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Here’s What It’s *Really* Like to Learn How to “Pat the Puss” From Erika Jayne

The RHOBH cast member's BravoCon 2023 panel proved that it might be different from what you'd think.

By Allison Crist

Fans of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills were gifted the phrase "Pat the puss" on Season 6 as they watched Erika Jayne do just that, per the instruction of her creative director Mikey Minden, while rehearsing for a performance.

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What exactly does it mean to "pat the puss," though? And how does one go about doing so?

Thankfully, Erika and Mikey answered these exact questions during their "Pat the Puss with Erika Jayne" panel at BravoCon 2023 on Nov. 5. Read on to find out everything you've ever wanted to know about doing the dance move as well as the move itself.

The Origin of "Pat the Puss," According to Erika Jayne

During the BravoCon panel, Erika gave full credit for "pat the puss" to Mikey. As she explained, "When we're in rehearsals, you're hyping each other up, you're getting that best performance out ... I had never heard that before in my life. I was like, what are you talking about? And here we are 10 years later."

X Mayo, Erika Jayne, and Mikey Minden sit onstage during a panel at BravoCon 2023

Mikey didn't exactly put a lot of thought into the phrase, though. "The funniest thing about that whole catchphrase is when I'm in rehearsal with Erika, I'm like a full-on dance mom. I'm yelling and screaming, [using] all kinds of profanity and just wild things, and it gets the girls going," he said. "But that 'pat the puss' comment was just pure improv. And then it stuck."

And the rest was history. 

Mikey Minden smiles while speaking during a panel at BravoCon 2023

Erika Jayne's "Pat the Puss" Tutorial

Erika and Mikey didn't just talk the talk, they walked the walk. More specifically, the duo ditched their seats and marched to the front of the stage alongside panel moderator X Mayo, who announced that 20 audience members would be joining them on stage for a special choreography lesson.

The lucky fans were pre-selected at random and handed a diamond card when they first arrived to the panel. Once the group took the stage, others in the audience rose from their seats to join in, and some even came closer for a better look (and to snap a selfie or two with Erika in the background). 

Then came the actual choreography, which Mikey revealed is featured in Erika's Las Vegas residency, Bet It All on Blonde — which is coming to Bravo next spring in the form of a two-part documentary — to her song "Painkiller." 

Erika Jayne and audience members dance during a panel at BravoCon 2023

Among the many moves required? Two "signature Erika Jayne" head rolls and one drop, the latter of which Erika told the audience would "pay off later in the bedroom."

As for the actual patting of the puss (or "peen," as X Mayo pointed out would be the case for some audience members), Erika advised, "Just think of your hips making a circle to the left, step on it, and then your hand pushes it ... And that's it!"

Erika Jayne dances during a panel at BravoCon 2023

The most important part, though? "Have fun," Erika said. It's cool!" 

Those both in the audience and on stage certainly agreed. Shelly from California and Brittany from South Carolina belonged to the latter group, and Shelly told of the experience with Erika, "When I went up on stage and she gave us a hug, I could feel her warmth. She was very kind."

And when it came to the actual dancing, "It was so much fun and it was so much easier than I thought," Shelly added. "But she made it easy!" 

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