Meghan King Edmonds Shares How Jim Edmonds Coped with the Loss of Their Baby
"That moment brings me back to all of the feelings and it was really difficult," said the #RHOC mom-to-be.
This season of The Real Housewives of Orange County has been an emotional one for Meghan King Edmonds as she let viewers inside her dream of making motherhood come true. Over the past few months, Meghan has been open about her journey with IVF, including bringing cameras into the room when she learned that only one of her babies, the female, had survived the process. Discovering that one of the babies wouldn't make it to term was a difficult revelation for both her and her husband, Jim Edmonds, she explained to The Daily Dish.
"He was really sad and he was hopeful that maybe the doctor just missed the other baby," Meghan said on Monday. "So for the next two ultrasounds he was like, 'Can you look for the other one?' And it broke my heart, but we wanted our babies. We made the decision to put two embryos in there in hopes that we would have two babies."
Meghan confirmed in June that she and Jim would become mom and dad to a baby girl by the end of the year, but she still had to grieve the loss of their other baby. "That was hard. I watched it again, but just once," she explained. "I didn't want to watch it more than that. I was watching the show with one of my friends [and was like,] 'OK I'm going to go in the kitchen now.' It's a hard moment to relive. And I moved on, but that moment brings me back to all of the feelings and it was really difficult."
Despite how hard it was on her, her grief was met with mixed feelings from viewers. "A lot of viewers have said they feel my pain, especially people that have gone through IVF," Meghan said. "And then a lot have said, 'Why aren't you just happy with your one?' Or, 'You're selfish' or 'You're ungrateful.' And I was really shocked by those reactions. I think that people who have experienced any kind of loss can understand that doesn't make them ungrateful for the other happy things that they have in their lives. It's just that they're grieving a loss. And that's exactly what I was doing. It had nothing to do with my baby girl and my happiness for her."
With her due date rapidly approaching, Meghan is looking forward to starting her next chapter (and finishing up decorating her nursery). "I'm just taking it slow," she said. "I've been trying to stay off my feet as much as possible and that's been really hard because I get bored so easily and then Jimmy [goes,] 'What are you doing?' He's so protective of the baby and me. And he just wants me to be OK." And traveling cross country does not come without additional precuations. "Jimmy's like, 'Keep her in there,' because my baby's so low that before I came to New York the doctor was checking to make sure I wasn't dilating or anything," she explained. "Now that I'm in my third trimester, s**t's getting real."
And, yes, Jimmy has been helping prepare... kind of. "How is Jimmy prepping me? Really? Not! He's just like, 'Oh, there's going to be a lot of diapers.' He doesn't know anything," she said. "He's played baseball [while] the last four kids [were growing up]... This is the only kid that he's not going to be playing pro baseball [while they're growing up]. The Cardinals are out [of the playoffs], so he's done with work. [He's coaching me through it while I practice stretches] a little bit. But he's actually looked at this stuff that I've done [and researched] for labor and delivery, [so] that's awesome."
Below, check out the emotional moment for the couple.