Lala Kent has been giving us Lala for years, but according to the Vanderpump Rules cast member, there’s a whole side of her we’ve never seen. Until now, of course. Lala’s first book, a memoir aptly titled Give Them Lala comes out Tuesday, May 5, and the new mom chatted with The Daily Dish to spill all about it ahead of its release.
“I felt like I needed to release a lot of things that I felt were weighing heavy on me in my day to day life,” Lala shared when asked what inspired her to get writing in the first place. “We all have moments in our life where it’s like, ‘Okay, that’s a life-defining moment. That’s going to be a part of shaping who I am.’ But for me, a lot of those moments were not only life-defining and character-defining, but they were changing the way I was in everyday life, and it was becoming exhausting and too much for me.”
Lala went on to explain that the writing process became a time for her to purge all of the things she’d previously kept bottled up, and to address things that had started to feel like a constantly-present elephant in the room.
“I feel like I would walk into a room and be like, ‘Hi, I’m Lala. And this is how Randall and I really met. And by the way, this is why I developed a drinking problem.’ And it’s like, I finally feel like I don’t have to explain anything anymore,” she shared.
Since first announcing news of the memoir back in January, Lala has been teasing that its pages are full of things that even the people closest to her were unaware of, such as her journey to sobriety and how bad things actually got before she realized it was time to make a change.
“There were so many people that were close to me that didn’t think I had an issue at all, and that was scary to me. Like, I must be a professional alcoholic if no one around me is sensing that I need serious help,” she said. “It was nice to share moments where I was throwing s--t off a 17th story balcony, and I was getting physical with people. It was nice to share that for people to go, ‘Wow, I had no idea that it got that bad,’ because only a few people in my life saw that part of me. Everyone else just saw the girl that was like, down for the cause.”
Lala learned a lot about herself through the process, which included watching back old episodes of Vanderpump Rules and realizing that she still “wasn’t over” everything that went down.
“I learned how extremely sensitive I am, and that I do not allow people who I am close to to see the vulnerable side of me,” Lala said. “Even my fiancé, who should be the closest person to me. Whenever I feel like I’m being attacked or criticized, I put my dukes up… it’s okay to explain to people, ‘You hurt my feelings,’ rather than slaying insults at them.”
Although Lala didn’t allow those closest to her to get a peek at the book until she was finished (she didn’t want anyone else’s opinions to impact her perception of the events she wrote about), it’ll soon be out in the world for everyone to read. So how does she hope people will feel once they’ve finished it?
“I think the major takeaway would be, it is okay to make mistakes that are sometimes really f---ed up. Allow yourself to own them, apologize, and move on. I was not great at that. I still have to work really hard to, once I say I’m sorry, not continue to beat myself up over it,” said Lala. “I want to be a little less hard on ourselves. The world is already a really tough and scary place, so I want people to really just be kinder to themselves. To make the world a little less intense for them.”
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