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Michelle Lally Confesses She Needed Jesse to "Change" His "Personality" to Save Marriage

Jesse Lally is willing to "try anything" to make his marriage to Michelle work — including psychedelics.

By Jill Sederstrom

Jesse Lally has been willing to pull out all the stops on his journey toward self-improvement as he tries to mend his crumbling marriage to wife Michelle on The Valley.

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But — at least, according to Michelle — he could be his own biggest “obstacle” to becoming the best version of himself. 

“You’re a very good person at heart, but you’re your own obstacle,” she told him just as Jesse was preparing to make one last “hail Mary” attempt to save the marriage.

Why did Jesse Lally go to a spiritual retreat? 

After traditional options like counseling failed to make any significant headway in their marriage, Jesse agreed to go to a “spiritual retreat” that uses natural psychedelics like ayahuasca and psilocybin to get back in touch with himself and see his ego “on the inside.” 

Jesse Lally from The Valley on the red carpet for Sparkle's Drag Spectatular

“The idea of doing something like this is so against my personality, but I’ll try anything to make myself the person that Michelle wants to be with,” he admitted in his confessional.


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Jesse confessed he had “no idea” what to expect from the overnight retreat, which instructed participants to bring a sleeping bag, pad, and “comfortable clothes.” 

“I don’t know what to expect once we get in the house,” the real estate agent told Michelle as he packed. “For all I know, it could be a huge orgy.” 

Jesse was hoping to walk away from the experience as a changed man.

“What do you want to get out of it?” Michelle asked. 

Michelle Lally smiling with Aaron Nosler outdoors.

“We’re working on our marriage and one of the fundamental issues is that you always say like ‘The Jesse Show’ and the idea is to be that guy who walks into the room without an ego, who naturally draws people to them,” he replied. 

While Jesse saw his foray into the use of “plant-based medicine” as a way to win back his wife’s affections, Michelle reminded him that he should really want to be on a path of self-improvement for himself. 

“What do you want to come out of it?” Jesse asked her. 

“I hope that you can change a little bit,” she said with a sigh, before adding, “Change your personality.” 

The blunt response had Jesse a little on edge. Before leaving for the retreat, he asked if Michelle would be willing to discuss any “real things” that came out of the experience.

“I want you to be a good husband, I want you to be a good father, so of course I’m going to support you,” she replied.

But Michelle voiced more skepticism in her own confessional. 

“What do you think of this spiritual journey that Jesse’s going to go on?” a producer asked. 

“I mean, part of me thinks it’s bullsh-t. I don’t see how one night can change a person drastically,” she replied.  “It’s a process, it’s time, it’s effort. You have to put in the work.” 

Are Jesse and Michelle Lally still together? 

Just days before The Valley was set to premiere in March, the couple announced they were parting ways.

“There’s a major storyline about our life where I try to work on myself throughout the entire summer to be the best version of myself,” Jesse told US Weekly at the time. “And if the best version of myself aligned with the best version of herself, then our marriage would make it. People evolve. If your marriage and relationship doesn’t evolve with it, it will never work, no matter how bad you want it.”

Michelle revealed this month that she is now dating “someone amazing,” while Jesse was spotted out on a red carpet with a mysterious blonde on his arm at Sparkle's Drag Spectacular Benefitting the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. 

To find out how the relationship’s end plays out, watch The Valley on Tuesday night on Bravo or available streaming on Peacock.

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