As Jeff Lewis began to navigate the world of co-parenting 2-year-old daughter Monroe with Gage Edward after they decided to break up earlier this year, the Flipping Out designer promised to always let his ex see their daughter whenever he wished.
"If there's bumps in the road, and there could be, and this could get a little contentious, I just want to vow that I will never use our baby as a weapon. And I thought about it this morning, if there is some judge that says, 'OK, Gage, you get the baby Monday, Tuesday, Thursday,' I am making a vow that even though some judge stipulates when he can see the baby, he can see the baby whenever he wants to see the baby. And I don't care what any judge says," Jeff shared on his Radio Andy show Jeff Lewis Live in February. "He needs to know that, that he has 24-hour access."
Jeff has now realized that he and Gage need to set some boundaries when it comes to raising their daughter together. "This open door visitation policy is not working out. It's not working out," Jeff said on his radio show earlier this week.
Jeff said that he is now considering setting up some sort of visitation schedule with Gage. "I did say to Gage yesterday, I said, 'You know, moving forward I think we need to have some sort of schedule.' I said, 'I know our schedules change weekly, so how about Sundays we go over the week ahead of time?' The other thing, too, is I don't necessarily want to be there while he's there all the time, so I said, 'Let's just go over the week, and we'll go over when you want to see her, when I want to see her,'" Jeff explained. "The other thing is, too, you're not coming over twice a day anymore; that's just not realistic. It's not realistic."
The fact that Gage "was reasonable" after Jeff asked if he could have some alone time with Monroe before he went on a trip to New York City made the Flipping Out designer optimistic that they can work this out on their own. "Right now, it's good. We're having a conversation. I don't think we need attorneys at this point," Jeff said. "He understands now that we do need some sort of structure."
However, it sounds like Jeff and Gage still have some work to do in how they communicate with each other in their post-split relationship. "On Sunday morning, [Gage] came to see the baby, and he was cold to me, like really kind of pissy all day Sunday. So he saw her Sunday morning and then he did again in the evening. And that's when I was like, 'All right, you're affecting me. Your energy's affecting me," Jeff said. "I miss a lot of things about Gage, but it's the one thing I don't miss is the dramatic mood swings and wondering what's going on. And by the way, no communication because I had sent him a text after he left. I'm like, 'Is everything OK? You seem to be really, really upset.' And of course just no response. I'm like, 'Oh, that sounds familiar.' I don't have to deal with that s--t anymore. I don't want to deal with that anymore."
Even though co-parenting hasn't been easy for these exes, Jeff said that he would never have wanted to have his first child alone. "I wouldn't have had the baby without Gage. I wouldn't have done it," he shared. "He's a great dad."
Jeff also recently shared on his radio show that he and Gage have decided to end their professional relationship. Gage will be leaving Jeff Lewis Design, according to Jeff. “By working with him, it was my version of still seeing him, still spending time with him,” Jeff said. “Now that he’s leaving the business, it’s like breaking up again. It’s a second breakup.”