Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia reacts to the butt dial drama.

on Nov 27, 20120

Welcome back! I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving! I enjoyed spending some well needed quality time my family, and catching up with friends. We all have much to be thankful for and should never take our blessings for granted.

"Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving." - W.T. Purkiser

BUTT DIAL 411?
 
Phaedra and I have only known each other a couple of years, and we came into this beautiful bevy of women around the same time. We have continuously maintained a cordial relationship, and have always treated each other with kindness. We support each other’s events, socialize in some of the same circles, exchange pleasantries on the phone occasionally, and even share our friend Pastor Pollard in common. Bosom buddies? No. Cool with each other? Absolutely!
 
With that said, I was a little surprised to hear Phaedra's commentary when NeNe played the BUTT dial for me that day at lunch. I felt that Phaedra's tone was caviler, and her choice of words stung me like a bug bite from out of nowhere. Again, I don't claim to be Phaedra's best friend or anything, BUTT what I do claim is that I always make every effort to support "All Things Phaedra." When I am invited to her extravagant affairs (regardless if the invite is heartfelt), out of respect my BUTT is always the first one there. Sometimes, my BUTT is the only one there (from this group of ladies) to support her. Phaedra knows that she can always depend on me to show up, show up on time, and not show out! Do I deserve a medal? No, BUTT I do deserve for Phaedra to at least give a fu-- (excuse my spelling) that I do come and support!
 
The Lord works in mysterious ways! Now I realize that Phaedra obviously had no intention for any of this information to somehow miraculously fall into my lap and end up biting her on her donkey BUTT! (Or titty in this particular case.) Everybody knows that everything happens for a reason, and there is no such thing as a coincidence. My hand delivered BUTT-o-gram had travelled a lot of curious roads and had taken lots of interesting turns before it would eventually end up in my hands.

70 comments
lizw3boys
lizw3boys

Wake up my dear, Ne Ne is a threat to you because if you ever slip with her, she'll have your head.  What is a classy lady like you hanging out with such a trouble making bully! For a professional, you sure are wishy washy.  And I hope you made up with your sister, because she has much more substance then your husband.  Wake up and smell the coffee Cynthia!

alliegirl0407
alliegirl0407

Oh for goodness sakes cynthia, get over it! It was just a silly phone conversation. And NeNe is a troublemaker for even bringing it up!. Go on with your life.

tori11
tori11

I LOVE YOU this season!! you seem to have found your voice!!

Sowege
Sowege

Save your energy as Kenya is the worst nightmare of them all!  Phaedra is no worry to you.  Kenya is not to be trusted.

kjones0160
kjones0160

Kandi tried to show you shade by inviting Kenya on the trip. I know she wont get in your way, You can and will handle her.

HRHAshliegh
HRHAshliegh

I'm sorry but after this weeks show and preview for the Anguilla trip,... It's sad to say but, It's TRULY ugly watching Kroy act the way he did in the previews. His charm is the calm, mild mannered, Respectable Down to earth guy. And seeing him like that because Kim was throwing a fit over cameras, just really made me see that,... She has REALLY brought him down a few notches. It was just ugly. It works well on Kim because well,.. that's her appeal and her angle, we've always seen kim like that. But to actually see Kroy stoop to the over reacting and swinging on people and cursing.... Please... It was just so trashy man. Because you expect so much more from someone who has always shown more. It made me wonder, if Kroys mother was watching that, Could she even say she recognized that as her son that she knows and raised. I didn't want to believe it but,... He really WAS too good for Kim. Now he's proven,... He's juussttttt right for her. 

didleesquat
didleesquat

Did you, Nene, and Kenya write your blogs together at thanksgiving?

Could you please explain to me how Phaedra was able to make a BUTT call on one of those smart phones? I'm still wondering how that can possibly happen. Sounded more like a table full of folks having drinks and dinner and talking, not someone making phone calls for a two year old's birthday party. I'm not buying your story, in fact, I find you humorless and don't even bellieve you wrote the blog. Was Kenya the 'pooper scooper' for you and Nene?

 

I must say, I liked both you and Nene both the first couple of shows, and was very happy to see that both of you had matured! Now, I'm back to my original thoughts about you.

 

 

sigirl
sigirl

Nene pulling the strings again

Brycat
Brycat

The whole Butt dial nonsense was what a friend of mine calls  "looking for headaches where the is none".  or looking for a storyline because one was needed

quette432004
quette432004

Love you, girl. This was classy and hilarious. I hate that people I'd trying to come down on nene for telling you. I would have been angry at nene if she didn't tell you. On another hand, nene needs to watch Kenya. You already have sniffed her out and she hates you put her blast from day one. She is mean and calculating. I always post on her blogs asking people to post on the blog so the person you are supporting.

pinktiger
pinktiger

You always keep it classy. Unlike Fakedra.

angel367
angel367

Love you Cynthia!  lol!  

dream1
dream1

Cynthia you are funny as hell, I loved your piece explaining your feelings on the butt dial. Girl just keep being you funny, classy, smart and beautiful. Well let me get my butt back to work:> 

TreasureChest
TreasureChest

Phaedra is not your real friend. You are not hers. It's simple - don't go to her events! You all are just way too old with kids and husbands to be recording people's conversations, sending it to others, then to keep bringing up the drama. This is ridiculous! Cynthia was going b/c they are on a show together not b/c she truly loves and cares for Phaedra. That's the same reason Phaedra invited her. Cynthia's relationship with NeNe has poisoned her against all the other girls - she doesn't seem like she genuinely wants friendship with them in the first place. One bad apple....I'm sad to see Cynthia get caught up in all the negativity drama. It's so beneath her.

DDMia305
DDMia305

Cynthia I just love ya girl, you are the best.  Keep being you.  I am the only girl of 6 boys and the baby... never wanted a sis so this is a big compliment... If i ever had to choose what I think I would want a sis to be you are.  Im very proud of how you carry yourself.  Keep up the good work!...

thetruth01
thetruth01

I applaud you! these are some tacky women, but you seem to rise above them all. Your calm spirit is delightful. People try and take niceness, and meekness for weekness, don't let them. Shine on.

monica.symonette
monica.symonette

I definitely loved how u handled the situation. It was extremely mature and classy. I completely understand your methods of how you brought it to her attention. I love Phaedra but you need to keep your distance with her.

andebrown70
andebrown70

Your blog's make me laugh and make me think.  I just have one question...  Have you ever thought that NeNe sharing that with you is her trying to control the time you spend with others?  What I mean by that is ...  She has really tried in "past situations" to alienate you from the others so that you will be her "exclusive" friend.  I don't know about you ... BUTT ... I see a pattern here ... 

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

Cynthia, I understand where you are coming from. Even though you and Phaedra were not BFF's, you all were sociable and you always attended her events even when some of the other ladies didn't. By no means was what Phaedra said about you was out of stress or frustration of preparing for Ayden's party as she claims. That's a bunch of bull. I knew that Phaedra didn't like you when she said that she was enjoying Kenya talk negative about you when she, Kenya and Kandi was at the luncheon. Phaedra meant every word that she said. Phaedra is a good liar and she is fake. She is a lawyer and a liar....A liawyer. That's what Lawrence called her. And instead of apologizing when you busted her, she played it off as if something bit her on her boobs. Now that you know what kind of person she really is, let it go, but feed her out of a long handle spoon from now on. And when/if she invites you to another event, just tell her that you know that she really don't give a fu#k if you come or not.

SweetHarts
SweetHarts

Cynthia, I just love the friendship between you and NeNe... You both allow each to be yourselves and have each others back... Many don't understand that's what true BFF's do... I'm just saying...

 

Stay  Classy Beautiful...

shysharon
shysharon

Worse things than this out there....no need to worry. For one, probably just said what she did because she was hurt you weren't coming. It's not you she didn't give an F about, it's your not coming to the party that she said she didn't give an F about!

Sharronh85
Sharronh85

Good girl for calling Phaedra out.  She looked weak for not "owning" her own fault.  Maybe she talks so much that she can't remember what she's saying.

calvin.cordell
calvin.cordell

I totally thought you handled this situation with class and dignity, as you usually do especially in dealing with that hot mess Kenya. I appreciate that you were upfront with Phaedra but did so in a low-key manner rather than blowing up and causing a scene (which I know isn't your style at all). You completely made your point of "I want you to know that I know" without being overly confrontational. I agree that you should "get over it" as others have written here and I believe you have. However, I know I would follow the "once bitten, twice shy" rule in any future dealings with FAKEdra.

soapydopey1
soapydopey1

I think you were a class act and an adult. Good for you for going to her and not running all over town gossiping about it. Phaedra, on the other hand, acted like an infant. Just say, "ok, I'm sorry. I don't remember saying that and I'm sorry for hurting yur feelings". How hard is that? What's the big deal? If I had been you, I wouldn't have brought her a gift, Lord knows that kid doesn't need anything else!!

lovelymimi
lovelymimi

Cynthia, I liked the way you handled the conversation with Phaedra. You are a lady and very classy (which not all of the HWs can say).

 

I don't blame you for asking her about the message, but when she changed the subject, you  let it go. Which was the right thing to do. I also don't blame you for being a little offended since you've supported her in all her other invites.

 

Lastly it was very considerate of you to bring a cute little gift for baby Ayden.

randrew
randrew

I agree, get over it, and get over yourself...

nohousewife
nohousewife

While I thought your blog was HILARIOUS, it honestly wasn't that serious.  You and Phaedra aren't BFF's (by your own admission), she is simply someone you work with and support.  Her saying she didn't give a f**k about you coming to her son's birthday party might have hurt your feelings, but why should it?  You are a grown woman with a teenage daughter.  Why would you want to attend a 2-year-old's birthday party with no small child of your own?  The truth is, we all say things in private about others that we wouldn't want them to hear (whether it's telling our spouses how our boss worked on our nerves or whatever)...I've sure you've done the same about the other ladies while conversing with NeNe.  Life is short...get over it...and move on.

nvt
nvt

You really should pay attention. Those who gossip to you will gossip about you. Why is it that when you are getting along with the ladies a certain BFF comes around to point out they don't like you or they are using you to get to her.A little self absorbed of her? Why would a good friend point all of this mess out that makes you feel bad?There are other ways to guide a friend away from bad relationships. She said this, and she said that and they are using you is not support. I hope you realize you are powerful and beautiful and can shine on your own no BFF needed.Pick your battles, some of this is trifling.

aa1080
aa1080

I'm really enjoying you this season, on the show and in your blogs! 

I hope you and Phaedra don't end up having a big war over the BUTT dial though. It's possible that she puts on the prim and proper thing a bit, but who really cares if she said the F word right?  I think she probably felt stupid when she was put on the spot, as she should have, but after reading her explanation about the stress of the party planning, etc.  I'm hopeful that it was just a flippant comment not intended to hurt your feelings.  You're both the fun ones to watch, hope it stays that way.

zumie
zumie

You're making a mountain out of a molehill.  I took Phaedra's comment as she was trying to convince herself that she didn't want you there.  When I was younger, if I was told that someone couldn't go somewhere with me, to spare my feelings, I would tell myself that I didn't want them there anyway.  I really don't think its that big of a deal.

sisterhood
sisterhood

Cynthia, you and nene are my favorite.  Phaedra always has a long and drawn out explanation for everything.  She simply needed to apologize for her comment. She is a liar and she started off saying you know I don't talk like that, well when you said do you want to hear it? she started talking about a bug bite.  One minute she is talking about a proper southern lady, the next thing she is watching ridickulous, and now she is dropping the "f" bomb.  Southern belle my a--. 

LikiciaSosassy
LikiciaSosassy

The old saying rings very true.  "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer."  Now I don't really think Phaedra is your enemy however we all say things about people in the privacy of our homes with our husband's or mother's that we wouldn't want repeated.  Objectively, I like the both of you and would hate to see two powerful black women that truly inspire me at odds. We say a lot of careless things in the privacy of our homes (or when we think no one is listening). Please if you can find it within yourself look past the harshness of her statement and extend a dose of "watch me take the high road".  You've done great so far.  You look good walking down it. *smile*  The truth of the matter is you and Ms. Phaedra Parks are not exactly BFFs anyway, simply associates and (co-workers).  Don't sweat the small stuff.  These things are small things to a giant. :)

BADREE
BADREE

Cynthia at 1st I too was glad u stood up for yourself but was this the right moment was my question. Have u every heard dont let ur right hand know wat your left hand doing??? that;s how u should have played that. I dont think Nene is a real goodfriend of YOUR!! You are a good friend to her. My BFF for 22yrs know sometime people say stuff just so she can come and tell me!!. I tell her I dont wanna here it. Cause they couldnt say it to my face.

 

For 1 you dont have any little kid to bring to the party and like u said she aint your bff. so if you come or not who cares???? You truly dont know if she had a bad day when ask and the word fuck just came out cause that was how she was feeling.

 

So now u mad and next time she invite to you aint gonna go or you will go but wont have a good time!!!.

kadijah
kadijah

 Hi Cynthia, Phaedra trying to be slick her BUTT got bit by a bug. Phaedra should have come clean with it. love your BUTT blog lol!!! 

cd2222
cd2222

Seemed to me like the recording was a bit too clear for a BUTT dial. It also seems unlikely that it was in her purse since that would make noise and be muffled as well. Also don't you question the timing and route this negativity found you? Are you sure someone didn't set that up to keep you from liking or befriending any of the other ladies? I don't know if its editing but most times it seems like you are having fun with the others almost even bonding but then someone on your friend list makes it stop. I just don't think friends do something or repeat something that will make you feel bad. if its serious than absolutely but the nonsense isn't worth the bad it brings. I am all for NeNe's growth in career and being your friend but is it your friend if she holds you back from making other relationships?! Could it be that the others feel connected with you then get the ice after your influenced that would make them say things like that? Food for thought and maybe I am totally off because the editing makes the drama.

labravo10
labravo10

hee hee hee that was funny...I loved all the butts and the bugs...very cute...rock on, elegant NY lady!

Truthtold
Truthtold

 IN Madea's Voice: "Dont you know Lie and Lawyer go together Lie ou ya

 Cynthia, As me and my mom watched your show we were so confused on how you were such a lioness when you saw Kenya Moore at  NeNe's event and had the nerve to ask Kenya when did she win Miss USA but when it came to Phaedra you were so passive as she looked you in the face and avoided your question. Then you had the nerve to bring Phaedra a gift after you clearly heard her say she didnt give a f if you came.  People feel as though you are so classy because you didnt argue with her. I dont see classy i see inconsistent! You dont have to argue with people to let them know that what they did was wrong. Even "Jesus" got upset at times and didnt like the way certain things were handled. How you expect Phaedra to get better and grow if you dont let her know whats up, and how do you expect her to respect you. Apparently you still want to be invited to her extravagant events and dont want to rub her the wrong way. At the end of the day you should have played that voice mail for her so she could hear her self since she quickly got alzheimer's

wivdiamonds
wivdiamonds

Not much else to offer the show? Phaedra used a bad word? That's it?

Rashad007
Rashad007

Cynthia Taking The High Road,

 

You have earned the 2012 title Miss. N.H.E ( Nicest Housewife Ever) just do not let that get to your head like Kendra Miss. America ( Kenya Miss. U.S.A)  or whoever she is. 

 

Since you stepped on the Housewife Scene you have been very nice, engaging, and respectful to all the housewives. Even though some of them did not return the favor like Kim and Miss. Cochie Crack (Kenya) you kept it classy and moved on.

 

On the account of some of the housewives taking your kindness for weakness you have to show them your sassy side but staying classy side and all that is understandable. To be honest I am happy that you are because it's so entertaining to watch now. 

 

WITH THAT SAID

 

You have always supported Phaedra's events from the boughetto baby shower all the way to the Coming to America Dedication for Ayden. Even when none of her so called friends Kandi, Kim, or Sheree showed up, you came and supported and did not show out. But clearly Phaedra is not the woman that can appreciate someone as kind as you and that is maybe why she is so close to Kandi.

 

Nene is the only one you can really trust, she always had your back and always been real with you .I really like you to together because it really seems like you two have a genuine friendship and you all have more to talk about the sex and sex toys unlike Phaedra and Kandi.  

 

FYI

I am baffled at the fact that Phaedra blames Nene for all of this. When Phaedra said what she said, when Phaedra was heard saying it and when Phaedra lied about the fact that she do not  use profane language and when Phaedra was the one who felt BUSTED and changed to the subject. All Nene did was relay the message to her best friend  like I would want my best friend to do for me and just like Phaedra would want her  best friend Kandi to do for her.

 

 

 

 

xoxomamaria
xoxomamaria

omygoodness this blog was so funny:)

Pheadra got busted!

 

 

Lolita2012
Lolita2012

Cynthia, I love you and Nene. I also think that Phaedra is funny and shouldn't be taken too seriously. She doesn't have to be your bff but I hope this doesn't start a silly war. She's probably embarassed and regrets it. At least I hope.  Thank you so much for being on this show. You manage to be kind and respectful but you are still fun to watch. I admire that. Usually nice ladies get kicked off for being "boring" because they are not causing enough drama. You're a class act.

TyeTye
TyeTye

classy lady .. love you Cynthia . .except for that Africa thing about Kim holding the black baby ..

ROSEisaROSE
ROSEisaROSE

 @didleesquat

 I have to agree with you, I don't believe that was a "BUTT" dial either!  That was clearly a conversation being recorded although "BUTT" dials can happen from Smartphones but Phaedra better watch her so called friends! She has a wolf in sheeps clothing in her camp! 

quette432004
quette432004

My typing is bad. Lets clarify the above.....I hate that people are trying..... I always post on Kenya blogs...plz post on the persons blog you are supporting because Kenya is getting cred

SweetHarts
SweetHarts

 @TreasureChest WOW, what one would say about others to cover over someone else's sins...  Any way you look at it, PHAEDRA GOT BUSTED BY HER OWN BUTT DIAL...So stop cover up for her caught in the act lie, cause all your chit chat has nothing to do with the subject at hand... I'm just saying...

SweetHarts
SweetHarts

 @nohousewife sound's like you're trying to cover over a a few of your sins... I'm just saying

sandy.boyer3
sandy.boyer3

 @nvt  I like what you just wrote. I felt very ambivalent about Nene telling  Cynthia about Phaedras butt dial faux pas. I mean Cynthia said she appreciated Nene telling her this and playing the voice mail but I wonder what Nene's real motives were for playing this and even telling her. Like she wanted to hurt Cynthia and knock her down a bit. I don't think she should have said anything and just let it slide. Maybe I am wrong but it is just my humble opinion.