And here we are once more. As I sit here on vacation, a brief respite from the daily bustle I live in, I ponder and reflect as to how on earth I can make sense of this convoluted scenario.
The crux of the matter in regard to knicker gate was the fact that Dorit perpetuated a faux pas by discussing it with all but Erika. But cast our minds back, although I fear being repetitive, the sentiment, albeit perhaps misguided, was to bring levity, to jest about what had transpired...If there was even a hint ,a minuscule drop of discouragement displayed from Kyle, LR and ED in regard to Dorit's plan, maybe she would've been reticent to follow through.
But to the contrary, there was encouragement, so when Eileen states at Game Night that she was being protective of Erika, as she rubbed her arm, mmm let me explain how being protective works...
One, you could perhaps call Erika and say that the knickers were coming down so to speak, so be prepared, or you might say, "Dorit, Erika might not be amused" or "Are you sure this is a good idea?" not "Oh we have to be there" or "Yippee this will be an interesting conversation!" What was the term Eileen used? Oh yes, "The Crotch Chronicles," yes that was it. So it's understandable that Dorit has trouble computing all the chatter about Erika being humiliated and blindsided, as that was not the plan at all.
The other dilemma is as to the sentiment displayed by PK and Dorit at their dinner.
Dorit had asked me repeatedly what had ensued between the group last year. I urged her to discover that for herself if she needed to, it was documented it wasn't that difficult, but I was reluctant to give her the lowdown for fear of being accused of exactly what Eileen has stated. No, I wanted Dorit to draw her own conclusions.
I believe in an effort to diminish the importance of what had transpired between us, Dorit and PK naively stated that maybe it was a result of the emotional turmoil they were both experiencing that resulted in the negativity towards me...Not so.
The timing was wrong, unbeknownst to them, but I knew for sure that was not a catalyst in what had erupted between us.
I remember sending flowers to LR a while after Dubai, not as a peace offering, but as a reminder that condolences would always supersede any histrionics they had been leveled against me. It was a sad time in her life but long after our situation.
Dorit is a rookie and unused to the wherewithal one might need to, shall we say, circumvent altercations in this group.
Her recollections have been slightly inaccurate, but to no great extent.
Kyle agreed that Erika might have unresolved feelings for sure. She just didn't initiate that statement; Dorit did.
At game night the interaction between LR and Kim became unduly aggressive. Raising Kim's incident with the law was designed to humiliate and embarrass her. Also the prickly subject of Mr. Hamlin reared its ugly head once more. The jabs were still as pointed as the shards of glass that shattered that night on the table.
When LR states that she meant to hurt Kim and now she was truly sorry...
Being truly sorry means you have regret, you are remorseful and desire to heal the wound, you display contrition. The only way she can do that would be to stop commenting, stop contesting in a public forum Kim's sobriety and be happy for her situation now. So we will see the validity of this apology as we proceed down this path. I know what lies ahead, but you don't, and that is why I encourage you all to keeeeeeeep watching.
Now let me have another sip of my margarita before I jump onto a plane and head back to my very own reality.
Until next week, remember my mantra, love and laughter supersede all.
As always...Love Lisa.