fine. I’m tougher than I seem and this too shall pass. I am thankful to know who my REAL friends are on the cast @drsswhit @iluvmariah and @toyabushharris and thanks #Lake and #DrJarret 💜💜💜 #married2med

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"I don't believe that I actually was given an apology in Cabo. I think that Dr. Walters just wanted to explain why she did what she did, and I don't think that she thinks I'm deserving of an apology. And I'm not waiting on anything. I accepted it. I don't want an apology from someone who doesn't respect me or think that they owe me one because what does that mean?" Buffie said. "So I appreciate the effort. She gets a C for that. I'm grown up enough to be cordial around people who maybe don't have respect for me."

Buffie told The Daily Dish that she has "no idea" why Dr. Jackie decided to share something so personal about her in public, although the OBGYN previously said they had discussed the topic via text message prior to that night. "We're not spend-the-night-together-braid-the-hair-type buddies, you know, girlfriends," Buffie said. "And even if we were, you still need to have a level of respect to ask someone their permission before you share such a painful part of their life. And it was inaccurate because I am not infertile."

Buffie, who has been married to psychiatrist Dr. David Purselle for the past 15 years, was able to get pregnant six times before, but each pregnancy unfortunately resulted in a miscarriage. 

David told The Daily Dish at the reunion that he was also hurt by Dr. Jackie's comment. "Yeah, it's been hard for us to deal with this. We've been having a lot of conversations about it," he shared. "This brought up a lot of painful things that we've had to deal with already, so now we're having to kind of re-go through it again, maybe with a new perspective, but that's something that we're still working on."

Buffie said that revisiting their struggles to start a family in this way put a strain on her marriage with David. "When you have a wound that's open again, it causes you to not be as close as you normally are, bicker," she shared. "It just threw me back into a depression." 

But by confronting this difficult experience, Buffie and David ultimately revisited the possibility of starting a family and have now officially begun the process of surrogacy, she recently confirmed to PEOPLE. “We’re so excited to become parents,” she said. “A family is something that we have both desperately wanted for so long now. We made our decision and we couldn’t be happier!"

For her part, Dr. Jackie showed remorse for ever bringing up Buffie's challenges with fertility during an interview with The Daily Dish earlier this month.

"I hate that it happened. You know, if I could definitely take it back and do it all over again because I really was not aware what Buffie wanted to share. And I can certainly say it isn’t my place to share. But after we had talked about it throughout the group I really thought it was OK," Dr. Jackie explained. "And so, certainly being a physician, and, you know, a board-certified physician who takes care of tons of celebrities and people from all over the country, I would not have shared something like that had I thought it was not OK with her. You know, I am sorry. I should have asked her, and I hate that [it hurt her]. That is what definitely bothers me the most."

Dr. Jackie also said that she was willing to apologize to Buffie as many times as it takes and hoped to have a discussion with her in the future. "I can’t force the healing. You know, she has to take her time and heal. So, I’m not saying she’s not hurt. It’s in her own time," Dr. Jackie shared. "So you have to offer to do a sincere apology and then just allow that person to heal."

— Additional reporting by Amanda Borges Stroud

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