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How RHOBH Helped Prevent Teddi Mellencamp Arroyave from Getting a Divorce
The RHOBH alum revealed why she “started hating” her husband shortly before joining the show.
Back on Valentine’s Day, Teddi Mellencamp Arroyave paid tribute to her husband of nearly 12 years, Edwin Arroyave, by writing that she “can’t imagine for even one second not having [him] by [her] side.” However, as Teddi and Edwin themselves revealed on the March 27 episode of her podcast, Two T’s in a Pod (which she co-hosts with Tamra Judge) the couple was once very close to splitting up for good.
On the podcast, Teddi revealed that her marriage to Edwin was in the “darkest of the dark” place just before she joined the cast of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills in Season 8.
“I remember [on] my first day [of filming], I honestly was like, ‘At what point do I tell everybody that we’re getting a divorce? Like, when do I do this?’” Teddi recalled. “Like, we are at our worst, absolute base.”
The spouses, who share kids Slate, Cruz, and Dove (Edwin also has a daughter, Isabella, from a previous relationship), admitted they had stopped working on their marriage before Teddi joined the cast. Teddi said there was also a “power struggle” between the two for the first time as Edwin worked and Teddi went through several rounds of IVF to try to expand their family.
“Then, all of a sudden, he was in charge of our finances, and I had never been that. I had never not had my own money,” she continued. “I just started hating him for everything… Anything would set me off.”
Edwin, for his part, said he was “ready to leave everything” in his marriage instead of fighting for a future.
By filming the show and then watching it back, the two were able to refocus and “realize what [was] important” in their relationship. Plus, Teddi said, she gained a renewed sense of confidence in herself by participating in RHOBH. Their marriage improved by leaps and bounds by the time filming for Season 10 rolled around, which was also around the time when Teddi became pregnant with daughter Dove.
“Once I started loving myself again, we could start loving each other,” she said. “Because when I don’t love myself, we don’t love each other.”
In addition to sharing a positive update on the state of her marriage, Teddi had other exciting news to announce earlier this year.
On February 28, Teddi revealed she was “in the clear” with her health after discovering an irregular bump in her neck, which turned out to be “benign.” Teddi found the bump after she had 11 melanomas and three lymph nodes surgically removed following her stage 2 cancer diagnosis.
Now the RHOBH alum is in a strong place in both her health and her marriage.