Gretchen Rossi Reveals the "Super Hard Decision" She Had to Make Right Before Giving Birth to Her Baby Girl

Gretchen Rossi Reveals the "Super Hard Decision" She Had to Make Right Before Giving Birth to Her Baby Girl

The Real Housewives of Orange County alum went through "a lot of contemplation, crying, struggling" prior to her daughter's arrival.

By Laura Rosenfeld
Gretchen Rossi

It's an exciting week for Gretchen Rossi. The Real Housewives of Orange County alum is set to give birth to her first child via C-section on Wednesday, July 10.

But getting to this point wasn't easy for Gretchen. In fact, she experienced one of the most difficult days of her pregnancy just days before daughter Skylar Gray's birth.

Gretchen opened up about an emotional moment during her road to motherhood in a post on Instagram on the eve of her daughter's birth. "I had a really really tough day yesterday because of having to make a super hard decision after my [doctor's appointment]," she wrote.ย "But after a lot of contemplation, crying, struggling, (and based on the medical pros and cons) the doctor, [fiancรฉ Slade Smiley] and I have decided a c-section is going to be the safest thing for me and baby tomorrow."

Gretchen said she came to this decision after a traumatic trip to the doctor. "Doctor said I am only dilated 1 cm and I guess I have a 'cervix of steel' so itโ€™s not really cooperating at this point and just my pelvic exam yesterday was so beyond painful that I almost passed out, then started to hyperventilate because of that, which then [led] to a panic attack!" she shared. "Needless to say I was a hot mess!"

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Tomorrow is the Day!!! ๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป So I am going to share a story with you all.... I had a really really tough day yesterday because of having to make a super hard decision after my doctors appt. but after a lot of contemplation, crying, struggling, (and based on the medical pros and cons) the Doctor, Slade and I have decided a c-section is going to be the safest thing for me and baby tomorrow. โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”-Doctor said I am only dilated 1cm and I guess I have a โ€œcervix of steelโ€ ๐Ÿ˜œ so itโ€™s not really cooperating at this point and just my pelvic exam yesterday was so beyond painful that I almost passed out, then started to hyperventilate because of that, which then lead to a panic attack! Needless to say I was a hot mess! ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿฅดโ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”Statistics show that if you arenโ€™t dilated past 3cm then being induced is a lot harder on your body and one has a lower success of a vaginal birth, and a lot of times leads to a c-section anyways. So I either labor for potentially days and go through this balloon like procedure to try and open my cervix (which may or may not work) and possibly put myself and the baby in a lot of duress during that process (because I canโ€™t have an epidural for that part yet) and then end up potentially in a c-section anyways, or I just do the scheduled c-section, which will be a lot less stress on myself and the baby. โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”When you have this vision of how you want your labor and delivery to go and it doesnโ€™t turn out they way you imagined, there is this sadness and internal struggle with โ€œwhy isnโ€™t my body cooperatingโ€ or am I making the right decision etc. So after crying it out, and being sad about not having a โ€œvaginal birthโ€ yesterday, I asked God to give me a sign that this is the best decision, and he did! ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป He literally had so many of my friends reach out to me yesterday and put me at ease about a potential c-section (and they didnโ€™t even know what had happened at the appt.) โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€”โ€” So I am scheduled for the c-section tomorrow and am going to embrace it with as much confidence as I can, and know that having her in my arms safely is all that matters! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿปโค๏ธ (Finish reading in comments below ๐Ÿ‘‡

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Because Gretchen wasn't dilated past 3 centimeters as she neared the date she was going to be induced, she said the chances of having a successful vaginal birth were low. "So I either labor for potentially days and go through this [balloon-like] procedure to try and open my cervix (which may or may not work) and possibly put myself and the baby in a lot of duress during that process (because I canโ€™t have an epidural for that part yet) and then end up potentially in a c-section anyways, or I just do the scheduled c-section, which will be a lot less stress on myself and the baby," she wrote.

She also opened up about why she got so upset at now having to deliver her daughter via C-section. "When you have this vision of how you want your labor and delivery to go and it doesnโ€™t turn out [the] way you imagined, there is this sadness and internal struggle with 'why isnโ€™t my body cooperating' or am I making the right decision etc. So after crying it out, and being sad about not having a 'vaginal birth' yesterday, I asked God to give me a sign that this is the best decision, and he did! He literally had so many of my friends reach out to me yesterday and put me at ease about a potential c-section (and they didnโ€™t even know what had happened at the [appointment])," she said. "So I am scheduled for the c-section tomorrow and am going to embrace it with as much confidence as I can, and know that having her in my arms safely is all that matters!"

Gretchen asked her fans for prayers to calm her nerves and for everything to go well with the C-section since she said she has never had a major surgery. "Thank you all for your love and support and for knowing that each personโ€™s story and experience is different, and for not passing [judgment] for what my physicians and I have determined is the best medical option for me and my body, and to have baby Skylar arrive safely!" she shared in the comments to her July 9ย post.

Gretchen got a ton of love from several Bravolebs in the comments to theย post, including LeeAnne Locken, Golnesa "GG" Gharachedaghi, Brandi Redmond, Phaedra Parks, Katie Maloney-Schwartz, Peggy Sulahian, Ashley Wirkus McAtee, Lydia McLaughlin, and Lizzie Rovsek.

Earlier this week, Gretchen admitted that she is "both anxious and excited about meeting" her daughter. "Cannot believe the day is almost here when I get to meet our sweet baby girl I have prayed for my whole life!" she gushed in a post on Instagram on July 8. "Not [gonna] lie Iโ€™m super nervous about delivery, but I know once she is in my arms it will all be worth it! Thank you all for your prayers this week!"

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Tomorrow I am #39 weeks! Yeah made it to full term (according to my app @whattoexpect) โœจ I am both anxious and excited about meeting her this week! (They are inducing me because I guess at my age (old AF ๐Ÿ˜œ) your placenta starts to die off after week 39 ๐Ÿฅด and could lead to potential problems, so I am trusting my Doctor with her advice, and I have done a ton of research on it, so I feel like it is the best decision for the safety of me and baby ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป โœจ The house is almost ready, still need to do some finishing touches to the nursery, like hang the wallpaper and changing out some drawer pulls etc. but I promise I will let you guys see it when itโ€™s done ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป โœจ Thank goodness for Slade as he has been a huge help these past few weeks getting everything done around the house! (Including attaching everything to the walls after our scare of some earthquakes rolling through) I have been majorly nesting! Getting rid of tons of stuff, cleaning every nook and cranny like a crazy woman ๐Ÿ˜œ and putting each room back together with our new rugs on the floor (from my favorite place @orianrugs) so she can crawl around and not be just on our hardwood floors. Itโ€™s been a lot of work these past couple months getting the house ready, building cribs and bassinets, washing her clothes and building out her closet (with the help of @thecontainerstore) Getting all the diapers, bottles, and products I think we will need for her arrival! โœจ Washing our car right now as we speak, groomed the dogs, and washed all their beds and blankets throughout the house! Needless to say no wonder I had major cankles yesterday ๐Ÿ™ˆI have been doing a lot to get ready! โœจ I have a doctors appt. today to see if I am dilated at all ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป and fetal diagnostics again tomorrow (with blood work) to prep for the big arrival on Wednesday! Cannot believe the day is almost here when I get to meet our sweet baby girl I have prayed for my whole life! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿปโค๏ธ Not gunna lie Iโ€™m super nervous about delivery, but I know once she is in my arms it will all be worth it! Thank you all for your prayers this week! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป โœจ Swipe left ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿป Dress from @ladyjetset hat from the Bahamas, sunnies from @forever21 #GretchenChristine Purse

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