Cast Blog: #RHOM

The Consequences Charity's Importance

Lea explains why she puts so much of her time and energy into this cause.

Things That Matter

After all the conflict, drama, fun, fodder, and the other craziness that has been part of this season, to me there are certain things that really matter. Things that when all else happens keep us grounded and exemplify our priorities and define who we are. Things that matter most.

My personal priorities:

My family being healthy and together.

The love I have for my pets and the unconditional love they give us. Leroy, the love of my life, makes an unfortunate cameo in this episode and I just can't discuss it further, or at least I can't for now.

The Consequences Charity -- a charity that because of the generosity of so many has been helping troubled teens for almost twenty years. I feel it’s been a privilege and blessing that I've been able to put so much of my time and resources into charitable causes over the years. I believe in second chances, and this is a cause that offers that to so many misguided teens. As a result, they stay off the streets, out of trouble, and in school and go on to higher education. They are able to live a life that they perhaps didn't even know existed and never dreamed possible. Making the world better, one child at a time.We are all connected; I believe there is a universal mind and all of the energy in the universe is part of it. You met Norman Baker, who takes the belief in the universal mind to a level many wouldn't believe or agree with. He taps into it. He has a pure soul and spends all the hours in the day helping people and helping people help themselves. Because he is financially set in life, he feels it is his responsibility to enlighten people with all his free time. I hope you enjoyed his blessings.

I can't end our discussion without acknowledging the horrible disaster of Superstorm Sandy. We in Florida probably know and understand more than most how dangerous and destructive these storms are. My heart goes out to all of those suffering and all of those who have to rebuild their lives and their homes. As for the other stuff, well, I guess it matters too, but these won't be the things we hold dear as we leave this planet and join the universal mind. The things we will take with us are the things that brought us the most love, peace, and joy.

I try to live my life as everything that I do really does matter.

Things to think about this week:

Is charity a social responsibility?

Is it possible to connect with a higher spiritual being?

Who are we in the matter of our lives and others’ lives?

What would the world be like if everyone lived their life like every single thing they do matters?

Do we give thanks and appreciate the blessings of our lives?

Can we live in two worlds at once? A higher spiritual life and a life engaged in the craziness of our daily lives and learn from one and apply it to the other?

What is our unique purpose in the world?Spread the love and keep the peace and #don't deal with stupid.

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Hoping to Move Forward with Lea

Marysol shares what she hopes will come out of the reunion.

For me the reunion is a forum to hash things out and engage in verbal mud wrestling and hopefully come out cleansed from the tension and disagreements. I would like to make it clear that I do not hate anyone; I am not a person that likes to live in anger as it only makes you miserable and takes away from the precious moments of our lives. It is no secret that I have spent a couple of years being accused of lying by Lea when we do not see eye to eye on something. It is very frustrating to have issues with someone and always end up at the same place of “her word against mine.”

Unfortunately, my father this year has also had a rapid decline in his health and has spent the better part of the past few months in and out of the hospital. While dad was in the hospital with nothing else to do besides sleep, read, and watch TV he watched every episode of RHOM. He was very upset when he saw Lea saying I was lying when I said she didn’t call, write, or send flowers to mom for 8 weeks. He called me and said to figure out a way to video tape me and put it on that show of yours because I’ve had enough of the lies. My father was by mother’s side every day from the moment she went into the hospital to the day she came home (2 months later). He saw everyone who passed by, saw every flower and card that was sent etc. I truly was uncomfortable videotaping him in a hospital setting, but I was leaving for the reunion and he called relentlessly several times a day insisting I let him speak his mind for the cameras. If you thought Mama Elsa was tough, guess who she learned it from, that’s right, her husband of 52 years, Donald Patton. You never met anyone more ornery, stubborn, or tough, but I wouldn’t trade him for the world.

I have said my peace, which is what I went to the reunion to do. I have moved forward and forgive those who have hurt me and I forgive myself for those I may have hurt. I truly want to move forward to a better place with Lea to the best of our ability. We may never be best friends, but I’d like to think we can at least be in the same room, be cordial, and maybe even share a laugh someday.

It has been a fun season with the ladies and it provided a great distraction from the personal emotional struggles I was going through with my parents’ declining health.  I hope you enjoyed the season, thank you for all of your support and best wishes for my mother as that has been the greatest gift the show has brought us.

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